Jennifer Lopez Was Never ‘Desperate’ to Have Children

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Unlike her character in The Back-up Plan — who becomes a mom via artificial insemination — Jennifer Lopez says that conceiving twins Emme Maribel and Maximilian David, 2, required no drastic measures.

“I always wanted kids and I wanted a family, but I never got to the point where I was desperate and trying everything,” the actress and singer, 40, tells USA Today.

Making the film was a labor of love for Lopez, who calls pregnancy “a magical and romantic time.”

Noting that “when you really live it, it takes on a different color,” she adds, “it was great to have the pregnancy and go out and do a movie about pregnancy right then.”

Now that she is back on the red carpet — and back in the recording studio — Lopez’s profile is again on the rise; Fans anxious for Emme and Max to make more appearances with mom are in for disappointment, however.

“We’re not ones to parade the kids around,” she says, adding that husband Marc Anthony is “really adamant about that” and also “really protective.”

“We don’t want them getting used to that life,” she continues. “It’s a weird existence. I used to be of the attitude, many years ago, that I would just live my life and not care … But at the same time, you shouldn’t just throw caution to the wind, because there are consequences to that lifestyle.”

Comments

DS on April 25th, 2010

I wonder if they will have anymore kids?

Carrie on April 25th, 2010

So having artificial insemination is “desperate”…
Poor choice of words, in my humble opinion. I having a feeling this is going to spark a debate.

Anna on April 25th, 2010

Aw, I don’t think she meant “desperate” in an insulting way. I mean, people who do try artificial insemination or other methods obviously WANT children more than someone who does not choose those options. I don’t think she meant that those people are in any way wrong or silly for trying those options. She simply stated that she was never in a big hurry to have children.

People pick words apart so easily, sheesh.

romy on April 25th, 2010

I wish for never another JLo new release so they can stop interviewing her! I can’t read her interviews or watch her on shows. She is too annoying, and loves to create the idea of her life being so perfect. While doing that she always manages to offend masses of people as well.

mommy on April 25th, 2010

I think someone should advise Jennifer Lopez to open her eyes and look around her. Women who have children after fertility treatments are absolutely not desperate, they are some of the strongest, most dedicated women. We should all applaud them for going to great lengths to have children and Jennifer should be thankful every day that she didn’t have to go through the challenges that other women did in order to bring children into this world. It is every woman’s birthright to get pregnant, and women who are willing to fight to get pregnant and have children are anything but desperate.

crimpe on April 25th, 2010

Yeah I don’t believe her one bit.

Annon on April 25th, 2010

The liklihood of conceiving boy-girl twins without “drastic meausures” is exceedingly rare. Nice try J-Lo. If you want to keep your reproductive life private, thats fine, but I would advise avoiding comments like the above and not lying.

Robin on April 25th, 2010

She did NOT have artificial insemination…She and Marc gave an interview when the babies were born and addressed that rumor. Twins run in her family. Her father is a twin.

Anonymous on April 25th, 2010

She’s defensive and not truthful. It took her years to get pregnant and her own family has commented that she “had a hard time”.

JM on April 25th, 2010

i wonder why we are seeing the word desperate as a negative thing? surely that is a self-imposed stigma. i have known my entire life that i wanted to, NEEDED to have kids. i was one of the lucky ones and could have them naturally, but if i couldn’t have them naturally i would have been desperate. i wanted kids so much. so i would have tried anything to have kids. what is wrong with saying that you desperately want something? that doesn’t mean you’re not strong or that you’ve failed, quite the opposite, it means you want something so much that you’ll go through any difficulties to get it.
people need to not be so sensitive….

kate on April 25th, 2010

“desperate,” really?!

the lady doth protest too much.

Erica on April 25th, 2010

There is something very inauthentic about the way she insists that her children were conceived 100% naturally. They very well may have been; but if so, what’s the point of continually pointing this out? And what difference would it make if they weren’t?

Jenny from the Block she is not, lol! It’s like she’s always trying too hard to convince people that her life is perfect.

Lily on April 25th, 2010

It doesn’t matter if her father was a twin… twin’s run on the mother’s side.
Lots of really good friends had IVF and concieved twins but say that they “run in the family”.

