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Matthew Broderick's Parenting Plan: 'I'm Making It Up As We Go Along'

01/14/2010 at 04:00 PM ET
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Father-of-three Matthew Broderick has tossed the parenting books aside and is relying on pure instinct when it comes to raising James Wilkie, 7, and his fraternal twin daughters Marion Loretta Elwell and Tabitha Hodge, 6 months. “The father thing is basically improv,” the actor tells PARADE.

“I’m just making it up as we go along. I love being a father, but I don’t have any advice about it.”

Case in point? For Matthew there is no problem admitting defeat when reasoning with James. “The other day he was having an argument with me. He was like, ‘Can I just say something?’” he recalls. “I was like, ‘No, I know what you’re gonna say.’” It was at that moment that son quickly turned the tables on his father!

“He said, ‘How is it ever possible to know what somebody’s gonna say before they say it?’” he shares.

“And I said, ‘I guess it isn’t.’ So where could I go from there?”

With his top-notch negotiating skills, James’ future is looking bright. And while Matthew would not be surprised to eventually be joined by his son in the acting industry, he says James is determined to cover his bases.

“He has a whole list of career possibilities already, he wants to be ready in case one doesn’t work out,” he quips. “Astronaut is high on the list and there’s also fireman and maybe being a baseball player.”

While Loretta and Tabitha have yet to put their reasoning abilities to use with their dad, the twins still manage to keep Matthew and mom Sarah Jessica Parker on their toes! Noting that the girls — who are already sleeping through the night — are “basically … very easy to take care of” — a Christmas cold put a glitch in the family’s schedule.

“They would wake up every two hours coughing. It’s really hard because one would hear the other cry and start crying too, so that was absolutely exhausting,” he admits.

“But I won’t lie, we have plenty of help because you can’t really handle them alone.”

Source: PARADE

– Anya

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Amanda on

I absolutely lover James, he is such a cheeky little guy. I love that he told SJP when she dressed up to go out to an event one night “This has got to stop mom.”

maggie on

Kudos for admitting they have help but really? they couldnt manage them? How do non celebs on lower incomes manage?

jrvitalis on

LOL – great post! I think we’re all just making it up as we go along – isn’t that parenting 101?!!

Catey on

@maggie, they get through it, but I doubt they would refuse the help. I’m sure they could cope if they had never had the help, but imagine if you had help, the thought of losing it would be unthinkable.

I remember crying the first day my hubby went back to work after our first was born, worried about how I would cope etc. I did fine (as all mothers do), butI remmeber thinking that it was hard when he was there to help, how would I do it by myself? I couldn’t imagine having twins with no help!

Lau on

“we have plenty of help because you can’t really handle them alone.”

Well, that’s absolutely untrue. All good if they can afford help and want to use it, but taking care of more than one baby (no matter how difficult they are) at a time, while having a more difficult work schedule and more money issues than they do, is entirely possible.

momof4 on

“But I won’t lie, we have plenty of help because you can’t really handle them alone”

Sure you can, Matthew! I didn’t think I could and I did it (am doing it!). That comment makes him sound a bit spoiled. There’s so much to learn about yourself and how much you actually can do when raising little ones. It seems like he isn’t pushing himself too hard.

Terra on

Really, you can do it. My husband and I and my mom popping over once in a great moon took care of our twin girls. They are well adjusted, bright 11 year olds. I think we have done pretty well!

Sam and Freya's mum on

maggie/lau, ITA. Thought the same thing when I read the quote. Us mere mortals manage, lol. James sounds a real character!

JoEy on

I think Matthew really means that he and Sarah Jessica couldn’t maintain their extremely atypical work schedules without help. Not many parents travel as much and have such erratic schedules as high-profile actors do.

Ashley on

I agree that they could handle it on their own. My husband and I have 2 1/2 year old triplet boys and we handle it on our own.

I’ve handled it everyday by myself when my husband is at work since they were 3 months old.

Guess what? It’s very possible.

CelebBabyLover on

JoEy- Very well said, and I agree completely!

moose on

I echo what everyone else said…of course you CAN cope, but you might have to make some sacrifices….not suggesting he should just trying to show some respect and admiration for parents of small children and multiples out there who right now are struggling through a door with one baby in a front pack, one on the hip and a screaming toddler at their ankles with the groceries. You so totally ROCK ladies/gents!

twinmama on

I have a 2 year old and 1 year old twins and i handle them on my own,so it’s very possible :)

Kristi on

In a day care setting, the ratio for infants is 1 adult per 4 infants and that most likely is 4 infants from different families on different schedules….if that is manageable then I’m sure twins are!

Jean on

yet another mama here “doing” twins alone with 2 older kids – 3 and 6. DH works 12-16 hour days. I nurse the babies exclusively and we homeschool – it can be done.

