Jessica Alba Gains Perspective Through Parenthood

Courtesy Cosmopolitan UK

When rumors surfaced of possible infidelity by Cash Warren, wife Jessica Alba says she wasn’t flustered. Since the couple welcomed daughter Honor Marie, 20 months, the actress tells Cosmopolitan UK she’s never been more secure with herself and her relationship.

“When people wrote lies about me before I had Honor, I’d get upset or I’d get nauseous or I’d get angry or I’d want revenge,” she reveals in the interview. “Now, it’s like, it’s just so ridiculous and it’s not even close to being the truth.”

“I know who I am, and I know that I love my family and I love my kid and that being a good mom is my #1 priority.”

At the same time, her daughter has even changed the way Jessica, 28, views herself.

“I used to harp on about my insufficiencies but after I had Honor I forgave myself for not being perfect,” she explains before adding,

“I stopped trying to be a crowd pleaser and accepted my flaws and then, in turn, you accept everyone else’s. Having a kid puts everything in perspective.”

Source: Cosmopolitan UK

Comments

i can’t wait to be a mum…

- Natz on February 21st, 2010

She is always talking about “being perfect” like it was such a bad thing. Before i became a mother, i didnt think about being “perfect”.. But now that i am a mom, i try it hard. Why? Because i always want to do the best that i can for my child. And i know perfection is not a easy thing, i just do always my best. Thats my perfection.

- Mariel on February 21st, 2010

I understand where she’s coming from. There is a difference between trying your very best, and beating yourself up in an attempt to be “perfect.” A lot of women, and mothers especially, beat themselves up over everything that happens during the course of the day. Everything that goes wrong with their child, is somehow their fault, because they must be doing something wrong. These women are typically doing everything just fine, but get it in their heads (from friends, or blogs, or whatever) that they aren’t “doing enough.” It’s really hard to constantly beat yourself up with “perfection.” There will always be something that isn’t perfect. I agree that it’s important to do your very best for your child(ren), but the sooner we all realize that no one is “perfect” and that what is “best” often varies from family to family, the better off we’ll all be.

- mrsh on February 21st, 2010

I agree, mrsh.

Why aim for perfection and beat yourself up over it when you aren’t ever going to make it? Its not attainable. Be yourself, try your hardest and you’ll be fine. The rest of that is nothing to worry over. Thats what I’m hoping to teach my children cause thats what I aim to do for myself.

- Moore on February 21st, 2010

She is so right. I did exactly the same thing and started doing so a few months ago. Why? Because I got seriously ill trying to be perfect. I was a “perfect” mom, with a great job, always looking the part, my two girls always beautifully dressed, house spotlessly clean……..and then my heart could not handle it anymore. So after being ill for six months and having to let go, I realised my family and our bond are most important. Not what we portray to the world.
To all mothers out there: let it go, there is no need to be “perfect”.

- dutchmom on February 22nd, 2010

I completely understand what she is saying. Everyone talks about how motherhood mellowed me out.My mom says its kind of a bad thing in certain because I lost my “sting” as she calls it. I learned to relax and let things roll off my shoulders.Now I am dreading going back to work because I have no idea how I am going to deal with the rude customers that find the need to call me things like “paki” and every other swear or insult in existance. I need my thick skin back lol

- Rach on February 22nd, 2010

Totally agree with her..you know yourself more that other and YEP!! Family come first….:)

- nongpla on February 22nd, 2010

My theory is that when your actual job becomes loving another person unconditionally (ie a mother) you realise that just because your child has thin hair or crawls late or wakes up early in the morning doesn’t impact on how much you love them, the joy they bring you or indeed their intrinsic worth. So it makes you more able to value yourself and others, despite flaws. Because they aren’t terribly important.

- moose on February 22nd, 2010

It seems like Jessica and Cash are wonderful parents. Honor is so dang cute!!

- Angelina on February 23rd, 2010