Melissa on April 25th, 2010

I don’t think she meant it as an insult to women who have used various methods to get pregnant. I think she just meant she never panicked about having children. I feel the same way, I want kids but I am in no rush nor will i be devastated if I don’t have them. If it happens great, if it doesn’t life will go on.

Additionally i have a friend who got married at 39, had twins by 40 thanks to the honeymoon. Some people are fertile, its time to stop insisting we know everything about famous people because we don’t!

mommy on April 25th, 2010

For everyone defending what she said and in continuation to my earlier comment – I’m sure she didn’t mean it as an insult, but I do think she should think twice before using a word with a negative connotation such as “desperate” in regards to a procedure that has helped hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of children come into the world, whose mothers have gone through challenges that most women (including Jennifer Lopez) could not even begin to imagine. These women should be encouraged and applauded, not criticized by such a public figure who is apparently somewhat ignorant or naive.

Erin on April 25th, 2010

1) “Desperate” was an awful choice of words.
2) I’m more amused by her saying she doesn’t parade her kids around. Um, yes she does.

Concerts, Super Bowl, Disneyland, etc. I’ve said it before – I live and work in Tinseltown and very famous people who don’t want their kids paraded manage to keep their personal lives with them under the radar. Starting by not speaking about their little ones in the press. (Except to say “I love being a mom/dad….my kids didn’t sign up for this”, etc.

jessicad on April 25th, 2010

Normally I hate to see so much negativity on this site, but I really think she should just stop talking about how her kids were conceived. I realize some of this is because of her new movie and the content, but we get it. Seems like every interview she does this topic is discussed, I’ve never had fertility issues but I can see how her constantly talking about it would offend those of you who have.

kmb on April 25th, 2010

Somehow, I wasn’t shocked when I opened up CBB and found yet another insulting and offensive (but wrapped in a sweet, sugar coating) interview with this woman. Enough. Why does she insist on continually mocking the way other people conceive children? Desperate? I’m sorry, we can’t all be perfect like you, J-Lo. I think she has the biggest ego of anyone in the celeb world. She’s hinted/mocked about fertility treatments one too many times. Especially considering she possibly had some sort of fertility treatments herself.
I am so disgusted with her as a person that I will never again watch anything she is in. I’m sick of her judgment and nonsensical “perfect” statements filling up CBB. Pick real celeb moms, not this load of ridiculousness.

Patrice on April 25th, 2010

I don’t like the way she says things and the connotations that many of her words take on, but in her defense, older women have a better chance of having twins. Once you past the age of 36 the instances of passing two eggs at ovulation go up, and continue to go up until menopause. That is one of the many reason twins may occur naturally among older women. Of course the chances are even greater if that woman uses fertility treatments, but again, it can happen without them.

Victoria-Jane on April 25th, 2010

I’m not particularly fond of JLo, and I’m really not bothered whether she had help to conceive her twins or not, but if i’m honest I’d be more convinced of them being natural occurring twins if they were identical but the number of celebs having dizygotic twins over the last few years makes me a tad suspicious that at least 2 eggs were implanted however they do say they’re more common the older the mother is and the more children she has had! but like I said it’s not really something I’m going to lose any sleep over! Maybe a better choice of word could have been used than desperate because i’m sure AI is just the first step on a long and hard process for some couples!!

Nancy S on April 25th, 2010

Hmm. I don’t believe her at all.

It was pretty obvious all along that she did not conceive naturally – and it’s just plain ridiculous that she is not admitting it – there is NO SHAME in conceiving through fertility treatments.

The only thing that is “desperate” is her need to fool people, and it’s just very annoying too.

Mel on April 25th, 2010

Is no one noticing that she DID NOT specifically call artificial insemination “desperate”? If you read the interview, she doesn’t mention it at all. Some of you are assuming that because the film is about that. There are plenty of women who refer to themselves as “desperate” to have a child. Obviously they want one badly enough that they’re willing to go through IVF in order to bring that child into the world.

If that was what she and her husband decided to do, why do they need to come clean about it? She keeps talking about it because she keeps getting asked about it, obviously. Not her fault you’re choosing to think that she’s lying.

