Angelina Jolie Doesn’t Want Her Family to Get Too Big

06/28/2010 at 11:00 AM ET
Courtesy Vanity Fair

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have built a large family, and despite the rumors, it’s not likely to get too much bigger – as the actress is concerned about having enough time for each child as they grow up.

Asked if she and Pitt want a seventh child, Jolie, 35, tells Vanity Fair: “We’re not opposed to it. But we want to make sure we can give everybody special time.”

It’s easy when they’re small, she says, and don’t require much emotional support. But as they get older, “they’re going to need a lot more talking in the middle of the night, like I did with my mom for hours. We want to make sure we don’t build a family so big that we don’t have absolutely enough time to raise them each really well.”

The children’s personalities are all blooming, Jolie says – particularly Shiloh, who turned 4 last month and seems to be taking her cues from big brothers Maddox and Pax. “She likes to dress like a boy. She wants to be a boy,” Jolie says. “So, we had to cut her hair. She likes to wear boys’ everything. She thinks she’s one of the brothers.”

Among the other kids, Maddox is the intellectual, while Zahara has “an extraordinary voice and is just so elegant and well spoken.” And the twinsKnox and Vivienne, who will turn 2 next month — “are classic boy and girl,” Jolie says. “She’s really female. And he’s really a little dude.”

While family has clearly become Jolie’s top priority, acting has become a secondary pursuit – one she might give up entirely in the not-too-distant future. “I don’t think I’ll do it much longer,” she says. “Because I have a happy home. … I got back from work last night, and everybody was playing music and dancing, and I suddenly found myself dancing around with a bunch of little fun crazy people.”

And what about finally getting married to Pitt, 46, her longtime partner? Also not an issue on the front burner. They’re not against it, Jolie says, but “it’s just like we already are. Children are clearly a commitment, a bigger commitment [than marriage]. It’s for life.”

– Tim Nudd

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Cassandra on

I love her quote about marriage. I’ve never understood people’s obsession with marriage, and probably won’t ever get married. But she is right, there is no bigger commitment then children.

Jessica on

I hope she does adopt another Ethiopian girl so Zahara won’t be the only black person in the family. Didn’t she say that’s why she adopted an Asian boy for Maddox and got pregnant again hoping that Shiloh would have a sister that looked like her. I hope she follows through on that.

M on

I think it’s a really good they think like this. I think too many big families just care for their religion or their own wish to have more mini-me’s. As long as everybody really gets the attention he of she deserves, you make it work. Any other solution won’t work, either for yourself or your children.

And personally I would like to see both of them in weddingclothes, but hey, that’s my problem right ;) ?

lina on

Zahara’s not the only black person in their family, brad’s sister has 2 Ethiopian sons.

Lucy on

I admire them and the way they rise their children.

Cassandra, I agree with you on that quote. My boyfriend and I do not have children, but would for sure have them without being married.

Jessica on

In her immediate family I meant. Those boys are her cousins not siblings. If she has 2 asian brothers and 3 white siblings and 2 white parents she might feel left out.

And if I were to include her cousins, aunts, she still would be the only black girl in her family and 10/15 years down the road and she wants to talk to someone who looks like her to discuss certain issues that she maybe can’t discuss with her white mother/grandmother/auntie or black male cousins then who will she turn to?

Elle on

What a ridiculous statement, Jessica. I certainly hope a person’s skin colour shouldn’t be an issue when it comes being able to discuss things with their family.

Lola Monroe on

Here we go with all of the banter & ridiculous comments…*sigh* Angie looks gorgeous on this cover, I love to hear updates on this family, they makes a nice one!!

Jenn on

I think how big one’s family gets is all relative. Me personally, I couldn’t handle having mroe than one, while I know others that have four under the age of five and love it. So I totally get what she’s saying. You should have as many you can handle, can afford, and can give equal amounts of love to, whether that’s one or seven. As for her thoughts on marriage, I get that too. While it’s great for some people, for others it might not be. They have both been married before; what they have now seems to be working. I think they should stick with what they have and do what feels right and screw what everyone else thinks lol!

Crystal on

Angelina really is an amazing actress, humanitarian, mom and partner. She has such insighful views on marriage, family, and her career. I love when she’s interviewed because she’s such a private person. It’s truly a treat when we get to see a snipet into the life of Brad and Angelina. I can’t even imagine the perils of raising 6 children but they are doing it with dignity, grace, respect and love. I really admire her. I hope they adopt a baby from Haiti and then their family will be a complete “nine”some!!! :)

lila on

I am glad they are being realistic about family size and concerned about everyone getting the time and attention they need. Regardless of how much money you have, you only have so much of yourself to go around.

Dee on

I just LOVE her and admire the fact that she understands that just because you can have a large family doesn’t necessarily mean that you should.

I see people like the Duggars and no offense to them but when I look at them, I usually tend to see the smaller children being parented by the older ones because mom and dad are busy making more babies.

I see that they try and are positive people but I dont see the one to one connection between parent and each child and that is important especially when you are in a large family. No one wants to feel left out.

As for the marriage part. I completely agree, I dont understand why society is so hung up on a piece of paper and a ring. I have been there and while I dont regret the experience I’m happier in my relationship now (with a child on the way….being induced tomorrow) than I ever was being married.

It was definitely a learning experience. But children they are linked to you forever more so than a piece of paper and a ring!!! At the end of the day you can break your marriage committment, no so easy to break a parental committment no matter the reason!!

cris on

I know Jessica, having the twins just threw the whole color scheme out of whack…Yes, anyone who adopts a child of a different race should be made to adopt them in pairs so the children will not feel left out *sarcasm off*

J-Lin on

Jessica – I totally agree. People who find it ridiculous or respond with sarcasm are usally in the majority.

