Sarah Jane Morris: Being a New Mom Is ‘Very Isolating’

08/24/2010 at 05:00 PM ET
Douglas Friedman/The Nest

Since welcoming her first child, Sarah Jane Morris is hanging with a new crowd — fellow moms.

The actress and her husband, Rooney drummer Ned Brower, welcomed son Emmett Andrew in January and have found their circle has switched out dinner parties for play dates.

“Since having the baby, I think our social activities happen in the daytime a lot more,” Morris, 33, reveals in The Nest‘s summer issue.

“One thing I’ve found is it’s very isolating in the beginning. It’s hard to get out and, you know, people are pretty quick to come and help — but after a couple of months, people stop bringing dinners. The phone stops ringing quite as much.”

As a result, adds Brower, the couple have formed a support group among their new neighborhood friends — and fellow parents.

“I’ve started to make a lot of friends in the neighborhood, because some other couples here have babies too and are our age,” he explains. “It’s funny how that creates a quick bond with people — because your kids become such a focal point of your life, so it’s a little more challenging to hang out with friends that don’t have kids.”

Completely smitten with their baby boy, Brower, 31, says Emmett’s “big, blue eyes, blond hair and big lips” are “real cute” now, but the proud papa can’t wait for the day his personality shines through.

“I’m excited to see him develop ‘a look,'” he shares. “So far, he’s got great features and a great personality — so I think he’s in great shape.”

Equally interested in watching her son grow up is mom Morris, but the former Brothers & Sisters star admits she hopes he steers clear of dad’s career choice!

“I would say, I’d hope that he not be a drummer. It’s a very loud, cumbersome, unromantic instrument,” she laughs. “It’s not like, ‘Hey babe, I wrote you this song on the drums’ ever happens.”

Emmett’s nursery — Douglas Friedman/The Nest

RELATED VIDEO: Sarah & Ned’s Home Tour

— Anya Leon

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Lindsey on

What do you mean “former B & S star” Is she leaving too??

Nicole on

Sarah left Brothers and Sisters a long time ago…I believe last year.

mommytoane on

Lindsey, according to IMDB, and Wikipedia, she was only in seasons 1-3 and as a guest in 4. She’s been off the show since 2009.
I agree, Early motherhood is very isolating. Its nice seeing the stars feel the same way as the rest of the world.

Jane on

I don’t know how I feel about what she said- “so it’s a little more challenging to hang out with friends that don’t have kids.” I think that can be true, but at the same time there can be the other side of the coin. People like her need to also be sensitive not to drop friends who aren’t parents just because it seems they may not be able to relate and aren’t part of the “club.” I know it happens the other way too- that those without children sometimes stop the friendship but it can go the other way too and doesn’t have to.

Shannon on

Absolutely love the name they chose for their son! Her comments about being a drummer are pretty funny, I saw Rooney perform with Hanson a few weeks ago. Totally awesome show!

Annie on

“It’s hard to get out and, you know, people are pretty quick to come and help — but after a couple of months, people stop bringing dinners. The phone stops ringing quite as much.”

Boo-hoo. That’s because after a couple of months you should have figured a few things out on your own and make your own dinners, you ingrate. Sorry to be harsh but plenty of people don’t even have that much help. Also I’d think after a few months you’d figure out how to use the car seat, pack your diaper bag and GO OUT! No, I’m not angry, I just have little tolerance for whiners.

Anonymous on

Annie – err yeah you are beinh harsh as it happens, being a new mum when none of your friends have children is very hard, poeple love new babies for all of an hour then they get back to their lives and your left alone, they know you can’t stay out late/go out drop every thing ect so they stop calling, its one of the reason new mums get P.N.D because they feel so alone. there is something brave about telling the truth about how you feel as a new mum.

don’t judge someones feelingsor class them as’whiners’ there is no need, i have no tolerance for people with bad attitudes.

being is a new mum is such a shock and the only person who knows how yo feel is the mum down the road, no one with out kids understands as much as the try so i get what she is saying, im glad shes found people to surround herself with whn she wants to talk baby ect, mummy friends can sometimes just be the best friends :)xxxxxxxx

Annie on

Anonymous – I appreciate what you say. Being a parent is one of the hardest things a person will do in their lives. It is also one of the greatest. It is challenging and, yes, at times it is isolating – espcially in the begining. One learns and grows from it. You find other paths. I do appreciate that. I still stand by what I say though, the world will not stop for us just because we’ve had a child. For the record, we are all making judgements when we comment on this site. I can have my point of view as can you. And if I should be judged for classing her statement as that of a whiner, you have done the same by “classing” me with having a bad attitude. 🙂

Anonymous on

Annie – Calling a fellow mother a whiner is nothing but unkind, you could have made your judgement on this lady who you have never met in a kinder way rather than haveing a dig at some one just for saying that they struggled with the life style changes that come with being a a mum.

Holiday on

I agree with you Annie. I hardly had any help when my son was born when I was 23 but I managed just fine. I joined a moms club to meet friends and was able to figure out things on my own. I am 27 now and had a little girl 3 months ago and got no help at all, even after a csection but again I am independent and do not rely on others for help.

katie on

we designed the pirate ship stepper (step stool)that is shown in Emmett’s room!