Jessalyn Gilsig Gleans Parenting Tips on the Plane

10/05/2010 at 04:00 PM ET
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Jessalyn Gilsig‘s parenting advice can’t be found in any baby book. So where did the Glee star get her best tip on raising daughter Penelope Clare, 4? From none other than a pre-flight safety spiel!

“My mom told me, ‘Remember on the plane, they say if the oxygen masks come down, put yours on first before your child,'” Gilsig, 39, shares in the Fall issue of Mom. “I said it would be impossible, and she said, ‘I know, but they say it for a reason.'”

It didn’t take long for Gilsig to realize the guideline extends well into her daily routine with her daughter.

“I realized she was saying the best way to serve your child is to make sure you’re healthy, because they’re so dependent on you,” she explains.

“But it’s hard, because you figure you’ll get to yourself later. I’ve learned I’m no good to Penelope — or myself — if I’m not healthy.”

That said, Gilsig’s time with her daughter is just that, and the busy mama cherishes each and every moment with her family, including husband Bobby Salomon — free of distractions!

“Motherhood has taught me the meaning of living in the moment and being at peace. Children don’t think about yesterday and they don’t think about tomorrow. They just exist in the moment,” she explains.

“When I’m with Penelope, I have to be present. I owe that to her — to not be haunted what might have been or to be obsessed over what I shoulda, woulda, coulda been doing.”

— Anya Leon

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Angela on

Very true, and the airplane oxygen mask is a great analogy.

Silvia on

Excellent advice, I couldn’t agree more.

cris on

Yes a great, but so overused analogy…it’s becoming entirely too cliche`!!

izzy on

cris. i’ve never heard that analogy and while it may be “cliche”, its a great analogy. why don’t you occupy yourself trying to find a new one?

Mira on

It’s a good analogy, but people should be very careful with it. Because it means only that your basic needs should be met and you should be healthy. But a lot of people are using it to justify putting non-essential needs in front of their child’s needs. As in –I have to take care of myself in order to be a good mommy, so let me unload the baby to a babysitter every time I *need* to go to a spa to recharge. Or, I need to sleep as much as I want in order to be a rested and good mommy, so let me leave my child to cry it out for hours at a time until s/he throws up. That’s the right thing to do, because I need to take care of my need to sleep. Yes, sleep is an essential need, but obviously people can function perfectly well even if they’re a little sleep deprived. I bet a very small proportion of women who practice the crying out solution actually have any serious sleep deprivation issues that actually jeopardize their health.

So I actually hate hearing this advice. It sounds to me like a license to be selfish.

Anonymous on

uh, this article said NOTHING about crying it out. way to make an innocent article into a soapbox!

Karen on

Wow, way to unload a lot of personal issues there Mira. This article says not about being selfish, only that the best parent is a healthy happy parent.

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