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Katherine Heigl ‘Had No Idea’ How Tough Working Motherhood Is

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The decision to depart ABC’s Grey’s Anatomy was a direct result of Katherine Heigl‘s movie career, she says in a new interview with the Telegraph — but the two aren’t connected in the way most might think.

While en route to the Atlanta set of her new film Killers, the actress learned that she would welcome daughter Naleigh, now 18 months, two months earlier than expected.

“I thought, ‘I can do this,’” she recalls. “My mom was going to be there a lot. [Husband] Josh [Kelley] was going to be back and forth from Nashville, where he was just starting his album, which was just a two-hour drive away. I have a wonderful nanny. No problem.”

Heigl, 31, says she soon learned that successfully balancing work and new motherhood is often easier said than done!

“[I] had no idea what I was in for,” she confesses. “I ended up having one full-on anxiety attack and I threw my back out twice from stress. People will tell you how hard it is, but you have no idea until you experience it.”

After completing her obligation to Killers, Heigl resigned from the ABC drama and settled into life as a full-time mom. “It’s been great for us to have all of this time to be at home as a family,” she muses. “But I maybe shouldn’t care so much about what diaper wipes we use!”

While she is “really excited” about someday getting back to the set, Heigl says that “everything is about being a mom to me now.” At no time was that more apparent than during a recent baby-free trip to Napa with Kelley and her former Grey’s costar TR Knight. “The wine, the food, it was all amazing,” Heigl shares.

“But the look of absolute relief on Naleigh’s face when we walked in the door was heart-wrenching,” she continues. “How am I supposed to go away for work now and do this kind of thing? Can I manage it?”

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When does this woman not complain? First it was how difficult her job was now its how difficult motherhood is. Get over yourself – women face this everyday and make it (and not with an “acting” job or nannies either).

- Sadie on

How do you throw your back out from stress??

- Anonymous on

Is it just me or does Katherine Heigl talk about herself and motherhood all the time? Seriously we see stories on her more often than almost any other celeb. I don’t have a problem with her, I think she seems like a great mother. However, hearing about her and Naleigh once every two days has gotten old.

- Luna on

Yes Katherine, it’s SO hard being a mommy when you’re wealthy, married, work only a few months every year (or not at all), and have a full-time nanny.

Grrrl, how DO you manage?

Try trading in the husband, the million-dollar salary, and the nanny for a soul-sucking full-time job AND a second child. Then come back and let us know how hard it is.

- Alex on

How is what she’s saying being misinterpreted as “complaining”. Sounds to me like she’s saying what ALL working moms say…. IT’S TOUGH TO LEAVE YOUR KIDS TO GO TO WORK!

- Janna on

Wow – she doth protest far too much!

- Tracie on

Seriously ladies, leave her alone! She is talking about her daughter all of the time because she is giving interviews on the press circuit for her movies – and being asked about her daughter all of the time. I bet 99% of mothers talk only about their children all of the time too. Funny that ;)

- Emma on

Katherine is promoting a new movie, so of course she’s doing a lot of interviews right now, and it makes sense that she’s being asked about being a mom – especially since it’s directly affected her career.

I in no way perceive that she’s complaining, or saying that she has it harder than other working moms. She’s simply being honest in sharing her own experience. When I went back to work after maternity leave with my first child, I lasted three months (at a job I actually loved) before realizing that what I really wanted for the time being was to be at home full-time. She has the resources and the option to be with her family full-time, so why shouldn’t she do it?

- amyjoy on

Good lord she’s saying it’s hard work and you guys STILL freaking complain!!! There is nothing wrong with what she said, she’s been nothing but honest and seems to love talking about her daughter and I can’t believe there are negative comments. Being a Mom is hard for EVERYONE no matter how much money or fame you have. She did an amazing thing by adopting a child, quit smoking, quit cursing, quit a well paying job to be home with her child, and does nothing but talk about being a Mom and how much she loves her daughter, and people still complain, I can’t believe it.

- jessicad on

I also don’t get it. She isn’t complaining, she’s just saying that motherhood is tougher than she expected and I guess that’s what most women experience when becoming a Mom. Why are people so hard on her? In my impression she adores her daughter and she’s a happy mother, so what?

- denise on

Iam working 25+hrs a week and i have 3 kids (youngest 2yrs) and I have to manage alone,I drop my kids off in the am drive to work and pick them up in the afternoon right after i get off work..no nanny,not rich,no housekeeper or else!!