And really, why should a woman be applauded for going through IVF? If you want a child that badly, and you’re willing to spend the money, good for you. But why do I have to care about the challenges you’ve gone through? That was your choice. Having had my own fertility issues, I chose to take the hint that Mother Nature was not going to be kind to my womb. I accept that and I’m fine with it, and I choose not to go through what I see as unnatural means just to have a child. But if she’s choosing to keep it to herself, how about the rest of you just back off? Celine Dion is enough of a spokeswoman for IVF, let Jennifer Lopez say what she wants and leave her alone.

Melania on April 25th, 2010

Really do we have to be so bland all the time at the risk of offending people. Artificial insemination is a desperate measure. You know it is! Big deal. She def doesn’t parade her kids around all the time. Certain babies you see at all little fundraisers and events, etc. We barely see her kids.

kmb on April 25th, 2010

Mel, your comment is offensive, and sounds quite similar to something J-Lo herself said a while back in an interview. She said she believed that if a woman couldn’t reproduce naturally, then she wasn’t meant to be a mother.
Some of us are reproductively challenged, but it doesn’t mean we’re not supposed to be mothers because, as you said, “mother nature” didn’t bless us with a friendly womb.
There are wonderful mothers out there who have done fertility treatments. Your comment is harsh.

Kira on April 25th, 2010

NO comment about the “desperate” comments. I always try to keep in mind we get SNIPPETS of what she actually said in these interviews. We don’t know WHAT the interviewer asked her to prompt such a responds….Celebrities are people too, they read what folks are saying about them, maybe she IS a little defensive/sensitive about the subject.

As far as her parading her kids around…ok, those 10 feet away from a rooftop photos you see of her and her family at Disney, baseball games and on vacations, are not her PARADING her children around! She is just being a mom and trying to give them as normal a life as she can given the situation they are in. The paps are going to follow her either way, she cannot hit. To me parading your kids around is taking them on the red carpet, attending large events with your kids, doing formal photoshoot for every milestone in your child’s life for a magazine…She cannot keep these kids locked up in a house or have nannies take them everywhere so that they are never seen with her…that what just give folks ONE MORE THING to talk about..

Chris on April 25th, 2010

She may not be desperate but she seems delusional.

dominique on April 25th, 2010

i agree with the comments, my husband and i are seeing a specialist in hopes of having another baby – i dont find it desperate at all and i think her comment is terrible.

Jeannette on April 25th, 2010

I read somewhere that J-Lo had undergown fertility treatments, but said that she gave up and conceived naturally. It makes you appreciate actors who are honest about their struggles like Marcia Cross, etc. There is no desperation in fertility treatments, adoption etc. Shame on J-Lo if she is lying to protect her diva image!

Katie on April 25th, 2010

I have never been very fond of J-lo, but interviews like these just make my opinion even lower. For someone who “didnt have any medical intervention” to have those babies, she sure seems to go on about it alot.
I remember J-lo saying in previous interviews that she tried to conceive for many years, and now to sit here and say she was never desperate to have children. People like her baffle me.
As someone who tried for 2 years to conceive my daughter, i never forget about that time. I was lucky enough to fall pregnant with her naturally after we stopped trying. But i would never say that i wasnt desperate to have children, or in any way try to diminish what other women have been through to have children, when I, myself, have had a small taste of what they go through. You would think J-lo would have more empathy for these women.
We were also looking at trying ICSI or IVF, and if we had conceive through these methods, in no way would i try to hide it, or “mock” these procedures.
I think j-lo should learn to speak before she thinks, or better yet, stop speaking at all.

liz on April 25th, 2010

IVF is very bad for the population! Having kids is a very selfish thing to do….Having the IVF is beyond selfish. Because “YOU” feel the “need” to have kids.So what? You can fill that void in your life? buy a freakin dog…and if you feel the need to be a parent, adopt a child!

Cathryn on April 25th, 2010

Mel, who asked you to care about the challenges that other people go through? Also, from the tone of your post, it doesn’t sound like you are very OK with “Mother Nature’s” decision about your fertility.

What really bothers me about this issue is that there seems to be this undertone of disapproval or judgement against people who choose to undergo fertility treatments. We’ve seen it in other J-Lo posts, and it was also apparent in Mel’s statement above that “Celine Dion is enough of a spokeswoman for IVF”. What is that supposed to mean???

