Sarah Jessica Parker: 'We're Doubly Blessed'

Courtesy Glamour

“Nothing can really describe” life with 5-month-old twins Marion Loretta Elwell and Tabitha Hodge, but proud mom Sarah Jessica Parker does her best to try in the January issue of Glamour.

“We didn’t plan on having two, but were doubly blessed and it’s been just wonderful.”

Noting the “untraditional way” in which she and husband Matthew Broderick welcomed their girls — via surrogate — the 44-year-old actress says that the situation has been “very different” than their experience with son James Wilkie, 7.

What’s more, there are even stark differences between the twins themselves! Sarah Jessica shares,

“One would prefer to be held 24 hours a day, and the other is already suffering from type A issues. It’s been amazing but complicated because of my current work schedule, which I have enormous regrets about.”

To that end, Sarah Jessica admits that she’s struggling to balance career with family, a state of being she describes as “the eternal conflict of every working woman.” At the same time she acknowledges that her circumstances are unique.

“I am not complaining, because I’ve done this to myself,” she points out. “And I have a wonderful, wonderful nanny who allows me to be a working person.”

“The great challenge for me is to be all things to all people; I want to be a great mother, and I want to feel good when I’m at work. But it is hard.”

Click below to read about Sarah Jessica’s thoughts on raising her kids without a sense of entitlement.

Marriage has also presented challenges for the couple — who wed in 1997 — with Sarah Jessica conceding that “when you have children and years invested, it’s much more complicated.” She adds,

“It’s the day-to-day stuff: the kind of parent you are, the kind of partner you are. It’s the little and big things as opposed to just the big things. But you are not meant to know that when you are younger, so I don’t think anybody should regret the choices they made in their twenties.”

Although she’s known for her iconic sense of style, Sarah Jessica says that her fashion choices revolve primarily around “whatever’s practical for being a mother.” Walking James Wilkie to school each morning in a couture gown would draw attention, of course, and Sarah Jessica says she wouldn’t want to “embarrass” her son. Even when it is time to walk a red carpet, however, she keeps a mindful eye on how it will affect her children.

Alluding to her modest upbringing, she says she feels “lucky” that she is able to appreciate the luxuries afforded by her career. “I am not blind to it,” she says.

“I don’t want my children to feel they have a sense of entitlement. I want them to work hard and be challenged. That’s hard to do when you have everything you need and want, so I am working on those values all the time.”

With that said, when asked where she’d like to be in ten years Sarah Jessica says she’d like to see the good times continue! “Being so greedy, I would like more of the same,” she admits. “Most important to me is my home life and the well-being of my children. Everything as it is now would be thrilling.”

Source: Glamour, January issue

– Missy

Comments

Could she not stay home with her twins at least while they were still babies? Greed won out obviously. Or perhaps at the age of 44 she is thinking she wants to be “fulfilled” and “have it all”….for most of their waking hours the twins are being raised by nannies.

- Tazina on December 3rd, 2009

She’s a doll. I love her interviews; hopefully we’ll see some new pics of the girls soon

- Lis on December 3rd, 2009

I appreciate her honesty.

- Jenifer on December 3rd, 2009

I totally agree. She is a freekin millionaire. It’s not like she HAS to work. I would give anything to be able to have that luxury and stay at home whenever I so choose. I went back to work when my son was only 5 weeks old but it wasn’t because I wanted to that is for sure!! I love her don’t get me wrong but when you are afforded the opportunity there is no way I would leave my babies!

- Courtney on December 3rd, 2009

Greed!? She is a working mom providing for her family…working on several movies as we speak…I doubt I would call that greed. It has also been said the babies have been on set with her, how is a mother trying to give her children the best lives possible, greedy!?

- Lady on December 3rd, 2009

Lady, you say she’s a working mom providing for her family. I get that, BUT the big difference here is that she doesn’t need to provide for her family. I can bet that she already has enough money to provide for them right now. She doesn’t need to work. She wants to work. She has set her priorities this way and it’s her decision. I dont agree with it, but it’s none of my business.

But it’s hardly like she’s struggling to make ends meet and has to go to work.

- Noelle on December 3rd, 2009

She doesn’t need to work. The woman is a multi-millionaire. The term “a working mom providing for her family” doesn’t apply to her at all. She is far beyond that.