Erica2 on

Jessica I totally agree with your sentiments about them adopting another African American child. I was overjoyed when they adopted Zahara and saved her from a life of poverty. I am a proud African American woman and I can’t imagine not having someone in my household to identify and share my heritage with. Being a black woman means so many different life experiences and wonderful things and she needs someone that looks like her in the household everyday, to help her explore her culture. All of Brad and Angelina’s humanitarian missions to Africa cannot take the place of having a loving parent that can instill a love of a shared cultural identity. I am sure Brad and Angelina have enrich Zahara’s life by exposing her to different cultures around the world, that’s wonderful, but at the end of the day the view that she has of self when she is alone and looks in the mirror is the most important! I would love if Angelina and Brad would adopt an African child from Haiti, so that Zahara may have a sibling to share her African heritage with!

brannon on

Thanks cris. Saved me from writing it. Plus I was starting to worry about my own life experience as I am the only one with blonde hair. Anyway, love this family and think their priorities are dead on. Love that they give their children the joys of a large family while still making individual time for each of them. A perfect partnership. Can’t get enough of these kids! (for the record – also love that they let the kids be themselves!)

cris on

Erica:An African child from Haiti…wouldn’t they be Haitian and not African???

Jessica on

Yes if I’m discussing hair care issues or racial issues in America, etc. I would rather discuss with someone who knows what the heck I’m talking about (and that would probably be a black woman since I’m black) Zahara might feel the same way one day. Believe it or not America has a racial caste system and black people are at the bottom. I’m sure Angelina would like to think that Zahara and Shiloh are equal but American society will tell them different. Just read through some of the comments on JustJared. People say how ugly Zahara is, they call her nappy head and angry, violent. And they call Shiloh, Viv, and Knox angelic. Wake up people.

JMO on

I have a feeling they will adopt again but I bet it won’t be for a while. Maybe when the twins are in school.
I think it’s clear Shiloh wants to be a boy! lol
I’m glad they let her express herself. Great family!

Jessica on

Brannon being the only blond in your family is WAY different then being the only WHITE person in your family. I’m sure you’ve never experienced that since white people are the majority but it can be extremely difficult when you walk into a room and you are the only POC in the room.

J to the Da on

ITA with Jessica. Being the only blonde in a family is nowhere close to being the only person of a certain race in your family. It is so careless and irresponsible to dismiss it as such. Being black in America means something. As much as people would love to pretend we live in a utopian “we are the world” society where race does not matter, it does. So it is not wrong to think that maybe, just maybe it would be beneficial to Z in the long run to have a sibling who looks like her. Posters who disagree must have not grown up as minority children in a majority country.

My rant aside, they do have gorgeous children.

Jessica on

@ J-Lin

I know it’s quite obvious that Elle, Cris, and Brannon are white and have sucked up the “post-racial, we’re all equal” bs the media has been spewing since Obama got elected. I mean seriously they should go to a club where they are the only white person and everyone else is black or asian or hispanic everyday and see how they feel.

@ Cris

And no they should be forced to adopt in pairs but they should consider it or if they can’t manage to make sure they have a friend, cousin, aunt, uncle etc. of the child’s same race (and preferably gender) so the child can identify with. Angelina even believes that the kids should have a sibling that looks them looks like them and that’s why she adopted Pax. She would have adopted another Cambodian boy but they have cracked down on adoption, she got pregnant and now Shiloh has a bio sister (and a bonus bio brother), what about Zahara?? That’s all I’m saying.

Elle on

Jessica, I am not white nor am I American so please do not jump to conclusions.

Danielle on

Jessica has issues.

Philippa on

I think everyone on here who are so obsessed with skin colour and ethnicity have issues.
People simply assume that Zahara needs a sibling of African origin because of course she’ll have issues later that she can’t discuss with anyone else because their skin colour is different [/sarcasm]

I think the Jolie-Pitt family is the perfect example of a beautiful and loving multicultural family where ethnicity and skin colour should not matter. Perhaps the racial aspect isn’t such a sensitive issue for me because I’m not American, but I really think that people on here are being over-sensitive and are taking things way too far.

On a more positive note: I think Angelina has a great outlook on family life, and how she intends to raise her children.

Rachel on

That hair, those eyes, those lips!! Can this woman get any more beautful. LOL! Love their family! Wishing them all the best.

Sarah on

Just read the comments, and maybe this may just spark another debate but I’m genuinely interested – would those who think it’s necessary that the Jolie-Pitts adopt another African-American child prefer that they do so, and therefore do not have enough time for all of their children individually, as Angelina has expressed concern about? I’m just wondering if everyone feels that Zahara having someone to relate to is more important that all of their children being able to have their parents full attention.

Mira on

I’m white, but I agree with Jessica. Skin color matters in America, unfortunately. I think regardless of how devoted Brad and Angelina are to all their kids and how hard they try to treat each of them exactly the same, they will have some challenges when the kids become teenagers. Teenagers are almost always insecure and many, many teenagers start doubting that their parents love and respect them truly. In a mixed bio/adopted family, these issues will be only tougher. And the racial diversity won’t help either. So I do think that they will make it much easier both for Zahara and for themselves if they adopted one more child of African descent.

ILuvPerfectParents on

She didn’t say the family wouldn’t get any bigger, she said “it’s not likely to get too much bigger & We’re not opposed to it. But we want to make sure we can give everybody special time”.

So who knows maybe they will. Jessica I see absolutely nothing wrong with your your comment. At least you didn’t put down celebs parenting skills like a lot of others tend to do but of course this is a blog & they have a right to comment, the same as you do!!!!!!

They have a beautiful family & I hope they do what feels right for THEIR family.

sarah on

i too have read angelina’s comments about shiloh and zahara’s “asian brothers” (her words, not mine) and wondered if the family’s next child might be of african descent to fit the same pattern, but obviously they have chosen another route and do not wish to expand their family at this time. i also like their logic and find it encouraging and admirable.

as for adopting another “african” child so zahara doesn’t feel left out. first and foremost, shiloh is also african. she was born in namibia which makes her place of origin the same continent as her sister. also, “african-american” and “black” are AMERICAN social constructs. aborigines or indigenous australians (the terminology) varies also consider themselves “black” based on the structure of their society. when we call for another “african” child to join this family, what exactly are we asking for? what would be “black” enough, or “african” enough to meet people’s requirements? because african-american and african are two very different social groups. people of all “races” come in myriad shapes and colors. how would the jolie-pitts choose the right child to meet strangers’ expectations and demands?

