Sarah Jessica Parker Raves About Her 'Darling Little Girls'

12/20/2009 at 08:00 AM ET
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While some parents mellow with each subsequent child, Sarah Jessica Parker has found the opposite to be true.

In a new interview with PARADE, the 44-year-old actress says that after son James Wilkie, 7, was born she would “walk up the stairs to his room” if she heard crying. With twins Marion Loretta Elwell and Tabitha Hodge, 6 months this week, however, there’s a greater sense of urgency! “Now I’m running up and down the stairs like a lunatic, barely holding on to the banister,” she reveals.

“I don’t think you worry less in general. I think I’m still woken in the middle of the night by some horrible thought that I’ve conjured in my brain. Every time there’s a visit to the pediatrician, I worry. Is everything all right?”

Life as a family of five continues to suit Sarah Jessica and husband Matthew Broderick just fine, with the seamless addition of the twins this summer. “It’s sort of beyond description,” she says. “It’s a very, very lucky, wonderful time in our lives that we have these two darling little girls and we’re very happy.”

Balancing her busy career with her even busier private life is tricky — but doable — and Sarah Jessica is careful to point out that she has help. “I honestly think there are millions and millions of working mothers who have far more demanding days and the rewards are nowhere near what I’ve been given,” she says.

“They don’t have the kind of help that I have if I need it. I’m allowed to be a working mother because frankly, I can leave my child with someone I trust and love and a lot of mothers can’t do that.”

Click below to read about how Sarah Jessica’s style has changed since becoming a mom.

Loretta and Tabitha “could not be more different,” Sarah Jessica says, and those differences are both physical and emotional.

“It is hilarious, one of my daughters is round-headed and she has my complexion,” the Sex and the City star notes. “She’s olive, she has big brown eyes and she is literally constantly looking around and reaching out. I mean, I don’t know how she manages to sleep.” The other baby girl, however, takes after dad. “She is white-skinned with little blue bedroom eyes and red hair,” Sarah Jessica says. “She’s very serious and slightly withholding and aloof.”

Although she has a well-earned reputation as a fashion icon, Sarah Jessica says her style has taken a hit since becoming a mom. “If I’m not working, I’m really just wearing whatever is right to get out of the door,” she insists.

“I take my son to school in the morning. When it’s freezing outside, I’ve got to convince him to put a hat on and boots on and he resists. By the time he’s dressed, I just have time to grab anything handy and run out the door.”

She goes on to note that there is not much point in dressing to the nines when Loretta and Tabitha are on the scene, either!

“I … have two daughters in diapers who are drooling, teething and spitting up,” Sarah Jessica points out. “You don’t want a designer outfit in that situation. So you just wear what’s appropriate to be a mother.”

Source: PARADE

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mrsh on

She just keeps getting more and more endearing the more she speaks! That’s so rare. Usually I like a celebrity LESS the more they speak. She’s very quickly shooting to the top for me 🙂

Tazina on

Are these babies not fulfilling enough? I thought most new mothers went back to work with very young children because of financial concerns which is certainly not the case here. If she felt she needed to work then maybe she should have found another outlet rather than having children where you have to rely on nannies to raise them.

Mari on

She is so bubbly grateful to have these 2 little daughters…very endearing.

I wish this family continued happiness…

dickie on

Tazina, I assume you and your partner quit working as soon as your children were born, otherwise, why have them, right? Also, if you havent been able to make that work, perhaps you can downsize your lifestyle so that neither of you has to and you can spend every waking moment devoting your entire existence to your offspring!