- Tazina on December 3rd, 2009

I am not sure I’d call it “greedy” as much as I’d call it just addicted to work. I agree with Tazina, why not take some time off while they are still so young? Especially since it was so difficult to have them in the first place, having to use a surrogate and all. And I don’t feel that making buckets of money is giving your children “the best life possible”.

- Liz on December 3rd, 2009

She probably signed on to do the movies before the twins were even conceived.

- ecl on December 3rd, 2009

The high life doesn’t come easy or cheap. Obviously. At least she’s honest about it.

- Stella Bella on December 3rd, 2009

It sounds like she working because she just enjoys her job.Not everyone is wired to stay at home all day.People are different.She probably enjoys her job but wishes she could be with her kids,when she is at home she may feel this is great but I miss my job.Tons of women feel this way.She acknowledges she has help and can’t complain so I’m not seeing an issue here.

- Kayana on December 3rd, 2009

She clearly states she’s not complaing because she knows this is what she’s chosen. No one can judge her involvement in her children’s lives when none of us are there on a daily basis.

Noelle, while I had to go back to work when my sons were babies in order to support them, I would continue to be a working mother even if I was financially secure. I love my job and am not ashamed to admit it. My first priority will always be my children but I do value my job and am thankful for my career.

- Liliana on December 3rd, 2009

No she doesn’t need to work neither does Nicole K. , Cate Blanchett,Reese,Angelina, Jennifer Garner, Gyntheth,Kimora JLo, Gwen ,Madonna… or most of the other actresses who have small kids. Mayb they should all retire from acting until their kids graduate from high school.

- kim on December 3rd, 2009

Lots of women love their jobs and would go regardless of the money, she said she feels guilty about it and has help. I don’t see a problem or think she’s greedy. We don’t know what she signed up to do before she knew about the twins, and personally I’m ready for the next Sex and the City so I’m glad she’s back at work:) And yes, some women do want it all. If I could work part time with a job like hers, make a ton of money, and stay home with my kids most of the time I would. That would make me happy, life shouldn’t be all about others, it’s still your life even after you have kids. Going to work when you don’t have to doesn’t make you a selfish mother.

- Jessicad on December 3rd, 2009

If she’s trying to teach her kids about the lack of a sense of entitlement, what kind of message would she be putting out there if she stopped working?

- Ash on December 3rd, 2009

She could have been under contract to do the sequel before the twins were even in the picture. She may be incredibly wealthy with an exclusive lifestyle but she is still a woman and a mother who is struggling with her decisions, like many other working women/mothers. She’s entitled to express those feelings.

- Blue on December 3rd, 2009

“It’s been amazing but complicated because of my current work schedule, which I have enormous regrets about.”

I think this is the key part of her statement. sounds to me that she made obligations before realizing how much she would be missing with her new twins. bet if she could roll back time she would make different choices.

but I wonder why she didn’t know this was going to be the case? She’s clearly a very intelligent woman and thinks things through in life. I don’t even have kids yet and know I would want to be there with them, especially while they are infants. She obviously has a strong work ethic, but taking a few months off (hell, even a year) wouldn’t have damaged her career.

I think sarah jessica parker is a talented actress who doesn’t take her blessings for granted… but I think she kinda slipped up with this one. I’m sure she’s already beating herself up about it though, so I feel sorta bad pointing it out when she admits it in an interview.

- fuzibuni on December 3rd, 2009

Way to support fellow women, ladies. Perhaps SJP WANTS to work and be challenged. Who says your needs and desires stop when you have babies? Just because she doesn’t HAVE to work, doesn’t mean she should stop doing what she loves.

- Danielle on December 3rd, 2009

I think it’s more than possible for women who are willing to work and raise children.Not everyone is interested on this life style and that’s okay.But I would work even if I didn’t need to,because I am good at what I do,I believe it is important and my profession has not undermined my ability to have a great, close relationship with my child or to raise her with a sense of security and love.I have to work but I love it and I would be a working mom even if I had millions of dollars in my bank account.