obviously i’m being a bit facetious and provactive in my wording, but the sentiment stands: these are children of the world. NONE of them were born in the united states, probably a conscious choice by mom and dad, and they live much of their time outside the us. none of them, biological or adopted, are truly american other than being born to american parents. they spend their time in diverse locations and cultures, as their parents wants, and soak up what is around them. other than her hair, which mom and dad have admitted they’ve struggled with, zahara won’t necessarily bond anymore or anyless with someone of her assigned racial group just because they might (or might not) share similar physical features.

yes, it is a difficult struggle in many parts of our world, to look different or be treated different based on physicality, but it varies dependent on where you are and how you view yourself. we can’t predict how a stranger’s child might view herself in a decade, or what identity issues she might develop. what we can do is remember that there is an entire world beyond america and our culture here which is the life these children lead so far.

cris on

Jessica, you do have some serious issues, you come across as a bitter woman who has issues with your identity…btw, you have my race all wrong~it is possible that a woman who is also black has a different opinion than you.

eva on

I am a fair skinned hispanic woman raising a daughter of Afro-Caribbean ancestry.She is my only child but if I was to have another child,I would welcome another boy or girl who shared my daugher’s ethnic and cultural ancestry.Would I welcome a non black child into my family? I most certainly would.If I ever have a biological child it possible that he or she will be white (depends on the father I guess :)) and we would still be a family,my daughter and a non-black baby would still be siblings and our bond would be perfectly valid and strong.At the end of the day however,I think that if the decision is on my hands,my daughter should have a brother or a sister who will walk side by side with her in terms of racial relations and cultural identity.I am not black.I’m Hispanic,my first language is Spanish.There are invisible but well-defined boundaries that separate the experiences and treatment my daughter and I recieve, and even the treatment my more tanned sisters get in comparisson to me, the lighter skinned sister.I do not pretend that these relations and complex dealings are not there.Siblings are the people who will share the most amount of time with us.More than our parents,children and spouses.A brother is a brother and a sister is a sister but if at the end of the day that sibling can also be there for the social situations that I cannot completely understand and cross the racial boundaries I cannot cross,for the sake of my daughter and potential second child,our home would be thrilled to welcome another child from the African diaspora.This does not negate that we would be thrilled to welcome any child,any gender,any ethnicity and any language.

Erica2 on

OMG the ignorance on this blog is alarming.

@Cris, there are people of African decent all over the world, what rock do you live under? I am of African decent and I live in Virginia hence I am AFRICAN-American. The Haitians are decendents of slaves coming from the Africa slave trade so Haitians are of African decent…duh…History 101. For your awareness and enlightenment, African slave ships did not just stop in America, most islands including Haiti have a large population of individuals of African decent. Haitians are from the NATION of Haiti so their NATIONALITY is HAITIAN….ETHNICITY is a different concept…ETHNICITY decribes your ethnic background if you are BLACK no matter your nationality your ethnicity is of AFRICAN decent. Hopefully you have learned the difference between ETHNICITY and NATIONALITY, and will not come across nearly as ignorant as you have on this blog. Yes I am African-American, I have a strong love for my country and my culture (FYI most minorities do) and I like to socialize with my African-American peers to discuss life’s experiences that often differ from White America’s/Hispanic-Americans, Asian-Americans etc. Your ignorance proves my point even more. Zahara needs a sibling of African decent, so that she may share her cultural heritage with another family member with shared heritage and identity. How could Zahara learn about her AFRICAN heritage from people with your backwoods mentality? Thank God, Brad and Angelina are exposed to different cultures and do not share your lack of understanding, but sometimes that exposure is not enough. Please take a history lesson and refrain from commenting on Black issues, until you do.

@Elle, skin color does matter in America always has and always will. Please tell me what Angelina could tell Zahara about living life as a black woman, she has never been black a day in her life.

@Brannon….I can’t believe you have the audacity to compare having blonde hair to being of a certain race…..you certainly have the right hair color you are nothing more than a clueless sterotypical dumb blonde!

@Sarah, to answer your question I do feel that they should adopt another child of African decent. Brad and Angelina are millionaires ten times over either one of them could stop acting and spend the necessary time with their children. Angelina proposed that very idea in the article.

“We’re not opposed to adopting another child. But we want to make sure we can give everybody special time.” “While family has clearly become Jolie’s top priority, acting has become a secondary pursuit – one she might give up entirely in the not-too-distant future. QUOTE “I don’t think I’ll do it much longer,” she says.

JM on

wow, certainly a lot of discussion going on here. i love the jolie-pitts both parents seem to exude love for their children which is just so wonderful. i wish not every debate about this family had to be centred around the ethnicity of their children but maybe that’s unavoidable at this stage.
they sound like a loving family with happy kids, i loved her comments about shiloh and it should hopefully put to rest all those horribly ignorant comments that angelina doesn’t want a girly girl and for that reason has forced shiloh to dress like a boy and cut her hair.

i totally agree with what another poster said, that everyone should have the size of family that they can handle. if one is all you need then that’s great and no one should judge you for it. i have 5 kids under the age of 8 and i love it. it is a really personal decision and no one should be put down for wanting either fewer or more kids than someone else.

anyway, lovely family. i am staying out the race debate because hey, i’m white and i’ve had it easy, i have no idea what i’d feel like if i was black and what i might want or need in a family. i will say that if they adopt and where they adopt from should of course be up to them. only they know what’s right for their family.

M on

I think that when Zahara would express her wish to have a same skin coloured sibling, Brad and Angie would seriously consider it. They’ve said that before, too.

Haylo on

I think that those attacking Jessica have a rose-colored glasses view of society. While it would be lovely indeed if the color of someone’s skin did not “color” their life experiences, it’s not the way it is. I’m sorry but that is the plain truth. I as black person who grew up in predominantly white areas had completely different things happen to me, be said to me and be expected of me than my white friends. If all of us walked into a store, I was the one that got looked at sideways. We were all dressed alike, we all spoke alike. The only difference was that I was black, they were white and/or asian. I know many black children who grew up or are growing up in white families. Those who had parents that made sure to have someone of color involved in their lives are living a much healthier life than those who did not. As a whole my friends who did not get exposed to black culture had a really rough time growing up and most especially now that they are adults. It is not wrong for Jessica or anyone else to hope that Angelina and Brad consider the fact that even with all the love surrounding her, Zahara still needs to be exposed to black or if you like it African culture. There should be someone with whom she will be able to commiserate and share the same life experiences with. The plain truth is that even with all the money she will have access to, there are situations in which her siblings will be treated vastly different then she will.
I am not sure why that sentiment upsets so many people.