Cathryn on April 25th, 2010

Liz, why is having IVF any more selfish than someone who conceives naturally? Either way, you are still adding to the population. You are the type of person I am talking about. You are judging people who are already going through enough crap and don’t need to listen to people like you. And heh, hopefully you have done your part and adopted a child, or are you too selfish to give up part of your life for a child?

kmb on April 25th, 2010

Liz, you are clearly a very angry, misinformed, and sickening human being. Why are you on Celebrity Baby Blog if you think “Having kids is a very selfish thing to do”?

Mommy on April 25th, 2010

Liz, you sound so angry. I don’t think a dog can replace a child void? come on! Every couple has the right to choose their own method for having children be it fertility help, adoption,surrogate, etc.

Mel on April 25th, 2010

Cathryn, what I meant by the Celine Dion comment is that she’s been willing to speak out about her struggles with infertility and what she’s done about it. Why are people so hellbent on Jennifer Lopez doing the same thing? Like she owes anyone an explanation about how her twins came into the world? The commenter “mommy” said that women who undergo fertility treatments should be “encouraged and applauded.” Why? Because they’re choosing to bring a child into the world by using the help of a specialist? That’s entirely their business, deserving of neither criticism or honors.

As far as my choice not to go through IVF, that was my option. I don’t want to put my body through something that may harm it even more. I just have a real problem with the way some women on this board are going after Jennifer Lopez (of whom I’m not even a fan) because of what she says in her interview. Why be offended by the comments of someone you don’t even know, whose choices have no effect on your life, and who could care less about your own fertility? Jennifer Lopez isn’t going to hinder the business of the fertility industry, so really, what is the problem?

Erin on April 25th, 2010

Kira, talking about every milestone your kid hits in an interview you give in hopes of drumming up publicity for your latest horrific film is parading them. Taking them to a huge sporting event and then propping them up to the window of a suite you own during said event is parading them. Going to Disneyland with a hefty body guard (with attendant earpiece communication device) with your twins and an entourage is parading them. Parading them isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it is parading nonetheless. So don’t cry for JLo. She’s working the system her way. Other people (like the Afflecks, Matt Damon, Faith Hill/Tim McGraw, etc. etc.) work the system their way. Which is by not allowing their kids to pose for a magazine spread for mom or dad’s latest publicity push. Just saying…

m-dot on April 25th, 2010

I think there seems to be a lot of jealous women on here! Jen was able to conceive naturally which is great. It’s what anyone desiring to be a mother plans and hopes to do. When we can’t for reproductive reason, some of us choose to keep it moving and see what happens, others say eh, well, and then some begin to try alternative measures. There are many women “desperate” to have children. That’s not a bad thing! Don’t fault her for not being desperate to have them. Some people are completely content w/ there lives w/ or w/out kids.

dfs on April 25th, 2010

Using artificial insemination IS desperate, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Desperate is not neccesarily a negative word.

Cathryn on April 25th, 2010

Mel, the comment about Celine being a spokeswoman just struck me as odd. She’s just a person talking about her experience. If I did the same and someone called me a “spokeswoman”, I’d probably be a little offended by it. However, it seems that is not the way you meant it so thanks for clarifying.

Though I’m not a fan of Jennifer’s I wasn’t particularly offended by her comments here. I think she was referring to not feeling desperate to have a child (as opposed to calling AI desperate). I just think that when she speaks, in general, her comments sometimes come off as judgemental.

dfs on April 25th, 2010

“It makes you appreciate actors who are honest about their struggles like Marcia Cross, etc.”

Marcia Cross did not struggle! She started in vitro the day after her wedding and got pregnant right away. Because of her age, she didn’t even try to conceive naturally, and I don’t blame her for not wanting to waste too much time.

Mel on April 25th, 2010

Cathryn, I think a lot of people tend to misconstrue what Jennifer Lopez says. Somehow I doubt that she’s thinking about offending anyone with what she says. I’m sure a lot of her tone got lost in the print interview. I’m just amazed at how people can get so up in arms about such simple comments. I appreciate that you were willing to hear out my clarification.