My problem with this kind of statements is that working moms like SJP and others are clearly afraid of saying that they are happy and their families are happy and safe with their decision. Because they know an army of SHAMs and SHADs will burn them at the stake for working and liking it.It is okay for women to work as long as they must do it for survival,but nevermind their intellectual,social or professional needs.So they feel obligated to say that they are full of regret and mommy guilt when there is no reason to be.Yes, it is hard to leave your child for the first time in a daycare,yes there are days when a sick child and work do not make the best match and yes it is hard to balance this life,but it is not an endless trip of regret and pain.I know it because my life as a working mom is great and so is my daughter’s life as the child of a working mom.

- eva on December 3rd, 2009

also, does anyone know if babies born by surrogate have bonding issues due to being separated from the birth mother?

I’m wondering if it’s important for Sarah Jessica to spend lots of time with her twins so they know she is their mother and can be comforted by her? Since she didn’t have the opportunity to carry them, and I’m guessing she isn’t breastfeeding, it seems like it would be imperative for her to be with them as much as possible.

- fuzibuni on December 3rd, 2009

What difference does it make if she doesn’t need to work? All of a sudden when women have children they are supposed to give up their entire career and everything they’ve worked hard for? The bottom line is that people never blame men for working when they have children, but as a woman you are looked down upon. This is just plain sexism which we as a society obviously have not passed yet.

- acidstars9 on December 3rd, 2009

No one is saying that women can’t work and have children…I think the sticking point for some (like me) is that she is working NOW when they are SO little…it isn’t ideal, lets be frank, and anyone who has cared for an infant knows that. That said I am sure they have a wonderful nanny. At least they aren’t in some dodgy daycare with 1:5 ratio like lots of infants.

eva – please stop bashing SAHM/Ds. I am one (at present) and I believe that my choice is what is best for my family. All the benefits of working will still be there when my babies are no longer babies…but I respect women that choose to stay home (god forbid) till their children grow up. They too are “working”, and love their “career” as much as you do. If you want respect for your choices please show some for others.

- miaow on December 3rd, 2009

also, interesting point fuzibuni. You would think so wouldn’t you….

- miaow on December 3rd, 2009

Miaow- how and when did I bash SAHMs, I was one for a while.All I said is that many SAHMs criticize and react very poorly to working mothers.That is not bashing is the truth.How do I know? Because I get all the time and you can read it in here too very often.

The “god forbid” line is just funny to me.I am not judging SAHMs at all.I have plenty of friends who are and I think the world of them and their families.However,a trip to the park or a PTA reunion is enough evidence of working mothers to see how cliquey and judgemental many SAHMs are.Not all of them,perhaps not even the majority of them but the ones who do are very vocal and loud.

Are many working mothers the same way?Yes,that is true and it isn’t right either,but it doesn’t change the fact that there is an army of SAHMs and SAHDs ready to kick our butts every step of the way.

- eva on December 3rd, 2009

This is kind of sad to me. Moms should stick together working (outside the home) moms and stay at home moms. Women/moms need to be smart and strong not judge each other and be more understanding. There is no right or wrong in this one. It’s ones personal decision. We should support and repect one another and our life choices. Gosh, when did I become such a Pollyanna!

- Annie on December 3rd, 2009

Thank you Danielle! Almost 9 years ago when I first became a mom, the main issue I noticed in our “mommy group” was how judgemental people can be. Shouldn’t we all try to support each other, especially working moms? I have the luxury of working from home and my schedule is fairly flexible so I’m readily available for my kids’ school functions, etc. I know that with the support group I have now, if I were to transition into a traditional office setting there would be other moms who would help me out where needed.

- SY on December 3rd, 2009

My interpretation of her comments about going back to work were that she regrets that she had to go back so quickly.
I have a feeling she felt obligated to because of her contract for SATC2. She has always felt a tremendous sense of responsibility for that cast & production staff – she’s commented on it many times. If she were to bail out on her contract for the sequel, MANY people would be out of their jobs.
I know I am reaching pretty far, but I have a sense that she did the sequel because it was already contracted and scheduled, and she wasn’t expecting the babies to arrive when they did. Granted, she might have anticipated the scheduling conflict, but perhaps it was out of her control.
I think ANY working mom can empathize with the idea that it’s hard to leave home to go to work, but sometimes it IS necessary when looking at the bigger picture.
Just because SJP has millions doesn’t mean she could walk away from the SATC sequel… she had signed a contract to do it, she was the ONLY one who COULD do it, and it had to get done.