Erin on

Angelina herself a few years ago said she adopted Pax because she wanted Maddox to have a sibling who looked like him. She said it might be hard for Zahara to not have a sib who looks like her, since all the others do. SHE BROUGHT IT UP!

Manal on

Haylo: Are really black people treated that differently in America?..I am an Arab who have never been to America so i do not really know who it really is, because here in Jordan where I am from , i don’t feel that black people are discriminated against.

I love Angelina Jolie, her kids are beautiful!:)

Jen on

@ everyone who thinks Jessica has issues:

I was adopted as a baby and have done a lot of research into the emotional impact of adoption on the adopted child. Research STRONGLY indicates that children DO have issues with the fact that they do no look like their adopted family. It has also indicated that a bi-racial adoption can be more emotionally tramatic in the long run because of the visual differences within the family. Adopted children more often than not crave genetic similarities, so it’s not at all racist or ignorant to say that it would be nice for Zahara to have someone close to her who looks like her. Before anyone jumps down my throat, I am NOT saying bi-racial adoptions are bad. Not at all. All I’m saying is that it is true that adopted children can desire to have relatives that resemble them and people should chill about Jessica’s comment.

mariana on

she doesn’t talk about Pax personality does anyone else notice it ?

jessicad on

What about Pax? She didn’t mention much on him like she did the others.

I do remember her saying she wanted Maddox to have someone who looked like him, so why wouldn’t she do the same for Zahara? I think you guys are making a big deal out of that for no reason, she’s the one who brought it up.

I also don’t think you have to get married, the divorce rate is ridiculous. I’ve never really wanted to, and with their history I can’t understand why people expect it from them.

Gaia and Laban's mom on

I don’t understand why people are trying to dismiss jessica’s comment. I know that the kids are being raised globally, but there home seems to be New Orleans and L.A. So these children will be American and therefore have to deal with the racial and socio-economic tensions in this country. All of them. But, I think that that their parents are preparing them to be aware of these issues. They really do seem prepared but, some adoptive parents I’ve met are definiely not.

Its can be difficult growing up and nobody looks like you. Even in biologically related families. My son is adopted and looks nothing like his sister who is pale and takes after her father who is french hugenot but, he looks like me as I’m of afro/indo caribbean descent and he is from my country. I do believe this will make him more comfortable.

Some people are so oblivious to what other members of humanity go through.

Erica on

People who are attacking Jessica are clearly missing her point (or else simply don’t have the point of reference to understand what she is saying). If you have never experienced life as a minority (whether as a black/asian/hispanic etc. living amongst predominantly white people, or a white person living around mostly people of color), please do not make assumptions about what having a sibling of the same ethnic background may or may not mean to Zahara. Angelina herself stated that she wanted a sibling for Maddox who “looked like him”: IMO, this shows a great deal of cultural sensitivity that unfortunately, many in this world still lack.

It would be nice if society truly was colorblind in which case this conversation would be moot. Zahara and all of her siblings are beloved members of their family regardless of race, but that does not mean that race doesn’t matter. I’m sure Angelina and Brad will do whatever is best for their kids whatever they decide.

Annie on

As Zahara experiences the reality of race as it is constructed in this world, having someone to share her experiences with, who can personally relate, will be nice. For example, it can be as simple as her white friends not “getting” black hair; her being the only girl not being asked out for dates in her predominantly white school; people assuming she can dance; being followed in stores while her white friends are not, etc. etc. While her parents can construct a perfect, racially harmonious home life (which I seriously doubt given Jolie’s complete lack of sensitivity to the plight of black actresses or the significance of her taking African roles), Zahara will still experience the significance of race due to the perception of society at large. It’s a part of life. Many people of color raised in majority white communities (or families) have these experiences in silence. To have someone to relate and share these experiences is invaluable.

Angi on

I think it is great she adopted children,but there is something about her that rubs the wrong way. It just feels like she is playing another role.

CelebBabyLover on

jessicad- I agree! Angie herself has mentioned adopting Pax partially so Maddox would have a brother who looked like him, and also wanting to “balance the races” so that each child has someone who looks like them. I think that’s why people have been talking about them adopting an African sister for Zee.

I, too, hope that they adopt an African sister for Zee. And I have a feeling that they will adopt again at some point, since Angie did not say they are “not opposed” to adding to the family. I don’t know why, but I see them with seven kids in the end. :)

In regards to getting married….I believe very strongly in marriage myself, but I also realize it’s not for everyone. In Angie and Brad’s case, like jessicad, I can understand why they don’t want to get married given their history. They’ve both been married three times between them (Angie twice, Brad once), and obviously none of those marriages was succesfull. So I definitely understand why neither of them is eager to go into another marriage!

Oh, and I love her comments about the kids! It seems like most of us were correct in guessing that Shi simply looks up to her brothers and wants to be like them! And it sounds like Miss Viv may just be trying to be like her big sis Zee. :)

mimi on

Didn’t Angelina give birth to Shiloh in Africa so that Zahara and her that connection between them?

CelebBabyLover on

Also, in regards to Pax being left out…..From what I understand, this isn’t the full interview (which makes sense, since obviously Vanity Fair is going to want people to buy their magazine….which they’d be less likely to do if they could read the whole interview online before the magazine came out). So perhaps Pax is mentioned in the full interview. :)

Laylin on

All of those attacking Jessica’s comment need to be attacking Angelina because she is the one who mentioned (in an interview from 1-2 years ago) possibly adopting a child that Zahara could relate to just as she did for Maddox.

Jen on

I’m not going to discount Jessica’s point, but there are issues involved in adding another child to the family that are more important than race. I think things like the age of the child, the culture, and language are more important.

