Kourtney Kardashian’s Blog: Having a Potty Mouth Around Mason

07/20/2010 at 09:00 AM ET

Reality star — and mama to Mason! — Kourtney Kardashian has been blogging for us for eight weeks, opening up about traveling with her son, balancing motherhood with a hectic work schedule, breastfeeding and much more. If you’ve missed any of her prior blogs, check them out here.

In her final blog post for PEOPLE Moms & Babies, Kourtney tackles a sticky issue: How to get her friends and family to curb their cursing around her son. Read what she has to say and help her out with this dilemma.

See more of Kourtney and boyfriend Scott Disick on E!’s Keeping Up with the Kardashians and Kourtney and Khloé Take Miami, which is now airing its second season.

Mason chilling out – Courtesy Kourtney Kardashian

I noticed that on one of my previous blogs, someone wrote a comment saying something to the effect of: Mason’s first words will most likely be BLEEP, BLEEP and BLEEP if we don’t start watching our language around him.

Growing up, I never heard my parents curse, NEVER. The first time I ever said a curse word was with my sister Kim. I was making her organize our bookshelf with me and I wanted her to put the books in order from tallest to shortest (being the bossy older sister that I am).

I was starting to get frustrated and yelled at her, “Stop breathing up my ass!” Kim said she was going to tell on me and I swore to her that I said “ask” and not “ass.” But she knew what I said, and as my dad said our prayers with us that night, she told on me.

My dad told me, “It’s okay — just don’t ever say that again.” Needless to say, I have said it again.

When Mason was born, I was extra cautious about people cursing in front of him; I only played classical music around him, etc. … He’s such an angelic innocent boy.

As time goes on — and especially in my family where everyone has a mouth on them — people forget to censor what they say around Mason. Scott and Khloé are the ones with the worst mouths. They both try not to curse in front of Mason, but trust me, they do.

Sooner than I know it, Mason will start talking and understanding what we’re all saying. Having a bad mouth is not a good quality regardless of whether or not you’re around a baby, so it wouldn’t be the worst thing for everyone to stop. But I also don’t want to set unrealistic rules for everyone around me.

I just thought I would reach out for some advice on how to get my friends and family to stop cursing in general so these slip-ups don’t keep happening — and affect Mason later on. I’m sure that I’m not the only person who’s had to deal with this. So bring it on with the suggestions!

Also, I want to acknowledge that this in my last guest blog about being a mommy and thank all of you readers out there for your feedback and advice. In fact, since I have enjoyed it so much, I will continue to blog about being a new mom on my site at KourtneyKardashian.com!

– Kourtney Kardashian

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Emily on

if and WHEN mason does curse, (its ok, it happens to the best of us) i found that ignoring it really does help them get through the phase the quickest. they get no reaction out of you, and thus, its time to move on to something else to drive you crazy enough to yell. also i trained myself to use phrases like “dang”, “what the F”, “crap” and i find that you sound way cooler using those :P

jmae on

I’ve really enjoyed your blogs, Kourtney! Will definitely be following on your new website. I think you’re a fabulous mother and Mason is too adorable!

Michelle on

Ha Ha, I saw that comment on your previous blog and had a laugh. It’s a good idea to start curbing your “potty mouth” around Mason now. Every child is different as to when they begin talking. My daughter said her first words around 11 months. She started with Da Da and Ma Ma but now she is like a little parrot. She is 2 and will repeat everything we say. At one point instead of “Oh my Gosh” she said “Oh sh*t Gosh”. So your right..you better watch out! Just tell your friends and family how important it is to you. If they love you and Mason they will make an effort to watch their mouths. Keep up the good work Kourtney! You’re doing a great job!

Jen on

Kourtney I was reading an article about this same subject. In the article it said to use other words to substitute. So maybe if someone has the urge to say Stop breathing up my ### they can say instead stop breathing up my popcicle. Use replacement words. It is good for Mason and also gives the whole family a laugh. If everyone can be consistant with that he will never know the difference. Also Emily was right on it also said if your child does mimic his daddy and aunts and uncle and swears just ignore it and dont make a big deal out of it. If you give him a big reaction he is more apt to do it again. Hope this helps!

Ashley on

I heard the same thing that someone else wrote – if he slips ignore it or just get on to him slightly by telling him not to, but people that laugh when he does it will make it worse.

Anyway, I would just ask everyone not to. I have the same problem with my family and I slip up too at times. You could make them put money in a jar everytime they do it, but that better be an amount enough that it bothers them to lose it haha.

JessicaC on

I have the same problem, I have a 3 year old and a 19 month old, and my husbands sister in law(I wont even call her my SIL lol) is just a pig in every way.I had been trying to keep my kidsa way from her, then it exploded into nonsense of course, so i told her if she didnt do something about her manners, she just wouldnt see the kids…what made her calm down a little was, last thanksgiving, she was burping like a slob at the table and my then 2.5 year old said, eeeww, aunt ****’s a piggy! She was RED, but I loved it!! Since ya cant control how other people act, I definitely try to limit my kiddos to people like that, and they are definitely aware that good boys and girls dont talk like that…I can live with the cursing, I just cant stand when people smoke around them, wait till Mason tries to “smoke” his first crayon…

Teri on

You should start a potty mouth jar. Whenever anyone says a curse word around Mason, they are required to put $1 for each curse word in the jar. The money goes toward Mason’s college fund. It doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it will make people more conscious of what they are saying around him.

jessicad on

I had a terrible mouth when my daughter was born. I try to use other words in place of curse words, even if they sound silly and aren’t as satisfying as saying the actual words. I did slip up when she was around 1 and said SH#T when I dropped a plate in the kitchen, not 2 days later she was playing in the backyard and dropped a toy and said it too! Of course I made her say it again and took a video, then had a chat with her about saying “shoot” or “uh oh” instead:)

I love how you take a negative comment and turn it into something positive by asking for advice, that’s a great attitude and I’ll definitely be checking your website!

Lola Monroe on

Aww, i’m sad this will be your last guest blog, please let us know on your Twitter when you do a Mommy blog on your site so I can check it out! Personally, I know some little kids that curse a lot because that’s all they’ve heard. It’s really awkward and sad at the same time….Khloe is a step-mother now herself, she should try to think of other words besides #!*% all the time…she has to set an example for them as well as Mason & Kendall & Kylie. Hopefully her & Scott both get it together soon before Mason starts talking…keep sharing pictures of him, he is such a handsome little man!! Besos Doll XX!!

mamabear on

PLEASE, PLEASE Kourtney, DO NOT ignore Mason if, and when, he curses – IT DOES NOT WORK (no matter what other posters may think). I come from a HUGE family (17 kids) and I’ve seen everything because every sibling has their own view on raising their kids. TRUST ME, ignoring bad behavior in hopes of it “going away” or “not encouraging” it only leads the children to believe that it is acceptable and that if it not worthy of YOUR attention, then it’s no big deal. My brother “ignored” my nephew’s bad mouth and we ended up with a 5 yr old screaming “F*CK YOU” from the top of the swing set repeatedly! They laughed and ignored it and it only got worse as he got older.

When faced with this situation, I firmly said to my son that “Nice boys do NOT swear – and you’re a nice boy, so please don’t do that again. Do you want people to think your a potty-mouth or a nice boy?” It worked.

I raised two kids successfully as a single mother (both kids are in college) and I wish you all the best with Mason :)

Jennifer on

Your family will realise how important it is to restrain their words when he starts cursing himself. My daughter said ‘oh s**t’ one time and I never said it again in front of her. The shame of hearing your child talk that way eats you up.

If she does use a word we don’t like such as fat or stupid, then we tell her it’s not a nice word and nice people don’t use those words. She rarely has to be told as she rarely uses them now.

I don’t feel words like crap, dang or what the F are acceptable words for kids to be hearing or using either by the way.

Oh and yes the smoking is really irritating, especially when it’s strangers.

Selina on

I have a big family that sometimes swears in front of little kids by accident but they quickly correct the issue and apologize and make it known that speaking like that is not okay. BTW Mason is sooo cute!

Selina on

That is sad that it is your last blog on here I really enjoyed them. Good luck with Mason.

Gabrielle on

lets be realistic, you cannot make evryone around you change the way they speak, you can only guide your child and teach them right from wrong, just because you hear people talk a certain way doesnt make it the right way, teach mason that its not nice to say those words even though some people say them, my husbands family has potty mouths and my daughter was raised around them, but she does no that its not nice to speak that way. mason is probably going to see or hear unpleasant things, just make sure he understands right from wrong!!

Christina on

Hey Kourtney!

I’ve so enjoyed your blogs and am excited that you will continue them on your website! My hubby occasionally says a few curse words, and I remind him that he needs to stop or our son will copy him. I think substituting the words with something else is a great idea. My son is close to your son’s age, so I am going through a lot of the same situations as you. I guess all that we can do is to continue to ask family members to please not use bad language because it is really important to us. In the future, our children will say something or do something that isn’t appropriate. I agree with mamabear. I’ve worked with kids in daycare for awhile, and talking to them, explaining why bad behavior or bad language is inappropriate is a good technique. Also, giving praise for good behavior works wonderfully. Also, giving praise works on my husband. LOL For instance, if he is tempted to say a curse word but tries really hard not to and says “darn” instead, I tell him that I really appreciate it and give him a hug or kiss. It helps. :-)

Andrea on

I want to tell you that Mason looks really good in grey and also that is a really cute shirt he is wearing!

At least you have some time before Mason comprehends and is able to say those bad words. I would try baby steps to get your family and friends to not say any bad words around Mason. I would think if they really loved Mason they would understand that they shouldn’t say anything bad around him because it is very disrepectful for them to say not only bad words but also the topic they are discussing around him because kids are like sponges and will imitate what you are saying or doing. I understand that you want to protect your baby from everything because they are so innocent at this stage. Good luck.

ILuvPerfectParents on

In my home it’s usually me with the potty mouth but I definitely would not ignore it, if one of my children said a bad word. My 2 year old repeated the word hell after me the other day and then I told him he couldn’t say that word. For me not cursing in front of him takes a lot of effort but I try my best to do it. Good luck, Mason is a cutie.

Fifi on

Our pediatrician (my uncle), told us at our daughter’s one-year appointment that it was very important that no one swear around her anymore, because she would start repeating it soon enough. I’ve never sworn, so it was a non-issue with me. My husband was able to stop swearing in her presence after a few weeks of being reminded about it. My mom is the only one that continues to slip up. She’s always sworn like a sailor, even when my brother and I were little kids. She doesn’t think she should have to change anything about her life to suit a child, so it’s tough with her. I just constantly remind her to stop doing it. It might sink in at some point, but I doubt it. If my daughter were to ever repeat something Grandma said, I’d just have to explain to her that it’s not appropriate language to use. Hopefully that works :-/

Michelle on

My son has a bad word list. If he says a bad word we put it on the list. He is only allowed to say those words when I ask him the words on the list. I don’t ask very often but when I do he has forgotten most of them.

Cole on

I have a really bad habit when it comes to cussing. I don’t cuss when I’m at work but as soon as I leave it starts up. I NEVER use to cuss and then one day I just started and I haven’t stopped. I don’t have any children but I do have 3 god sons, 2 nephews, and a niece. I know I shouldn’t cuss around them but sometimes I can’t help it. My god sons never really payed attention to when I would cuss around them but my youngest nephew says everything that I do and he’s starting to pick up the bad words. He knows that hes not supposed to say them and when he does he gives you a cute smirk as if saying I know I’m not supposed to say it but I did. Since he started talking I’ve tired to cut down on my cussing but its hard to cut a habit even when you know it’s the best thing to do. Good luck with Mason when he starts talking. I think that as long as you teach him that those are words that he shouldn’t say he should be good!

teresa on

you can do what i did. i got a jar wrap it with paper and called it my swear jar. each swear would cost a different price that they would have to put into the jar. when it fills(and it will) i put it up for baby. it really did help out.

D on

Your son will curse, it’s part of them growing up. I have 5 kids and they all did it too. It’s funny and cute, but it can get out of control. We try very hard not use to four letter words in our house, but we are human and they do fly, very rarely. Be very careful, because the older he gets, the more he will be pick up on and the more he will use it. It’s NOT something to be proud of! Some people think that swearing makes them, cool, but it doesn’t!

Michelle on

This comment has nothing to do with swearing. I just wanted to thank you for being a positive voice of attachment parenting. I am so happy to see that you had a calm, peaceful birth, followed by exclusive breastfeeding and co-sleeping. You are an inspiration to young women! I hope more young women follow your lead and do the best for their babies like you do! Thank you for doing what comes natural and following your mommy instinct.

izzy on

My daughter is 10 and she now understand curse words and the anger or sarcastic undertone they have. I personally do not curse in front of her but have had people do so. As mothers we want to protect our childrens ears, eyes and innocence. we should show our children that there are other healthy ways to express your anger.I gotta say that that is one of the biggest reason i do not like people cursing in front of her, she see’s and feels the anger that is behind those vulger words. i am with you 100% on this one.and will be reading your new mommy blog. welcome to the mommy club :)

sandra on

My good friend and i make a joke that my kids will learn to be goo spellers. Whenever we do curse we spell it out. We got so used to it that even when my kids arent around we still do it.

ABC 123 on

kourtney i just wanted to let you know that i have really enjoyed your blogs here and getting to sere how much mason has grown. he is so cute and has gotten really big. in the picture he looks so much like his uncle rob and you! good luck with raising little mason!

Leyla on

Kourtney you seem like such a loving concientious mother. Stop being so hard on yourself. You’re fine-you are a good enough parent. Read the book The Good Enough Parent. As for swearing, besides speaking to each family member individually and casually but sincerely making your wishes known i.e. saying ” I feel like Mason hears too many swear words. I’m going to try to stop swearing so much and can you support me by not swearing so much, also?”, there’s not much you can do about your friends and family swearing around Mason. Other than spending less time with the people with potty mouths and choosing the kind of people you want to surround you and your child with.

The other thing about swearing is the intent behind it. Are you swearing out of frustration, anger or fear? Mason will be more affected by these unspoken feelings than the words coming out of your mouth. Better to address the underlying feelings you have then the words you are saying. Kids do what we do not what we say. If you say Mommy is angry but it’s not your fault Mason-he will be fine. Children believe it’s their fault if their parent is upset but try to hide their feelings.

JMO on

This one is a toughy to ignore or not to ignore. I think 3 and under they have no idea what they’re saying so it should be ignored. But don’t laugh (even when it does sound cute out of their mouths)! Laughing just entices them to do it more to keep you laughing. If they start cursing at an older age then it needs to be addressed because they’re now aware that they’re not nice words and shouldn’t be used. If you slip up and say a bad word in front of Mason and he notices it’s best to admit you were wrong and you apologize for using those words.

I agree with the person who said you can’t control what others do or say around him. So yes it’s best the older he gets to know that grown ups may slip up but that in no way means that he should! My mom used to always tell us that when we were grown we could use the words only if we were angry. Well my brother took that to heart bc now he’s just a bitter angry non stop cursing 30 year old :)

People will have different ways of handling and I don’t think there is a right or wrong way. No child is perfect and no parent is perfect. So just take it one step at a time. Good Luck and thanks for sharing Mason’s pictures and your stories with us!

Fairy Princess on

My almost 4 year old nephew said his first curse word the other day. His mom was playing with him before bath time and she was playfully tapping his bottom with her hand to shoo him into the shower. He looked at her with his “angry” face and said “you’re hurting me B%^ch”. She said she was absolutely stunned!! Then she told him to tell Daddy what he said and he did and then turned around while getting out of the shower and said it again except to his Daddy. They told him when they were tucking him in that not to ever say that word again because it is mean and hurts their heart.