- Mrs. R. on December 3rd, 2009

i for one am so sick of this whole thing, lets get it all stright shall we

CALLING ALL STHM…. you children are no better or worse off becuase you stay at home, your lucky understand that although not all women have a problem going back to work many do, do you no how horrid it is to be judged by some one who has no idea whats its like to hold down a job, and a baby? do you no how jealous so many mothers are that they have to leave those lovely babies ?? staying at home does not mean you bond any more with your child than a working mother no does it make youa better mother. this is something YOU have gotten the chance to do, a wonderful amazing chance to never miss a thing. take a step back a think of how it would feel if you where on the other side, try to understand just how hard it is for working mothers, the last thing they need is more guilt from you.

CALLING ALL WORKING MOTHERS
again your child is no better or worse off because you work, take a step back and understand you are doing this for your family but take a step back and hink just how hard it can be to be with your children ALL day EVERY day with little adult contact…children as wonderful and beautiful as they are can wear you down, we can all agree being a mum is a tough job, theres no break from that..no 10 mins gossip with a work friend ..or a meeting with people listening to you..seeing you as something other that mummy…, i think although many will never admit they get a little jealous too but how do you they feel when so many people and by people i mean men and working mothers think women that stay at home have it easy or just lazy….imagine having to DEFEND yourself to everyone becuase all you want to do is raise your babies…the lats thing they need or want is other mothers judgeing them…take a step back when your having a coffee break out work and think how many time you took a break when you were at home

now yes thats all a massive generalization of the whole stay at home/ work thing but its my take on it so before you jump down my throat re read it …understand my whole point is we should support each other. WE ARE ALL JUST TRYING OUR BEST THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS.

- hayley fedup2thebackteeth on December 3rd, 2009

Greed? No I’d call it a contract that says show up at this time in this place or you get sued. I’m sure she wishes she could have moved things around to accomodate all things happening in her life. But I’ve go no beef with her working and parenting.

- LL65 on December 3rd, 2009

Mrs. R you took the words out of my mouth. I am sure it was all under contract by the time they were born. In fact she started filming soon after. Just because this woman has millions doesn’t mean she wants to give up her career. This is her job and she enjoys it. How nice that she gets paid so much for something she loves but she shouldn’t be bad-mouthed because she doesn’t “need” to do her job. That is ridiculous.

- Caroline on December 3rd, 2009

Why it has to be her the one who has to stop working and be home taking care of the babies? Why can’t it be, I don’t know, the FATHER of the twins?

- someone on December 3rd, 2009

Her comment “we didn’t plan on having two” made me chuckle.

- Chris on December 3rd, 2009

SJP and alot of actresses who are mothers and are successful in the careers do have the option to work or not to work. But if they want to work that’s their choice. There are alot of working mothers in corporate america who makes alot of money and could probably retire but they get enjoyment out of their careers in addition to having a family. Yes, they are working mothers they are just in different field where they have more flexibility but they should be allowed to vent because they do experience the same guiltiness and overwhelmingness as other working mothers who work 9-5.

- Jas on December 3rd, 2009

I agree with the people who have pointed out that SJP was likely under contract before the twins were conceived. Although I do not yet have children & will not until I am done with my education, I already know that I will be a working mother until retirement. I love my career & after devoting 8+ years of college to receiving my DVM, I will have massive student loans to pay back & I will very likely be obligated/contracted to a veterinary practice. To throw away such obligations due to having children can be career-ending in many fields, especially since there are so many women who still work in such fields while having children. Returning to work will likely be hard after just 1 or 2 months with the baby, but in my profession it’s a necessity.

However, I do not fault mothers who choose to stay home with their children. If you have the opportunity & are happy doing that, all the power to you & you have my full support. But for me, I absolutely love my career & have sacrificed so much to be where I am today. I know that as long as I have a loving husband who can help me out, I’ll definitely be able to juggle both my career & my children. That’s my personal choice & I knew what I was getting into when I applied to medical/veterinary school.

Be it a stay at home or working mother, the important factor is the mother being checked into the children. There are plenty of both who are checked out. I personally will strive to be checked in, which is what I view as the most important aspect to being a mother.

