Around the Web…

09/29/2010 at 12:00 PM ET

These links are worth a click:

FILED UNDER: News

Share this story:

Your reaction:

Add A Comment

PEOPLE.com reserves the right to remove comments at their discretion.

Showing 7 comments

Natasha on

Personally I’m glad the biological father is getting custody of his child. Ever since that boy was 3 weeks old he has been fighting for him. The only reason the boy will experience hardship is because the adoptive parents chose to be selfish. If they had given the boy to his father when the DNA proved they were related they would be saving him a lot of hardship.

TC on

I’m going to agree with you Natasha, and against the majority of the comments on that article, he has fought for his son for 3 years now and deserves to raise him. It’s not like he waited until his son was 3 to gain custody, he’s been fighting since his son was a newborn.

marina on

Adoption is a beautiful thing but when is made on the right way, and this time it wasn’t, the bio father has every right to get his son back, it’s has been three years that he has lost already.

Sarah K. on

Natasha, I agree. It would have been easier and less painful for everyone if the adoptive parents had turned over the child when the biological father established his paternity. The fact is that they were trying to circumvent his rights by filing for adoption after he made it known that he could be the father. They were hoping that if they filed before he could prove it the courts would tell him that it was too late. That if they held on to the baby long enough, that no one would “rip him away from the only family he has ever known.” They knew that they were trying to adopt a child who had a parent who wanted raise him. If all of this had just come to light now, it would be one thing. But, they knew the father wanted his baby when the baby was less than a month old. The person that they hurt the most is that little boy.

I sympathize with the adoptive parents, because it must have been awful learning that the adoption would not be successful, but they should have accepted that the biological parents have rights. I think that anyone adopting a child should understand going into it that the biological parents have the ultimate right to their children. They cannot force a father to relinquish his son because it would hurt their feelings not to. I hate to say it, but three years ago, they were not acting in the baby’s best interest. They were more concerned with their pain and their loss – not the baby’s or his father’s.

Jill on

This seems like a no brained to me. He is the biological father and deserves custody of his child. What am I missing?

anne on

Jill, you are missing alot. A parent is a parent, regardless of DNA. The little boy knows only his adoptive parents. It will be an absolute trauma for him to loose his family and have to be raised by a stranger. He is 3 years old, he understands. He is not a newborn anymore. The boy should have stayed with the adoptive parents and the father should be allowed to visit.

MiB on

What I don’t understand is how the adoption could go through when he asked for custody at birth, Sure, the law says that the mother doesn’t have to provide the contact address of the biological father if the father abandoned her during pregnancy, but what if the father never knew she was pregnant when they broke up? I clearly think the adoptive family are at fault here, they knew he had made a claim for the child when they filed for adoption and they still went for it.

As much as I believe that there are people who shouldn’t have children (as a former child care worker, I have seen it all), I also believe that parents who want to parent their children should be given the chance unless they are deemed unfit. Don’t misunderstand me. I believe adoptive parents ar as much parents as biological parents, but no adoption should go through if the biological parenthood or the custody of the child is disputed or if the biological father wants to and can care for the child.

From Our Partners

Sign up for our daily newsletter and other special offers.
    Choose your newsletters
Thank you for signing up! Your request may take up to one week to be processed.
    see all newsletters