I like her but she should not complain!!!

- Simone on

Why is everyone except Janna so bitter? You only hear about comments from a celebrity if you go reading celebrity news, so what do you expect to find? This is someone honestly talking about their life, and how it has changed since having a child. Just because it may not mirror your own experience doesn’t make it ‘complaining’. If you don’t want to read about the lives of those who appear fortunate to you, steer clear of People.

- Amber on

I think she’s talking so much about motherhood because reporters are asking her about it.

- no name on

@ Janna – Well Katherine’s version of how tough motherhood is while working isn’t the same version for regular working class folks who work 9 to 5 jobs, overtime, on the weekends and a second job and do not have nannies. So YEAH she is complaining.

- Sadie on

oh my god chill out!

ick some of you really show how nasty women can be towards one another, if your not bitching then your just not happy are?

you no what i got from this, a new mum going through what all working mums go through, guilt, stress, worry about leaving their babies, the fact she has money or is an actor means sweet bugger all she is still human and still a mother!

we all have stuggles, why can’t just support another mum sharing her story….oooo i forgot old green eyes must make it tooooo tricky. :)

- hayley on

i’m not even a katherine fan, but i feel bad for her – she just can’t win. if this were jen garner talking, everyone would be like “its so refreshing to hear a celeb admit that being a mom is hard work instead of acting like it’s so easy” but since it’s katherine, no matter what she says, women can’t seem to see it as anything but complaining/whining. all i got from this interview is that she never knew how truly hard being a mom would be and that she’s stopped working so much so she can devote more time to motherhood. i’m not seeing the complaining part. and i’m a single, working mom! lol this interview didn’t offend me at all, but i agree with the other commenters saying that the comments just show how women bring other women down.

- amandamay on

So because someone is a celebrity, because they have more money than the average person they shouldn’t be allowed to express their experiences with motherhood? Their ups and down, their struggles or feelings of guilt or anxiousness? They should walk through life acting as if nothing ever affects them? Please people. Money does not change raw emotion and feelings. Katherine is a mother and she is human so she is going to experience these things just like everyone else. In the midst of a contractual obligation to complete a movie Katherine became a mother. So all of sudden she had to do both. In this article she is talking about these changes as they happened to her and her alone. I don’t see the problem with her expressing that and how she altered her lifestyle and work load to be more accommodating to her child.

- lizzielui on

For goodness sake!

She’s been doing a lot of interviews for her movies, and as many people here have pointed out, that means she’ll get a lot of questions about motherhood. I’m sure Katherine doesn’t edit CBB, right?!

Secondly, just because she’s an actress with a higher salary and has access to a nanny, it doesn’t mean she is devoid of all emotions and feelings that make her human and a MOTHER. Nearly all mothers in this world – whether rich or poor, single or married, nanny or nanny-less, working or on social welfare, part time or full time, will struggle with feelings of guilt, separation, stress and tiredness.

Do you people who are complaining about Katherine “complaining” (which, by the way, really doesn’t seem to be the case) not realise she’s also human? Judging her in this way just seems so petty!

I think some of you either need to give her a break OR stop reading CBB if you’re so tired of hearing her talk about her daughter! She seems like a devoted mother to a beautiful daughter, so kudos to her.

- Emily on

People on here are so bitter. Are you really so unhappy with your life that you can’t accept that people who have nannies and money still can find it difficult to juggle motherhood and life?

If you don’t want to read about rich people, why are you on this site?

- Anna on

Guys- she isn’t complaining! She is explaining why she resigned from Grey’s Anatomy and she is making the comment that she empathises so much more with other mothers now. Being a working Mum for the first time *is* a lot harder that what you think. Dropping your child off somewhere or leaving them with someone else and thinking of all the things you’ll miss while you’re away? Hard. She is fortunate enough to be in the financial position that she can do something about it and can afford to quit her job and stay home with her little girl for the time being.

I dunno. I used to dislike Katherine Heigl but I find her refreshing. Her interviews are interesting, she doesn’t come out with the typical scripted “OMGMYBABYISPERFERCTION-I’M SOOOOOO HAPPY!” She tells it how it really is. She is human.

- Elise on

OMG! I was just thinking the same thing as most of you. Get over yourself. Please. Try working full time 40-50 hrs per week, on your feet all day during pregnancy, minimum time off work (for me it is unpaid)and paying out the nose for daycare. Please be quiet when you moan and groan about how tough you have it. You really have no idea.