- Daniella on December 3rd, 2009

What, if she’s not a stay-at-home mom she doesn’t love her children? I have zero plans to ever be a stay-at-home mom, regardless of whether I could afford it, simply because it doesn’t fit my personality or who I am. Enough said.

- Kerri on December 3rd, 2009

You know, the commenters on this site could probably find fault with Mary, mother of Jesus…

- Dana on December 3rd, 2009

Jessicad – VERY well put!

I gave up my career when my daughter was born, and I’m happy with my choice, but I can understand why others wouldn’t. I sit at home all day with my baby. That’s my life. I don’t have a car, and I live in an area with no public transportation and nothing within walking distance. I can totally understand why people would choose to NOT have my life. It may be great for me, but I would think most people wouldn’t like the isolation. You don’t have to give up who you are to be a good parent. For a lot of women, their careers are a HUGE part of who they are. There is nothing wrong with that.

- mrsh on December 3rd, 2009

Daniella – You sound like you’ll be a great mother someday!

- mrsh on December 3rd, 2009

I agree with Eva in that I wonder how many of these women actually do feel guilty for going back to work while they have young children. They just may feel they have to say that. And maybe she wouldn’t feel guilty at all if she hadn’t been told that what she is doing is bad. Also, I disagree with one of Miaow’s points – work won’t always be there. If you take time out from your career to raise children, you end up way behind. Many women are unable to get back where they started because they miss out on so many years of work experience. It’s a terrible dilemma women are placed in and the workplace and dads really need to be reformed to pick up more of the slack.

- ecl on December 3rd, 2009

I keep thinking back to an article that was posted here about Rachel Griffiths, who commented about the pressures which mums in the US put themselves under (her commment about Aussie mums calling past the supermarket to pick up something for the school bake sale rather than making them at home was something I identified with). In Australia, I haven’t felt that pressure at all.

Can everyone please stop being so defensive? If a celeb comes on and talks about the benefits that they enjoy in being a SAHM, then the working mums fired up. If a celeb decides to work while they have small children, the SAHM mothers criticise her.

Why can’t we celebrate the fact that in our modern times, feminism means that we now have a choice as to whether we work after children or stay at home? If you are happy with your choice, you shouldn’t need universal approval of your decision.

- Catey on December 3rd, 2009

I am 100% with the poster that said why can’t the FATHER be the stay-at-home parent? What is so wrong with that? We never give fathers flack for doing the same she is doing. You have to be fair and look at the fact that this is a TWO PARENT family. I am of the opinion that fathers should be held to the same standards we hold mothers to. Why do we put so much emphasis on the mother in a TWO-parent family? This is not 1950. If you’re going to say how wrong it is for a mother to be working while her children are babies, you have to hold fathers to that same accountability and strangely enough, I rarely see anyone bashing fathers for doing their jobs. Just my opinion.

- Shelley on December 4th, 2009

I read these comments with awe – so many of you must be perfect parents who make absolutely the right decision all the time!! I bow down to you. I agonise about each and every decision I make and still never really know if it was the right one. When are parents and people going to stop judging others and let them go about raising their children the way they feel is right. Sure sometimes it isn’t what you would do but it’s not your child so really who cares. What we see on these celebrity pages is a snapshot in time and a comment often taken out of context. Many of these celebrities work incredibly hard – they wouldn’t be where they are without that drive. Why is is such a bad thing? Would your life stand the close up scruitiny these people face on a daily basis simply because people like us want to know what they do in their daily lives? Women it seems are their own worst enemy – we judge and judge and then wonder why we still seem to be behind the rights and places of men. I agree with Catey – feminism isn’t about working or not working it’s about having the right to make the choice that’s right for YOU!! Be strong in your own decision and own them – they’re right for you so don’t justify them.

- Kirsty Fraser on December 4th, 2009

This is the first time I’ve ever posted but I think I’ve reached my limit!The judgmental nature of the comments on this board always depresses me. I visit it to see nice positive stories and as the mother (working) of a 2 year old girl it’s good to get advice.I think we should respect everyone’s decisions as long as their children are healthy and happy which they seem to be!