Becky on

Hey Kourtney! I am going to miss seeing your blogs on here! My husband and I had terrible mouths when my daughter was born but found it pretty easy to stop, for the most part, once we put our minds to stopping. Obviously we slip on occasion and you would not believe how those little ears pick up on the one word, out of a million, you say that you don’t want them to hear and repeat! Never fails!

When my daughter was just learning to talk, I guess I had slipped and said “damnit” a few times and she started picking up her toys, dropping it on purpose and then saying “damnit”. I guess I only said it when I dropped something because that’s what she coralated (sp?) that word to. I just ignored it, as hard as it was, but it didn’t stop and for fear of her repeating it at the home of her super religious nanny’s house I finally caved and told her not to say that and then of course she knew that she is not supposed to say that and it became funny to her and she kept doing it. I wish I kept ignoring it because they are trying to get attention and if you don’t give them any they move on to something else and forget that, but in this case it was so hard to ignore it after about the 10th time that day. Eventually she stopped and as far as I know she never said it around anyone else.

I also cannot for the life of me not react in the car to stupid drivers! They drive me insane and I don’t even realize when I say something. I am actually quite proud of myself because that was when my mouth was the worst but I learned to change it to “stupid idiot!” instead of swear words. Of course she picked up on that, but come on, you can’t expect me not to yell and those people and it could be much much worse than stupid idiot! I still didn’t want her to say that in her nanny’s car, although if that’s the worst she says, I am OK with that. I probably shouldn’t have done this but I thought about it (she is 4 now, BTW) and I can’t scold her and tell her not to say “stupid idiot” when I do and I can’t not say something in the car so I told her it is OK if she says that with mom, as long it’s only in mom’s car. So, I guess that is our thing now. We can both yell at the stupid idiots out there together and she knows that is the only place she can say that. So far, it’s worked.

Chrissy on

Kourtney,
I’m going to go rogue here-I tend to be a realist. In my opinion, the IDEAL thing is to not cuss in front of them but it will happen. Everyone should try to refrain but you also have to teach them (when they get older) that they CAN’T do and say everything adults do and say. My husband has a potty mouth but my son never got into trouble in school for language and although I’m sure he’s no angel, I don’t ever recall a time when he’s been caught cussing. Everyone wants to be “friends” with their kids nowadays but sometimes they have to learn to “do as I say–not as I do”.

Romy on

I doubt they’ll listen. I always found it sick how you all talked around Kiley and Kendall. WAY too mature for their ears. Especially the way Khloe talks. I feel bad for Mason that the father figure he’ll have is Scott. Sure you have good times, but the whole picture is teaching Mason how to be a man/husband/father. This is most likely how he will treat girlfriends and a wife. All that said, I still watch your show and find it entertaining. I was grossed out by the balcony scene Kim walked in on. If that was set up for just the show I find it sick, and if not but you let it be aired I find that sick too. It’s not just you anymore. It’s Mason too. Ha, I’m sure you LOVE my post. I’ve enjoyed your blog though!

Chrissy on

Forgot to say that I’ve really enjoyed your posts, although I think you need little to no advice. You’re a great mom b/c you love your son and always have his best interests in mind–that’s all that ever really matters…GOD speed to you and your family.

Organic Mommy and Baby Healthcare Solutions on

Hi Kourtney:

Do your best! If someone curses in front of Mason, correct the behavior immediately while in his presence. For ex, “Auntie Khloe just said a bad word, what she could have said was…” Babies are intelligent and highly spiritual, in his own way, he’ll understand.

All the best to you and your family,
Nicole

Lauren on

Hello there! I have a 2-1/2-year-old son and a 3-month-old baby boy. My husband and I have been known to have quite colorful language ourselves, me especially when driving. When my oldest was really starting learning to talk well and was doing a lot of mimicking, probably around 1-1/2, I will never forget when he repeated “F**king Go!” in his little baby voice. I felt so bad. He may have said it for about a month straight quite often. What we did to get him to stop was say “Did you say Flamingo?” instead. Soon he started saying “flamingo” instead. I guess we kind of ignored what he was really saying and replaced it with something better. I think its best to ignore it altogether. Eventually they will forget. But also be realistic. Things happen!

Anonymous on

I would just ask people to mind their words around Mason, and if he says a bad word, tell him I don’t use that language and neither should you. As for replacement words, I used to know someone who said “Son of a pup!” and “What the frog?” I thought they were adorable. Good luck!!

Jamie on

I don’t know how people can discipline their kids’ for cursing when the parents’ are usually the ones they learn it from. My husband and I do not talk like that. My kids’ know that they don’t hear that language at home, and they don’t talk like that. I’m not saying that they never will when I am not around, but you can bet if I ever hear bad language come out of their mouths, I will NOT ignore it!!!!

nathalie on

I realize that swearing is taboo in our society, but honestly, what’s the difference in replacing the word for another, “less taboo” word? It’s all in the intention of the meaning that’s the issue, so if you replace “witch” for “bi*ch”, how exactly is that helping? Exactly…it isn’t. It has the exact same connotation so what’s the point?

karen on

I stopped cursing all together when my dad reminded me that I don’t need to. That adding those words doesn’t make what I have to say any more or less important.

Julie on

Why don’t you start the money jar? Everytimg Khloe’ or Scott say a bad word have them put a dollar in the jar. Give the money to Mason and maybe after awhile they will not do it as much.

Shannon on

We started a swearing jar. Each time one of swore, we threw in a dollar. Money added up quickly and we used it to take ourselves out to dinner!

stefany on

OMG Mason is getting so big! He is so cute, congradulations Kourtney!!

Nicole P. on

LOL…This is a great subject because I struggle with this as well. I tried really hard to keep those words away from my children’s ears, but unless you don’t say them at all it’s virtually impossible! I have definitely slipped up and cused infront of them as well as my husband and other family members have too. I’m not proud of it, but it does happen. My son, who will be 5 in August, and my daughter, who is 2 1/2, have both repeated a word or two, but I just say, “No. I’m sorry I shouldn’t have said that and you shouldn’t either. It’s a mommy & Daddy word.” and they both said ok and went on about their business and didn’t think twice. If you don’t make a big deal they won’t either…. On a different not I will definitely miss the blog – Good luck and have fun with your little man!

i agree... on

lol…the title of this story makes me laugh…cuz your not the only one who wants your family to stop cursing…it would make me happy too. i have 2 little ones, and for the most part, i could watch your show in front of my little guy, cuz the stories would really be over his head…but i can’t ignore the amount of swearing that goes on. the confusing part is you ladies sure go to a lot of effort to look classy…getting all dolled up every minute of the day…shoot, you go to bed with a full face of make up on…but you swear like uneducated hillbillies. just saying…

TRACY on

It is a bad habit like any other that can change. The only way to stop doing it in front of Mason is to break the habit all together. Those that care will work on it. It won’t happen overnight, but can happen. Don’t see it as something to stop doing in front of him. Do it as something to better your like and those around you including him.

jennifer on

The absolute right thing to do is to ask those to please use censored language around your child. You are the filter of what he is regularly exposed too. Take action and discuss this with those you are most concerned about using curse words. They are very smart little sponges and they absorb all that their environment provides. Best wishes!

kk on

I think that it is 2010 and in this day and age its hard to find anyone who doesn’t curse. I grew up around it but I always new that it was wrong to do and I would get in trouble doing it so I knew better and even if I heard adults do it I knew it wasn’t right. Now that I’m older of course I do and I have a 4 year old daughter. It’s so hard to keep your kids sheltered these days between commercials, tv, friends, etc. I’ve already explained to my daughter that cussing is not something that is nice but its something that adults do sometimes and when she is older she can make that choice for herself but that I hope that she doesn’t because it can make you ugly. She has never said a cuss word to this day and if she hears one she doesn’t think anything of it but that its a grown up thing. I just think that you need to embrace stuff with your kids and not shelter them from it. The world is a crazy place and I want to guide her through it not hide it from her.

Aleisha on

I have a 2 year old and he repeats EVERYTHING!! We all say things we shouldn’t in front of kids. Acknowledging the fact that what we said was wrong and wasn’t very nice to say will help ease the situation. Also choosing other words like Bam that baby and holy macaroni can make light of the word you really want to say!! Your doing an awesome job as a mom, keep it up

Lisa on

Kourtney, I think you curse more than anyone. Stop blaming others, and clean up your vocabulary. It’s really distasteful to use the F word all the time, as you do.

No Potty Mouth in our house on

It really isn’t that difficult. We do not curse in our house. The worst thing you will hear is someone say doggon it! Out of respect for little Mason, the adults around him should be able to curb their need to curse. Why is cursing necessary anyway?? One can get their point across without having to curse. Quite frankly, I think it is classless and unnecessary. Perhaps try keeping him away from them unless they promise to clean up their mouths!

Momof2 on

I think everyone who has kids goes through this at some point. I am actually the one who has to watch it in my house, but the first time I heard my daughter say “sh**” and in the correct context, I realized how awful that sounds coming out of such a sweet kid’s mouth (she was two at the time) and everyone knows exactly where they get it; not to mention, even though some people think it is funny – IT IS NOT CUTE. I once heard someone (I actually think it was Will Smith) say that truly educated people do not have to use these types of words to express themselves, they can find other words to describe their feelings. How true is that? I have just disciplined myself to not speak that way. As for Scott, he is the child’s father, he has to censor himself and just grow up about it. Kids repeat EVERYTHING eventually, from your grocery list to anything you say about your friends, etc. It’s the same thing, everyone knows it usually comes from the parents, so they don’t think poorly of the child since they know they are basically parrots, but they do think this is a reflection of YOU BOTH as parents. Trust me, once your kids get into school, other parents listen for things children say in a way to weed out their child’s friends (all parents do this and those who say they don’t are lying,so for example if you thought Mason had a friend and his family was a group of racists, wouldn’t you limit his time with that child, it isn’t the kid’s fault, but as a parent you have to step in to make sure he won’t pick up any habits that don’t fit in with your family’s beliefs). Make sure Scott understands the cursing is just the tip of the iceberg and he might as well learn now how to control the things he says around Mason. As for your sister, just remind her of the words she will want her child to hear when she has a baby, that adds context for her, since it is really difficult to describe parenting to someone who doesn’t have children yet. If she is truly making an effort (everyone slips up every now and then) then I wouldn’t get too upset with her. While it is easy for people to think they know your family, of course we do not. It is, however, very clear that your family loves your beautiful Mason and if you explain that they can speak however that want when he is not around, you only want to hear beautiful words coming from him!

smarty06 on

Kids don’t need an alternative/substitute for swearing. They don’t need an outlet with something that “sounds like” anything bad.

mommytoane on

Honestly, Kids are smarter than people think. I swear, heck, most people do! Slip ups happen. The best thing you can do is make sure he knows that these are not approiate words. “Oh, (insert person) shouldn’t have said that word. Lets use (insert nonswear word here) instead, ok” works more wonders than people think. My daughter is 7.5, and I still slip up quite a bit more than I should. But she knows that the words I use are not for children. She’s NEVER used them in school, social settings, or around her little friends, and I honestly believe its because I was honest with her. I explained that the words are for adults, and that we use other words instead. Heck, some days she’ll correct me. Just a simple “Shoot” will come out. Its funny as heck.
But, I wouldn’t stress tooo badly. No matter where we go, what we do, our kids will be exposed to these words. Unless they sit around and YOU sit around watching nothing but tellytubbies all day…..they will be exposed. Explaining, and addressing the situation is better than ignoring it.

kirsty on

if someone does swear in front of my daughter, I correct them immediately with a different word, so if someone says damn I say darn. I dont swear and neither does my husband, and we are not trying to be rude (its my family) but I dont want my 3 year old at preschool swearing and teaching all the other kids. We can teach our kids to talk in a more respectful way!

jenna on

wow! i have always thought that it was strange that i didn’t want people to curse around my son either when he was little. good to see i’m not the only one. i personally feel that when children are small, anything too “grown up” should be shielded from them; however, not to “shelter” them but to simply allow them to just be kids. they are only kids for a short time & i feel that they have plenty of time when they are older to experience “adult things” (which includes words, movies & music). so what i did was have a cuss jar. anytime someone would curse around my son, they had to put a dollar in it. it actually worked and after a certain number of mistakes (and having to hunt for a dollar enough times) they realized how often they actually do it & it ceased. now my son is almost 14 and going into high school this year. i still feel the need to shield him but have learned that after middle school, there really is NOTHING he hasn’t heard now. HOWEVER, since I’ve always felt the way I feel about cursing, he seems to really understand & appreciate the reasons behind keeping that from him. He has learned that some times bad language is just an excuse to not come up with something more intelligent to say & that if a word slips from his mouth, he better have enough respect to not say it in front of adults & small children. I am not naive in thinking he won’t use bad language, but he can at least know to respect the people around him when using it because it can be offensive. I’ve also taught him that if he’s going to use bad language, I’d prefer the “biblical” (damn, hell, etc) instead of the “biological.” When he’s a grown up though, he can use bad language if he wishes..but by then he’ll have a healthy appreciation for it and know the time & place to use it!

Kris on

My daughter is 10 – but I clearly remember the day my language changed. I’m not a huge user of curse words, but when she was about 18 months, as we pulled out of the driveway, I realized I forgot something. I started my stence, “Shoot, I forgot…” to which my 18-month old finished, “your stupid crap?”

Harmless? Maybe. Even the word “crap” sounded horrible coming out of her sweet mouth. Being around extended family for a weekend, resulted in my then 2-year old saying,’ Mom, my G-D ass really F’ing hurts.” Nice.

For our family, we just don’t swear. Period. And now, when she’s around folks that do, she just knows it’s not a great way to speak. As she’s gotten older, I just remind her that she has other words to use and describe how she’s feeling. In the end, swearing just makes us sound ignorant and not well-educated. Good luck!

Amy on

I have a potty mouth. I just try very hard not to say things, am I perfect NO! As far as substitute words, I would not do that. I mean if you can adjust how you talk to use fake curse words its just as easy to just not curse. My big bad word is using the lords name. I always say “JC”! One day my 3 year old used it perfect. I did not ignore it. I explained to her that she should never say that again. That I knew she had heard it from me and mommy should not have said it at all. Sometimes grown-ups say words they should not and I was sorry. I said it kind and did not punish her. She never said it again! Just handle it like your father did and you will be fine! Good luck! Your family will learn to stop, my family is just as bad and we have managed to not have our kids dropping bombs all day!

Melissa on

A good way to get your family to stop using curse words is to charge them. For example everytime a friend or family member says a curse word in front of Mason they should have to put $1.00 in a jar for his college fund. This way your friends and family will start to realize how often they curse and hopefully they will cut back and if not at least Mason will have a nice college fund or new car fund.

fishtownsharon on

Tell them every time you catch them cursing in front of Mason, they have to change a diaper.

Jenny on

I agree with the potty mouth jar idea. I have seen this idea in action and it sometimes works but if not at least adorable Mason will have a nice college fund. I hope and pray for you to find your answers. Just one idea though, keeping a positive environment for your son should negate the need for curse words. I hope you don’t think I am speaking of you because I think you are a wonderful mother. Keep blogging I will need this advice for my now growing baby in my belly.

Michelle on

Each and every time someone cusses around Mason I would ask them to apologize to him. No one wants to really hear that mess, it is offensive to us all. When Mason gets older and does something naughty he will probably be expected to tell the person he is sorry. Adults should always apologize too, they shouldn’t get a free pass because they are older. So by them apologizing now it will show humility to Mason, that we all make mistakes, but we all (should) apologize for it. After the # time maybe they will get tired of apologizing and it will sink in.

