Kendra Wilkinson’s Partying Prepped Her for Parenthood

03/27/2010 at 02:00 PM ET

If there’s one aspect of parenthood that Kendra Wilkinson is confident she’ll conquer, it will be the serious lack of shuteye.

The former Playboy party girl is now reaping the benefits of her previous life when it comes to pulling all-nighters with her 3-month-old son Hank Randall IV.

“I used to go to bed around 3 a.m. and wake up at 3 p.m. Now I get up at 3 a.m. and stay up until 3 a.m.,” she tells Babble.

“But if I could party all night, I can stay up with my baby all night! The partying was actually an advantage — it prepared me!”

However, always rushing to comfort baby boy as he cries out is one point of contention between Wilkinson, 24, and her husband Hank Baskett.

“I don’t let him cry and Hank gets so mad at me,” the new mom admits, adding that she spoils the couple’s first child more often.

“But I can’t help it — if I hear him cry, I have to grab him and rock him back to sleep!”

Wilkinson has also been brutally honest in her struggle to regain her body before baby. “In the first episode of my show, I lifted up my shirt to show what I looked like under my clothes,” the reality star says.

Fortunately, the hard work has paid off — but the results were far from immediate. “My stretch marks and big blob are all over the Internet. I had a long way to go,” she adds.

Embracing life as a mom, Wilkinson has been bombarded with advice on raising her son. And while she is grateful for the well-wishers, she is quick to point out that she will always make the final call.

“You’re going to have advice thrown at you all day, every day, from your mom, your mother-in-law, your siblings,” Wilkinson notes. “No! Don’t listen to everything. Take the advice you want, but be your own mom. That’s what makes it so special.”

That said, there is one woman — her mother Patti — whose advice Wilkinson takes to heart. “[She taught me] tough love,” she shares. “I’m very stubborn, but [in the end] I always listen to her.”

— Anya Leon

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Jane on

I am likeing her more and more. Agree you should never let a baby cry. If they know that, they will cry less.

momof4 on

It’s so cool how she follows her instincts. There’s a reason it bothers us so much to hear our babies cry. Letting your infant cry is never the right thing to do.

Hea on

Well said, Kendra.

marina on

Letting your baby cry is not bad perse (or course I’m not saying that you should always let him cry, just a few occasions). My mum let me and my sister cry for two nights in a row and by the time the third night arrive be were sleeping whole the night. Every kid is different and so are the mothers, what work for one may not work for another. I think that as long everyone hear their instinct they will be all right.

emma on

3 months would be too young to let a baby cry it out. i think they should be at least 6 months. i didn’t do it with my little one until she was 9 months and i was about to go back to work. only had 2 nights of ‘crying it out’ and she was sleeping through 7-7.

MissMissy on

While I agree with the general “Don’t let a baby cry” sentiment, new moms–especially–need to know that sometimes it’s okay to walk away from a crying baby. I’m not talking about neglecting the child, of course, just giving one’s self a break so that frayed nerves don’t snap.

Mandy on

Sometimes reacting to every single cry can be a bad thing. Then the baby learns, regardless of it being happy or sad, if I cry or make fussy noises, Mommy will come and pick me up.

Lorus on

Whether you believe in CIO or not, 3 months is way too young to be trying it out. Kudos to Kendra for following her instincts.

Jen DC on

As the baby gets older and learns how to actually emote purposefully, she’ll be able to tell which cries mean hungry, wet and “need mama now!” and which ones are simply “I’m mad mad mad that I’m being put down for a nap/put on the changing table” etc. But right now, there is nothing wrong with picking him up when he cries – he’s still new!

JQuinn on

Babies cry for a reason especially when they are only three months old. When they’re a bit older you can tell if they are just being fussy and need to calm themselves or are hungry, wet, sick, etc. I agree that babies who are attended to when they cry will cry less. Attended to babies are more secure.

The only “advice” I give new parents is to be their child’s cheerleader! Lucky is the kid who has two parents who think he is the best kid in the whole wide world!

robinepowell on

It’s actually good to let a baby, at any age, cry to see if they stop on their own. You let them cry for a short while, otherwise you’ll be picking them up everytime they make a noise and come to expect it.

It’s also a good way for them to develop their lungs, give the lungs exercise.

My cousin picked up her daughter every time she cried and now seven at seven months and it’s to the point that she finds it easier to let the baby sleep in the bed, with her and her boyfriend.

Romy on

Maybe what Hank means is that she doesn’t need to rush to every little fuss or whimper. Sometimes they cry out for a few seconds for no reason and go right back into a deep sleep. I learned that with my first child. I answered all those fusses, and it made it worse. With my 2nd I felt out the cry or fuss before I ran in. All out cry it out shouldn’t be done until 5mo or so, if you choose or need to do it, but that’s not what I am talking about here.

Diana on

I don’t blame her I think letting a baby CIO at 3 months old is WAY too young!!!!

dd on

robinepowell, everything you just wrote is a complete myth. I’m glad I’m not your child! Wow! Babies cry for a reason. of course they come to expect you to pick them up when they cry…that’s their only protective mechanism! I never let my baby cry for longer than it takes me to get to her, and A- she began sleeping through the night at 8 months on her own without me FORCING her to realize that her mom is not reliable and may not respond to her needs, and B- she hardly ever cries anymore because she is secure that I will be there for her if she needs me. If you play cry-it-out games with babies, they will cry more because they are not secure…they never know if you will respond to them or not.

Hea on

“Sometimes reacting to every single cry can be a bad thing. Then the baby learns, regardless of it being happy or sad, if I cry or make fussy noises, Mommy will come and pick me up.”

Yes, and that’s called communication. What’s wrong with that? If a baby wants a cuddle, let him or her have their wish because he or she obviously needs it.

dd on

oh, one more thing…RESPONDING to a baby’s every cry is not the same as picking the baby up every time it makes a whimper. The AP philosophy is to respond to a child’s needs…if that means you stand by the crib and rub the baby’s back when she cries instead of picking her up, that is not crying it out. Likewise I don’t pick up my baby every time she hurts herself or gets frustrated. I do, however, acknowledge her EVERY time she cries.

m-dot on

Kendra went from Playboy Mansion, to married, to child, all so quickly. I hope all of this works out ok for her. She has a history of depression, suicidal thoughts, and drug use…and new marriage stress along w new motherhood stress, celebrity, etc…that’s a lot.

Chris on

Each child is different. Do what works for your baby and feels right for you and leave other mothers alone. It’s that simple.

Kendra seems to be enjoying little Hank. It’s obvious she adores her baby boy. 🙂

lynne on

wow, really? of course sometimes you have to let a baby cry. haven’t you heard of the importance of self-soothing? how are they supposed to learn how to calm themselves down on their won? sure, sure, sometimes you scoop them up right away, but especially as they get older you can at least let them exercise their lungs for a bit before scooping them up. i thought everyone knew that? do you really want that perpetual responsibility of assuaging your child, or would you rather have an emotionally adjusted child that has some indpendence and can regulate their emotions on their own without having to run to you everytime something doesn’t go their way?