Mama Llama on

I’m guessing that MB meant that he and SJP couldn’t do it alone. Their work schedules are entirely different from other families – one parent might be gone entirely for days on end, and if the other parent has to go to work…well, you need help! We have 5 boys, including one set of twins, and we are able to do it without full-time help because I stay home full time. My husband travels for his job, and if I also had a job outside the home to go to, obviously we’d need a helper until I devised a plan to split myself down the middle and be in two places at once.

Lisa on

Yes, of course raising multiples without help is possible, as evidenced by all those chiming in saying they are doing it. BUT, you don’t have the careers that MB and SJP have. Try juggling that kind of career with raising the babies all by yourself, and I bet you’d quickly see you have to have help!

Lisa on

Exactly, Mama Llama–well said!

Kaisa on

I doubt that any of the previous posters would turn down help if they were offered help. I agree with JoEy and Mama Llama that Matthew and Sarah have very different schedules from the rest of us, so it’s not like he’s saying negative things about the rest of the world. They can afford to have help with their twins and it is perfectly okay. I can only imagine how difficult it is to raise twins (or just raise children) and kudos to all the posters who have managed on their own but help is always good. It may come from having baby-sitters or grandparents around but help should always be appreciated, in my opinion.

All Women Stalker on

From stories I hear about James, he seems like one smart little boy. :)

Natasha on

Well… I think people would’ve been more offended if he said it was easy.

Terri on

I agree Natasha, can’t win for losing.

Jen on

Really? Can’t handle it alone or don’t want to. There are many people in the world who raise their children without help. Parents do what they have to. I’m sure if Sarah & Matthew didn’t have help, they would dig deep and find the fortitude to care for their children on their own.

Amy on

I get so annoyed with celebrities who act like they can’t take care of their own children. Don’t have kids if you have to pay someone to take care of them full time! It’s one thing to have someone watch your children when you’re at work…it’s another to have someone raise your kids for you. And I love how every celebrity’s child “sleeps through the night” at 2 months! I’m sure the twins are “sleeping through the night” because Matthew and Sarah have nannies that take care of them at night while they sleep through the night. Take care of your kids!!!

missemiramis on

sorry, but all these “oh my god he’s so spoiled”-shouters are SO missing the point … thank god there’s some sensible comments about this quote of his too.

susi on

so, if a celeb just talks about being a working parent you guys yell because “surely they must have help” and if someone admits they are glad they have help because they (as working parent) couldn’t do it alone, you yell at them too? Hope you feel good about yourselves.
Parker/Broderick: you go guys!

Lil on

Amy? Chill.
Looks to most of us, that James Wilkie is turning out pretty awesome. Hello? Who says the munchkin doesn’t look balanced? If you are a follower of this site, then surely you’ve seen the pics where his parents walk him to and from school. In other words, “taking care of” him.
There are actually families with working parents who have help, where the kids turn out less neurotic than some of the posters on this site, screetching “take care of your kids”!

mellissa on

wow, can’t handle twins without hired help… I wonder how all of us mothers of twins do it… And I do have a career, so does my husband… and we still manage to be parents to our offspring. unless you have twins, and have gotten the “my you have your hands full” comment a million times, you have no idea how insulting it is to hear a comment like that. Yes, they have a cute kid, their nanny did a good job with him.

CelebBabyLover on

mellissa- But you don’t have the kind of career that Matthew and SJP do. Like other posters have said, they kind of DO have to have help with the type of schedules they have.

CelebBabyLover on

Amy- Some babies DO sleep through the night that young (and for the record, Matthew and SJP’s twins are six months, not two months!). According to my mother, I started sleeping through the night practically the minute I got home from the hospital (and she certainly didn’t have nannies to take care of me during the night)!

Nicka on

You people need to relax! I find this family refreshingly honest, down to earth, and well-grounded. They always admit they have help (they both have very busy careers, so anyone in a family with 2 working parents has help, right?) and always say they admire working women and mothers in general, they realize how fortunate they are and that most women don’t have the same resources, how humbled they are by the average mom, etc. What more could you ask for, really?

OBVIOUSLY, he meant he and his wife couldn’t do it all without help—because they are working actors! If SJP gave up her job, of course she could watch her kids and I don’t think he is implying otherwise. But with their current lifestyle, How can you be in two places at once?

I wish rather than taking offense, more people appreciated honest discussion. I do, and I am a SAHM and I don’t think he meant anything by it at all. In fact, he is giving mad props to anyone who dose care for twins, because it is REALLY HARD work, right? Why take everything as a dig, not everyone lives the same life as you. I think we should be more respectful of the many different choices out there for parents these days.

That is all, carry on!

CelebBabyLover on

Nicka- I agree completely! The fact is, in families where both parents work full time, the parents techinically aren’t handling their kids completely on their own….because, as Nicka said, you can’t be in two places at once, and obviously you can’t leave kids by themselves.

So, obviously in cases where both parents work full-time, some sort of help IS neccesary. Whether it be daycare, a nanny, or a grandparent/aunt/other relative watching the kids while the parents are at work, the fact of the matter is that, if you have any of the above, you techincally have help with your kids.

Bottomline: Matthew and SJP have help with their kids…..just like lots of parents do!

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