A behavior you and Scott could replace cussing with could be, and this may seem out there, but it’s working for us is say, “Praise God!” So if we stump our toe we say, “Praise God!” If someone cuts us of in traffic we say, “praise God.” It does something to your mentality when you have this habit. Like giving you a reminder even at the point where you are most frustrated that God is watching and listening and instead you are praising Him because we are all truly blessed. It felt weird to us at first, and we would laugh about it, but now it is starting a good habit. Because the reality is toes will be stumped, someone will cut us off in traffic, etc. We need to model to our kids healthy ways of reacting to those things.

I’ll miss your blog on here, but look forward to checking it out on your site. :-)

Jerica on

I have a two-year old daughter and she can say ANYTHING!! And i’ve grown to know that NOTHING surprises me anymore.. :) BUT she has said Sh*t and I was like OMG!! And I will either ignore her OR tell her no-no not to say that and she has listened so far!! GOOD LUCK!! And I think you are doing a great job w/Mason!!

Sass on

Since you can’t control what people will say or what Mason will overhear, you need to be proactive and when someone says a “bad” word, you tell him that is a grown-up word and children don’t say it. And like other comments, just ignore it. When he doesn’t get attention from it, it’ll drop out of his vocabulary before you know it.

Lillian on

I raised 3 boys.Yes they will repeat what they say.We started a potty mouth jar.Each word has a money amount assigned to it.At the end of the year the money is donated to a local charity.Now for the toddler it is best to ignore the statement and they will soon realize that there are words that will get them ignored.But alot of love makes up the short falls.I didnt think I would make it when my middle son was 2 and went through his cussing bout.But I made it.Your a strong loving mom and your beautiful son will come through and you will always be proud of him…Good Luck..Happy Mothering

Jennifer Chew on

My mother (believe it or not) uses those words CONSTANTLY! And according to my father, because of my mother my very first word growing up was the word “fuck.” I obviously didn’t know what the word meant at the time because I was around 2 years old, but it did shock my father. The reason why it shocked my father is because he absolutely does not approve of those words. Growing up, I did hear it in the house, and that is where my habit of using of profanity came from. Your child just has to know when and where it’s appropriate to use those words. To me it’s just one of the ways that he has to learn the right and wrong times to do certain things. The way I see it, is that if he doesn’t learn those words at home (like I did), then he is going to learn those words in other places. Wether people want to admit it or not, everyone uses those words sometime during their lives. It’s part of human nature. If you teach your child right from wrong, and explain it to him why then eventually he will not do it. That is how it was for me, and that is what I am going to try to teach my future niece who will be born in about 2 weeks. You can’t change what other people do, so probably the best thing for your child is to explain to him right from wrong. Best of Luck!

Bethany on

Your son is the cutest little boy!!! He looks a lot like your brother!!! I have a 6 year old and a 1 year old…i havent had a problem with my oldest repeating the fould language im sure she has heard from family and friends. When she was a little younger we had a swear bucket that she would walk around with and collect money from anyone who said a bad word. Not only did she make money haha but she knows what words she is not allowed to repeat and i think everyone became more aware of they way they speak infront of young children. Good luck :)

Tab on

Kourtney-the swearing will never stop but I agree it should be minimized. Letting your family know how you feel about it being said around Mason will make them see that it is something you prefer and I am sure will really try to make a conscious effort not to do it so much. It might not stop but over time you will see an improvement because they also want the best for Mason. I am not a big swearer and I never have been but it happens to everyone and yes I have done it in front of my kids but I make it a point to let them know it is not ok and I always apologize for saying it. Like other comments-coming up with other words-goofy words or similar words instead of the actual swear words-always helps and the more you susbstitute other words for the swear words the easier it gets.

Susan on

You have a darling baby. While I would definitely ask everyone to stop swearing, you have an even bigger issue to deal with. Everyone is often yelling and often angry around the baby. You were upset with Scott because he wanted to go to work, you wanted to work out. Khloe is yelling at Scott and you. What gives you all the right to act like this around an innocent child? He will grow up to be a nervous wreck or angry. It got so bad, I had to turn the channel. It was too frustrating to watch everyone’s disregard for the baby. While drama makes for fun tv, it is not fun for the baby. You need to step up as a parent and make a change! Clearly the producers aren’t parents.

Judy on

Hi Kourtney. If your Dad was there he still would not have cursing around him. He obviously encouraged good standards in his children. You all have just gotten into bad habits. You can break those bad habits and go back to how your Dad was raised: a lady didn’t use bad language and a gentleman didn’t use bad language around women and children. It was a pleasant way to live. Just set a good example for your son and INSIST that others do the same. It will be good for everyone.

Paula on

My husband is in the military, and I can tell you first hand, it’s no mistake the phrase “swearing like a sailor” originated with our American heroes. When our son was born, one thing we challenged each other with doing is coming up with other descriptive words to use instead of our old trusty swear words. We viewed it as a matter of personal refinement. It forced us to expand our vocabulary and make a conscious effort to think before we speak, which isn’t always a bad thing.

I’m sure your family will be on board if you make a challenge of it. Maybe have them contribute $20 to Mason’s college fund for ever swear word they say in front of him :)

Marisol on

I have a little one at home as well. He will be 2 in September and believe it or not, I am the one with the potty mouth! Being married to a military man did not help my lady-like mouth at all. I have curbed it and only let it slip here and there, because face it, STUFF happens. I do not like when people (family) smoke, curse, etc. in front of my son. He is absorbing everything and even though he does not talk much, he takes in and mimics everything. My advice would be just to make a face when anyone does it and trust me (they know what face I’m talking about) it works! Eventually they get the hang if it and limit or stop doing it in front of you and your son. You can’t prevent it but you can curb it. Hope it helps!

Liz on

I think I am in the minority here, but I don’t have much of a problem with it. Kids are going to learn the words regardless and I would rather they learn them from me and be numb to them at an early age. I will have discussions with my kids as to appropriate and inappropriate situations but overall, I will be the mom at the principal’s office defending my child’s right to speech.

Stefanie on

Make it hurt when they swear…what I mean by that is charge them a fee. Have a swear jar that they are charged so much money per swear word, then put the money into an account for him or buy him something fun with the money. Then he will benefit from it in some way. It is best for Mason not to be around the swearing and they need to learn they don’t want him to have a potty mouth, so hit them where it counts, in the pocket book. Good luck!!

Suzanne on

That is one cute kid! He is absolutely gorgeous.

Genda Mathis on

After working with small children for many years I have heard and seen it all. I can tell you though that you do not want to get a phone call on his first week of Pre-K from his teacher. While you can not control what others say all the time, you can control what happens at your house. I have had this issue myself and those I had to set straight about what I see is fit for my children were very responsive and those same people actually eventually got better with their potty mouths even when they weren’t around my kids. Start there and good luck.

stephanie on

awww. kourntey imma miss yuh girlll!!!!
I am such a fan of the show!

and on the advice for the family:

I curse in front of my nephew(8) i have always done it, and im probably not going to stop, but he NEVER says a curse word. instead of saying crap he says crud, and instead of saying d_amn he says darn. I think the only thing that would be useful if for YOU not to say it, because his mom doesn’t curse infront of him and she tells him not to do it or else. and little kids are always afraid of the “or else”.

so yeah. I hope that helped!
and i lovee KUWTK And K&KTM!

BIG FAN!
okay!
Bye!!!

Dawn on

Let your family & friends know up front that you want them to stop cussing. Remind them that there are places they go that they probably watch their tongue — certain people, jobs, church, some businesses.. Why can’t your son & other kids in the family be that important as well?
Let them know also, that you will point out everytime they cuss in front of the kids whether they like it or not. The potty mouth jar can reinforce that. Everyone can change behavior if they find it important. I’m sure Mason is that important to them.
Finding replacement words like ‘popsicle’ or ‘fiddlesticks’ or something is still the word! I have found people who cuss frequently are too lazy to use their vocabulary. Instead of “the fans were *^%*^(*( crazy”, use “the fans were erratic” Buy everyone a thesaurus lol! The more descriptive words will strengthen Mason’s vocab also.
We were able to stop cussing in front of our children and did not bring our kids around friends that cussed. We found ones that didn’t. Being military, we aren’t near family to worry about it. But during visits, I’m very demanding family watch their tongue or we’ll leave or ask them to.
Please do not ignore behaviour you don’t like. Don’t laugh & giggle either. It only reinforces that you don’t care. When my kids disappoint me, but not worth discipline, I just look at them and say “i’d rather you not do that” or something like that.
Good luck! It’s awesome you want such great & better things for your son.
As always, just be CONSISTENT on the behaviour you want your son & others around him to have (not just in cussing). kids are smarter then we give them credit.

Kristy on

That munchkin of yours gets cuter by the minute! I have so much respect for you in that you are always completely honest. That’s such a great quality and hard to find amongst television stars. LOVE your blog and LOVE you!!!!

Mistye on

You’d be surprised what kids hear on the playground or from their friends at school. My son is 15 now, but when he was about 10, I decided to try something that many people disagreed with, but it worked with him. I told him that he had five minutes to tell me every swear word he heard at school, not home cuz I’m a potty mouth, and after five minutes he’d be in trouble. It usually took about 2 minutes for him to get it all out and then I would explain to him why that language is not for kids, and that young gentlemen don’t talk that way. I also told him what his punishment would be if I caught him swearing. Kids are exposed to foul language every where they look these days, and you can’t sensor everything they are exposed to so it’s better to educate them. Ask your family to try to stop swearing in front of him, and use other words like Fudge or shoot or what ever “clean” words they can think of, but know he won’t just hear it from them and use your best judgement. They don’t come with instruction manuals so it’s up to you to figure out which suggestion you like best or decide your own way to handle it. Mason is precious!!! Good Luck!

Kelly on

Kourtney – funny swear story_ My son said in front of his Grandparents “Oh my frickin’ God”. I said “Sam!!!! Don’t say that!!!” He said “Ohhh, sorry Mummy. I meant Oh my frickin’ goodness”. A pure little heart shines thru even if the language leaves something to be desired.
Interesting when they get older and you realize that they are making sure they don’t swear in front of you. It is a sign that they respect you and your home. It is neat.
Ask your sister if she would have spoken like that in front of your Father.

Christa on

Definately try to keep people from not swearing around your son. Also watch out for Tv, movies, music and video games. I have an 5 year old nephew – and his dad is always swearing, and the stuff he watches and plays on his xbox is unreal….and the mouth on that little boy is horrible. He says all sorts of nasty stuff and he is so proud of himself too. So just be careful, the longer children can stay sweet and innocent the happier they will be.

Amy on

I can’t believe how many people say to ignore it. Never ignore bad behavior, but don’t overreact either. The best thing to do is tell him it’s bad. Use your dad’s example. That’s the best way to handle it. Also, don’t forget to praise him when he talks nice. I find that praise for doing what’s right is much better than punishing for what’s wrong. You will find that they will behave better since they want the hugs that come with praise. Love him like crazy, it all changes too quickly. He is an angel.

Danielle on

I think it is great that you try to decrease the amount of cursing that Mason hears. My son Dominic is 17 months and is starting to be a parrot, so I am on the same mission. I definitely can curse a lot but have really done a good job stopping. But my sister and brother are the worst and he is around them a lot. My sister will cuss in her everyday language and I always have to tell her to stop, is that really neccessary? Of course I get a look, because I am telling her what to do. It’s all you can do really is remember the people around your child to just be mindful. I really enjoyed your blog. Thanks!!

Rachel on

Hi Kourtney! I agree to just ignore when he says a bad word so its not repeated. My 2 year old has diffently repeated bad words from not just me or her dad when it accidently slips, but from TV also. At first we used to laugh because a child cussing is so innocent and they dont know better, so she’d repeat and repeat thinking it was funny, and now we act like we never heard it and its only said once. I think once your family hears him repeat that language, they will all know and make a conscious effort to not say that around him, it gets easier and you do learn other words to replace! :D

Jenn on

Kourtney, I curse like a sailor! But NOT around my kids. They are 4 and 5 years old and have never heard a curse word out of mine or my husband’s mouth. Occasionally someone will slip up around them, but I make a joke of it rather than being mean. In the end I get my point across, but in a non-threatening way. I will admit that many times I will spell “bad” words out and will have to stop that VERY soon because my 5 year old is reading and spelling and sooner than later she’ll figure out what mommy is saying. Keep up the great work with Mason. You seem like such a good mom.

T.Thomas on

Hello Kourtney, if you read my response. First of all congratulations on becoming a first time mommy, Im a mommy of three and I had my third one just a month after yourself and I will be faced with the same situation. Hopefully, you will be able to communicate with your loved ones hopefully, that if Mason means the world to them and Im am CERTAIN that he does, that they should be willing to make an effort to curb the foul language in front of him. Good luck and again congratulations. I love your family and love watching the show.

Stacy on

I have the same problem & have tried everything to get my sons to stop swearing, but haven’t had any success. It literally bothers me sooooo much, I think about it all the time. I have two sons, 5 and 2. I knew I swore sometimes, but I didn’t realize how quickly my first son would pick it up when he was learning to talk. He regularly said “dammit” in front of people. If you told him to stop, he just said it more. His language became more foul as time went on & now my 2 year old swears as well. They pick up when you swear when you drop something, when someone angers you in the car or anywhere, when you’re talking on the phone with a friend, or just complaining about a bad day at work. I’ve tried ignoring (doesn’t work), time-outs (doesn’t work – esp. since I work & I’m not with my kids all the time), frowny faces (doesn’t work), explaining why it’s inappropriate (doesn’t work). I need help with this too!!!! It’s extremely embarrassing when they swear in public! I feel like a failure as a parent & it is completely a reflection on me & my family! Mostly I’ve tried to stop swearing & ignore them or explain how bad it makes me feel. But that doesn’t work when my husband & others continue to swear around them too. I really hope your son doesn’t start to swear because it is soooo hard to stop them once it starts. I really need help with this too. Anyone who has had success in getting a child to stop swearing – please pass on the knowledge!!

Valerie on

Im glad that you are stepping up and saying something about them cursing around your son, Your family and friends need to learn to respeact you and the baby like they would like for you to repect there kids. The way its going to stop is if every time they do it you say something and thank them for trying. I will pray for you and your family. He is going to grow up and be a Good son that is proud that his mommy cares on what is being said around him. God Bless you.

Carrie on

All you can do is ask your family to try their best. You have a close family, if they do slip just politely remind them to watch. I have 3 kids, ages 7, 5 and 2, eventually it’s going to happen that they say a bad word. I have found it’s best just to explain that’s an adult word that shouldn’t say and them give them an alternative (damn/darn, hell/heck. etc.) They may be kids but I find honesty is the best policy. When my oldest was in pre-school he came home one day and told me another child had said a bad word. I asked him what they had said and his answer was sex. I calmly told him that wasn’t a bad word but an adult word and kids shouldn’t be using that word. He said okay and that was the end of it.

AdultWordsOnly on

Both my husband and I cuss on occasion. When my son (now 10) picked up a few words, we stressed with him that these are adult words, that adults know how and when to use them, and that when he is an adult, he can use them too, when appropriate. He went with crap, but grandma had a problem with that. Now, he says “bleep” (literally) if he wants to say a bad word for effect. We’ve had to tell him that kids his age shouldn’t even THINK those words, but the damage is done now. We don’t really care… they’re just words and they hurt no one when used properly (I dare anyone here to not curse if they hit their hand with a hammer, accidentally close a finger in a door, or stub their toe really hard on the table leg). It’s the emotion being expressed, not the word, that is the issue. Sometimes, a really good “DAAAAAAANG” is what is needed.

