Kate Hudson: 'I Haven't Figured It All Out Yet'

Courtesy Harper’s Bazaar

Despite divorcing after seven years of marriage, Kate Hudson says she harbors no regrets about her relationship with Chris Robinson — for their union produced son Ryder Russell, 5 ½. “Chris is a great dad,” she raves in the January issue of Harper’s Bazaar. “I feel really lucky.”

When the former couple met Kate says there was “no question” that they would go on to have children, but she ultimately found “the routine” of wedded life to be tough.

“That becomes a difficult balance, too, because I feel like my son needs his routine, but for me I need to step out of my routine,” she admits. “I haven’t figured it all out yet.”

Although things didn’t work out, the 30-year-old actress says you won’t catch her bad-mouthing her ex — or dishing on her current beau, New York Yankee Alex Rodriguez.

“I have a child, and there are people involved, and it’s unfair to talk about somebody else, especially when you’re not in that place yet to be discussing those things.”

Her stance should not be interpreted as an unwillingness to share, however; Choosing to focus on the present instead of the past, Kate says that if she were pregnant she would be “talking about what the relationship is and how important that is in my life right now.”

For the time being, however, it is Chris who is poised to make Ryder a big brother — not Kate! “I’m not pregnant,” she insists, refuting rumors of a baby-on-the-way before adding,

“I can’t go two months without being pregnant, engaged, or breaking up because I’m too needy, which is always the one they love. I’m not needy. You kind of have to laugh it off, but it can kind of screw up other things around it.”

Click below to read Kate’s thoughts on spoiling her son.

Describing herself as a “pretty strict mom,” Kate says she frequently puts the brakes on well-meaning friends and family.

“I feel like he is so great, he’s such a good kid, people really connect with him, they want to give him things and do things for him, and I’m like, ‘No,’” she says. “The next thing you know, you have the kid who’s being cute in order to get something.”

From the sound of things, cute comes naturally to Ryder — and Kate carries around the proof, in a notebook filled with “Ryderisms.” In the interview, she shares one of her favorites:

“When he first started talking, he said, ‘Mommy, let’s get on parachutes and eat the candy-cane sky.’ I was like, ‘Okay, Sergeant Pepper!’”

Source: Harper’s Bazaar, January issue

– Missy

Comments

I wish all divorced parents were as mature and respectful as she is toward her ex. Don’t even get me started on my brother, always putting his ex — the mother of his children — down and she does the same to him. Breaks my heart.

- Lily on December 3rd, 2009

Spoken like a daughter of Goldie Hawn. It’s wonderful that she says nothing but great things about her ex.

-meream

- All Women Stalker on December 3rd, 2009

I’m glad she and Chris get along it’s great for Ryder to have that!

I haven’t always agreed with how Kate bounces from relationship to relationship. I do wonder how that effects Ryder to have people in his life one min and the next they’re not there. I just always believed that in the beginning children should never be involved with the parents significant other because it becomes confusing. But that’s just me. Ryder seems very well ajusted so I guess she’s doing something right.

- JMO on December 3rd, 2009

Parts of her interview are odd. Maybe it’s just the way I’m reading it.

- Chris on December 3rd, 2009

Is it awful that my first thought was “why is Kate Hudson giving parenting advice?” Oh yeah, she has a kid.

- willa on December 5th, 2009