Gia on

Tazina, that’s a very unfair statement to make. Just because she is working doesn’t reflect on her feelings towards her daughters. Maybe she wants to work to show her daughters a strong role model? Show them that women can have careers too?
I understand women bare a natural instinctive responsibility with newborns, but given that she isn’t breastfeeding…why do you criticize Sarah and not her husband? it’s ok for him to be a working father but she can’t be a working woman?
This is the 21st century and thankfully some women have empowered themselves to balance work and motherhood so that thier daughters can grow up to learn women and men are equal. I have nothing against stay at home moms, but it is a choice and women who choose to work should not be criticized. This isn’t the 1950’s.

mrsh on

Tazina loves to criticize SJP for working. She doesn’t just do it on this site, but also on another celebrity baby site I visit. She seems to have something against SJP. Personally, I don’t take anything she says very seriously because it always comes out sounding so ignorant.

Jessicad on

Thanks mrsh! It’s a shame some women feel the need to bash other women for wanting to work and have a family.

Sarah Jessica Parker seems to have it figured out and be humbled by it as well, that’s rare. She seems like an amazing woman and mother!

Nicole on

Tazina, were you able to stop working as soon as you had a baby? From what I understand right now, the only things she is doing is finishing up the SATC sequel and promoting Did You Hear About the Morgans? I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal why she’s working. She’s doing what she loves and she’s obviously doing a pretty damn good job of balancing everything with the help of nannies. I don’t know about some moms, but I’d love a nanny at times so I could actually get things done every now & then.

sugarhoney on

Tazina,so you are a stay at home mom?living off your husbands earnings and you have the nerve to criticize SJP for being a working mom.What are you going to do if your husband looses his job?do you have skills to get a job?or do you rely on him for your sole existance?you stay at home moms judging other mothers for choosing to work gets on my nerve.I stayed home with my kids when they were little MY CHOICE.And I got sick and tired of listening to mothers like you at my local play group jugding working moms.Yeah staying at home is hard work I did it.So is working full time,then coming home and resuming your parental responsibilities,cooking dinner,helping with homework,talking to your kids about their day not to mention nurturing your relationship with your husband.It’s called choice Tazina and you made yours…I don’t think you’d like it if I really started judging you.Go out and get a job then come talk to me.In the meantime stop jugding moms like SJP.

cris on

I think the point Tanzia is making is why have kids just to have someone else raise them?

melania on

I don’t think having a nanny qualifies as having someone else raise your child. We had a nanny growing up (though I was older than my siblings) and I still remember her fondly. But in no way would I consider that she raised me. That’s ridiculous.

alice jane on

When did having help automatically equal having someone else raise your kids?? Seriously, a woman does not have to spend every single moment of every single day with her children in order to be a good mother. Moms are allowed to have their own lives too.

Anyway, I love these interviews with SJP! I’ve never been a big fan of hers, and Carrie was always my least favorite on Sex and the City, but the way Sarah Jessica talks about her kids is honestly making me a fan.

Jessicad on

I also don’t think she has her nanny raising her kids. So what if people have help, I believe it’s good for kids to be around people other than their parents 24/7. Like that saying, it takes a village to raise a child, or whatever it is:) that’s why I don’t feel guilty about leaving my daughter with family or friends from time to time if I want to go do something for myself. I think it’s good for them!

Chris on

If anyone needs a nanny it’s a working mother of three with two newborn twins.

ruby on

Tanzia and Cris your argument is silly. Why have children if someone else is going to raise them? So now all women must stay home? And if you can’t stay home then don’t have kids? How many of us would have children if that was how the game was played? How many of us would be here if our mother’s had to play by those rules?

Tazina on

No, I did not quit working when I had children. I retired from my job a couple of years ago. You see, I had no choice but to work. Don’t make assumptions.

marfmom on

Tanzina, I don’t think she has a choice either. Movies are made YEARS in advance and she is contractually obligated to promote them. As someone else said, she’s just promoting her current movie and finishing up filming on another, which she probably agreed to 2 years ago. You made assumptions too. For all we know, she’s going to take a break from any new projects now that the twins are here.

Catey on

Tazina, my kids have a nanny (who by the way they adore), allowing me to return to work. I worked so hard for so many years to get my career to a place that I wanted it and I (and my husband) didn’t think I needed to choose between children and work.

My nanny is wonderful, supportive and caring, and my children see her more as a cool older cousin than a parental figure.