I read an article once about a dad who let his kids (once over 12 I think) cuss all they wanted to in the house, but NEVER anywhere else. He said they actually started cursing less and he rarely heard them use the words at all. And reports from outside the house yielded the same.

We just don’t want our son to use these words in front of others who WILL be offended by them as that is bad form. Because he can’t control himself as well as other kids his age, we had to go with a “no bad words until you’re an adult” rule for now.

Ali on

Earmuffs!!!LOL. Just kidding, like some others have said, ignoring it is what has worked for my 1 year old. I love you and your family, Kourt. Stop by Palm Beach on your next rip to MIA. Muah!

Ali on

Cursing is a “choice”. You are not setting unrealistic goals by asking yourself or people around your family to use better language. Expect better things of yourself. Cursing is just down right lazy language.

rachel on

please tell us where mason’s adorable t-shirt with the airplane is from? i am in love with it!!

MJ Davis on

Good thought to stop the cursing around your son now. I have a granddaughter that is about to be two, she has very young parents, who fluently speak french (curse words) around her. The other day she called the dog an Fu&^$*)&%$)@&. I about died. They think it’s funny, but it will become a problem very quickly, when they cannot control where or when she says stuff she hears. I try to come up with stuff that I wouldn’t mind hearing when I normally might curse, like ‘oh dear, or darn it. I also teach her words like naughty instead of bad, it sounds so much more gentle…..

Courtney on

I agree with mamabear – Ignoring it isn’t a sensible or responsible decision, but I’m sure you know that. I also wouldn’t respond with a hysterical and dramatic “OH MY GOD – DON’T EVER SAY THAT AGAIN!” That doesn’t help either. Getting down to their level, looking them in the eye and making calm statement such as the one mamabear gave as an example is MUCH more productive. I know this doesn’t answer your exact question, but I did want to back mamabear up on her great advice.

That being said, I utilize the swear jar in my house…and believe me, I’m no saint. I’ve put a lot of money in that thing myself. (It goes to charity in the end).

I also liked the advice about substituting insanely crazy words when you feel the need to swear. I do that too and my four year old and two year old crack up!

annie on

A curse jar is a great way to raise awareness of the perpetrator’s bad words. Every time the person curses, he/she must deposit a dollar into the curse jar. When the curse jar is filled, donate the money to a good cause. :)

annie on

Oh, and I wanted to add…it’s not good to hear your 3 year old…looking in his toy box for his BatMan and muttering to himself…”.Where is my God Damn Batman?!?” Yes…amazing how they use the words so appropriately!!

Wait til he says the word Fuck at the Thanksgiving table. Yeah……it won’t be so great.

Romy on

ok so a kid repeating damn or $hit or something is bad, but oh well it happens all the time. have you heard the way her family, esp Scott and Khloe talk? There is no swear jar that would work, it is all kinds of f***ing C*** and sexual references and just things I would never utter, esp in front of a child. But it will be funny when Khloe has a baby, because she will probably DEMAND that no one speaks like that in fron of her child ;)

Emmy on

I know how you feel Kourtney. I have an 8 month old and her father has the worst mouth I maybe have ever heard. Well, with the exception of ALL his friends!!! He drops the f bomb way more than I would ever like to hear it. I simply remind him that our child is in the room and that we don’t want her first word to be the f bomb. He is trying to curb it, but it’s seemingly a difficult habit to break. As far as his friends? I tell him to either ask them to watch their mouths in front of our daughter and if they can’t then to simply not expose her to them at all. Kids will get to a point where they know what a “bad word” is and they’ll be able to hear it without wanting to say it. I know I never wanted to say the “bad words” when I was little, but probably because of an unrelenting fear of my mothers wrath!! LOL! Good luck Kourtney, we’ll miss your posts on here!

Traci on

I have 3 small children and I cuss like a sailor. As a mother I go out of my way to not use profanity in front of them. What you and the father do will be what the child imitates. It may be cute to say something “Auntie Khloe” said once or twice but it won’t be a reocurring issue. So don’t waste your precious time with Mason spending it by trying to control what comes out of other’s mouths. Concentrate on you and the daddy. If the daddy refuses to get it together it is then your responsibility to accept what you cannot change(you choose to have a child with this person) and if you can’t accept him as he is then move on, but realize that he will speak this way in front of his child whenever he is around him. I don’t give my husband a choice, either don’t do it or don’t be around your children. A good father will choose his children hands down.

Marcie on

I like the idea of a “potty mouth jar.” In addition to that, you have to keep yourself in check. I notice you still use the ‘f’ word on your show. It’s so unattractive. So take the lead, and your family will follow!

Lala on

omg so many comments!! cursing is a fact of life and of course we never want our lil ones to be saying them! i would say form now to 3 is the time to really try and not say them because they are sponges and they always say what you don’t want them to say at the absolute worst time. my son when he was 2 or 3 heard his daddy drop the F bomb in the car and the next thing we here is him saying BUCK!! thanks god he could not say his F”s so we were saved with the F word. try and ignore them if they curse, don’t make a big deal about it. i say around four if they hear the word tell them they are not old enough to say those words. kids really want to be good at this age! everything is black or white there is no gray yet. now he is turning six and he has words he can say at home like what the freak, heck or sucka. we gotta be realistic about what are kids are really saying and hearing at school! making an effort is the best start! we are only humans and some days you gotta let it out! i luved your blogs good luck with mason!! xoxo :)

Shana on

You need to get a Curse Jar. Everytime someone curses in front of Mason they have to put a $1 in the jar and save for Masons savings account.

Meredith on

Please don’t stop the swearing! Perhaps you should just teach Mason about earmuffs. I don’t think that a cursejar is for your family…although there would be a lot of fortunate causes if you used one!! (Especially if you continue to live with Khloe.)

L. Liz on

NO!!!!! I don’t want this to be your last blog. I don’t get access to your web page at work like I do People. LOL
I truly will miss your blogs on People. I am such a big fan of yours!
Mason is just beautiful and you are doing a great job with him.
The people around you should know to watch their mouths and if they don’t you can politely remind them.
But as another woman said, “it happens to the best of us”. If there is anyone that can really and should really be careful with what they say it’s you and Scott. You are the two people he is around the most and you are his parents. However, you unfortunately will not have control of what other people say but most family members will try their best and that’s all you can really hope for.
God Bless you and I wish you all the best in ALL THAT YOU DO!

mae on

Will definitely miss reading your blogs Kourt but will be sure to check out your blogs on your site. Keep up the great job you’re doing with baby Mason.

hello on

ignoring it will work. i’m not saying to “ignore bad behavior” but when he is young enough to not even understand what the word means or even that it is bad, if you react to it he will repeat and repeat it to get attention. once he is older and does something bad then duh, don’t ignore it. but when he is just looking for something to make you laugh or react, show him early that those words aren’t the way to do it.

Stacey on

My nephew is 3 1/2 and picked up swear words really early! Now my brother is more aware of not using words around him (he used one the other day and my nephew wasn’t in the same room as him, but still used it!) These kids are so smart! Mason is adorable, I love his name and I love reading your blog (even though the only thing I’m a mommy to is a dog :))

Amanda on

If we have friends over or we’re out to dinner and they curse in front of our 2yr old we just ask them nicely not to. Now if it’s ass or damn we don’t mind too much but if it’s the “f” word or sh*t or they just say one curse word after the next then that’s when we ask them not to. And ususally they don’t mind, they think nothing of it. If we’re at someone else’s house we won’t say anything because it is “their” house, I can’t ask someone to stop talking a certain way in their house.

Aunt to 4 on

I think it depends on the age – if Mason is 2 or 3 and mimics what he hears, you should ignore it at first. If that doesn’t work then you need to talk to him about how it’s inappropriate to talk like that. If Mason is older and he starts to cuss, definitely don’t ignore it and have a talk with him.

Kat on

Well, I don’t think you are setting unrealistic expectations if you tell everyone in advance to watch their language around Mason. It is a mature responsible act. Ask for everyone to help with reminders when people slip. Believe me, it will help to just be open. Also people dont like to be embarrassed by being reminded so they will watch it. We made it kind of interesting by requiring a $20.00 donation to the college fund if caught. You can make the donation what you want it to be but tell them you are not setting up the practice to allow it. So I suggest you set the dollar amount high enough that they get it.
As far as when Mason does say a “nasty” word. Just explain they are not words that people should say, especially children. He needs to understand that your rules are that he cannot say them. There needs to be consequences if he repeats the words. So time outs are handy when needed. As he gets older, not allowing playtime is a great consequence.

nicole on

the cursing community baby fund has always helped us. use an expletive? $20 to the jar. F-bomb? $50. and when Mason does repeat what he has heard, you always teach him that there are so many more words that have the ability to express what he is trying to say…and you move on. Good Luck!

MouthyMommy on

I have mouth, not as bad as some, but CR**, SH**, DA**, HE**, and A** frequently escape my lips. I also have a 13-year-old boy. I have never altered my language around him, nor did I ask others to change their habits. Instead, I taught my son that just because an adult or other child may say something does not make it okay for him to repeat those words, and that includes me. He echoed me one time, I was in an accident and let the f-bomb fly, later when I was in an accident he let the f-bomb fly. He was two. He’s never said it again. To this day he tries to curb my cursing, and asks his friends not to use “foul” langauage around him. This includes the common crap, suck, and the other slang words that kids use. Don’t make an issue out of it and Mason won’t make an issue out of it. It never hurts to ask those around you to be respectful and use appropriate language, but your best bet is teaching Mason what is and isn’t okay to say.

AMY on

Kourtney,

I am for the $1 in the jar for each curse word or a changing of a diaper. One of these (or both) should do the trick! Love your show!

Shelby on

Hi Kourtney,

I also vote for the jar where whomever curses has to put a dollar in it. You can put the money in a savings account or something like that for Mason. Start it now while he’s tiny, and in no time, you’ll have a big ‘ol chunk of money. If you go this route, insist on at least a dollar being put in, not a quarter or something small. If people know they have to fork over a buck, it might make them think twice. If $1.00 doesn’t work, make it $5.00. And stick to your guns. If people see you’re serious, they’ll start watching their mouth. I agree that Scott and Khloe are the worst offenders. They’re just vulgar.

Mari on

Mason is so adorable!! He looks like your brother!!

Carla on

Hi Kourtney,

I had this same problem with my mother- and father-in-law. I told them they needed to watch what they said in front of my kids and if the cursed they would have to pay each child $1 for the little ones (–ll, —t, etc.) and $5 for any f-bombs. Well, after paying out a couple of times, they got really good at watching their cursing.

Good Luck!

KiwiMum on

At first when Mason is learning to say words, he will naturally repeat the words that he hears most often, whatever they may be. In this early stage, it is important to remind your family that Mason is within earshot, to have some respect for him and choose their words carefully. However, you cannot control what others say, but you can control your reaction to it. Mason’s world is Mommy right now, and he will be very tuned into your emotions, reactions and expressions. If he or one of your family or friends do say a bad word, it’s important to not have a big reaction to it as babies pick up on these subtleties very quickly. Mason will definitely repeat something which he thinks will give him attention.

Lisa on

There is an old saying; “If you want someone to change, you must start with yourself”. Perhaps all these years you have accepted your family and friends language was sending them the wrong message…? 95% of what children learn comes from imitating those they are closest to. I’m sure you are doing a great job as a mother and will continue to do so! :)

Chrisite on

I swear (no pun intended) that motherhood brings out the trucker mouth! I swear more than ever now and i have 2 kids 3 1/2 and 1.

cheluzal on

I find it sad, from these comments, that people have curse words slip out of their mouths so easily…I can cut my finger off and wouldn’t curse because it’s not in me. And to not be able to stop around an impressionable child? Sad…

veronica on

My son was born while we were living in a part of the country that considers bad language socially unacceptable so I was very careful about how I spoke and so was my husband. When I moved to Michigan (my original home), I heard someone cuss out a store clerk and was mortified. My son was six and was as sweet and innocent as Mason but when he started school here, he learned all sorts of nasty language. It made me feel so bad that my beautiful son had heard all of this from his peers. You can only keep reminding your sister discreetly to please not use that language but Mason’s father should be extra diligent in how he speaks. I’m positive that he is a loving father- just keep reminding him. It will pay off in the end. There’s nothing worse than hearing little children with foul mouths- it’s embarrassing.
One thing my husband and I learned was not to argue in front of our son. Keep it calm and relaxed. Best of luck to you and your family

JD on

My sister-in-law instituted a policy of her husband having to put a quarter into a jar when he said a curse word around their infant son. They now have two children, and that infant is 8 years old. I’m pretty sure his college is almost paid for by now! In all reality, though, it’s about making folks accountable for their own behaviors. Perhaps putting a big jar or container in a very visible place in your home and making sure everyone deposits a quarter (or even a dollar) per curse word might make folks think twice about what they say. Just a thought. Best to you!

Marie on

You ALL need to STOP YELLING period! The producers must want drama and fights to keep people watching. You are a mother now and all the fighting is hard to watch-especially around a baby that can’t tell you to stop. While every family has arguments, it is not healthy for a child to be in such a hostile or volatile environment. I have worked as a family therapist for years. The anger and fighting in a home really effects the children!
STOP PLEASE!!

Krissy on

I have 2 boys, Lukas aged 11, and Joshua just shy of 9. Being the rebel I am, I love to say, especially the F-bomb…lol, BUT when my children were younger, I NEVER once said a curse word in front of them. It is unacceptable, and for you to be concerned is smart. I’d just tell them that if they want to spend time with Mason, then they need to clean it up, and you have to enforce it. Enforcing it will help you with your consistency with Mason, as once you draw the line in the sand with a child, you’d better stick to it, or you will end up with a whiny, bratty youngster no one wants to be around making this conversation moot.

Now that my boys are a little older, I swear in front of them a bit. It isn’t excessive and it is me being funny around them. They are not allowed to swear and are taught that in moderation, it is fine when they are older. Let’s face it, people swear, and to raise them in a bubble and act like they don’t isn’t going to do you any favors long-term. I explained to my kids that I love to curse because I am not supposed to…lol, and they know me well so they get a chuckle out of it.

In parenting, it is important not to be a hypocrit because your kids will lose respect for you so if you tell them the truth about life and respect them enough to explain your reasoning and your experiences (and by experiences I don’t mean parties, sex orgies, lesbian makeout sessions…lol), it will go a long way with your relationship. I treat my kids as human beings first, and don’t ever talk down to them giving them the impression that I am holier than thou, or have the attitude that they are just kids so they don’t count, etc.

Good luck :)

Krissy

Brittany on

We have sworn everyday since the day that our daughter was born. I say the f word the most. Our daughter is now almost nine and knows that she is not big enough to say these words. We have always been honest with her that some grown ups swear more than others including ourselves. To this day she shows no interest whatsoever to say these words. If all she is doing when she gets bigger is swearing, than we think we did pretty good as parents. Better that than drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.

Leanne Popovich on

I agree with the other posters who say to use replacement words….not just you but everybody. But the way to actually get that to “stick” is by replacing the curse words in your head first. Thats what worked for me. All of us have an inner dialogue of things that never get said out loud, and sometimes that includes cursing.

When you think to yourself “S***, I forgot to get the dry cleaning” you need to make a conscious effort to go back and correct it to ” I mean-Crud, I forgot to get the dry cleaning”…in your head. When you start to replace the bad word in your head, eventually you will replace them in your head before you say them out loud as well.

