The Preggo Diaries: A Smart (and Funny!) Guide for Moms-to-Be

08/12/2010 at 02:00 PM ET
Courtesy of Beth Thomas Cohen

Beth Thomas Cohen is the first to tell you she’s not a medical professional.

But as a mom to 3-year-old Aiden and another baby-girl-to-be, she’s experienced the good, the bad and the beautiful that comes with pregnancy.

“There’s so much that nobody tells you,” she shares with PEOPLE Moms & Babies.

“One day I couldn’t shave my legs. I couldn’t see my vagina. These are really things you think people would want to know!”

So she decided to share these tidbits (and more!) in her new pregnancy guide The Preggo Diaries, which will be released soon.

The book was ‘born’ of Cohen’s willingness to tell all. “I was the first to get married and the first to have a baby in my group of girlfriends,” she says. “I was in my 20s, and they’d email to ask how I felt, and I’d reply, ‘Do you really want to know?'”

Cohen didn’t hold back, sharing all the dirty details with her friends, who would then forward her emails on to other pregnant and non-pregnant friends.

“A best friend said, ‘Why don’t you just write this down? There isn’t anything like this out there’,” Cohen recalls. “Suddenly, I realized I had a lot more to say than I thought.”

Cohen, a publicist living in N.Y.C., says she inadvertently did research by talking to women from all walks of life. “It didn’t matter if they were living the life in L.A. and delivering at Cedars-Sinai, or washing my hair at the salon,” she says. “What happens to your body during pregnancy isn’t segregated by race, religion or other demographics.”

Courtesy of Beth Thomas Cohen

Some of the topics Cohen (left) touches on include water breaking — “Not everyone’s water breaks. If it doesn’t, I wanted women to know there’s a 10-in. white stick with a hook they put inside you to break it!” — to mucus plugs. “I wanted to know what it looked like,” she says. “I even saved mine for my husband to see.”

Cohen also writes about more sensitive subjects, like judgments about names and breast versus bottle-feeding. “Everyone judges you about everything during pregnancy,” she shares. “And you’re already so hormonal and emotional that it just multiplies.”

But it’s not meant to be a heavy book — instead, it fills in the gaps that guides like What to Expect When You’re Expecting leave open. “I felt so blindsided by things,” Cohen says. “Hopefully the book will enlighten moms to feel less pressure while they’re pregnant. You can have the meds and the imperfect labor, and it’s still going to be OK. We’re only human!”

Though Cohen’s book isn’t out yet, you can follow her insightful (and funny!) musings on her blog, The Preggo Diaries.

Kate Hogan

Note from the author: The title of the book is subject to change.

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HeatherB on

Ha ha, I loved the comment about not being able to shave her legs or see her vagina! I was also in my early 20’s when I had my daughter, so I had no idea what to expect. Not being able to shave my legs wasn’t really something that crossed my mind! I once read an article about a woman who asked her husband to shave her “downstairs” because she couldn’t see what she was doing. Now, I love my husband more than anything in the world, but I just would NOT feel comfortable with him doing that for me! Instead, I just reached down and *hoped* I did a decent job! haha

Electra on

You’d think that with all these “theres so many things they don’t tell you” books being published that all the secrets would’ve been revealed at this point.

Lacey on

I agree, Electra. This isn’t a ground-breaking blog. I’ve even seen some that fathers write.
P.S. I sick of these nickname for pregnant. (Preggo, Preggers..Etc)

Moore on

I agree Electra. I got pregnant expecting some big secrets, but nope. That big pregnancy shocker must still be hiding out there.

Carie Leshin on

I cannot wait to read this book even though I know all of the beautiful details of your experience. I love you and I am so proud of you!!!!!

Carie Leshin on

I cannot wait to read this book! Of course there are a ton of pregnancy books out there; however, you are such a brilliant writer who is so witty and funny and out right honest that for sure it will b one of the best. Beth you never hold anything back and that is why I love you so much. I am so proud of you!!!! Love you!!!!

Anonymous on

i agree with lacey. pregnancy is pregnancy. a pregnant woman is PREGNANT. i hate prego, preggers, etc. stop being lazy and trying to be cute.

EC on

I must be reading a different blog that you people, because this is new, fresh and all around informative!
I could care less what it’s called as long as it is insightful and more importantly fun! I have yet to see anything in print that even resembles something like this…certainly not in my life time! Kudos for finally putting something out there for everyone to see…if you don’t want to get on the bus, take the train! Can’t wait for the book, I LOVE IT!!!

EC on

Can’t wait for the book…everyone above must have had really boring pregnancies!

EC on

So happy to see someone regular put themselves out there…with all the celebrity talk, it’s nice to have a normal person talk about normal things!
Pregnant, preggers, preggo what have you, can’t wait to read the book AND follow the blog!

EC on

I think it’s great…and so nice to have a normal person who is not a celebrity talking about normal things, that happen during pregnancy. Pregnant, preggers, preggo…what about all of the annoying abbreviations we have for everything else! She’s not lazy, she’s honest…some people just can’t take that! Can’t wait for the book.

EC on

Love it, can’t wait to read the book!!!! Love a regular person, letting it all hang out!

EC on

LOVE IT, can’t wait to read the book…PREGNANT ARE INCAPABLE OF BEING LAZY!!!
YOU GO GIRL!

N. Shakespeare on

Ooooohhhh. So excited for this book. It is so much fun to go through pregnancy with someone pointing out the hysterical moments to you. It just makes it all so much more fun. Will definitely buy this book…hope it comes out before my pregnancy is over!

TC on

Ok sending your cronies out to promote your book is sad and doesn’t help you at all.

I was interested in this book but I don’t like the fake recommendations from authors two friends. How can I make an informed decision based on other REAL readers if they are fake? I’m sorry Ms Cohen but you’ve lost all credibility

Electra on

lmao.

EC on

Happy to read something light and fun in this heavy world!

HeatherB on

Ya, at least have the brains to change your user name.

Rick on

I can’t wait to give this to my wife, she complains all the time about the stuff that’s out there…it is on people.com so for me, that’s a good enough reason.

shadyk on

So, EC is clearly a “cohen” pimping the family (her own?) book. TC is right – you’ve just lost all credibility.

Second, you are all right, there is no “secret” – that’s what’s called a marketing trick. She’s a publicist…

Speaking of publicist, #3 – how the heck did this goofball get an agent and a book deal!? She must have known someone in the business, because I know someone (a real writer) that wrote a similar pregnancy book 2 years ago and no one will give her the time of day. Oh isn’t it great to have connections in this world…? Anybody can do anything… if you know somebody…

dinibini on

I’m crying laughing at the EC person and their horrible marketing capabilities… Next time change your screen name as well as IP address if you want to spam a blog.. Now for the book, I’m not planning on buying it.. that is all

OCB MOM on

I think this is such a refreshing blog to read. Being pregnant with my second, it is nice to see someone telling you like it could be. Pregnancy is great and fun in so many ways and once you have your little munchkin in your arms, it all goes away but the road there can be rocky (and easy for others). I like knowing what to expect rather than being surprised. I was unpleasantly surprised so many times the first time around – like life wasn’t turning upside down in every other way. Being able to be prepared for some things would have been nice. Well done! I can’t wait to read the book!!