I don’t care what Angelina said about Maddox/Pax in the past, they shouldn’t adopt another child because they want Zahara to have someone that looks like her, they should adopt because they want to add another child to their family. The idea of adopting a child *for* another child makes me very uncomfortable. Children involved with international adoption, especially older children, struggle with attachment (if you look back at Pax’s first photos, that little boy looked shell shocked). You should be able to know that your parents adopted you because they wanted *you* not because they wanted someone who looked like another child. I’d like to believe that they adopted Pax because they wanted *him*, and were ready to welcome another child, and that their desire for another Asian child played into the country they chose to adopt from, but that Pax came first.

Also, there is a difference between being African and of African descent. A child from Haiti is of African descent, but they are not African. African is not an ethnicity (Africa is made up of hundreds of different ethnic groups). It is a continent with different ethnic and racial groups mixed in (including white and arab folks). Just like Europe, Asia, North and South America are continents made up of different races and ethnic groups. I am of European descent, but I am not European.

Misty on

“I know it’s quite obvious that Elle, Cris, and Brannon are white and have sucked up the “post-racial, we’re all equal” bs the media has been spewing since Obama got elected. I mean seriously they should go to a club where they are the only white person and everyone else is black or asian or hispanic everyday and see how they feel.”

Actually Jessica, I’ve been there and done that. You may see this as me being patronizing (since a lot of people mistakingly do). I am a Caucasian woman, and I was by far in the minority where I grew up. My parents’ friends were all very diverse. In fact, you know how in some circles, kids call their parents’ closest friends their Aunts & Uncles? That was us. As such, my “Aunts & Uncles” (because I love each and every one of them as if they were blood relatives) are African-American, Italian, Mexican, Austrian, Japanese, and Korean.

I still live within 15 miles of where I grew up and went to school. I had very few Caucasian friends up until I was in about 7th or 8th grade, and I only met them because I played sports in a different city (only because they had an opening, and they didn’t in my neighborhood). The majority of my friends were Hispanic, Japanese, Chinese & Korean. I learned a lot about their cultures because maybe unlike other people, I was interested in them. I can honestly tell you that I never saw any of them as truly being different from me because we are all human. Yes, there are morons out there that will judge you regardless of how successful, beautiful, or whatever you are, but I’m not one of them. In fact, if you want to know the truth, I think Zahara is a beautiful little girl, and I do think that her parents will do everything in their power to make her feel not just beautiful, but strong, smart and happy as she grows up. I also think that they will do everything in their power to make sure she understands her heritage.

Candice on

The ignorance and stupidity on this blog is astounding. Jessica, humans are ALL the same deep down; Race is only an issue if you make it into one.

I am an African American girl adopted by white parents and my two older siblings are both white. You can not imagine how happy and thankful I am that my parents welcomed me in their family. I had a great childhood and they raised me to be a wonderful young woman, I can not imagine having a better family. Are some of you really trying to tell me that its not possible for white people and black people to relate to each other as humans beings? Are you really trying to tell me that black parents or black siblings would have been better or more emotionally supportive to me growing up? If so, that is EXTREMELY offensive… I love my family to death and I NEVER had any significant issues growing up. When ever I had problems, I went to my parents and they made me feel better. Race has nothing to do with it AT ALL.

Anyone who says otherwise is just ignorant and obviously does NOT know how an adopted kid feels. I just can’t believe some people would waste time making a big deal out of insignificant things like this. Just be happy that Zahara and other kids like her were adopted by loving families. By the sound of some of these comments, its almost as if some of you believe these kids would be better off raised in poverty just as long as they are raised by black people.

brannon on

Wow. The irony in those who fear for the bias Z is sure to face yet have no problem stereotyping caucasians. My blonde comment was obviously sarcasm and meant to show that while children benefit from positive self-images it is entirely possible to support such images from both within and outside the family. My entire doctorate (yes, blondes can have them) focused on this issue and its no different than boys raised by lesbians, girls with gay fathers, etc. Family loves you but doesn’t need to look like you. I’m quite certain Z is far from suffering and will manage to grow up more culturally aware than most.

Luna on

I’m white, I have five biological white children with my white husband, and have never experienced first hand a situation like the Jolie-Pitts. I’m staying out of the race debate because in the end, kids will only know what they’re raised with. I think Zahara will adjust just fine to her sibling-race situation, whatever it may be.
I think its really smart of Angie and Brad to know where to draw the line. For some families, that’s one child. My friend’s mom had eight kids and that worked fantastically for them because they are the most selfless people I know. I have five and that works very well with my family. It’s about knowing what works for you. Angelina and Brad will do, in all family respects, what works for them.

Haleiwa on

Why is Angelina being held to a standard of providing another Black or African sibling for Zahara. Tom Cruise’s son is clearly grew up surrounded by White people. Now that he has two White sister, should Tom and Katie run out to get him a Black brother? How about Michelle Phieffer? How about every parent make sure the ethnicity of all their children via adoption are in equal numbers? Joely Fisher better get another African child because her ethnikc numbers don’t add up. Angelina and Brad should build their family based on what will make for a happy, loving and caring home. And, they are free to change or rework that basis as they see fit. Whatever their reasoning for adopting Pax is not a one size fit all when it comes to adopting another child.

Mia on

I love the Jolie-Pitts. Can’t wait to read this full interview + see “SALT” next month!

Also-after reading these comments I am surprised to find a brooding “race” topic + thought it would be more comments on “Shiloh wants to be a boy” since there have been so many big debates on her boy clothes/haircut.

Gaia and Laban's mom on

Haleiwa, we don’t know them so for all we know the people you mentioned could’ve been unaffected by being the only person of their race around. Or they could’ve been deeply impacted by it. Plus, I don’t think anyone is saying that this should be a standard, just that incorporating an adopted childs original heritage into their lives in benefitial and that includes having people who look like them. Anyway this is clearly an idea angelina suscribes to because its part of the reason they adopted Pax.

Julia on

Hey, and what about poor Leni Klum, for all have been said above? Poor girl might be suffering from living the only white among the kids? Shouldn’t Heidi adopt another white girl for Leni to be happy?