Its a hard habit to unlearn, but its better to do it now than learn the hard way when Mason repeats EXACTLY what Daddy or aunt khloe said in a very public place at the most inconvenient time.

msfabulous805 on

being a 1st time auntie with a potty mouth is super tough… every other word i say has at least 4 letters (you get the point)… i try to be good, my bf yells at me when i cuss in front of my nephew, i dont get to see him very often but i would be crushed if he starts saying all the bad words 1st… its twice as hard seeing how we talk both in english & spanish … ugh… forgive your auntie, she loves you a whole lot!!!!

Sarah on

Well…kids are going to hear inappropriate language at some point regardless of what you do. As you yourself said, your parents never swore around you and you were able to tell your sister to stop breathing up your ass (hilarious btw). I have 3 kids, a son only 4 months, and two girls ages 7 and 8. On our way out of church (we were there for christmas and never go which is embarassing enough since the pastor knows we’re never there), anyway, so a couple years ago now we’re leaving church and the pastor is shaking everyones hands and he bent down and told my little girl, then 6, how adorable she looked. Her response was to plug her nose and say “your breathe smells like shit”. Yeah….mother of the year award. I was mortified! But in apologizing and him telling me it was okay…his breath really DID smell bad!!! When we got home i explained how some words are bad and both girls asked which words are bad. They said if I didnt tell them the bad words how would they know they are bad? Good point. So we sat for a few minutes and told them the bad words and I let them repeat each one once (they asked to and thought it was quite funny). So my 5 and 6 year olds are repeating F*** Sh*t A**hole etc BUT I have not had a problem since. They are awesome kids. Just explain to him it’s not appropriate and that you cant control the language choices others make, but that he (and you) CAN control yours.

Mo on

I had the WORST potty mouth ever. When I started hearing my little girl repeat my every word I knew it had to change. It’s just ugly. Anyway I decided to change my words, for example instead of saying “shut the “f” up” I’d say Shut the Front Door! I recently started to say “son of a biscuit eating bulldog” following the orbit commercials. It’s so stupid and silly that those around me have mimicked me and are now saying the same things rather than the more harsh words we all once used. Have no doubt that I definitely slip but at least it’s an effort. Good luck!

JenB on

[Don't know if anybody has posted this before my post I didn't read them] But maybe you could do a ‘potty-mouth jar’ and any money that goes in there goes towards a college fund for Mason.

tina on

i love reading your blogs…you need to let your family know that you would love it if when they are around mason, they don’t curse, and one thing i tried to get people to watch their mouths around my children was when people were at my house, i had a “cuss jar”..whenever someone said a curse word, i made them put $1.00 in the jar…i told them while they were at my house and around my children, i wanted them to not curse, and if they did, it was $1.00 in the cuss jar…that really helped them to not curse!!

Dawn on

When my kids were younger, we had the dirty word jar. Anyone who came to the house using curse words had to put 50 cents into the word jar. Needless to say, it can get expensive for repeat offenders.

Kim on

Hi, Kourtney! I love your blog and show. I am a mom to 20-month old twins and I am the one with the potty mouth; especially in the car. So, I have started to use rhyming words. For example, instead of saying, “What the f***, I say What the duck!” I’m not sure it’s going to make much difference if they come out with that at preschool but for right now it works for me. Instead of sh**, I say sugar. It’s very hard to quit a bad habit so just be patient with your family and keep reminding them that you really want them to stop for Mason’s benefit.

Kim on

I have the perfect solution, you find a huge bank, (I’ve watched your show you will need a big one) every time someone curses around Mason they put money in the bank. You can set the amount, set it high enough so it will make a difference. Then people will either put Mason through College or stop cursing around him. Good Luck, I think Mason is so cute.

Brandye on

I have the WORST mouth! I’ve resorted to replacement words around my son. Unfortunately though, I’m human and I have slipped. He’s nearly 5 years old so he notices and repeats EVERYTHING. What I have found that works for him is telling him, if he uses a curse word, that those are “grown up words” and he is not allowed to say them. They are not good for grown ups to say but little boys are not allowed to say them at all. When I catch him like that…he stops. No questions asked. It’s not perfect but I’m not perfect either. For my son this works. But every kid is different! :-)

I never had problems with others cursing in front of my son. I’ve always been the one with the potty mouth so I can’t advise on how to get other people to stop. :-( Good luck!!

Samantha on

Hey Kourtney…you’re right about the cursing thing. Kids are like radar and they pick up everything, no matter how much you can try to prevent or filter it! My parents cursed like crazy when I was growing up, and now I wonder why my mouth is disgusting. But it’s the weirdest thing, b/c in front of my nieces and nephews (and some friends’ children) I try my best to keep it clean. I do it mainly b/c I know better, and I do slip up once in a while, but I apologize and tell them I made a mistake. By the way, Mason is too cute and looks like your brother Rob, who looks just like your father. And you and your sister Kim are absolutely beautiful! Good luck w/Mason!

Hillary on

LAST BLOG??? PLEASE KOURT KEEP THE BLOGS

BN on

All kids are different and respond to different methods of discipline. If your child is rebellious, ignoring might be the best method. If he’s a pleaser, straight-on mommy-voice discipline might be the solution.

My daughter cried pitifully if you said the word “no” to her. She was a pleaser and so easy to discipline to the point where I said “no” only if it was dangerous (electric sockets, etc), despite the falling apart on her part. If it wasn’t dangerous, I’d find euphemisms for “no” to avoid the drama.

However you handle this discipline and throughout his life, be consistent. Always follow through. Find what makes him mind, and use it sparingly but consistently.

lisa on

i would ask your family to please be respectful of you as mason’s mother and clean up their language.

hopefully they are selfless enough to love and respect you more than their need to curse, resulting in everyone speaking more appropriately.

cursing is incredibly immature and lame. i find that people who have a need to use nasty language are insecure and will say anything to get attention.

best of luck to you.

reb on

Kourtney,
Mason is such an adorable baby!!!! My baby is 11mo old & my husband’s family is terrible with swearing, especially his mom (baby’s grammy). I asked them all not to swear around the baby when I was prego. However you cannot expect people to change, so I have not asked again. They have all made it a point to TRY but slip up constantly.

We made a rule early on – if you swear around the baby, then you don’t get to hold him that time. We don’t really stick to it but usually when someone swears, another family member, not me, says “ha I get the baby now!”, and then it is a little reminder not to swear.

If someone does swear around him, we usually say “earmuffs!” and pretend to put earmuffs on the baby. So it is a cute reminder to everyone.

The most important person who needs to curb the swearing is the mom & dad, so try your best with you & Scott, and just pray for the best with everyone else =)

When I was little (3yrs old) my dad swore & I freaked out because at that point I knew it was bad. Instead of my mom telling him not to swear around me, she had me go & ask him not to swear. That really drove the point home to him.

You are doing an amazing job as a mommy!!! Keep up the good work=)

Anna on

I don’t understand why people curse. There is no fun in it. They are not adult words, they are stupid words. Just refrain from using them, it’s not that hard.

Some people commenting here seem proud that they curse “I’ve cursed every day since my daughter was born” Well how good for you…..

Shauna on

It’s easier when you have a substitute word ready. We like to say, “Holy Frejioles” cause its funny. Then even if you mess up and swear, say the substitute right afterwards till it sticks.

Jane- Marion on

Kourt- My husband and I just keep thinking about how embarassing it would be to hear our sons say a curse word to someone at the grocery store, mall, or god forbid church. We just keep reminding ourselves about how horrible that would feel and look on us as parents. We tell our family the same, it definitely takes a village or a family to raise a child and they are a product of not only the parents but the family. So, i put it on them also. I think embarrassment is a huge emotion and it’s hard but it can be done if they love him enough, they will choose their words wisely, this will also affect Tv shows and movies w/ violence watched when he is in the room. So start with the language and unfortunately it will be an uphill battle, but definitely worth it!!

Maria on

I think for most people, cussing is just a bad habit. But here’s something my Dad told me when I was young and it stuck – people who use cuss words as a part of their daily communication ARE intellectually inferior. We all know cuss words and they’re easy words to pull up to express yourself. However, smart people can dig a little deeper to find a more appropriate and effective word to express yourself. Made sense to me as a child. Sure, a cuss word slips out from time to time (sometimes it’s EXACTLY the word I want to use), but lets face it – people who use foul language regularly appear to be uneducated, have no class or self-respect.

AJ on

I am so glad you are concerned with people cursing around your beautiful baby! Its good to start now because when he reaches his terrible twos(get ready for it!) he’s especially going to listen to everything around him and imitate it! Trust me! I have a cousin that has the worst mouth ever and his little 3 year old daughter started cursing at me one day!I know it wasn’t her fault because she thinks it’s okay since she heard it from someone she admires or is always around but you just have to make sure they know its not okay.

Just know that sooner or later he will listen to what’s going on around him. If he says something later on, FIRMLY correct it so that he knows not to do it again.

Btw, he looks SUPER adorable! :)

Kimi on

Needless to say, when I was younger, my dad’s friends and brothers used to curse like sailors. They tried their best not to curse around me but nothing worked until mom enacted the dollar rule. $1 for ever curse word. Some would just walk in and hand me $10, until my mom went up to $10 a curse word. That started to put a serious dent in some pockets as I was a very eager collector of my $10 a curse word… that did the trick!! I’m 29 and if my uncles slip up they still hand me $10!!

Clair on

I have made every effort to curb my cursing since I’ve had my son. I still have slip ups- especially when driving!

I find,(I also advised my husband to do this) to either eliminate or substitute for swear words across the board in stead of just around the baby. It’s much easier than turning it on and off like a switch.

Children only get to be pure and innocent for so long. As parents some things we cannot control, others we can.

peanutscbrule on

my older sister swore like a sailor and i rarely hear it from her kids (unless her son wants to sound “ghetto” LOL!). i RARELY ever sore around my kids (unless i was mad) and they picked it up. i have a girlfriend who NEVER swears and her son swears like a sailor. go figures! each kid is different. you can ignore it while they’re young, but you should explain it to them when their older that language like this will not make other kids think they’re smarter, just dumber. they’re get this pretty quick since no one wants to be dumb.

marlena on

I worked in daycare for a long time I was shocked at some of the language i would hear but I would just make it clear that that is unacceptable and if the warning didnt work it was a time out. I was also surprised at the number of the parents who would laugh it off or just not care if we’d tell them their child was using curse words ..one kid got so bad that they had to remove him from the daycare because his parents refused to do anything…I remember being 5 or so and poked my finger with a staple and said oh sh** my mom started yelling at my dad about his mouth and the shows he watched that she thought i learned it from i looked at her and without missing a beat said “no mommy, daddy didnt say that you did ” i will never forget the look on her face

Lisa on

This quote always stuck with me, “Profanity is the attempt of a feeble mind to express itself forcibly.” It’s a habit to fall back on. Bottom line: children learn from the examples around them, including how to handle & express emotions, what is acceptable or not, how to behave in all kinds of situations, & what is respectful & who deserves that respect. Raising 4 children I’ve learned that setting boundaries early & sticking by them consistently during the younger years sure makes teenage years easier! Takes a village (whole family) to raise a child. Since your father raised you girls that way, surely your family can get on board with the concept of being respectful. A bar of Ivory soap does wonders to drive home the point of “keeping your mouth clean.” Maybe, in your situation, it could work on adults as well!

Another Mom on

HI!

I am sorry this is your last post and impressed that you read the comments. :-)

Like others have said, I used replacement words for a bit until I could stop it. Sugar was my big replacement. It is amazing how ‘freeing’ it is to not use the words anymore. I used to sound like a sailor!

My daugther who is now 5 recently asked me what b**** meant – she had heard Hot and Cold on iTunes rather than the radio. Hard to explain them too. I disagree with the ones that say ignore it – better to say it is a word that we choose not to use in our family, because it is not a nice thing to say. Or at least that worked for me.

Good luck!

Joni on

Hello, I love the show and wanted to offer some input about the word usage Mason is exposed too. Parenting my 5 year old son, I often use funny random quotes that I’ve heard from the different cartoons that my little boy enjoys watching. For example, if I stump my toe and really want to let it out, verbally, I’ll say “OH PICKLES THAT HURT!” He thinks its funny and I can vent innocently; however, if you are in a room full of adults and shouted that out, you may get some funny stares. Cute and funny quotes that have captivated your child’s attention are great replacements for saying what you really want to say, and it works for us, greatly! Make it more fun by trying to get the rest of the family to get into the same habit. Best wishes to you and your family.

Sara Hainsfurther on

I was just having this conversation with my mom today! My 4 year old cousin just learned F***. His mom had been really good about not saying it around him and his older brothers (8,10, and 13) but lately he’s been sneaky and been listening when she thought he wasn’t. On the 4th of July a yogurt fell out of the fridge and he said “Oh f*** the yogurt fell!”. I was trying not to laugh hysterically, and have found that by not laughing (even though it’s sooo funny to hear that come out of his little mouth), and praising him for using more appropriate language (the other day he dropped something and said ‘oh shoot!’, has helped with this. Just remind your family that he will eventually repeat EVERYTHING he hears you say, and they want to set good examples for him! I will miss reading your blog and seeing pictures of little Mason!

Sophia on

That is the cutest photo I’ve ever seen of Mason. So sweet!
Like peanutscbrule said, it kind of depends on the child when it comes to repeating swear words. My little sister had a friend who, at five, knew the words ‘bitch’, ‘f*ck’, etc, yet his parents and siblings are some of the loveliest, calmest, sweetest people I know. And some children from potty-mouthed parents turn out fine, vocabulary-wise. But I’m glad Kourtney’s curbed her cursing.

Tina on

Okay, so my 1st words were, “oh sh*t” thanks to my Grandmother.
My Godson’s 1st word’s….the same! Thanks to his Mother and I (I suppose I’ll take some blame).

Maybe you could ask the family to put a buck or two into a jar (for Mason) each time they curse????

Good Luck!!!!

Bonnie on

I would suggest having a “fine” jar. Each time someone swears, they have to pay a fine of maybe a dollar, or whatever you choose to make it. It doesn’t have to be much, the point is that it will get everyone to think about what they’re saying in front of him. When the jar gets full you can donate the money to a charity of your choice. Make it fun, but it will get people to think about what they’re saying in front of him.

I used to have the worst potty mouth, and I did this to break myself of the swearing habit. It does work, and I barely swear anymore. And that’s only when I want to make an effective point.

Thank you for sharing baby Mason with us. He’s an absolutely adorable little man. :)

Barbie on

I don’t know how many people here posted comments about this particular situation but it’s nearly impossible to live a life without someone cursing.

Mason IS going to learn curse words, just hope he doesn’t learn them at an awkward age like 2-4 years old. That’s the age when they innocently say them and find it funny and keep repeating them.

When my youngest was 5 or 6 years old he was in his bedroom with his brother and didn’t know I was right outside the door he asked his brother where is my f$$$king coat. I quickly opened the door and said your f$$$king coat is in the kitchen.

To this day and he’s almost 25 he has never cursed in my presence. I think I shocked him into not saying the bad words. We just can’t reasonably protect our children from foul words, but we can teach them to respect US their parents.