For those of you who are curious, the dictionary definition of “desperate” doesn’t have a negative connotation. It speaks of urgency, of doing something as a last resort, giving an ultimate effort. I don’t see any of that as a bad thing. If you’re taking offense to the use of that word, you might want to ask yourself why.

grace on April 25th, 2010

hey dfs,

i want to quote celebrity baby blog on marcia cross It reads: “Desperate Housewives star Marcia Cross, who is currently expecting twins, is reported to have used fertility treatment to conceive. She has often spoken of the troubles and reality of becoming pregnant after 40. I would say she is discussing what a struggle it is here. I know for a fact that she went through iui before ivf.

Shaya on April 25th, 2010

I think J Lo caught the foot in mouth disease from Jessica Alba.

Erika on April 25th, 2010

“i wonder why we are seeing the word desperate as a negative thing? surely that is a self-imposed stigma. i have known my entire life that i wanted to, NEEDED to have kids.”

I agree with this. That’s how I read it too. I thought she meant if it didn’t happen, that would be fine, not that woman who use fertility treatments are desperate people. And I don’t even like JLO. But I don’t think it was meant to be offensive. I have always planned on having kids, and I would probably (when I’m finally out of college, married and ready) take those measures to have kids but some people don’t and just figure if it happens it happens, if not no big deal. I don’t think it was a stab at fertility treatments.

A mom of 3 on April 25th, 2010

Jennifer Lopez is ALL about appearances. Yes, she was trying for a long time to have a baby… and now she’s spouting off about the “fact” that she wasn’t desperate. What can’t these celebrities be real and actually speak the truth… instead they always make it seem like everything in their life is effortless and easy. I really feel bad for her and her children. She needs to spend more time with them, and less time promoting herself.

Molly on April 25th, 2010

JLo was seen at the fertility clinic in New York few times several years back. If twins were on her father’s side it wouldnt matter to her cuase it’s the mother’s eggs that split. 98% of the natural twins are same gender. SHe is extremely lucky to have boy and girl and she seems to talk a lot and over and over again she didnt seek the treatments as if to convince herself.

Hanna on April 25th, 2010

I just find it funny that she claims so defiantly that she will never “parade” the kids around when she introduced them in a lavish front cover photoshoot as newborns.

http://www.people.com/people/archive/issue/0,,7566080331,00.html

The byline reads “intimate photos at home (and in the nursery!) with Jennifer Lopez, Marc Anthony, and babies Max and Emme”. Lol.

josie on April 25th, 2010

Jennifer Lopez’ interviews does not always make sense. I do agree with the some of the comments that the word “desperate” was used in poor content but what do you expect. She’s obviously not a voracious reader so her vocabulary is limited.

In terms of parading her children around, there are actors and actresses who chose to move out of California for privacy even if they did stay the parents managed to get them out of the limelight. Im not a big fan of JLo but if you parade your children during your concert then your asking for it.

The most that bothers me about her is that she seems to want to have it all. Movie here, clothing line there, perfume line here, album there. SOme hollywood couples often take turns on making films or whatever but her?…..I question her sometimes……

dfs on April 26th, 2010

Grace, I read an interview with Marcia where she said she knew that due to her age she would have trouble conceiving, so she started doing IVF the day after her wedding. I wasn’t saying she didn’t use fertility treatments — of course she did, she used ivf — I was just saying that I don’t think she spent any time trying to conceive naturally, and it certainly didn’t take her very long to conceive with IVF.

CelebBabyLover on April 26th, 2010

Lily- Actually, that’s not entirely true. It IS possible for a father to pass on the gene for hyper-ovulation to his daughter. This is why it sometimes seems like twins “skip” a generation. Men can inherit the gene for hyper-ovulation, but obviously in them it is inactive. So if, say, a woman has the gene for hyper-ovulation, she could pass it down to her son…..but obviously you wouldn’t be able to tell that.

However, if that son then goes on to pass it have a daughter, he could pass the gene down to her and SHE could have twins. So J-Lo’s dad could have passed down the gene for hyper-ovulation to her. What a man can’t influence when it comes to twins in his wife’s/partner’s chances of having them.

Erin- So celebrity kids aren’t allowed to go to Disneyland? Or to similar places/events? I think that’s what kira was getting at. Celebrity kids have just as much right to enjoy fun outings as “regular” kids!

