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Jan 21 2010 04:00 PM ET
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William H. Macy: Bedtime Routine Can Become a 'Burden'


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His wife, actress Felicity Huffman, may play a frazzled mother-of-four on her hit show Desperate Housewives, but William H. Macy insists the same doesn’t ring true in his own household with daughters Sofia Grace, 9, and Georgia Grace, 7 ½ — aside from a few hours at bedtime!

“I realize the pandemonium of the nighttime — finishing dinner, getting homework done, cleaned up, getting them into their nightgowns, reading and getting them into bed,” he tells OK!.

And while he may “really miss it when I’m away,” the actor can’t help but feel a bit overwhelmed at times by the evening chaos.

“It’s a burden when you’re at home, and it’s easy to get cranky with them because we’re trying to get the whole nighttime put-down into about an hour. And it can very easily take two hours.”

While William and Felicity “used to take them back and help them get their nightgowns on and brush their teeth,” the couple have shelled out more of the responsibility to their daughters. “Now we say, ‘Go do it!’” he shares.

That said, the girls — who are also in charge of setting and clearing the dinner table and keeping their rooms straightened — are all about the breezing through their chores as quickly as possible. The incentive? A good book!

“They love to read, so the carrot is reading. The stick is, ‘Hey, the longer it takes you to brush your teeth and get your nightgown on, the less reading time.’ And they will do anything to get more reading time,’” he reveals, adding that they are allowed 45 minutes of quiet time each night. “Now, sometimes we’ll put them in bed and they’ve gone into each other’s rooms and read to each other.”

Click below to read about Sofia’s first joke at age two.

Despite showing a great interest in literature, a future in comedy may be in the works as well! The doting dad raves that his girls have inherited their parents’ sense of humor, calling Sofia’s first usage of irony at the age of two “a great joy” in his life.

“One of our nannies is named Marta and she would say, ‘Adios, Marta’ early on,” he recalls.

“She was eating her cereal called Oaties-os. She looked at the cereal and she looked at Marta and said, ‘Oatie-os, Marta.’ Just peels of laughter. I thought, ‘Oh my God, my daughter just made a joke.’”

Source: OK!

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I too feel that bedtime ritual can be a long chore. Our incentive is hurry up and we can snuggle in bed and read chapter books. Or in my 9 year olds case he wants me to read history books. When time doesn’t allow a book they are super sad and I feel guilty. When reading to my kids I actually feel stress free and even lose track of time.
What actually gives me more stress is when they come home from school starving and all the homework that they get! We have four kids 17, 15, 9 and 5. Trigonometry, geometry, Chemistry, theology, Spanish and Latin, multiplication, it goes on and on and on, I even bought the teachers books with answers so when they oldest come to me with a question I can help. ( I tell them let me read this in quiet and I will get back to you in a sec. (and I have a college degree in primary education!) I go off to our library read the answer find out how they got the answer and then present them with it.) They have no idea that I bought those books. (Spanish and Latin for dummies) Those books were one of the best things I have bought in a long time! It’s been 25 years since high school where I was only a 3.5 to be honest I had to study my butt off for that. I have not used trigonometry since, well except for now!

- mary on

Nice honest interview. I agree bedtime can be frustrating at times. Sometimes when I am tired, I would like to just put them in bed fast, and skip the stories. But I don’t. They grow so fast, I always try to remind myself that soon enough I’ll be wishing to do this stuff again!

- Belle on

In my book a good mom was the one that you see in commercials or movies where they sit with their child at bedtime and have the most awesome and life altering conversations… But-

I’ve always had a hard time with bedtime… I was super mom all day: even tempered, patient, fun and the whole nine yds… but when 9pm came around I wanted down time and peace and quiet! So when my two boys wouldn’t cooperate I had to really try my hardest to not lose it… if not all of us ended up going to bed grumpy. Plus I was married to a troglodite who thought everything related to the kids was a ‘woman’s job’ so I had no help (needless to say I married verrrrrrrry young and he’s been history for the last 9 yrs)
I guess I find comfort in seeing that others also somewhat struggled with the same thing. :)
BTW- my boys are 21 and 17 and are just fine (in case anybody wondered)

- JustMe on

mary, that’s a great idea actually. my kids are not even in kindergarten yet but i’m already worried about their homework!

- umma on

mary-that’s a good idea, with the teacher’s editions…i don’t know if all schools do this, but my high school had “you learn” days at the beginning of each trimester. it was like a two or three hour class that the teacher hosted, and parents could come in, get the syllabus and general info about the class, and then the teacher would briefly teach what would be taught in the course. for parents who had taken that class when they were in high school/college, it was a way to freshen their memories before their kids came home with questions. it was also a way for parents to see how a teacher conducted a classroom…

- noam on

Noam- I LOVE that idea of going to the school and “learning” what is going to be taught and relearning what I forgot. I am sure it’s a little ‘I forgot’ and a little of I have been there and done that attitude. I have that mental thinking “Went to school for 12 years plus 4 more”. I am so over that. I am rather lucky that my kids do very well. But seriously I don’t remember having so much of it. At least not in high school, some of that stuff I had in college. My kids love school, which I am happy although I believe that the 17 year old loves it because of the socialization and not for Latin and Chemistry. And when it comes to foreign classes I only had two years of Spanish. Latin forget it. The books for dummies are actually good, however I find the two oldest talking to one another and I have no idea what the hell they are saying. That’s why I got the books.
So at night after a long night of homework sitting in bed and cuddling up to read to the younger ones is actually calming to me. I should mention that we start to get ready for bed at around 7pm. Yes early but I read for an hour and then they are off to bed and it’s still early where I can decompose too. This is really important.
I have never really had a hard time with bedtime. Please I am not boasting. I am a stay at home mom whose husband is a fire lieutenant and would be gone up to 48 hours at a time. And I just made bed time a time to cuddle and read for an hour. And after that hour they had to go to bed. I need that break too. If they were not tired after we finished reading, well they had one option read on their own in their bed till they were tired. No toys except legos are in their bedrooms. No TV’s either. So reading was all they really had. So I am not sure if that’s why they love to read. But it works for us.
Even though our two oldest are 17 and 15 and they don’t get read too they do ask that we read the books that they have read and love! I “forced” myself to read Twilight, The Southern Vampire series books for one child and Atlas Shrug and Beowulf for the other. Neither is in my top 50! But I want to stay connected to them somehow. I think reading is important. And to us it’s a way of staying connected.
Noam I am going to bring up the ‘you learn days’ at our high school. I really love that idea. And could actually be a lot cheaper than the teachers editions! lol

- mary on

Totally agree on the chaos that is the bedtime routine! But I also cherish it because one day I know I’m going to miss it!

- Emaline on

it’s so nice to hear that other people have bedtime chaos. we have 4 kids, ages 6,4,2 and 1. sometimes it takes us 2 hours to get everyone sleeping. he thinks it should be like beaver cleaver or the waltons or something. i try to tell him that it’s not like that in real life!!

- SH on

noam- The high school I went to had those days twice a year (at the beginning of each semester). They called them “Simulated School Days”, and parents could come to school and basically go through a shortned version of their child’s school day. :)

- CelebBabyLover on

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