- Shannon on

She’s hardly complaining…don’t forget that reporters ask celebs questions because we read all of their interviews! If ‘you’ take the time to read this website, I’ll bet that you talk about being a mom, wife etc all the time too! What else do you have the time to do when you have kids? (That was a joke,by the way).

- etsy on

amandamay (yet again) you’ve hit the nail right on the head. i am not a fan of heigl (i have nothing against her though, i just don’t really follow her or her work). but it is SO true that there are double standards on this site. i’ve said it before and i can’t believe that people are so blatantly two-faced. it’s true jennifer garner gets and easy ride, and when she has a film to promote she talks about her kids and says pretty much the same things katherine is saying here. there are always double standards here and i don’t really understand why these people are treated differently.

- JM on

well one thing I like about reading her interviews is that her baby isn’t always SO ‘delicious’ and she isn’t always SO ‘over the moon.’ She’s annoying, but this stuff is more interesting to read than posts where every comment is, ‘oh she is great, her kids are great, I love her, all so beautiful’ etc etc. Also, she is being asked questions about motherhood, and she is sharing. She isn’t just putting tweets out about it. I don’t find her really complaining here, just agreeing with what all mothers say. It’s harder than it looks, and you really don’t know till it’s your turn to be a mom.

- romy on

also just because she is rich and famous does not mean she isn’t a person. she feels conflicted leaving her baby for work. it doesn’t matter that she is making millions compared to others’ thousands. it doesn’t matter if she has a nanny instead of daycare. she’s just a mom with emotions.

- romy on

Romy, you said it better than anyone!

- Janna on

I love to hear about women who want to focus on mothering when their little ones are small — I don’t think we hear enough about that!

- Liz on

I think the point that a lot of people on here are missing is that a child doesn’t care how rich you are or how many nannies watch them, they still poop, cry, eat crayons, and throw tantrums. Motherhood is hard for her as well as so many other parents because children are a challenge, especially when they are at the stage of learning to talk, communicate, and just adapt to their world. She doesn’t have a genetically engineered child that doesn’t cry and need mommy. She also is not genetically engineered to know exactly what her child will need, she finds out everyday. She is just discussing her experiences caring for her child and the emotions attached to that. What is really the big deal? I think some moms on this board want an award just because they are doing it with less money and with one parent. Reality is, it shouldn’t matter as long as you love your children. Every mother does the best they can with what they have and that is all that should matter.

- Lena on

Brilliant, Lena. I couldn’t agree more.

- Emily on

amandamay and JM- I’m with both of you! I too, have noticed that Jennifer Garner and some othe celeb moms DON’T seem to get criticized at all when they talk about motherhood being hard and struggling with the guilt of leaving their babies. Not only that, but Jen Garner also gets praised for admitting that she has help (comments such as “it’s so refreshing to see a celebrity who actually admits having a nanny!”).

Yet Katherine mentions having a nanny, and she gets criticized for it!

Also, if Katherine had talked about motherhood being easy for her, she’d be getting criticized for that, too (“Of course it’s easy when you have nannies, chefs, etc.” is a common comment people make when celebs talk about parenthood being easy). So what exactly is she supposed to say?

- CelebBabyLover on

There are some bitter girls on here. She is just talking alot about motherhood cause she is asked about it in her interviews.
And for all the mothers here that go: oow i have 100 kids and i work 400 hours a week..she shouldnt complain blahblah.
Well not every women is the same, you decided to have 100 kids, your choice, so yeay maybe thats hard.. but katherine finds one child hard, so what? everyone is different, one women finds it hard to raise one child and the other thinks that is easy and finds it hard to raise 100 kids. damn girls, stop being so bitter and just leave that girl alone.

- Inge on

Iunderstand the desire to stay home with a new baby. However I think she would have been more honest to mention she was already “debating” on leaving Grey’s Anatomy and the baby tipped the scales in favor of going. It’s easier to leave a job you are no longer happy with when faced with the a new baby.Curious to see how long she stops between movies.

- Butterfly on

so…just because she is rich and has a nanny, then she shouldn’t be able to say that is hard to leave her daughter when she goes to work? wow…there is a lot of jelous women on this site…just because some of you have to work more and don’t have a nanny, doesn’t mean that you are better moms OR that you can complain and Katherine can’t…
Relax people! jelousy is not good!

I totally agree with Emily and Lena!

- sgv on

So you’re saying she’s complaining…what would you call talking about how she’s everywhere and always talking about her child etc.?…kind of sounds like COMPLAINING to me.