- tree on December 4th, 2009

It might just be a matter of “timing” let’s face it pregnancy can happen at less than ideal moments in our lives. We’d been trying for a year to get pregnant and then my husband lost his job a month after our son was born. If we’d know we might have waited or not had a second child. Somethings in life you can’t choose. And I’m sure she has more obligations that we realize; a lot of families depend on her not just her own.

- momoftwo on December 4th, 2009

I think it’s funny that people always say “oh I’d love to be a millionaire and never have to work”. Don’t you know that ambition is what makes success in the first place? That drive is part of your person and never goes away. The reason you aren’t a millionaire is because you don’t have the ambition that she has. If you did, you wouldn’t want to stop working. I know that I don’t have her kind of drive for success. She should do what makes her happy and her children will be happy too.

- melania on December 4th, 2009

I dont know.Having a nanny/babysitter is fine for a 9-5 but do you really want another person raising your child? Make no mistake, children take on alot personality of the people/persons they are around most and I’d hate to have my kid have more in common with the hired help then with his or her parents. I’d rethink my life if I was Sarah. What you miss you cant get back.

- Lisa on December 4th, 2009

you no what

i take it back, working mums, your children will be better off because you work, i would put money on the fact that working mothers like myself make sure that when we have free time with our children we dam well make sure its QUALITY time, not sat on our bums while the kids watch a dvd drinking coke eating sweets while we sceam at them to shut up

i wonder how many of these stay at home mums are just lazy and want to live off hand outs from their husbands and goverments…i wonder if their children really are any better from their smothering judgemental style of parenting…no asbo kids thats what they will be

this was a nasty, horrid one sided opinion that i really don’t think is fully true but for some reason you can bash a working mum for being greedy and say she is a bad mum for daring to leave her child but you can’t call a stay at home mum lazy? or dare to suggest that maybe just maybe working mums make that little but extra effort when they are home to make the time well spent, when a child is school age i’m sorry but there is no need for you to be at home you can work and you are not a bad mother for doing so.

even if your baby is a few months old if you HAVE to work it won’t harm your child you can suggest all you want it does but there is NO PROOF so really its just stay at home mums GULIT tripping other mothers for fun so i again beg the question why is it to attack mothers for needing/ having to support thr children they brought into the world rather that just taking dole money..but its not ok to say a mum with children of school age who could get a job should??? double standerd i think so

btw i work 16 hours a week any one as a midwife so any on dare suggest i rethink my life or that my children are suffering because of that is a moron plain and simple, my son is proud of his mummy helping babies and so he should be, i work very hard and play harder when i’m off, i do bake, take them swimming twice a week , playzones, tots tumble , parks, longs walks i never use my work as an excuse for being tired and if my kids are sick i don’t work simple as that but truth be told do you think my son 2 and my daughter 1 miss me in those 16 hours i am gone….no of course not they are to bust having fun with daddy and nana and their baby friends.

now i’m off to get some sleep i have work tomorrow and i’m looking forward to it.

- hayley fedup2thebackteeth on December 4th, 2009

Lisa (#46) – I don’t know if you meant it to or not, but your comment came of as kindof pretentious or snobby. I’m a nanny. And whenever I’ve interviewed with new families all I’ve heard is ‘We would consider you part of the family. We DON’T want you to just be the HIRED HELP.’ Only once has a parent said anything to make me feel inferior or less of a human being simply because I work for them! And as soon as they did, I was gone less than 2 weeks later!! I actually feel honored that they trust me with their children when they can’t be there as I understand how incredibly hard that must be for them! They don’t make the decision lightly. The kids don’t realize until they are older that their parents pay us to watch them. They think of us as part of the family and that’s how it ideally should be!

- Sarah M. on December 4th, 2009

Well I am sorry ladies I just disagree. Point blank. I don’t hate working mothers…I will be one very soon (as my kids get older)and many of my friends are. But I would be lieing if I didn’t tell you that my heart breaks a little when I go into (an excellent) daycare centre and a 18 month old looks up at me hopefully saying “mummy? mummy? mummy?” till he realises that my arrival does not mean it is home time and the mummies are arriving and starts to cry. I mean, perspective, all mothers need breaks and working a few days a week or having a few mornings off if you are a SAHM is probably good in the grand scheme of things…but the little kids that are there all the time…its not my head its my heart that tells me that is not where they want to be. I am not jealous or judgemental but I think we get scared to actually talk about whats best for children because the answers are awkward and confronting. I know my children have a depth of experience no childcare can replicate.

