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Mariska Hargitay on More Children: 'It's In God's Hands'

01/19/2010 at 06:00 PM ET
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Toys and photographs litter the hallway just beyond the entrance of the New York City residence shared by Mariska Hargitay and Peter Hermann, evidence of their 3 ½-year-old son August Miklos Friedrich.

He is almost exactly the same age as Mariska was when her mom — screen siren Jayne Mansfield — died in an automobile accident in 1967. A passenger in the backseat, Mariska escaped the crash relatively unharmed, save for a small laceration on her forehead.

“I love it when people say, ‘She had such a great laugh, and so do you,’” Mariska confesses. “When I find similarities, it gives me so much peace.” Motherhood, marriage and philanthropy have given a sense of purpose.

“Children, when they lose their mother, have a different antenna,” Mariska notes. “[They wonder] ‘When will I be safe? When will I be home?’ I lost my home too early.” She adds,

“I’m getting it back through Peter and August, and, strangely, through the foundation. It’s about following the signs, listening to your inner voice. I’m living my life, and I know that this is what I’m supposed to be doing.”

What’s more, at 46, Mariska says she hasn’t given up hope of making August a big brother. “It’s in God’s hands,” she says. “But we’re always open to it.”

Source: MORE, February issue

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ED on

If she’s 46 then she’d better hurry up!

sara on

Yes, that’s right. The chances of conceiving naturally at her age are low. She’s a great woman and deserves another child. I’d love to see her adopt.

And yes, I know there are exceptions to the age thing but IN GENERAL, women are not very fertile at 46.

Aurora on

I can relate to what she’s saying about finding peace in the similarities between her and her mother. Having lost my father at a young age, it always makes me smile when someone who knew him well tells me I remind them of him. Like it brings me closer to him.

I agree her chances of conceiving are probably very low, but who knows? I wish her all the best, she’s a great actress and she seems to be a wonderful person and mother.

R on

I wish they had one more, August is Gorgeous!

Sonya on

I took it to mean that it’s literally in God’s hands (as in they’re not using protection, but neither are they doing fertility treatments).

Dasche Bledsoe on

Mariska Hargitay is beautiful on the outside and it seems like she’s just as beautiful on the inside too. Best of luck to her.

Brittany on

She is one of my favorite actresses and her son August is super adorable! I hope she gets that second baby that she wants! :)

shalay on

I agree with you, Sonya, that’s exactly the impression I got. Hopefully they will have another baby someday, but if not, I’m sure they already know they are blessed with the family they have.

Tina. on

i love mariska, i really hope she has another baby :)

fuzibuni on

lol… i would guess that marissa is well versed in the ways of female fertility and knows she is 46. Suggesting that she “hurry up” is probably not the most useful comment in this situation. Perhaps “best wishes” or “good luck” might have been a bit more apropos.

5kidswdisabilities on

She could aways adopt! I have 4 adorable children who are adopted and one biological child. They are all equally loved and important.
Lindsey Petersen,

Holly on

I really like her! But if she wants more she should start trying asap. It is very risky to have a child at that age. 35 and up is when it gets risky and she is 11 years past that.

thekiddos on

#10 Fuzibuni-That was a wonderful response that was written with such level headedness!Again, I’m sure as women we are aware of our biological capabilities at certain ages. Mariska is at peace with her family size, maybe WE should be too:)Just in case she is actively trying to conceive…GOOD LUCK.

Benigna Marko on

Perfectly said. It is in God’s hands.
Benigna Torviso-Marko

Liliana on

As some posters have said, Mariska is a smart woman. I assume she knows how old she is.

That said, perhaps someday she’ll add to her family through adoption or a surrogate. Either way, she is blessed with a beautiful little boy who she seems to be over the moon about.

Tara on

I just can’t believe she’s 46. She has some AMAZING genes :D – She seems like a really awesome person and her son is adorable in every picture I’ve seen of him :D

SAR on

Monica Bellucci just announced her second pregnancy, and she’s only a year younger than Mariska. Susan Sarandon had her third child at age 45. Adrienne Barbeau was in her early 50s when she had her twin boys. So there’s still hope for Mariska to conceive again. August was conceived when she was about 42. I hope she has more kids; she’s a sweet person and a wonderful mom, who has a heart full of love. If she and Peter can’t have another child naturally, I hope they adopt, because any child would be fortunate to have them as parents.