When they aren’t around us, and are playing with friends the words are going to be used. Although my incident with my son was an unexpected lesson for him, he learned the lesson immeditely !

heather on

The best advice is foy YOU to be his example. My husband curses and so does his friends but I dont think my kids have EVER heard a bad word come out of my mouth and I think that has helped alot. You can also start pretty young (when they are talking pretty good) and go ahead and encourage other words for them to use when the get fustrated or whatever so it will be a habit and hopefully he will choose other words. You can say things like “oh fishsticks!” or “doggit”. It is hilarious to hear my 2 yr old get made and say “FISHSTICKS!” LOL. If bad language pops up with Mason, rest assured it is normal for a few bad words to come up but just stay calm and keep reenforcing that you dont approve of that language and everything will work out. Mason is ADORABLE and I have loved your blogs. Good luck in all that you do!

Jessi on

Kourtney, I love your blogs and you’re absolutely right to be concerned. As a kid my parents NEVER used bad language in front of us at all which then led to us not really doing it either. In my later teens I can remember saying “damn” once in front of my mom and she didn’t say anything it was a revelation. I guess she decided I was old enough to say whatever I wanted and so that’s how I got started. Then, she just kind of let go. At one point my dad wanted to have a “swear jar” where everyone put in a dollar if they cursed, problem was my mom was the worst one so the point was moot. I say that as long as you’re telling him its not ok it will keep the swearing (at least in the house) down. The second my parents let me get away with it, I ran with it. Good luck!

M'lee on

I’ve always thought that people who swear have no class. A baby swearing is not funny, it is sad. You are smart to make those around you stop swearing. It shows that you are a good mom and want the best for your son. Your family needs to grow up and realize that they are responsible adults who are raising this child too. Keep up the good work. You’re doing a great job.

Katie on

I don’t have kids yet, but I have a lot of friends that do, and I cringe everytime I hear people cussing around them! I asked one of my good friends if it ever bothers her, and her response was great. She said,”I can’t control what other people do, but I can control what I do, and I can set a good example for my girls, and I can teach them right from wrong.”

Good luck with everything!

theresa on

Ok, so I have a potty mouth. My kids are 3,7 and 9 and call me on it all the time. If they hear me say a curse word then they yell “MOM, POTTY MOUTH” so, now they make me say something else instead of a bad word. If i stub my toe or something, i’m supposed to say “SHOOTS AND LADDERS”. My kids have NEVER said a bad word…surprising to even me. I think just letting your child know that those are not good words is probably the key.

Lauren on

Kourtney,
I have a little boy, and I also have a family with terrible mouths on them. I tell them to watch their language around my son, and most of the time they listen but sometimes those words just seem to slip right out. The most you can do is tell them about it. You can’t control what they say and you certainly can’t control when Mason hears a bad word whether it would be from family, or on the tv. There will most likely come a day when you hear him say a bad word. My son was two when he pinched his finger in a drawer and said “damn it!” Anyway, best of luck to you and lil baby man!

melissac on

I think the funniest reprimand comes from a child themselves. My kids (age 3 and 8) know what words are “mean” words (i.e. curse words, ethnic slurs and words like “stupid” “butt” “shut up”, etc.) and when they hear another child OR an adult say those words – they look at them and say “we don’t say that word.” I know there are some that might be offended at a child’s reprimand – but I think it is a great reminder to adults that there are kids listening to EVERYTHING they say.

You will also find that you have to change your viewing habits for TV and movies as well. It is amazing how we glaze past the “bad” words or actions before kids and then after you have kids – you are like “WHY in the world is ________ on TV, etc.?” The only “good” thing about that is the opportunity to bring up the fact that they will see/hear things that are not right – but just because they see/hear things does NOT make it ok to do them.

Leigh on

My parents rarely swore, but my little brother picked up every bad word in every film we saw – and knew how to use them in correct context by the time he was 2-1/2! Being 7 years older than him & never having swore at that point in my life (I was the responsible oldest child), I was shocked. He was so innocent though, he had no idea what they meant. I agree with many here – come up with other words to replace the bad ones, preferably very fun, creative and innocent ones. It becomes a family/friends inside joke, and anyone from the outside that hears it will get a laugh as well.

Nikki on

First of all….I have been there. Actually have not ever been a cusser. I am the one who is least likely to swear in my family (I’m the oldest, so I’m naturally mom-ish). But I had my daughter while my siblings were still pretty young, so she got to see them go through their lovely teenage years. One sis actually thought I was ridiculous for thinking that we shouldn’t have Entourage on in front of my kid. I am uncomfortable with all that innappropriateness, even if my child isn’t there! But she was. I have just always stood my ground. People should have respect for the fact that your child doesn’t need to hear that type of language. I have also told people not to cuss in front of kids in public (even if I don’t have my kid with me). It is just tasteless and rude. And as I am reading what I am writing, I sound a bit stuffy or uptight….but I’m not – I am just floored at how people think it is okay. I taught preschool and had a 2 year-old who used to repeatedly say, “Shut the f*** up, you stupid-a** b****!” And we had to have a meeting with his little best bud’s family because that child started saying it in his home! People are stupid for thinking it is okay to teach kids “do as I say and not as I do!” Anyway…..seriously people just need to control themselves. My siblings are much better as they are now all in their twenties and realize it doesn’t make them sound cool. But I did always have to tell my daughter not to act like them and that is sad. Thank goodness it is better now.

PS – I swore I was never going to watch your show because even in the previews I could tell that I was not going to like you guys. You all cuss too much and I lose respect for people when they show their private parts. But…you all grew on me. I really like you. So please move in the direction of better language….I still am not comfortable with the idea of my 14-year-old watching your show, but I would love it if it went in a more family-friendly direction! And if I could send you a pic, I would….people always say that my 3 sisters remind them of the Kardashians. They leave me out because I am blonde. :0) Good luck and Mason is super adorable!!!!

susan on

I grew up in a house like yours that we were not allowed to curse but I ended up with a potty moth when I was older. When my daughter was born I would not allow people to use that language around her. I was always correcting people while she was a baby so by the time my daughter was talking for the most part no one was cursing. I had the worse poty mouth so I would use words like farfanugin,dang,shizaquaf they were funny and effective. If my daughter ever slipped with a curse word I would change it to a word that sounded like that. It seemed to work for me. P.s love your show!

Nanu on

Hopefully you will be the first one to refrain from cussing because from what I’ve seen on tv you also have a bad habit of cussing and being quite the control freak……children live by what they learn at home so remember that when Scott and you are upset with each other letting the cuss words rip along with everyone else…….children do repeat what they hear no doubt so its best to ignore and they tend to forget and move on to something else….

Vanessa on

Kourt….it happens to the best of us…I am surprised at howmuch you curse when you and your sisters get into arguements. I think if people notice you not cursing then they will potentially curb thier cursing around Mason.

lori on

make a cuss bucket whoever cusses has to put a dollar and donate your money to the baby or a charity

Sally on

Maybe you should market some little baby ear plugs “swear be gones” haha…seriously though, you are the sweetest mom with the cutest baby boy and I hope that I can be just like you someday! maybe you could ask your family to start a swear jar for mason, and everytime they swear drop some change in there and then mason can decide to donate the money to a charity someday or whatever. Just an idea! lot of love!

JULES0GROSS on

First; just mention to your family & friends that you would prefer them to watch their language when Mason is present. They will respect that. Second; dont be surprised when he does say his first curse word; and it is in front of people at the MOST inappropriate time. That is what kids do. At an early age I would agree that it is best to ignore it; if you fly off the hanlde he will love your reaction and do it more. Children just like a reaction if it be from good or bad behavior. As he grows and if he continues to use a potty mouth then try time out. HE will stop. THen at 18 he will start again! Good luck and love you and Khloe’ in miami!

Denise on

The thing is – he will pick it up at school and around his friends regardless of what is going on at home and how much you shelter him. So, I don’t recomend agonizing over it too much.

And when it does happen, ignoring it at first might be the best bet. When he is old enough to understand, a simple explanation that those words are not allowed works best but it is confusing to him if he is constantly hearing them from family.

It’s a good idea for him to realize that these words should not be a major part of your vocabulary and so curbing that at home is a great step in the right direction.

One thing you might try is to come up with another code word. So when someone is about to curse around him they say that word instead. It relieves their frustration by getting it out but when he repeats it in public you won’t get those awful looks that so many judgemental people like to give you:)

ps- I can’t believe how much he looks like Rob in this picture. Definitely has the kardashian genes:)

Sugar on

To Jessica C….get over yourself!! I cannot believe that you feel that you are perfect where you can judge your sister in law and think that she is not worthy of being around your child! And for the smoking, also, get a grip! There are so many more things in this world then someone smoking around them! I am sure they don’t hold him and blow smoke in his face. I am not a smoker, but I was at one time and it drives me nuts when people think that their kids are perfect and should be around certain influences. So are you going to turn him into bubble boy and keep him away from the rest of society?? Ridiculous!

Carla Forestal on

Kourtney wheather you do it or the other members off your family do it baby mason will learn it or not, but it’s up to you as a parent to teach that precious little baby right from wrong and to allways be true to himself no matter what happens.That’s one off those things he will face growing up expecially in the public eye,always remember to teach the diffrence between right and wrong and remember what ever you do in this life you will have to pay some if not now it will be later. take care of that little angel. enjoy

Angela on

OMG!!He is too cute. I think it’s amazing how Mason looks just like your dad and your brother. He’s going to be quite the ladies man one day, Kourtney. Watch out!

Jennifer Miller on

I work around truck drivers all day – and got very tired of their mouths so, the other secretaries and I got a huge bottle (that they use to re-fill water for water coolers, just the huge plastic jugs), and put a little sign that said “Swear Jar” on it and set it on the counter. Whenever someone swore, no matter which word it was, they paid the jar $1.00 – no questions asked. Needless to say, it really helped everyone slow down on their language, (at least around us girls), and we got lots of free lunches out of the deal because the money went to us! :)

Heidi on

Step up to being the mother, and have some standards. Ask them to present themselves in front of your child with dignity, and to knock off the swearing. The “swear jar” is a good tool, and it is REALLY hard to stop swearing. We call it “work words” here, because some of the terminology that you use in tech jobs is simply not suitable for children. It is NOT cute to hear children swear, not when it’s your child. I set a challenge to myself to stop swearing while I was pregnant with my now 16-year old, and something still slips out sometimes, but not around him or his friends. Be a role model, ask your relatives to respect your wishes about their behavior as life models for your son. Over the years, we did not allow our son to be in the presence of people who use bad language – it’s lazy, and a sign of poor vocabulary. We also limit his exposure to relatives – everyone – who makes really bad decisions in their lives. The ones who do things that are immoral or illegal – we are starting to discuss them as people who have made mistakes, sometimes life-altering ones that you can’t always recover from. Be grownups, take the high road, set a good example, and ask your relatives to have the courtesy to help you as you change your own ways in order to be a good mother. It’s not easy, but you do owe it to your child to raise him well. If you don’t allow him to live in trash physically, keep his auditory environment to a standard that will give him examples to live by, not to overcome. Can you really require people to behave a certain way around your child? Yes. Can you really cut him off from aunts/uncles/grandparents who don’t have enough respect for you to abide by your wishes? Yes. Is it their choice to shape up or not? Yes. Are there better people to have around your child as examples? Possibly so. People need to grow up, watch their language and their actions. The children are our future, so it is worth the effort it takes to practice some self-control. And I do miss swearing, it has some satisfaction to it, but I would rather my child was welcome in the world, rather than causing offense that will follow him in his endeavors.

ELIZA on

Totally off topic- He looks SOO much like your brother it is crazy!

kallie on

It is tough to watch my mouth around my son as well, but when some words DO slip–I just tell him “Ear Muffs” and he’ll cover his ears, like in that movie Old School. Hahaha =)

Tracey on

People around you just need to understand how important it is to you and put themselves in your shoes. If it was their child they’d most likely feel the same way. My niece is almost a year old and I’ve definitely had to work on my language around her. I’d hate to be the one to teach her the bad words her parents don’t want her saying :)

Jenny on

I have a potty mouth myself! I have 2 girls, one just turned 4 and one is almost 2. My older daughter knows what words are naughty and she lets me know when i slip by saying, “We don’t say that word Mommy”. Isabella (the 4 year old) has said naughty words in the past (late 2’s early 3’s… can’t remember what age, you forget fast!) but I immediatly got down to her level and told her we don’t say that word! I did make it a big deal and told her if she were to ever say that again now that she know’s it’s against the rules that she’d get a time out. It works. I am pretty sure you won’t be able to get everyone around you to stop cursing, it’s impossible! I don’t try to swear, but when you are in a group setting and your mouth goes off sometimes you just slip!
I enjoy reading your blog. I obviously don’t know you, but from what I read I think you are a great mommy and it’s nice to know that even celebrity’s have some of the same kid challenges as us “Normal” people. :)

Marie on

I have a two year old son, his name is Karter and whenever someone says a dirty word around him they have to pay UP. We have a jar just for Karter where they put the money in. We also spell out most of the bad words we say around him. For now he won’t be able to figure out what we are spelling.

Donna C. on

I had a friend with a potty mouth and when she got pregnant she and I and a group of our friends made a deal. Whenever we said a “bad” word we had to pay a dollar. We then put that money together and gave the money to the baby for her piggy bank after she was born. You can do that or say someone owes you an hour of babysitting, or something to that effect each time they use a “bad” word. Not that it would be torture to spend time witht hat little ANGEL Mason – but it does keep you on your toes a lot more.

As Mason gets older if he tries using “bad” words – ask him if he knows what they mean. If (when) he said no, tell him that “if he doesn’t know what a word means – then he can’t use it”.

Again, all of this is going to be difficult with all the potty-mouths around him. But there really is nothing cute about a sweet little boy (or girl) with a potty mouth.

GOOD LUCK!!

Alysha on

That is funny because me and my family have little potty mouths of our own. So when my son was around the age where he started to pick up what we were saying I went into mommy mode and started trying to find words that sounded cool and funny at the same time for me and my family to use. As I was watching Spongbob I got the idea to subsitute my curse words into comic words found on spongebob cartoon, like “what the crabby patty” “barnicles” and one of my favorite from the father god above ” Jesus Christmas”. Now when my son walks around people think he is the cutest every when he gets frustrated and he hollers ” Barnicles, mom your not listening… I said___________.” lol

Stef on

My 3 year old niece picks up on everything you say right after you say it…so if we accidentally let a cuss word slip in front of her we try to yell out on of her favorite foods behind it so that she will pick up on that instead. It works every time! The other day I was driving with her in the backseat and a car pulled out in front of me in a construction zone, of course as I slammed on the brake and screamed out SHIT! my immediate word to follow was WAFFLES. London loves waffles more than she loves Care Bears and she then promptly ask if we could go to Waffle House.

Good Luck!

Lorus on

I agree with the posters saying that ignoring it will not ake it go away. I have friends who did this with many aspects of their children’s lives and everything got worse. The child then thinks if it’s okay then (insert something worse) must be fine too.

Summer on

You just gotta stay on people! If they cuss then you gotta be like don’t say that! My son’s father has the worst mouth! It’s hard to keep on him since we’re no longer together. For myself I know I’ve come up with different words to replace the cuss words.

London on

he is so cute…He looks like his grandpa…(bless his soul) he would be so proud if he was here…

Lori on

As a single mom of a 14 year old boy and a 2 (going on 14) year old girl I try my darndest not to swear I have my go to mommy friendly phases sugar,shoot etc but fact is when the day is not going well and I let out the swear word and if my child repeats it I simply tell them those are not nice words for children to use (it worked for my son and seems to be doing the job for my little girl). Even as my son starts to test boundries and says if you can do it so can I,1st I give him “the look” and I simply tell him that when he is old enough to pay taxes and vote feel free to swear, because by that point you will know when situations are not appropriate.
P.S. For future references Bill Cosby has been an amazing mentor on parenting. Good Luck!