I’m sure that Angelina and Brad love them all and they care about their children’ ethnicity (just remember when Angelinf couldn’t find African-American Barbie for Z), but in the end why can’t Z talk to her mother about ‘race issues’ if they ever appear? Will Angelina say that she doesn’t love her because Z’s skin is not white? That’s stupid.

Butterfly on

As parents who have created a diverse, multicultural family and have worked hard to expose their children to other cultures I think Brad and Angelina have this race issue covered. If Zahara experiences any type of racism she has family members and adult friends of her parents that she will be able to turn to for advice, support and encouragement if she needs to a black woman to go to.

Personally when I encountered overt acts of racism in my predominantly white HS and college I didn’t turn to my little sister for support. Sometimes the sibling isn’t the best person to turn to. I went to teachers, older family members and my “God mother”for the support I needed. Also the support of loving parents is so much more important than having a “black” sister.

Gaia and Laban's mom on

And Candice that’s your experience and I’m glad you had a positive one but, that’s not the only possible come when people choose to adopt. So you can’t speak for every adopted child out there. Also I don’t see where anyone said anything about adoptions should be homo-racial.

Elle on

Wow, Erica2 way to go with judging what I know. Did I ever say colour isn’t an issue in America? Uhm. Nope. Did I say what kind of family or environment I grew up in? Again. Nope. You have no idea what my background is. I still disagree with what Jessica I said. I am entitled to my opinion. I can disagree but I’d prefer if people didn’t then decide that means I’m white, American, have no idea about racial issues or have never been in a situation where I’ve been the only person of my race there.

Akira on

It’s cute hearing that Angelina and Brad lets the children express their individuality. I don’t blame Shiloh for wanting to be one of “the boys.” She is a wonderful mother and it’s true life is complete with children, I will miss Angelina when she quits acting but at least she’s happy.

Lorus on

I’m pretty sure they have an nanny from African descent.

I agree completely with Candice. Race is only an issue if you let it be one. Zee is obviously not going to be growing up in some small Southern town.

Electra on

“Race is only an issue if you let it be one. Zee is obviously not going to be growing up in some small Southern town.”

Yeah because that’s the only place race is an issue! I grew up in NYC and while my experiences have hardly been “jim crowe”, I’ve had negative encounters based on my race. I don’t think my expereinces are invalid or that I brought them upon myself because I MADE race and issue. I hate this mentality because its places blame and heartache on person who feels like they’re a victim of prejudice. As if its all in their head and if they say it won’t exist then it won’t.

Electra on

P.s- Angie looks sensational on this cover! Lovin’ how she makes the big fluffy mom bang look sexy!

Lee on

@electra, I can’t believe you are comparing yourself to years of bad treatment experienced by minorities in the US. Did you even read what you typed? You need to learn more history before you try another lame attempt of lecturing us about race issues

Haleiwa on

Gaia and Laban’s mom,

And we don’t know if Z has been affected or unaffected by being an “only” in her family. And, as I said in my post, Angelina and Brad’s position on the subject could have, eee gads, CHANGED. Or, other thinking has been incorporated when they consider adding on to her family.

In general, I found it quite bizarre that in this day and age people seem to think that any of Asian descent is inter-changeable. It’s like the ignorant 10th grade teacher I had who wanted an Thai kid to have a conversation in “their language” with a Japanese. Angelina and Brad seem to be smarter than that and whatever it is they said to the public, I’m sure a lot more went into adopting Pax than simply he and Mad have Asian-features, considering they are from different descents. They are allowed to change course and should not be beholden to something they said 2 years ago. It’s ridiculous.

Dee on

I agree about marriage being temporary for most people (many of my friends get married for the wedding) but anyone who has had kids with a person, ended that relationship, and then seen how the other parent moves on and maybe has other kids (kids he/she lives with) and spends more time with them, knows that kids aren’t really forever. If Angie and Brad split up (married or not) one parent will spend plenty more time with the kids than the other parent. The parents will be happy to move on and enjoy a new partner but the kids will suffer. It’s not judgment – just common sense.

People today care about their personal needs and so kids are secondary. Nothing wrong with that since the kids will grow up and have things be about them. My parents got divorced several times each. I felt bad then but now I don’t care because I get it now. I don’t like staying in the same relationships for more than a few years either. I get bored and most of the people I know who love their partners get bored after a certain amount of time. It’s why we don’t get married because it easier legally to walk away that way – kids or no kids.

Dee on

I don’t know why everyone is jumping on Jessica for QUOTING Angelina about why they wanted another Asian son and why they would like to adopt a black child for Z. So if Jessica is racist, then is Angie a racist too?

Then again Jessica should realize that Angie says stuff all the time and then changes her mind. The never going to cheat with a married man, the not working for a while after adopting Pax, the reason they won’t get married (because of gay marriage) and now whether they’ll adopt a black child so Z won’t feel so different. Angie seems a bit flaky so holding her to every quote seems unfair.

Angie and Brad had the twins and it just seems to have worn them out. Even with all the nannies, they both seem tired and neither looks as good as a few years ago. Parenting is hard so if they want to stop, then that’s their business. If Angie is worried about Z, that’s what therapy is for.

Electra on

Lee-

“I grew up in NYC and while my experiences HAVE HARDLY BEEN “jim crowe”, I’ve had negative encounters based on my race.”

Learn how to read before you attempt to invalidate what I say.

romy on

I’m not sure they should adopt anymore. I hate to say not give a kid a home, but you can’t adopt every child. There hands seem to be full, and the nannies can’t really make up for mom and dad. I have read too much about them, what you see is NOT what you get with them.

Marina on

I personally believe that the race/weigh/color/etc. is an issue for a child if someone point it to him/her, this is for both the attacker and the victim (meaning that someone point the attacker the issue). I’m not saying that is an imaginary thing, it’s very real!
Anyway I’m pretty sure that Zee will be okay, whatever she get an sister that look like her or not. It’s not as important to have someone who look like you that if you have a great support system and great parent and siblings that would do anything for you!

JMO on

Since when does one have to have more then one person in their family look like them to “relate”??

Z is a happy child who probably doesn’t see color. She’s raised with a rainbow of love! If she needs people to relate to she can pick up a book or watch a movie with many great afrian american women to inspire to be like. She doesn’t need one in her family to feel included! I think Z will be just fine!