I completely understand Jessica wanting to work and have children. I know I have said this before, but feminism isn’t about being able to be everything, its about having the choice to do what you want to do.

Emily on

“If she felt she needed to work then maybe she should have found another outlet rather than having children where you have to rely on nannies to raise them.”
Time to take your own advice, don’t make assumptions!
Needing to work does not always translate to money. Alot of the time it comes from wanting a balanced, fulfilled life. It’s an artistic expression and its probably an example she’s proud to make for her daughters, especially as she is the main ‘bread winner’ for the family.

Kerri on

I absolutely love her in her recent interviews. She comes off so refreshingly down-to-earth and intelligent.

Also, even if I could afford to do so, I don’t plan to stay home after I have kids. I like working. And that’s not mutually exclusive with wanting to have children. I don’t work just because I HAVE to.

Colleen on

I love her. She loves her children and has a love and passion for her work…that doesnt make her a bad person, that makes her a humble person, because she states she knows mothers who would wish to do these things, but she realizes they are not as fortunate to do so. Again, she is the one waking up with them in the middle of the night, and worrying just like any other mother, so she isnt a bad person for being able to have the best of both worlds. I know I was dying to get back to work because I needed to be with other people, and have some of my sanity that you tend to lose when you stay home with a baby all day long. Good for her to being able to do so, and shame on anyone else who makes her feel bad for doing so….because as much as you might knock her for working, you will be the one on line to go out and see “Sex and the City 2” LOL

lori on


You seem like your a real bright one, next time think about what you say before you say it. You just made yourself look real smart! Don’t make assumptions, well isnt that what you did on your 1st post basically? If you choose to make comments that are really not needed (even though freedom of speech)then make sure it dont make your self look like a hypocrit next time. I would love to hear what you have to say about Pitt-Jolie and their children!lol

Sarah M. on

I new this would turn into a nanny-bashing session! As others have said, she probably signed contracts well before the twins were conceived. So, now that she has them, should she back out of those contracts? Thus setting herself up for lawsuits and probably causing numerous people to lose their jobs as a result. That’d be setting a good example for her kids. *sarcasm* In a recent interview she stated that she doesn’t want her kids to grow up expecting to just be given everything or with a sense of entitlement. The best way for her to show them that’s not ok is to WORK for the money to buy the stuff that they need/want. Like she said, at least she can afford to leave her children with ‘someone she trusts and loves.’ Leaving them at home alone while she’s at work isn’t an option.

I’m a nanny that works full time. But that still doesn’t mean that I’m raising the kids! Not by a long shot. I’m not the one that wakes up with them in the middle of the night when they wake up puking or scared from a nightmare. I’m not the one that has to worry about how to pay for their college. I’m not the one that needs to make sure that all of their financial needs are met. The family I’m with now has a 4 year old biological son and adopted a now 14 month old girl from Ethiopia. I’m not the one who shelled out $12,000 (and waited 2 years to meet my youngest child) to bring her home, not including the plane tickets there and back. I love her and her brother to death, but I am nowhere near raising them!

On a lighter not, I love her comment about not dressing to the nines while with the kids. I rarely wear anything other than jeans and a comfy tank top. People have tried to tell me that I need to dress up more often. There’s really no point in seeing how fancy you can dress when your with kids all day like I am. I get drooled on, snot wiped on me, food stains on me, etc. I don’t feel the need to ruin nice, expensive clothes when that will inevitably be the end result!!