JB on

Have you tried the curse jar? Every time someone curses, put $100.00 per curse. It can go towards his college education fund. Or in the interim, when your family realizes that their funds are depleting, maybe it will help. Where I was raised cursing was forbidden in the household. Their was always a switch handy when there was a slip of the tongue! LOL. Since that is a no no here, we hope and pray that your family will get it together soon. We do not want Mason to suffer because of the relatives. Ciao and good luck.

janet on

When I was maybe 8 or 9 I said a bad word in front of my Mom. I don’t remember exactly what word I said but I don’t think it was too bad of a word. She was doing dishes at the time and she walked over to me, with wet soapy hands, clutching a bottle of Palmolive dish soap. She poured a bit of the soap in my mouth and said to watch my mouth. I’m 47 and to this day I have never said a cuss word in front of her. I can still taste that hidious dish soap! I learned that my actions had consequences and to watch my mouth.

HoosierGirl on

I feel that allowing cursing to become a habit does oneself a disservice. First, it’s for lazy people. Second, it makes you look dumb. I mean…DUMB. People wonder why they aren’t taken seriously. Stop the expletives and expand your vocabulary, folks! If you feel the need to fill-in a blank, fill it in with silence. Years ago, movies and television were great….classic….without the use of curse words. It wasn’t necessary. Truly interesting dialogue was a major part of a show’s dynamic. It’s unfortunate that Hollywood shuts out a potentially bigger audience by driving away those of us who are offended by coarse language and thus refuse to participate. We are a huge market, believe me. If it took the first step to eliminate such nonsense language, think of how much more money it would bring in because so many others would feel more at ease and willing to listen and watch. Not a single swear word is necessary.

Kristy on

I am sad that you are no longer blogging for people but very happy that you have your own website! FINALLY! As always Mason is so adorble. As a parent of two and have family who curses all the time, if i find that the family is cursing, i will tell them to watch their mouth’s for the kids sake. if your family loves you and mason enuff, they will see that it’s bad for the kid and will stop while he’s present. yes, they will grow up hearing other kids cursing but if we can help them not to curse, all the better. and having someone cursing, it’s not every attractive. having a wonderful mom like you, i’m sure he’ll turn out to be wonderful boy.

N. Vega on

I have two sons; 3 yrs and 21 months. Was driving & talking on my phone to my brother and we had an arguement. I had glanced back and both boys were asleep, so I thought. I hung up w/him and called my mother and said your son is a D_ck, she immediately said do not talk about your brother that way….. Next day my 3 yr old got mad at me and said mommy your a d_ck! :( AHHHHHHH! Be very careful what you say even when u think they are not listening because they most likely are. I found it funny that I have spent his entire three yrs trying to get him to go pp on the potty but in me saying that word 1 time, he learned it that fast!

Patricia on

I was on the Houston to Newark flight yesterday when I saw you, Scott and baby Mason boarding the plane. Although my comment isn’t about cursing in front of the baby, I just wanted to let you know that Mason is already such a great flyer at such a young age! I didn’t hear a peep coming out of his mouth. When Scott was standing next to me with Mason, I was making silly faces to him and Mason was just smiling and laughing and so was Scott. BTW, I love his personalized pacifier!

Brittanney on

I used to curse a lot, but once my son (now 2 1/2) started talking, he picked up a few curse words. Once that happened, I stopped cursing so much; I try not to curse, but it still happens. My son doesn’t say the bad words anymore (we wouldnt’ acknowledge when he’d say them, and he let them go). My husband curses a lot around our son, and I tell him to calm it down a bit. Our son now picks up EVERYTHING we say, and my husband thinks it’s funny. I told him that it’s not funny and our son is a representation of us, and cursing is not in anyway attractive, especially for a little kid. My husband finally got it and tries not to curse so much.

Leigh on

Kourtney – It’s a good idea to try to stop swearing, but I’m guessing it won’t happen in your family (nor mine!). I have two small nephews, and the older one has called his mom names. I certainly don’t condone that, but honestly she deserved it and it’s hilarious hearing it from a 4 year old. However, I am of the opinion that kids will likely be swearing by age 5 when the go to school no matter what you do. It’s good to teach them that swearing is wrong. I think swearing is so commonplace now, it’s going to be really hard to keep any kid from swearing! You’ve got a tough job ahead! Mason is super cute and I love your shows!

Maria on

Hi Kourtney! My husband has done and said alot in front of my daughter and at a young age, she has been a sponge and repeated his actions. I am trying to fix his ways but it is important to get cooperation from others because it is only for the best interests of the child. In the end, as parents, it is rewarding to see them grow up with good morals and values. They are a reflection of us. Mason is an adorable boy. Best wishes to you, Scott and Mason.

Soon to be Momma on

I used to curse like a sailor when I was a teenager. I then met my husband and he did not curse and thought it was not a good idea for me to curse. So, to break the habit of doing it I wore a rubber band around my wrist and whenever I would curse I would snap the rubber band on my wrist. After about a week of doing that I broke the habit. Just an idea if they really want to change the habit.

TRISHA on

Keep a money jar out and every time some one curses they have to put some cash in it!

Tonya on

Well – I have to say Mason is beautiful and I can see the love you have in your eyes with your child. As a mother I think we all fall straight in love with these babies as soon as they pop out. If Mason hears you cuss big DAMN deal. As long as you hold him and love him and always be there every night to tuck him into bed you are doing a great job!! I love the show!! He is your baby and you do whatever it is that makes you and him happy.

KRISTI on

Don’t worry…you guys are all really smart people and want whats best for Mason. You’ll see that when everyone in your family realizes he’s starting to really understand the words and mimic them, they will be more careful around him. Sure, occasionally something will slip out, but for the most part everyone will watch what they say because they love Mason! I would bet the same was true when Kendal and Kylie were younger. Its just something that happens out of respect. You’ll see! It’s probably other people you have to worry about…not so much your family. After all, my 3 kids learned the word douche from your show and NOT from family!!! :) I would say just ask your mom for advice…you all turned out great…she must know what shes doing! Best of luck, doll!

Eryn on

I totally understand where you are coming from, Kourtney, because (ironically) I just wrote a letter to all my family members last night about this very issue. I am not a snob, I do swear from time to time, but I really don’t want my kids to think that it is normal to swear in everyday conversation. I’m like you, when I was a kid I NEVER heard my parents swear, but when my older brother came home from abroad, he brought home his foul mouth with him. Since then it has been a struggle to resist this negative influence. Fortunately I have a husband who is against swearing, so he is a good influence.

I have four kids of my own, and my sister has three kids. My sister over reacts (by swearing) when the kids doing things. I know what it is like to be a mom, but unless there is anything life threatening going on, staying calm and not swearing is showing self control and keeps the kid (and yourself) calm. So, while writing a letter may not be for you, just talk to family/friends(respectfully) and explain why you don’t like people to use foul language around your children. Hopefully they will respect your wishes! All the best, Kourtney!

shenna on

it all depends on how you grow your child. eg. my mom say explicite every day and night and i never ever hear my younger siblings say it back and my aunt dont say those things but her son say it and he is just 6yrs old. so sometimes your trying to block out sometings from your child but later on in life its what you lease expect not to come out of their mouth that comes out, so what your going to do give them away nooooooooooo. teach them whats bad words and good words or take away something they really LOVE. i use to be just like you when i had my daughter and i realized that i grow up in what i didnt want my child to hear or say and i just had to let go. he is a baby now so let him listen or watch baby CDs he will learn also from that eg. whats good and bad, and plez dont beat up yourself about them saying it around. sometime its what your affraid of attact.

Jessica on

When I was a kid, my parents owned a construction company and would take me to work with them all the time. Construction Workers are as bad as sailors in the language department so I set up a swear jar in the office and charged big bucks for bad words. The worse the word was, the more it cost ‘em. I would charge $20 for every F-bomb I heard. I made BANK at my little “job” and by the end of the summer you would have thought we were in church the way people spoke around that office. If you make them feel it in the wallet, they will start paying attention! Charge them whatever you feel is appropriate.

catherinetodd on

Ignoring cursing ensures that kids will continue to do it… at least it did with my own and all the children I have ever been in charge of. Teaching, babysitting, overnights, birthday parties, wherever… The kids all loved coming to my house and when they entered in the door, one of the littlest ones said “Miss Catherine, we say Please and Thank You when we come to your house!” I still remember that day.

All I did was say: “What? What do we say?” whenever they would start with the foul language that was used and ignored in their own houses, and they really seemed to appreciate being in a better more positive environment at my place.

Cursing is an example and expression of anger in so many ways, or it’s a throw-away expression that readily turns to insults. I’m much happier since I stopped cursing many years ago, and I ask everyone around me to not curse since I will start doing it again! I’ve never had anyone resent my saying it that way. If they did, I don’t think I would welcome them in my home, as if they can’t respect me or my child, who would they respect?

In fact, now that I think about it, I DO curse when I am ready to blow my stack. This might not have happened but once a year, or every couple of years, but when it did and “those words” came out, everyone knew to STAND BACK. I find I get even angrier if I let myself curse, so now I never start. I’m a lot happier and so is everyone else.

Ali on

Hi Kourtney

I have a seven month old daughter and i have really enjoyed your blog posts..i feel like we are going through all the baby stages at the same time. I am breastfeeding and pumping too, and it really is a lot of work. I also snuggle with my baby and let her sleep in my bed in the mornings. I only work 2 days a week- which gives me a great work/life balance. You can NEVER get back these precious moments with your baby. Those moments are what matters in life…

Stephanie on

For friends and family set a “curse word” jar. Everytime someone slips in front of Mason they have to put a set amount in the jar. Around here it would be quarters but $20s may work better for you. Then it can go toward something for Mason, like his college fund. It will get too expensive to curse in front of him really quickly!!

Judy on

Adults can and will curb their swearing if you just ask them to and really mean it. If they can’t or won’t, remove yourself and the baby. Just go to another room. They will notice you’re absent and speak polite if they truly love your company. It’s so simple . Just do it. Remove yourself and the baby. Tell them why politely/calmly and then Go. Most loving family members will apologize and control their speech. There is nothing cute about a child that swears. Start them with proper language and they will be articulate adults with bright futures.

Andrea Brailsford on

Kourtney,

Let me tell you. I have a five year old son and a four year old daughter.I for one tend to cuss when I get upset (not at my children. Especially when I am driving, with kids in the car, and and idiot driver pulls out or does something stupid. Kids pick up what they here and sometimes you can’t control it. I didn’t realize my son payed me any attention until I heard him say shit at the age of one and every year from there. I laughed (not letting him see me), but I explained to him that those kinds of words are bad and that he should not repeat what mommy says. Now at age 5 he and his sister (my 4 year old) correct me every time mommy uses a curse word. My advice is to explain to Mason that those are bad words when he gets older. Nobody is a saint and I am sure he will probably hear more as he grows up. He will repeat them when he learns to talk, but you are a wonderful mom and you simply teach him good from bad. Love your show with your sister and family.

Cas on

Well, you won’t be able to control what everyone says – I was at the club pool, THE BABY POOL section, with my four year old and some idiot 16 year olds were less than courteous with their language. But it’s not like you’re asking too much of family and friends if you want them to watch it when Mason is around! Children and adults have different responsibilities, and different privileges – one of which is the ability to use certain words. Just because you do it, or Khloe, or the man at the grocery store says ‘Damn’- doesn’t mean that Mason can… kids are so smart and receptive – they quickly learn the the difference. When my daughter was two she pulled out a drawer and everything fell out – she said “Oh, Shit!” It took everything I had to keep from cracking up. I gave her ‘the look’ and explained that sort of language was not appropriate for little princesses. She has NEVER said Shit again, or any of the much worse language she has heard (especially when I’m driving).
You’ll figure it out!

Rave on

Kourtney – I think it’s great that you’re concerned now about what will affect your son later! However, I watch your show, and must say, you cuss an awful lot – especially calling your sisters nasty names. Even though you’re not around your son when you let these words slip, you might want to refrain (even when you’re angry) from saying these words, so that it becomes easier and easier not to say them at all. Just a suggestion. YOU have to be his main example. Anyway, I love your show! Can’t wait for the new season of KUWTC to start!

Whitney on

Maybe everyone can find a better way to express themselves without using curse words. I know sooner or later Mason will hear a bad word in public or on TV. That can be a teachable moment. You can explain to him that those words are not nice. You can teach him that there are better words out there to use.

My husband is a Marine and hears bad language every day at work. It’s rubbed off on him and me as well. We’re making an effort to set the example for our 3 month-old son. We understand that what you’re going through is difficult. Don’t lose heart when it comes to setting a good example. You’re a good mother as long as you do your best!

lm on

I have to say that this is one of the few blogs I enjoy on this site. You aren’t pretentious or a fame glutton. It’s a good idea to stop cussing now.

Gayle on

Definately encourage the family to watch there mouths around Mason. It isn’t cute at all to here a tot repeat a bad word. Instead try expanding his vocabulary in a positive way and use words that maybe a little bigger. It will provoke communication. Your friends will be surprised of Mason’s huge vocabulary. When he gets to school the teachers will praise you and ask how did Mason get such a large vocabulary?
Additionally Mason won’t get in trouble for having a “potty mouth”. I’ve raised 3 boys, it worked on all 3 of them. They didn’t learn bad words until they heard them at school.

Zoraya on

Being a mother of 3, I think the best way is to try and create words that are “G” rated. And as your children get older to explain to them some things are for adults only.

I had my first very young (15) and lived around family, mainly boys (3 brothers) and their friends. So there was alot of “R” rated words flying out of mouths. I am very hot tempered and blunt. So I told them if they wanted to hang out they HAD to watch their mouths. It took some time but they all followed through.

And I am by NO means an angel or perfect. An F bomb flys out every now and then. But, because I explain to my babies that those words are not kind or for kids they do not say them. Not one of them has, at least not in front of me or anyone who knows me. Because my kids know “MAMI DOESN’T PLAY”….

Good Luck and be stern with the “ADULTS” arond you. If they love you & Mason they NEED to respect your wishes!

Z

Kuuipo on

My sister has a “curse jar” in her house… any time someone cusses in front of her daughter they have to pay a price. My dad from the time he gets there puts money in cause he knows himself already. Like Khloe he has the mouth of sailor–as do I. I know that when I am around my nieces and nephew I cuss way less cause I am already cautious of the fact, as well as, my sisters don’t know that I cuss. Try it–they may stop cause it gets expensive to cuss so much in front of a baby who is saving up for college.

Celeste on

They’re going to hear it, whether it’s from your family, from you, or from kids he plays with. My oldest son walked in on us while we were watching a movie just at the point of a large car explosion, and the main character swore loudly. He walked around saying it for days. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is sit down with them and talk about it. Let them know that isn’t an appropriate word to use, and why. I broke my youngest of saying ‘what the hell’ at age 5 by simply explaining to him why people thought it was an inappropriate word, and gave him an alternative word to use, and he hasn’t sworn since.

caterina on

Just watching an episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians, or maybe its the Kourtney and Kloe take Miami and Kourtney is cursing like a disgusting sailor. I find it interesting that she wrote this blog at all. She not only used one curse word but like 3 or 4 in a row and the worse ones of them all. Kind of hypocritical and ridiculous. She sounded like trash and Mason was laying right there. I rarely watch the show, glad to know I was not missing anything.