Gina on

I love Mariska! If she can’t conceive again naturally, I think she should adopt a girl so she can have the best of both worlds with a boy and a girl. Mariska & Peter obviously have a lot of love to give as parents… they would be wonderful parents to an adopted child as they are with August.

CelebBabyLover on

Sonya and shalay- I agree with you both! I think what she meant is that if they DO have another baby, great, but if not, then that’s fine, too! In otherwords, it sounds like they’re leaving the door open for another baby, but won’t be devestated if they don’t succeding in concieving, either!

madylane on

Having lost a mom too young as well, I know how she feels. You almost search for connections like, do I have her hands (I don’t!) or, do I have her cleft chin (I do!). I love when people say, oh gosh you look or act or said something just like your mom. Mariska just warmed my heart by saying that cuz sometimes you feel alone in those things.
Mariska is also just about the spitting image of Jayne. Everytime I see her I think Old Hollywood glamour and those great black and white videos of her Mom blowing kisses. Her son looks a lot like her dad Mickey too! Some strong Mansfield and Hargitay genes in that family!

Melissa on

I think that she has been trying for along time and hasn’t gotten pregnant, at least thats what her comments here and other articles suggest so i don’t think all the rude you better hurry and start trying comments are necessary.

Emaline on

Breath of fresh air, I really liked what she had to say about losing her mother. I need to see some updated pics of adorable August!!

JustMe on

Love her. So down to earth and sensible… an oddity in show biz.

Priya on

Mariska is one of those rare celebrities with a heart of gold, another one is Salma Hayek but her words in this interview truly touched me.

crimpe on

Well, Mariska, God helps those who help themselves! It might take more than luck…there are so many ways to expand a family. That said, she sure has hit jackpot with August. He is gorgeous, as is she. I agree with other posts – she seems to be a fantastic woman, and she is stunning.

maggie on

i love mariska! she seems so nice and down-to-earth even when she plays olivia benson 8)! i hope they do have another child and now it’s possible for a woman in her 40′s and up to have a baby but if they can’t, adoption is always wonderful.

Sadie on

I love her! Her son is so adorable, and her husband is one tall drink of water lol

Lulu on

People telling her to “hurry up or pointing out that her age works against her are silly. DUH. Pointless comments.

Some women DO get pregnant in their late 40′s. I know women who did at 44, 45, 46, 47, 48 & 52. All naturally.

Whatever will be will be.

I am 44 & have not been able to get pregnant. True, it has been a heartbreak but I am making my peace with it & know that a child will come into my life one day.

With all of the orphans in Haiti I hope many of us will adopt. First, they need to make sure that they try to find family members for them & then give the Haitian people the chance to adopt. After that I am sure there will still be many orphans & I for one am hoping to make a trip there in the months/years to come to help rebuild & then hopefully adopt.

I know that for many of us the natural urge is to have children the old fashioned way but the tragedy in Haiti has REALLY helped me to be at peace with the fact that adoption will be the route for me. At first it was hard to face that I would not have the experience of getting pregnant & giving birth. Haiti has helped me to be ok with it, to move on & to feel blessed that I can do my part to help heal Haiti.

Lulu on

I forgot to add:

I think she is so stunning & smart & cool. Lovely family. She is one of my favs.

Lori on

ADOPT! I get so tired of people wishing for babies when it is pretty evident it isn’t going to happy naturally. Maybe God wants you to add to your family another way!

Britmama on

Great comments, Lulu!

Everyone’s situation is different – miracles happen every day, just when we think all hope is lost. There are many blessings that come with parenthood, no matter how you come by it, age or otherwise!

Ilene on

After 2 late miscarriages (I was pregnant for three years straight), my husband and I finally had our son (both in our early 30s). Now we are 37 and 34 respectively, and praying for another biological child — but after 8 months, no luck. I really admire Mariska (in fact, if I had a daughter, I would name her Mariska) and like her, placing our faith in God’s hands. Ironically, I had suffered from PPD after the miscarriages, but was the happiest when our son was born — he continues to bring us so much joy. Ironically, our son was born around the same time as August. Good luck to Mariska and Peter in the future.

Dee on

Aaa I just love her on SVU…one of my favourite shows on tv at the moment. The whole cast is so awesome.

I love that she leaves having a baby in God’s hands and I hope that he will grant her her wish of conceiving naturally.