Marcus Proud father of 4 soon to be 5 on

I have 4 adopted kids

2 sons

Thien Vietnam
Jeevan India

Amina Liberia
Selena Mexico

My children love pointing out their differences

They can even tell you where their countries are

I am teaching them to be proud of themselves and their heritage. Happily considering a child from the Philippines

Angelina did bring about balancing the family providing Maddox with an asian child (PAX) and Z with another african child. Obviously the twins through them for a loop.She and brad even mentioned that they did not foresee twins coming. I am sure she is aware that Z is the only african and she probably will adopt from africa for her.

Rana on

There’s a lot of talk about what Angelina may or may not have said when she adopted Pax, but here’s her quote in full, so we all know what we’re talking about:

“Something changed for me with Shiloh. We had Mad and Z, and neither looked like Mommy or Daddy. Then suddenly somebody in the house looked like Mommy and Daddy. It became clear to us that it might be important to have somebody around who is similar to the other children so they have a connection. Mad’s been very excited that his brother is from Asia.”

So it seems that Pax wasn’t adopted because of his brother; rather, they always intended to adopt more kids but thought that as long as they were doing so, it might be nice for the kids to have a connection with someone else in the family. I remember another lovely quote from Angie where she talked about Brad and she wondering whether they should adopt from Vietnam since Maddox was from Cambodia, given the history of those two countries, and that in the end they decided it was precisely for that history they should adopt from there – the brotherhood and friendship their boys share is all the more meaningful because of it.

Tee on

Goodness, I’m surprised at the number of people that are speaking rudely towards Jessica! You don’t have to agree with her opinion but it’s her opinion and I see no reason why it shouldn’t be respected! You really can disagree or say something without being rude if you just think through your words carefully. What purpose does being rude solve?

CelebBabyLover on

Rana- Exactly! And I want to point something else out about Pax’s adoption. Shortly after Angie adopted Maddox, Cambodia stopped allowing international adoption. So that’s why Angie and Brad couldn’t go to Cambodia to adopt a brother for Maddox. :)

trinh on

you can never tell w/ this crazy site. i thought everyone would be all over her shiloh comments. i love shiloh. i think pax seems a bit wild, but i love him. and i have always thought she’d adopt another african baby, but if she doesn’t, that’d be fine too. a family is what you make of it, and they have clearly made a fabulous one.

Lee on

@electra, you do realize that not everyone thinks like you, right? I can read just fine. You just need to learn not compare yourself to minorities. I’m sorry but nothing you have experienced can compete with what they still go through everyday. Maybe it would help if you actually knew history

Helene on

Why is Electra’s experience of being treated poorly because of her race not important Lee? What am I missing? Maybe I am not reading correctly, which is possible.

NOT attacking anyone so please don’t attack me for my question.

Electra on

Lee, I AM a minority. Not that really makes a difference. Everyone can have a negative experience, even white people. Shocker.

Lee on

@Helene , the fact that you even have to ask why shows that you just ignore a good portion of history just like electra. I’m sorry but I can’t respect anyone looking for a pity party like her.

Helene on

Electra, I thought you were saying from your post that you were a minority. I am sorry for the experiences you have been through. No one should have to go through that.

Jen on

Lee I am questioning your reading comprehension. Where did Electra, in any of her first comments say that she WASN’T a minority? You attacked her because she said her experiences weren’t “jim crowe” and you automatically assumed that meant she MUST be white. That’s ridiculous. And even if she was, if someone called her a racist term based on her race, regardless of her race, that still makes it racist and still makes it unacceptable. You make a huge and incorrect assumption, and we all know what happens when you assume.

And as for Jessica, I think the reason why people have been attacking her, is not because of her opinion that having another African child would be beneficial, but that somehow Angelina and Brad are obligated to adopt another African child (a *black* African child) *for* Zahara. Children aren’t puppies, you don’t adopt a child for another child. You adopt a child because of a desire to parent, although you might pick a region or nation to adopt from because of circumstances like theirs. Also, Jessica seems to make the assumption that Angelina and Brad will be unable to provide Zahara with the appropriate level of support and guidance with regard to her race because they are both white, when that’s a bit of a stretch. Race relations around the world are not the same as they are in the U.S. and the family already spends a limited amount of time in this country.

Helene on

Lee, Electra was treated poorly for her race and I feel bad for her. How does this make me ignoring history? What on earth are you talking about?

Blythe on

Have you nothing else to do Lee but go online and insult people? It must be very therapeutic and rewarding for you because you do it constantly.

I love Angelina Jolie, I hope Zahara doesn’t feel isolated out but I think we all feel that in our lives for a myriad of different reasons.Race is just one of the potential reasons why we can feel different from our families.. It isn’t the end of the world.

Electra on

@ Lee

I’m not looking for pity! As I said before, my experiences as a minority can hardly be compared with the time of “jim crowe” but, I have been the “victim” of prejudice. I shared my experience because a few people seem to think that racial prejudice has been eliminated.

I do not live life with a chip on my shoulder. I’m not one of those people who feels theres been no lessening of racial tension. I don’t think any of that matters to you since you’re here just to pick fights.

I don’t think anyone should waste anymore time on you.

NikNak on

I think people who have not lived the African-American minority experience really have no place to determine whether or not having someone in the household who looks like Zahara is beneficial to her development.

Race is a very very hot topic in America. So much so that you can’t bring it up w/o a debate occurring (this post being an obvious example).

I’ve lived in Jamaica, a country where it is over 90% Black, and America where it is 15% Black. There is a huge difference about how Black people are perceived in each country.

Ignoring superficial things like “how to style Black hair”, there are real issues like “Why did this person call me a n*****” (IT STILL HAPPENS) or why in schools, for the most part Blacks and Whites don’t hang out together. Or likely in Zahara’s case, why Black people call her names like oreo, or wannabe-White, b/c she doesn’t have much experience w/ Black culture.

Jenn on

NikNak,

And I think that anyone outside of the family really has no place to determine how this child should or should not be raised or how many siblings she has or what color they are.

That’s up to her PARENTS and only what they know what is best for THEIR children.