Sorry to get all worked up, but this is a subject that’s near to my heart. I’m getting off my soap box now!

moose on

I think many of you hvae been quite harsh and rude to Tazina and criss. It makes it difficult to listen to your views when you immediately attack anyone who states another. I just think this debate didn’t have to get nasty. And I don’t think Tazina or criss have said anything we haven’t heard before, so can we (all working mothers) stop acting so outraged. But can I say that I as a working mother DO NOT view women who are full-time parents as “living off their husbands earnings.” I totally disagree with that statement. It is a lifestyle choice made by two people in a partnership presumably because they feel it will be best for their family as a whole. And honestly after the day I had today at work, sometimes I wonder if they haven’t been the sensible ones. I’m off to have a glass of wine…

JessicaC on

I definitely see where EVERYONE is coming from on this post, however Tazina didn’t verbally attack anyone, she just stated her opinion like the others. In one sense, I agree with her, don’t have kids if you need to hire someone to take care of them. Yes I quit my job when I had my children, who better to be at home raising them than mommy? My husband and I made the decision that one of us would always be with them-that was our choice. I do also think that I would feel horribly guilty going back to work and dumping them off at a daycare center. I think guilt is the main reason that working moms dont like stay at home moms, because perhaps subconsciously, it makes them feel bad. I’ve been to many trips to the playground and classes, and (this is just how it is in my area) the working mothers are unbearably obnoxious. They think they deserve an award for going to work. One of the comments above is the perfect example (sugarhoney), it said something about living off of your husbands money-now you dont want people to judge you, but how judgemental is that?! That was to rudest thing I’ve ever heard, “living off my husband for my sole exsistence” Let me tell you, my husband wouldnt be so successful at the job he was able to get because Im behind hi supporting him, doing everything he needs to be successful-it’s a team effort. I do have a college degree, and I can use it someday, right now I choose to be raising my children FULL TIME, its exhausting, fulfilling, and the best decisionmy husband and I ever made. Working mothers and stay at home mothers shouldnt be judging each other for that choice, in the end we’re all just trying to do the best we can right?

ruby on

Imagine what women could accomplish that could really make a difference if we would take all of the anger and judgement that we feel towards other women and used it for something productive.

Working mothers and stay at home mothers will always judge each other. Formula feeding mothers will always be judged by nursing mothers. What next mothers who get their hair and nails done will be judged by those who don’t and vice versa?

Why do we do this to each other? What does it accomplish? Do what works for you and your family- period. Take care of your children to the best of your ability and don’t worry about how the mom across the street is doing it.

mrsh on

ruby – I think it’s a holdover from high school cattiness. Some girls just bring that same, “I’m better than you” attitude with them into womanhood. Everything is a competition with them. It’s a shame.

cris on

JessicaC- you said it perfectly.

Lori- before you go accusing anyone of not being bright, I suggest you check your grammar…

sugarhoney on

Jessica,I too put my career on hold when my kids were little.Do I feel a shred of guilt for going back to work?Absolutely NOT.Do I subject myself to the whole Dr.Laura doctrine NO.Jessica,I want to know your plans if god forbid your husband got injured and you were forced to go back to work and use your degree.Who would raise your kid while you were at work? Your mom,your aunt,your cousin,a relative,daycare,a nanny,baysitter?….let me guess you can control the future and this scenario would never ever happen to…get out of your little bubble and talk to other stay at home moms who got forced to live this scenario.I’m not against stay at home moms I stayed home for six years.

JessicaC on

Sugarhoney, with all do respect, I think you’re so hung up on being “right” that you’re failing to see the big picture. Working mothers/stay at home mothers-each is doing the best they can with their own decisions. Personally, I can’t understand why someone would have a baby to plunk a 6week old in daycare for 40-60 hours a week, it doesn’t make sense to me, but thats just my opinion. The issue I had with you, is your condscending attitute that you think you know what’s best for everyone, and you went and did it again “get out of my bubble” Are you kidding me? Maybe you should get out of your bubble. Your need to insult others implies you’re full of insecurities about your own life, so you judge others. Not that it’s any of your business, but we have life insurance policies and other savings that would help me get back on me feet. When my husband and I made the decision for me to stay home, or any decision for that matter, we dont base that whole decision on the off chance one of us might die. We live with our glass half full, not half empty.