Don’t point out someone else’s faults until you realize yours.

- Anonymous on

I didn’t take anything she said as complaining. She was expressing her feelings about leaving her daughter. Even if you have loads of money one can feel distress when separating from one child. Jeez, people are letting their bitterness cloud their judgements. Just because you are not wealthy does not mean that your feelings about motherhood, separating from you children, working etc are more valid than folks who have privileges. My opinion of KH hasn’t decreased but my opionion of some of you have deteriorated substantially.

- ll65 on

this is a baby celebrity blog, what you guys expect to read here? Of course she is talking about her new baby and motherhood!

I didn’t feel that she was complaining, just explaining how the process was for her, which I hear it’s different for each other. Please, if you don’t like her is fine, just not put things on her mouth!

- Marina on

If you want a forum to read about single mothers working 50 hours a week while pregnant with two children at home because that’s what you relate to, there’s an easy solution-get off this site and onto another one. Period. This is a site devoted to rich, famous parents and their children born into such privilege, and anyone who willingly comes to this site to read what these well-off parents have to say only to whine about them opening their mouths when they are contractually obliged to do interviews is looking for attention, sympathy, praise, or (probably) all three.

I am seriously sick of the blatant bias people have on this site towards some parents and not others. Jennifer Garner could talk about the specific mechaninics of changing her baby’s diaper and people here would want to nominate her for a Pulitzer. Nicole Richie was a drug addict jailed while pregnant and now because she does what every semi-decent parent should do-love and care for their children while placing them above all else-she’s Mother of the Year.

Yet Katherine Heigl talks openly and honestly about the difficulty of balancing children and career-and how no one can avoid that difficulty regardless of their privilege-and people rake her over the coals. Katherine isn’t complaining, but the people wanting a medal for “having it worse than her” sure are.

- Lauren on

Lauren – BRAVO!!

- Lachesis7 on

Well, it is hard to be a working mom for all moms. But I wish I had the option of NOT working and staying home whenever I wanted to. Must be nice AND have a nanny. It would sure be easier.

I’m happy she loves being a mom but she really can’t relate to working moms that have to work and don’t have alot of money.

- TJ on

I’m guessing if Katherine was quoted saying how easy the transition into motherhood was for her, she’d get slammed, as well.

There’s no winning with her. It’s similar to posts about the Cruise family. People always complain about something.

- Ashlee on

I agree, in this case Katherine didn’t say anything wrong and I don’t think she was complaining about how hard motherhood is. I think perhaps the headline mislead people and therefore they read a context into her interview that just wasn’t there. I do think it’s interesting that she now says she left Grey’s for her movie career when before she said it was because she became a mom. Finally she spoke with honesty. It was obvious she left for her movie career. You don’t leave a hit show because you became a mom and want to stay home with your child and promptly go out and film movie after movie. Admitting she is a working mom makes her a little more likeable because she is finally being honest.

- Catca on

Being new to parenthood and taking care of and raising a child is difficult, whether you have caviar money or tuna fish money. I happen to like Katherine and she “shoots straight from the hip” and can be a bit caustic. If she were a man, like say Dave Grohl who straight out referred to a female celebrity as a skank and got praised on this board by other women for doing so, there wouldn’t be a peep out of any one on this blog.

If you have difficulty raising a child on your income, that’s on you. Too bad, so sad. That has nothing to do with Katherine as she did not create your situation. She loves her child, she’s in the never-ending gushing stage, as most new moms are prone to do, and she’s surprised by the reality versus the fantasy. Nothing new here.

- Haleiwa on

Yeah well Katherine is NO Jennifer Garner!. People can more relate to Jen and Jen isn’t constantly giving interviews or blabbing about how tough her life is or her job is. So if Katherine doesn’t want flack then she should shut it.

- Sadie on

Wow! Why so mean?
She sounds like she is a great mother that wants to be with her daughter. NOT to have a nanny take care of her, what’s wrong with that?
She is saying it is tough doing it all and sometimes it’s just not possible. I like her honesty, because there are some days when I think to myself…is it just me?

- simone on

First she spent too much time complaining about the hardships of her work. Now she’s complaining about the hardships of being a mother. She needs to focus on the positive.

- Shannon on

Money or not, she went on a 5 day food and wine trip without the kid and was surprised by the look of “relief” on the baby’s face when they returned? Something tells me the baby spends more time with the nanny than with Heigl.