Niko on

Jessica, why do you assume Zahara is lonely because she’s the only black person in the family? That’s quite silly to me, no offense. She’s growing up in a loving family…and she’s NOT being neglected. So what are you talking about? Let’s not make this about race. Her siblings—no matter what corner of the world they come from—are just that, her siblings. So what if she’s the only black child? Angelina doesn’t have to adopt another Ethiopia girl(or any black baby, for that matter) to make Zahara fit in. She’s got Shiloh and Vivienne. Regardless of skin color, they’re her sisters.

ecl on

She’s been talking about quitting for her family for years. I’ll believe it when I see it. It seems like she wants to present herself as a devoted mom and she thinks that means not having a career. If you enjoy working, work! But quit saying that you aren’t going to and then continuing on.

NikNak on

@Jenn,

I never gave any recommendations as to what Angelina and Brad should do.

I only noted that the Non-minority people downplaying the racial issues in America are oblivious, and wouldn’t have any clue about what it is like for a Black person in a America.

CelebBabyLover on

Helene- I agree with you!

m-dot on

Jessica I totally get where you are coming from. I think it would be a great idea for them to adopt a black female child from wherever. It would be greatly beneficial for Zahara to have someone in the household who identified w her skin, her hair texture, her shape, and what she’s up against in American society. All of the “exposure” in the world can’t beat a family member who REALLY “gets it”.

It also saddens me that people don’t take marriage seriously. Children you raise until adulthood, and they go off to live their own lives. Marriage is what’s supposed to be forever. Whether it works out or it doesn’t, that should be the goal. I would never voluntarily have kids w some guy I didn’t feel committed enough to marry (and marry him). All of that “it’s like we’re married” stuff is for the birds. Ask the millions of baby mamas out there how committed these boyfriends were to their “families” once they’d broken up.

Susan on

Yes, Angelina, it’s “EASY” when they are small. If you have an army of nannies, private jets, and personal assistants. Just another celebrity totally out of touch with reality. And I’m sorry, I don’t believe for a second that she comes home and regularly has little dance parties with her kids.

Kim on

Where did she say it was easy? where does it say she regularly has dance parties. She mentioned one day when that happened. If a celeb says raising kids is hard , naysayers mention the nannies ,teachers assistants etc. As for working Angie has filmed on average of 1 film a year. 2010 The Tourist, 2009 Salt, 2008-no films 2007 Wanted and Changeling. So in terms of filming she works less than 3 months a year.Most actress talk about working less ie Jennifer Lopez, Nicole Kidman, Reese etc. FYI I just read the interview and Angie never says its easy she says what’s in the quotes.That part about it being easy is not even in the article. Maybe the editor put that in the summary.

Susan on

To Kim:

“It’s easy when they’re small, she says, and don’t require much emotional support.”

And yes, I’m going to mention all the hired help she has, of COURSE that makes it easier. Had a rough night? Have the nanny watch the kids while you take a bath and a long nap. How many “real” moms can do this?

Jenn on

No NikNak, what you said is that non-African-American people didn’t have a right to comment (determine) whether having another black child in the family would be beneficial to Zahara. You didn’t just note that non-minorities wouldn’t “have a clue”.

And I basically said that regardless of what color any of us are (including you), it isn’t our place at all to determine what is beneficial for a child we don’t even know.

That determination is up to her parents, who, although white, know much more than anyone on this website, what is best for their child/children.

Rana on

Susan said: “And yes, I’m going to mention all the hired help she has, of COURSE that makes it easier. Had a rough night? Have the nanny watch the kids while you take a bath and a long nap. How many “real” moms can do this?”

Where did Angelina say she’s just a regular mom? She has expressed many, many times that they’re not a normal family and how grateful she is to have the luxuries she does, when many moms (including her own mother) struggle without. If she truly wanted to present some kind of “real mom” image she would hide the nannies, and never talk about them. Instead she freely discusses them and is happily photographed with them holding the twins on the balcony.

The only evidence I need that both Brad and Angelina are hands on parents is the way their children interact with them in public – that is, naturally, joyfully, without a hint of self-consciousness. Regardless of how much help they receive, the children and loved and well cared for and surely that is all that matters?

CelebBabyLover on

Rana- Right on, girl! Also, speaking of those pictures of Angie and the nanny on the balcony holding the twins….If you look at that whole series of pictures, you can see that initally Angie was holding Knox and the nanny was holding Viv. But then Viv began to cry and reach out for Angie. So Angie swapped Knox for her….and she settled practically the minute she was in Angie’s arms.

If Angie and Brad let the nannies do most of the work, Viv would likely seek out the nanny for comfort rather than Angie. And as for Angie eventually quitting working…..All Angie keeps saying is that she doesn’t think she’ll work for much longer. She’s never said she’s going to quite working immeditely, or even within the next few years. By “I don’t think I’ll work for much longer,” she might mean she may quit acting within the next ten years or even the next five years.

Or, at this point, she may not know EXACTLY when she’ll quit working, just that she feels she’s getting to the point where she feels she’ll quit working sooner rather than later.

m-dot- And getting married means you’ll never break-up? Also, I want to point out that Angie and Brad have each been married before (more than once in Angie’s case), so they know how it feels like to be married. So who are we to say that they don’t honestly feel as if they are already married? They may very well feel that their commitment to each other is stronger than their commitment was to their previous partners.

Bottomline: There’s no way we can know how Angie and Brad feel in terms of being committed!

CelebBabyLover on

“Had a rough night? Have the nanny watch the kids while you take a bath and a long nap. How many “real” moms can do this?” Actually, plenty of “real” moms can do that. It’s called having your husband/partner watch the kids while you have a bath and a long nap!

CelebBabyLover on

m-dot- I just want to say that I DO agree with your comment about Zahara. :)

Dion N. Cominos, Esq. on

That’s a good cover!

annabee on

who are we to say how many children brad and angelina should have…. this entire thread is entertaining… but ridiculous.

Callie on

I come from a multi-cultural family, and so did my mother, and the truth is that we don’t even think about it. It is such a non-issue that the notion of feeling “left out” is kind of ridiculous. I forget to notice my siblings are a different race than I am because my relationship with them is based on so much more.

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