Patrice- I agree with your comment about older women having an increased chance of having twins. I also want to add that, from what I’ve read, when it comes to fraternal twins, boy/girl is actually the most common type.

Anonymous on April 26th, 2010

I never leave comments.. But in this case i must say JLO is lying. She well and knows the drastic measures she took to have children. I guess when you can buy it it does not make it so drastic or desperate at all. Poor girl

Kara on April 26th, 2010

Gosh people are offended so easily. Get a life! Who cares?

bite me on April 26th, 2010

funny, i see becasue of ben affleck two little girls all the time Erin…there is a difference between the press that movie stars receive and musicians.. all stars talk about their children, even the “private” ones

Audrey on April 26th, 2010

Oh people get over yourselves! seriously? its as if you will pick out just anything in order to badmouth someone. There is a difference between having an opinion and just being plain rude. And I am sorry, but most comments are not really opinions at all.

Mary-Helen on April 26th, 2010

Where did she say “Artificial Insemination is desperate and people who do it suck?” Because I clearly read “Trying everything”. My best friend has admitted she is “desperate” and tried everything from standing on her head to consulting a fertility specialist, however, she has said she will never get IVF because she feels it’s almost like playing God. Another friend admitted she was so “desperate” to get pregnant she would book sick time to get busy during fertile week and then sit on her bed spread eagled with her bum under a pillow for 35 minutes. Methinks people are searching for something to insult about Ms Lopez. Just because she isn’t screaming about her uterus whilst wearing her “I had IVF” T-shirt, doesn’t mean she insults those who do. Maybe she reached a point where she felt it wouldn’t happen and a miracle happened. It happens all of the time in the really real world. Personally, I applaud her for her candor. She wanted a family but didn’t feel she needed to endure fertility treatments or AI or stand on her head. She reached a level of acceptance and got her family. Maybe instead of digging for whatever snippet you can to badmouth Jennifer Lopez, you could actually read what she said, which had nothing to do with Artificial Insemination.

@Erin so when Jennifer Lopez talks about how cute and adorable her kids are and takes them on vacation, she’s “parading them”? Then what about beloved celeb Mommas Jen Garner (who whines that people ask her about her kids and then when promoting a film says ‘like OMG CUTE VIOLET STORY ALERT!’ and then convienently allows photos of her kids to be posted to blogs when she has a film to promote) or Angelina Jolie (who talks about nothing but her kids and how “deep” her life is because she has them and sells vacation and birthday party pics)? Aren’t they parading their kids? Actually, I find you see and hear about the Muniz kids very rarely and when you do, it’s pap photos of them doing normal things like going on the swing or playing @ Disneyland on a family vacation.

Erin on April 26th, 2010

I said parading your kids around isn’t a bad thing by definition, but do it and then to claim you don’t is hypocritical. I also don’t think taking your kid to school or the park and knowing they’ll be photographed is the same as taking them to your concert stage, your fashion show, your Super Bowl suite or Disneyland with a 400-lb bodyguard. Maybe that’s just me. I’m currently recovering from a surgery and thus not at my job at a major talent agency in L.A. Maybe I know too much about certain folks in this town and how they portray themselves in the media versus how they are in other areas of their life. Review what I said. I said JLo is working the system in the way that works for her. Fair enough. Just irritates me when she feigns horror at “parading” and then does just that.

Shannon on April 26th, 2010

If her twins were concieved “natuarally” why does she have to keep pointing that out? Just come clean that you did IVF, you were pushing 40 years old and got pregnant naturally! Not likely! She was seen several times at Cornell Fertility Center around the time the twins would have been concieved. Doing IVF does not make you desperate to have kids, there is nothing wrong with it! You do what you have to do to have your family.

Li on April 26th, 2010

Not that I really want to defend J.lo in any way because she has really irritated me in many interviews in the past, but… I read a few posters above mention that because her dad is a twin, it doesn’t count as “running in the family”, but it can. Yes, twins can run only on the mothers side, but that can include paternal grandmothers passing it (hyper-ovulation) down via the father. It cannot come from the actual father/husband of said pregnant woman because it’s all about the number of eggs released. Also, random twin pregnancies can happen to women who have no twins in their family, and the most common type of fraternal twin is boy/girl. The only reason I know all of this is because I am currently pregnant with b/g twins and I do not have twins in my family at all, so I googled the heck out of it when we first found out. We already have 2 kids (this was to be our 3rd and final, not it’s 3rd and 4th- nice), I conceived at 29, au natural- twas just a fluke. Anyways, just wanted to say that, though rare, twins can happen to people at random.