- Luci on

As women we need to support each other and yeah she might come off as complaining but she is new to motherhood and its demands!

Perhaps we could give her a break!

- Michelle on

Luci that was totally uncalled for! She takes a vacation for some fun time with her husband and you bash her as a neglectful mom? Good God.

- torgster on

torgester- I agree! Also, she never said she was “surprised” by Naleigh’s relieved look. Just that it was “heart-wrenching” to see that she obivously had had a bit of a hard time with mommy and daddy being gone.

I also want to point out that Naleigh has a father, too, and Katherine also mentioned that her mom helps out. So I’m guessing that most of the time when Katherine is gone for work or whatever, Naleigh is with her father or grandmother. :)

Lauren- I mostly agree with your comment, but let me try to explain about Nicole Richie. I don’t think most people are trying to say she’s mother of the year. Just that it’s amazing to think that, upon becoming pregnant for the first time, she changed over night. It’s never an easy thing for a drug addict (or any type of addict, for that matter) to kick their addiction, even for their spouses and kids. It is extremely difficult, especially when you go cold turkey as Nicole seemed to do.

I think most people (myself included) are just saying they are proud of Nicole for being able to change her life around (and especially for being commited to changing pretty much as soon as she got pregnant) and also WANTING to change her life around. Not all celeb parents do that, which is I think one of the reasons people find it so refreshing that Nicole did.

- CelebBabyLover on

sadie since you the negative one, and 90% of people who have commented think your wrong maybe its you thats needs to hush up………

i don’t relate in any way to jen…how could i , i don’t no the first real thing about her, i only know what she wants me to know, i find katherine refreshing, there is a marked diffrence from saying ‘oh i wish i could have a lay in, oh i wish i could go on more hoildays’ then talking about the guilt you feel leaving your child, or worring about gettingthe balance right.

btw any who thinks leaving your kids to have a litle r&r is bad parenting needs to watch that pedestal they have put themselves on ……….its a long way down here with the rest of us normal mums.

- hayley on

@ Hayley and what you need to do is learn how to spell or use spell check!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions and what comes with sharing it too.

- Sadie on

sowy sadie wuz jst sooooo cross reading ur commenst i cound’t be butherd.jst had too exwpess my opinons.
:D

Hmmmm opinions is one thing, sheer malice and what could very easily be interpreted as jealousy is another.

spelling ok for you dear? bwhahahahahahahhahahahahahhha :) :)

Any whooo just my opinion, xoxox

- hayley on

I like her. She’s a strong-willed, opinionated woman and I’m so happy that I was raised in a household where that was not only welcome, but it was something to strive to be! It’s painfully obvious that not every girl had that luxury. My mom worked 45+ hour weeks, my dad worked 40+ hours and were able to balance it…we never thought we weren’t getting “all of them”. After school, after work, weekends were our family time and it was about quality, not quantity.

Katherine isn’t complaining. She’s just telling it like it is in her world. Everyone’s different, but because of the gossip rags constantly on her every move, people think she’s just this evil woman. Self-absorbed people don’t adopt and then change their lives to make it work. Pretty damn simple.

- Erin on

So dont work then!! its not like you need to money to keep you child fed and the roof over your head!

- Melanie on

Melanie- In the article it clearly states that Katherine ISN’T working right now. Right now she is focusing on taking care of Naleigh. :)

- CelebBabyLover on

Melanie- Also, Katherine’s job (she may not be working now, but yes, it does seem pretty obvious that eventually she’ll do another movie) may not be about the money for her. Maybe for her, it’s about doing something she loves. If working makes her a better mom (not everyone is cut out to be a stay-at-home mom) then more power to her! :)

- CelebBabyLover on

Sadie- Katherine is giving interviews right now because she is promoting a movie. All actors and actresses do that, including Jennifer Garner!

- CelebBabyLover on

@Sadie, you are obsessed with hating celebrities so why are you here? Seriously. You only post to whine about what they say, ignore the kids and whine over and over again. That’s why I get irritated by some of the comments because it’s like why be on a celebrity blog if you hate them all and don’t want them to talk about their kids but if they don’t they aren’t loving parents, if they talk about how tough being a working parent is, they are complaining too much but if they find it easy they are liars. Why waste your time whining when you made a choice to come on this blog and you can just as easily leave.

- Lee on

When someone askes me about my children I brag everytime too. What wrong with Katherine bragging about her child?

- KHfan on

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