Either way however she becomes a mother again, her family will be blessed and whatever God has in store for her and kids in the future I’m sure she will be grateful no matter what.
:)

daniela on

Adoption is not for everyone, and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

And Mariska gave the impression that she would be fine if she didn’t have another child. I didn’t get any sense that she was desperately wishing to birth another baby – just if it happens it happens, if not then that’s okay too.

As PPs have said, I know quiet a few people that got preggers after 40. My mom got pregnant at 39 and I have an aunt that got pregnant in her 40s – so it’s possible, just not as likely as someone in their 20s.

J.J. on

I admire Mariska alot, but I don’t know if her having another baby is a good idea. I think it’s resonable to have babies until age 42, but after that, I’m not sure. I’m not against it or anything, just saying. But Mariska takes care of herself really well (exercising and eating right), so that can reduce the risk of a complicated pregnancy if she does get pregnant. I do hope she gets blessed with another baby regardless of how that child enters their life, if not, she still has a wonderful family :D.

FC on

I adore her and her two handsome men in her life, Peter and August. I’d love to see her have another child, but hey, if that never comes to be, she’s been blessed with one great little boy, and that’s wonderful in and of itself. :)

But, should she be blessed again, I’d love to see a little girl with her looks. August has them already, but I’d love to see her a girl version of her. :)

CHRIS on

Fertility dust is blowing your way, whether natural or by adoption. I just pray that every couple could have the family they wish for. I have a beauiful daughter, 8 via IVF/ICSI. Infertility is something I wish on no one.

Hanna on

She was lucky to have a child in her early forties. Fertility drops dramatically at 40. She knows the deal.

Bite me on

“Yes, that’s right. The chances of conceiving naturally at her age are low. She’s a great woman and deserves another child. I’d love to see her adopt.

And yes, I know there are exceptions to the age thing but IN GENERAL, women are not very fertile at 46.

- sara on January 19th, 2010 ”

Tell that to the women who give birth at 46 and beyond, honey. See, Miss “Expert”, you can get pregnant until menopause.
You nay-sayers need to learn something about basic biology, amongst other things.

Bite me on

“I really like her! But if she wants more she should start trying asap. It is very risky to have a child at that age. 35 and up is when it gets risky and she is 11 years past that.

- Holly on January 19th, 2010 ”

Uh, no, honey, that’s a fallacy, it’s risky to have a child at ANY age.
There’s no cut off age where it suddenly becomes risky. That’s silly and stupid.

Bite me on

People telling her to “hurry up or pointing out that her age works against her are silly. DUH. Pointless comments.

Some women DO get pregnant in their late 40’s. I know women who did at 44, 45, 46, 47, 48 & 52. All naturally.

Whatever will be will be.

I am 44 & have not been able to get pregnant. True, it has been a heartbreak but I am making my peace with it & know that a child will come into my life one day.

With all of the orphans in Haiti I hope many of us will adopt. First, they need to make sure that they try to find family members for them & then give the Haitian people the chance to adopt. After that I am sure there will still be many orphans & I for one am hoping to make a trip there in the months/years to come to help rebuild & then hopefully adopt.

I know that for many of us the natural urge is to have children the old fashioned way but the tragedy in Haiti has REALLY helped me to be at peace with the fact that adoption will be the route for me. At first it was hard to face that I would not have the experience of getting pregnant & giving birth. Haiti has helped me to be ok with it, to move on & to feel blessed that I can do my part to help heal Haiti.

- Lulu on January 20th, 2010

You TELL them, Lulu…..you are wise and seem to have a great deal of love in your heart. I hope your life will be filled with many blessings, you deserve it.

Bite me on

She was lucky to have a child in her early forties. Fertility drops dramatically at 40. She knows the deal.

- Hanna on January 24th, 2010

Oh, geez, not this again? I’m confused, is it 35 or 40 that’s the risky “cut off” age? Hmmmm……

No, not likely, women over 40 make the BEST mothers. Women in their 40′s have been having babies since the beginning of time. If YOU don’t know someone in that age bracket who has had a baby, then you don’t get out much.
And you should get out more, you have more arrogance than knowledge.
You want mothers to put down? How about all the teens and early twenties gals who get pregnant NOT because they planned it, but because they want to snag some loser boyfriend or forgot to use birth control because they were so smashed?

You are NO biology expert, hon, deal with it.

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