- miaow on December 5th, 2009

Tazina- How do you know the girls are being raised primarily by nannies during their waking hours? Obviously they have nannies, but who’s to say that their FATHER doesn’t care for them during the day a bit as well?

- CelebBabyLover on December 6th, 2009

hayley fedup2thebackteeth – I’ve noticed that you take EVERYTHING on this site a bit too personally. Just an observation. Don’t worry so much about what a bunch of strangers may or may not think of you. They don’t know you and you don’t need to constantly defend your life to them. Just be happy

- mrsh on December 6th, 2009

mrsh Says

i don’t take EVERYTHING to heart but when i see stories like this woth people jumping on each other its important to sand up for yourself,

btw this is only my second post under this name….so i think you have me confused with some one else.

- hayley fedup2thebackteeth on December 6th, 2009

You post as Hayley all the time though, making the same points…..

- April on December 6th, 2009

aprill **must admit atad confused as to why you pointed that out…lol since there are lots of hayleys on here its a very common but oh so fab name

i do yes, i am always banging on about treating others mothers they way you would like to be treated, and that we are all doing the very best we can and thats good enough…my fav is to be less judgemental of others ………..

oh and i hate britney bashing, does my nut in,

my point was that a looove light hearted posts xx cute baby pic and lovely stories which i don’t take to heart.

what i do is these kinds….they get under my skin and since so many keep on with their nasty comments i will keep up with positive things to say, balance it out a little if you will.

i feel a bit silly saying this but aprill if you disagree or dislike my posts ….don’t read them, there are a few hayleys on here as ive said read their post instead lol lol lol

might change my name to hayley hates britney bashing thiks we should all give each other a break support all mum babies are hard work and i’m not that serious honest i’m not……….although me thinks its a bit long……….lmao!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

- hayley fedup2thebackteeth on December 6th, 2009

Well, I’m in agreement that she probably had contractual obligations when the couple entered into the surrogacy process. I believe I read a comment from her saying that they were exploring many options and surrogacy was just one of them, but it happened so quickly that they were almost unprepared for one, much less two.

I know her huband Matthew has been in a play on Broadway for the past couple of months and I see pics of him every now and then walking his son to and from school. It seems as if they have this all arranged fine. SJP also has a huge family, mother, sisters, etc. I’m sure they are helping out, don’t be so convinced that strangers are always the ones raising celebrities babies.

I don’t feel so bad for her babies. I actually feel bad for her husband. She has been out of the country filming SATC2 and now in London for the premiere of her movie with Hugh Grant. There’s been nothing reported that she’s been to her husband’s play in NY. There has to be time for him too. He’s a very talented guy in his own right.

- twisted on December 8th, 2009

Has anyone considered that her comments about greed are not solely about her having work, but maybe about her family… that she would like her family to be as it is now in 10 years time, which I am assuming is happy, healthy?

- Kara on December 9th, 2009

To the parents who are bashing this woman based on the fact that she didn’t NEED to go back to work because she’s a millionaire, one thing to take into account when playing judge, is that people with million dollar bank accounts tend to have million dollar bills. Who knows if she NEEDS to work – she may. Just because you haven’t heard that she’s going into bancruptcy doesn’t mean she isn’t like a lot of middle class people who are actually living check to check, but playing it off very well that they’re not. I have friends that drive an Aston Martin but just lost their house. The point being – don’t judge! And even if she has millions in the bank and no bills at all, stop to think that there are probably plenty of decisions you’ve made that other people thought were horrible, but at the time, you thought they were right for you. Live your own life.

- Triix on December 9th, 2009

Triix took the words right out of my mouth. You know that great old saying the more money you make the more bills you pay? I’m sure that rings true. And when did this site become so…catty? Popping onto this site and reading comments is sometimes like going to perezhilton.com Just plain rude remarks. She is one of the most candid actresses to give an interview, her honesty is quite astonishing and then read the backlash? Sickening. It must be tiring to know everything.

- Felicia on December 17th, 2009