Alice on

JessicaC, you’re forgetting something. You’re happy with your choice because what you do makes you feel fulfilled and happy. Some people love their kids and their job, you know? Your children do not need you 24/7, they need you to be happy and balanced so you are able to give them the love emotional stability they need. Of course it’s no good to only wave them hello and goodbye and actually have someone else raise them as one poster said but there is a balance in between, and it’s way better than a SAHM who feels caged.

So, to answer simply Tazina’s question: “Are these babies not fulfilling enough?” well possibly NO. I don’t know what’s going on in SJP’s head, maybe she was contracted and will stop, maybe she won’t. But I won’t try to find her possible “excuses” for being currently working because she doesn’t need a reason. She can love her work and teach her kids that the right way for you and your children is whatever way makes you happy and fulfilled. There isn’t a right choice between working or staying at home as you seem to think, the right choice depends on the person.

I’m telling you JessicaC because you said a ridiculous thing “don’t have kids if you need to hire someone to take care of them” (unless you meant every minute of every day) but it goes for working moms who believe staying at home is degrading, too.

JessicaC on

sugarhoney, with all do respect,I think you’re so hung up on being “right” that you aren’t seeing the big picture. Working mothers/stay at home mothers it’s each individuals choice. However, personally, I can’t understand how someone could plunk down a 6 weeks old in daycare for 40-60 hours a week, but that’s just me. I have no problem with working moms but I do have a problem with your condescending attitude. I’m not sure what makes you think you know what’s best for everyone or why you think you can talk down to people…”get out of my bubble”? Maybe you should get out of your bubble. Are you kidding me? Just because someone lives differntly than you and is happy doing it doesn’t mean they live in a bubble, Im not sure why you felt the need to insult me? Maybe to feel better about your own choices? And not that it’s any of your business but my husband and I are prepared for situations that are not in our control. When WE made the decision for me to stay home with the kids, or any decision we make for than matter-we don’t make it with the thought that one of us might die. We like to live with our glass half full, not half empty.

linda on

Some of you women (if you are indeed women) are an embarrassment to our gender.

To each his own… let it go. If you want someone to show you respect for your choice, make sure you’re willing to show respect for theirs.

SJP – I like her more each time she speaks.

sugarhoney on

Jessica,my comments are based on life’s cruel realities.I sincerley hope you do not have to face/live them.I do not have time in my day to keep this and all.Yes,please go ahead have the last word :).

acidstars9 on

JessicaC, how can you accuse someone else of being judgemental and also say “don’t have kids if you need to hire someone else to take care of them”? From what you are saying, it is clear that you are judging working moms.

Women should not be punished anymore than men for having a career. Taking care of children is a joint effort, and each individual couple should decide what is best for them. Whether that means one stays home or they make child care arrangements. In many cultures around the world children would have full time nannies or be taken care of by someone else entirely, even when there was no need. It is only now, when women are made to feel guilty about every choice they make and told they have to be perfect, that there is now this debate.

traxie on

I appreciate SJP’s honesty. Unlike some celebrities (eg Gwyneth who went on about “doing everything herself” until her nanny wrote a book and cited all the help she gave Gwyneth!!) she acknowledges that she couldn’t do what she’s doing without a support system. The only time I feel bad for actresses is when they make obvious personal sacrifices, like giving up precious time with their kids, because they want to take up opportunities in what seems like a very precarious and fickle career. It’s not like being a lawyer or bus driver whose services are always needed. Actresses have to make it while they can, their career usually peaks at 45 and then they’re reduced to TV roles as someone’s grandma. They’re kind of like athletes – their lifetime earning potential is really crammed into a short window. I’m sure SJP would have preferred to have a massive career in her 20s before raising kids in her 30s and 40s but that’s not how it happened. Maybe we should feel sympathetic rather than critical, and appreciate that at least our daily version of this drama isn’t played out on a world stage …

Eliza on

Love SJP!

Shannon on

I thought the point of this was to comment on the article- not cause a debate on parenting and women

Stop judging people. That is counterproductive. Every situation is different

SJP is such a lovely person. I have liked her for years