Allison on April 26th, 2010

Many comments wondering why she has to keep pointing out her twins were conceived naturally. Because people like the other commenters keep insisting they were not!

I had boy/girl twins at age 26 without a single set of twins in my entire family. Complete surprise. But I can’t tell you how much I hate the question, “Did you get twins naturally?” I think it is rude and disrespectful.

Who cares how she got them.

Cherilyn on April 26th, 2010

Liz made me laugh. “If you want kids bad enough adopt” “IVF is bad for the population” Here’s a thought… children only need to be adopted because they are had by scum bags who tossed them aside or worse, were taken from people who abused them. I guarantee you, you won’t be seeing any IVF babies on the market for adoption. Those are the children who are wanted and loved and well cared for. Those are the children who grow up loved and in turn love and don’t leave nasty comments on a web site about a process that they are obviously completely ignorant to.

Michelle on April 26th, 2010

She is in complete denial and hiding of the truth. She absolutely did have assistance conceiving those twins. She said 6 months prior to her ever getting pregnant that she hoped for twins so she could be done. Anyone going thru infertility treatments would say this because their chances are extremely high and it helps to set the “stage” for when you do get pregnant with them.

In regards to twins running in the family, that is a cope out and a great facade to hide behind. Yes, there is some maternal link to twins running in families but it is not conclusive and I would love for her to show us her family tree of these twins.

J Lo is all about herself and having a perfect image and life. She is obviously embarassed by the fact that she could not conceive on her own and feels insufficient, thus the lies. So sad she lives in a fantasy world. People would like and respect her more if she was more truthful and less full of herself.

Jen on April 26th, 2010

Open mouth, insert foot Ms. Lopez.

Yes, the chance of conceiving fraternal twins does go up in the peri-menopausal years. It’s sort of the body’s last ditch effort to create a pregnancy.

But that fact that she “defends” her children’s conceptions with tales of how twins run in the family without understanding how the biology and science works, makes me think she is lying. Fraternal twins can be a hereditary trait, passed on from mother to daughter, so the fact that her father is a twin means nothing.

If she doesn’t want to talk about how her children were conceived, then don’t, but making insulting comments about the use of fertility treatments couple with her obviously poor understanding of biology, makes me suspicious.

jwhite05 on April 26th, 2010

She just needs to shut her mouth because it’s all stupid. She used to be one of my favorite actresses, but now…I wish she’d disappear. I honestly feel really bad for her kids, that their mom is that ashamed of how they were conceived….She really does continually deny the whole infertility thing. As someone that had to go through infertility treatments to have their daughter it really offends me and pisses me off that she plays all high and mighty and demeans those who had to have help to have children.

Allison on April 27th, 2010

I think the fact that in every single article she brings up this stuff about how they are naturally conceived, how she wasn’t desperate, etc. is just proof that she did IVF. Why keep talking about your kids conception unless you are trying to convince everyone. She was the one desperate for kids and I recall an interview of her saying something to the effect that she was trying really hard to have kids, but if not, she was trying to accept the role as stepmother as what she was meant to be in life.

Allison on April 27th, 2010

She wants people to think she was just living a stress free life, totally happy, and then boy girl twins fell in her lap at age 40, making her perfect life even better.

not buying it jennifer.

CelebBabyLover on April 27th, 2010

Jen- As I said in my previous post, a father CAN pass down the gene for hyper-ovulation to his daughter. Just because a man can’t ovulate doesn’t mean he can’t have the gene for hyper-ovulation. It’s just inactive in him.

Erin- Why is J-Lo not allowed to take her kids to Disneyland and other fun outtings?

Allison- You said it, girl! What does J-Lo have to do to convince people that she had the twins naturally?! She may have been seen at fertility clinics, but people go to fertilty clinics for more reasons than just to have treatments. For example, people sometimes go there for check-ups. I imagine people might go there for consultations as well if they are considering fertility treatment.