Jessie on

Hi Kourtney! I have 2 children – a girl who will be 2 at the end of August and a 10 month old son. I have dealt with the potty mouth problem because that’s more of our generation, sadly. My older brother has thought it hilarious to teach my daughter to say “fook.” The best thing I have done to deal with it is to simply ignore it when she says it. When she repeats a word that she hears from one of my brothers, or myself when I slip, we ignore it. The other day, she was yelling “fook” over and over in her high chair while we were eating breakfast together. We ignored her until she decided to say something else. As for my brothers, who have no children, I have made myself clear on speaking appropriately around the kids, but in the end, it’s how they talk and I can’t change them. If they are dropping f-bombs, I simply take the kids into another room or remind them of “little ears.” Sooner or later, they’ll get it. Don’t stress about potty mouths. :) You’re doing a great job!

Joy on

Kourtney,

I really think it is not so much the word but the tone that is used. They say that as parents we can prevent bullying by showing how we treat others in front of our children.

Mom-of-4-boys on

When I became a mother (my boys are 19, 15, 10 and 6) I was very concious of what went on around my children. I don’t have alcohol in my home, I didn’t/don’t drink around my children (I rarely drink, and only when I’m out), no smoking in the house, car or even outside if my children are standing close by (I am a smoker…very bad habit), but I will admit to having a potty-mouth, especially when I’m driving. I do try to watch my words around them but when I get behind the wheel, it’s a whole different story. Other drivers that seem to be oblivious really drive me nuts and I guess I never really paid much attention to what I say until recently…my 6 year old has picked up my favorite word, reserved for the drivers that don’t pay attention…”Dumb-azz”. One day his brother was doing something that upset him and he turned around and called him that. My husband immediately says “he sounded EXACTLY like you!”. I walked away so he wouldn’t see me giggling, because I don’t want him to think it’s ok or funny, but honestly it DID sound funny. My way of handling it was to sit my son down and talk to him. I told him that yes, I know mommy has said that word, but that doesn’t make it right or okay or sound any nicer coming from his cute little mouth. I told him that it was like “having garbage in your mouth. Garbage is dirty, stinky and gross. Would you like garbage in your mouth?” Of course, he said no…so each time he has said it since, I remind him that if other people hear him speak like that they will think he has garbage in his mouth. I admit that it is no different for me, I sound like I have garbage in my mouth too. So far, it seems to be working, he has stopped saying it…unfortunately, he is a good speller so now he will spell it out. I’m not sure if that’s any better – we are working on that now. If he gets upset with a toy or his brothers, he will say “oh you dumb a…s…s” (saying the letters, not the word). I’m still trying to figure out how he learned the spelling, I certainly didn’t teach him. The garbage reference worked with my older boys too, my oldest son will still watch what he says around me and when he does slip and curses in front of me he immediately apologizes “I’m so sorry mommy, I didn’t mean to talk that way in front of you”…yes, he still calls me “mommy” in a fun sort of way (he is my best friend).

I also don’t hesitate to ask others to please be mindful of their words around my children. When the kids are out of earshot, say whatever you want…and that seems to work. I’m not trying to change anyone, just a gentle reminder when little ears are right there listening is easy and seems to keep everything and everyone easy-going and happy.

I don’t know if any of this is helpful, it seems to work for our family. Good luck Kourtney…you are doing an amazing job. Mason is absolutely perfect…so adorable!

Deeann on

Here is an honest answer…It’s not cute nor does it set an example. I wonder if you or your sisters have thought about the influence you have had on tons of kids by talking so trashy on your show? I wonder if it ever occurs to you that you are influencing tons of young people to talk the way you do? Now that you have a son, do you think maybe taking responsibility as a role model is a part of being on TV? Please don’t give one of those weak answers about not wanting to hear that you are a role model. Clearly, there are people looking up to you and your siblings and I think it’s been treated lightly when you should care more about the influence you have…the reason? That little boy you hold in your arms. We all have children and feel protective of them in every way…including what goes into their ears…Why would any parent want less than the very best things for their children? I think people have just simply dropped their standards to a very low level these days. I have two children and all that you do is to get creative w/ words. I told my son that when he stubs his toe or gets mad instead of saying bad words…just say to yourself “bad words” “bad words”…then you don’t have to feel bad later. Also, as they get older you explain to them that before they repeat a word they better ask and find out what it means. Then you make sure to explain it at their age level. So much of raising children is common sense. I don’t mean to be rude toward you but you are too pretty to talk so nasty and set such bad examples when you are on a show. I am careful what I say in front of my children and children in general b/c you can’t expect them to have class when you’ve given them a bad example to follow and b/c I want to do the right thing by them. Talking filthy in front of children is plain selfish. If you can control your temper, your anger, you can control your mouth in front of kids. Period, the end.

T on

Kourtney,
I have found with both of my children that I (being the adult) use whatever language I want (albeit I try to censor the really foul ones when around children anyway). My 6 year old NEVER repeated a bad word – not even once – but my 2 year old swears like a sailor. We take the approach that the less power you give a word or situation the less children are to use it against you – so far it is and has worked. Rest assured by 2-3 years old most children KNOW what is acceptible and what is not regardless of how others speak around them and they typically do not use bad language. The key is not to give the word any power – meaning don’t react by laughing or scolding or give any reaction at all.

Hang in there and enjoy your beautiful son!

willma gibson on

good luck kourt

Jennifer on

I feel your pain. Daddy’s can be the worst and believe me, my hubby is the worst and we have a 3 3/4 yr. old. She’s the cutest thing but when a dirty word comes out of that mouth, I tell her that it’s not nice to use words like that. When she was 2, she would say “sh*t” and my family and I would ignore her and that seemed to work. I would say, start a jar to fine people who cuss, might make them think before they speak.

By the way, Mason is sooooo cute. I will definitely miss your blog on here and will keep watching your show.

jennp on

Hey, I have a good idea for you, Kourtney. It doesn’t really help with getting people to stop cursing around him, but he could make some cash. Get a jar for Mason and everytime somebody curses in front of him they have to put money in it. He’ll probably have enough to buy a car by the time he’s two!:)

MommaMelissa on

I have seriously scaled back on cursing since having children. I will admit that my son has let loose with a couple “What the hell?” phrases and that is 100% me. I’ll never forget the first time that he said the F word. My husband was driving and blurted it out at a driver that cut him off and from the back seat, my sweet 18 month old utters the same F word that daddy said. My husband froze and I laughed. No big deal. No my son knows that there are words only adults can use. He is great with that. He loves to tell daddy “Don’t say that” when my husband curses. I myself have worked hard to give up the F word. I still say “what the hell” a lot and fully expect my daughter to say it someday but that is how life is.

UNVDIS on

I think especially regarding your family, you should decorate a special lil old MASON JAR and a picture of him on it under or above the name, Then write, 1 need 5.00 everytime you curse. After a few pair of Jimmy Choo’s being in that jar, the family and friends will get the message! lol. Plus, you can put the money away form Mason something special and then tell him the story of how he got that special something and a better atmosphere as a small child when he gets older. Good luck with that, love ya guys and the show. Keep up the good mothering and work on the show. Can’t wait until Sunday!!

Heather on

Aloha Kourtney,

I have 2 children 8 & 5. My husband and I do not believe in being unrealistic with our children. We both cuss on occasion and neither one of my children say bad words. We know that the world is not a nice place all the time and sooner or later they will hear EVERYTHING from school, friends, t.v., out at the store, playground, ect… so, when my daughter started talking and said one of the “bad” words. I told her that those words are grown up words and she was not allowed to say them. She is the sweetest girl that listens to her parents and NEVER says ANY “bad” words.. she even asks about other words (like crap) and wants to know if she can say them.. I tell her not even rude words until she is out of the house and is an adult.. then she can make the choice for herself. But changing the world or having a child dictate to every adult around them is unrealistic and granted, cussing is vulgar, but it is ultimately up to you how you want to raise your son…

Sarah G on

My whole family, similar to yours has potty mouths. I have found the best way to curb it , like most people is to use other phrases. The most popular in our household right now is Cinders and Ashes or Bust my Buffers, from Thomas and Friends. My son is 21 months , and Thomas is his favorite I find that using catch phrases from the preschool shows is a good way to substitute. Then he learns from us and the occasional show about using words from frustration that aren’t naughty words but still convey his frustration and we aren’t using words that might confuse him.

stephanie on

Hi Kourtney,
I have 2 kids and my husband and I both try to refrain from any swearing in front of the children. Ofcourse, you may slip once in a great while, but most importantly I’ve tried to stress to my husband to watch certain words or other family members because once they go to school, it will be our child repeating bad words or using words improperly. So, when my husband says something that he odviously shouldn’t say in the kids, I try to relate it to the kids using it in a sentance. AND YES, Kids pick up everything and are complete sponges they mimic you and your boyfriend/husband and family. So, it is very important how you act in front of them. Good Luck and you are doing a great job!

Rebecca on

Hi Kourtney,

As a mother of 2 sons, ages 19 1/2 & 3 1/2, the best advice I can give you is replacing your favorite curse words with other words. I use fudge brownies, for the F word. I say apples instead of heck. Or sometimes I’ll say what they Hey!!!

Try it using whatever replacement words you find the easiest to remember. My sister used to say I’m going nucking futs instead of the obvious; my personal favorite because I think it’s hysterical.

Good Luck.

melissa on

you are not setting “unrealistic” rules for people to follow. This is YOUR child. You are the mom and you set the standards for your son. I do with mine, he is only a few months younger than yours But asking peole to respect the way you will choose for your son to grow up is important, and if they cannot, then your son has no reason to be around them.
You have to set the example for your son and for other’s to follow. If you think it’s okay for your son to cuss at an early age, then keep up with the potty mouth. If you don’t then stop it and INSIST that it stops when anyone is around him.
If others don’t like you for it, then they either don’t understand what it is like to have a child of their own or they don’t respect you for the morals that you are setting for your son.

Be strong and don’t faulter to anyone. You are his mom. No one else. You set the rules. No one else.

Meg on

Have a curse jar! Every time someone swears around Mason they have to put a dollar in the jar. Things may start to change once they realize how much money they are actually putting into it. And here’s a tip from experience: you may need a big jar! ~Good Luck!

Selah on

Hey, Kourtney!

This is just one of a bazillion things that we as moms have to worry about. Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone around you was concerned about how they spoke around your son? I’m sure your sisters will think of this when they have babies of their own. . .Anyway, I really believe cursing is just a bad habit. People don’t NEED to curse, and you aren’t being too harsh by asking them to curb their bad habit for the sake of your son. I think you should tell them, “I don’t want to subject Mason to a lot of fowl language, so it would mean a lot to me if you would really try to watch how you speak around him.” They should do it out of respect for you. And you need to set the example–“be the change you want to see in the world.”

The fact of the matter is that people who curse every other word are either verbally lazy or have a limited vocab. I don’t think the latter is true of your family–you seem like intelligent people. But having watched your show, I can honestly say you guys definitely curse more than most families I know. Part of raising a child isn’t merely teaching him how to fit into your family but how to be in the world. You want him to have manners and be a good citizen, I’m sure. Language plays a role in that.

What every baby needs to grow up hearing is respectful language. Nonviolent language. He needs to hear tones of voice between his parents that are respectful. Even if you and your boyfriend aren’t cursing, you need to try not to fight in front of your child. When parents fight in front of their child, it changes who the child is. I know that in a big family like yours, there tends to be a lot of arguing. To a degree, that’s normal, but if everyone can practice more self-control when they are in the presence of your child, it will benefit him. And trust me on this, it will be a lot easier for you to control HIS behavior as he gets older. If your child perceives that people are disrespectful to you, he will be disrespectful, too–at least he’ll test the waters.

Good luck & God bless you!

Cricket on

It’s amazing to me how some families incorporate bad language as an everyday occurance in their household. How did your family go from not cursing when your father was alive to cursing as a way of life? Neither my family growing up nor my family now ever curses in front of each other. I don’t know if my children curse when I’m not around but they do not do it in my presence. Your family should have more respect for themselves and your child. Booze seems to loosen lips so maybe less of that would help. Mason is so cute!

mary Gallagher on

Have a money jar for swearing and everytime someone curses, have them put in a 20 for Mason’s college fund, have a jar everywhere you go, you will need it , it sounds like! Also , make sure everyone knows right when they are around him! Between your sister and Scott, Mason will have his education paid for 10 times!!

michelle on

My family and i started a swear jar just try and take it with you where ever you go and if it happens put a quarter in it and save it for the baby

Steph on

You can’t prevent anyone from cursing, so don’t even bother with that. What you CAN do is make sure as Mason get’s older, he understands that it’s unaaceptable for him to do it. My sister has always had a potty mouth, and I’m far from perfect, but neither of our kids has ever breathed a curse word (short of one time when my son was about 4 yrs old, he was pretending he was driving a grocery cart and made the “beep beep, outta my way B*^ch!” to my mom).

The one thing that works wonders…SOAP :)) Lots of it. Liquid or bar, makes no difference. I strated doing that when he was 2, though very infrequently and he hates it. And I remind him this isn’t monkey see monkey do, you be a leader and not a follower and you don’t do or say things just because other people think it’s cool or funny. Whether it’s cursing, smoking, being impolite to teachers at school, you name it, that rule applies. Be a leader!! I tell him all the time, and hope when he becomes a teenager and is thinking other things, like drugs or drinking is cool or fun or funny, he’ll set himself apart from others.

Juniko on

I always read your blogs but this one i wanted to respond to because i have twin 3 year olds and getting people to stop cursing around them is impossible. Especially my brother, they always tell me that I am overracting. Well the other day I was in the drive thru at a fastfood place and when the girl came to give us our food my daughter said “mama, is she a b****” I was so embaressed. My daughter did not know what she was saying because she broke down after I told her that it was a bad word. Im sure right now Mason doesnt understand and even at my kids age they dont understand but they do pick it up and in my case use it not knowing. I just let them know the bad words and the “not nice” words and it works. They are always telling people what “NOT” to say. Because there is really no way to stop the kids from hearing the words, its just best to tell them whats ok to say and whats not ok to say. Good luck, my whole family has a potty mouth so I know what your going through. I have caught myself saying words and my daughter is quick to correct me.

Hannah on

I am having the same problem!! My son is now 9 months old and even though no one in my family curses my husbands whole family does! His family does not take well to people telling them what to do and I am so worried about how to tell them to please not curse around him. His father yells and curses all the time and I hate it. My only option is to not let him go over there anymore and we all know how that would turn out lol. I wish you all the luck and hopefully both our sons will learn right from wrong, I watch the show and know what a rgeat mom you are so Im know Mason will be fine :) Good luck!

Sarah on

Hey I just wanted to comment on the potty mouths. I don’t tell people that are around my three kids what to do I just tell my babies when they hear those words I don’t want them to say those words because they are for grown folks. Like you said they can understand so if you tell them there is a difference in good words and words that they can say after they move out of your house they will listen.

nesav on

My mother has a mouth on her she curses a lot I have three sisters and growing up we knew better to ever say a bad word specially to each other. I did not start cursing into I was 20 and now yes I must admit I have my moms mouth on me but I will never curse at my sisters or when my mom is around. We have such a great relationship but we don’t tell each other to stf or bitch never……we have respect for each other. One of my sister’s does not curse at all in front of her two little girls and her 4 year old has a mouth on her she curses so much, she’s eating her favorite food and to herself she says “wow this is effin good” that word is her favorite one, my sis gets after her she’s tried everything and she just doesn’t stop. People say she will grow out of it. So personally I think all you could do is show your baby to respect others and not to repeat what others says and most important respect his family. I think its horrible when siblings curse at each other or specially at there parents.

Heather on

I really hate that this was Kourtney’s last blog I loved hearing Mason stories and her tips and stories on motherhood!

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