My point is, there is absolutely NO WAY any of us can know, with 100 percent certinty, how those twins were concieved. None of us are ever going to agree on how they were concieved, either, so I think it’s time we agree to disagree!

MiB on April 27th, 2010

Wow! After so many years of disussing twins there are still som many misconseptions about it!

A) Fraternal twins are the most common type of twins and have been since long before there was any kind of effective fertility treatment was around. Fraternal boy/girl twins are sligthly more common than fraternal boy/boy or girl/girl twins. Thus boy/girl twins is not a sure indication of fertility treatment.

B)Identical twins are a fluke/stroke of luck or whatever You prefer to call it, and is quite rare (You just notice them more sine they look virtually the same). Research has showed that a certain kind of IVF, where the seemen is injected into the egg, increases the chance of this egg splitting, creating identical twins.

C)Recent research has showed that hyperovulation is passed down on both side of the family, but only affects on the mothers side, meaning: JLo can inherit the hyperovulation tendency from her mother or father which increases her chances of having fraternal twins. Marc can pass on hyperovulation, which would increase Emmes chances of having fraternal twins but not Max’s, and certainly not JLos. Max in his turn can pass it on to his children, increasing his daughters chances of having fraternal twins but not his sons. The same goes for Emme.

D)As several have pointed out, a womans chance of conceiving fraternal twins increases with age, as the body releases more eggs every cycle increases the chance of concieving during the last fertile years before menopause: that’s why many women in thei’r late 30′s and their 40′s naturally concieve twins.

E) Most of the times fertility treatments result in 1 child being born.

This is why I’d like to say: Stop accusing every woman who has twins of lying about fertility treatments. Yes it’s true, she might for some reason not feel comfortable talking about it, and in those cases, what right do You have to preassure someone into talking about something they feel is private or awkward to talk about? But there is also a chance that she might actually be telling You the truth.

Completely fraternal higher order multiples (3 or more) on the other hand are concieved with the help of fertility treatment. But that rule only count’s for if there is obviously three or more eggs involved: triplets where two are identical and one is fraternal can very well be concieved without the help of fertillity treatments, all identical triplets are most probably concieved without any help from fertility treatments, triplets who come from three different eggs are definitively concieved with the help of fertility treatment. But to be honest, is that really any of our business unless we are going through or pondering fertility treatment? If even then?

KH on April 27th, 2010

I didn’t think treating a MEDICAL condition was considered “desperate”.

Audrey on April 27th, 2010

If she doesn’t want to tell people how her children were concieved, and has to tell a fib to get people to hush about it, then she has every damn right to, and you have no right to judge her for it. She probably has a good reason for it, it may be because people were pushing it onto her, constantly about IVF and children, who knows? not you, because its not your business.

I have seen posts on this website from readers bad mouthing a celeb for being TOO open about their fertility struggles (for example, Celine Dion). Make up your minds people!

Lila on April 27th, 2010

We did IVF to have our daughter. You can call me selfish, desperate- whatever- and I could give a crap less. If the doctors would have told me to walk over hot coals I would have done it. And you know what, it would have been worth it as my daughter is just breathtakingly amazing. It was hell, but it is one thing I would never change. People who say negative things to infertility patients are just rubbing salt in a wound, and they know it.

I am glad that her children required “no drastic measures”, but you can be darn sure that if she drastic measures would have been needed, she would have been there and doing whatever she was told needed done. No one chooses infertility- it chooses you.

Anonymous on April 27th, 2010

I used to love her and now she is just annoying. I also wish they would stop interviewing her – she thinks so much of herself and comes off as obnoxious. I liked her more when she was “Jenny from the Block.” I also do not believe for a second that she did not use any medical treatments to conceive her twins. She could be an advocate for IVF and fertility treatments and instead she just makes ridiculous comments. I am so over her.

Mandy on April 27th, 2010

I can’t relate to anything this lady says.

Marco on April 2nd, 2013

Poor Jenny. I’ll bet she never meant it the way y’all took it.

There are really people who look down upon those using IVF? Amazing. I never gave it a thought at all until I read this thread.