Comments on: Ashlee Simpson-Wentz 'Humbled' by Marriage, Motherhood

By: Jessi

Jessi — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 23:00:55 +0000

Elle: I understand, but it was easier to me to just say “it” instead of repeatedly typing out “the baby”.

Holly: Congratulations first of all! And second of all, I normally (if I’m talking about the baby) call the baby, “the baby”.

By: Holly

Holly — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:13:46 +0000

I know lots of people young and old who call baby “it” before they know the gender. It doesn’t mean immaturity just a difference in people.
I am pregnant and always call my baby “the baby” but yesterday found out I am having a little girl!

By: Elle

Elle — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 07:38:40 +0000

I apologize for my use of the word “immature”, as I shouldn’t judge you personally. It just feels a little disrespectful for a baby to be called “it”, even if the gender is not yet known. When I was pregnant, I referred to my baby as “the baby” until I found out I was having a girl. To me, the word “it” is for an object, not a human. Maybe I’m just being sensitive and a bit nit-picky.

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:39:18 +0000

To me, 24 seems really young to be a mom, whatever the average age is. And when I say really young, I don’t mean too young. And Ashlee was 24 not 25 when she had Bronx, 23 when she got pregnant.

By: Jessi

Jessi — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:34:57 +0000

Elle: Also in the Robin Thicke and Patrick Patton (I believe those are the names) name post, they refer to their baby as “it”. They are quite a bit older than I am (not sure how much, but I know they aren’t in their early 20s). So is it really that immature to call their baby or mine it?

By: Jessi

Jessi — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:30:57 +0000

Elle: How should I refer to the baby? I don’t know what it is. I just found out that I’m pregnant. Nor will I find out what it is until it is born. I could call it a fetus, but would that be more mature?

Mrsh: Thank you!

By: mrsh

mrsh — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 16:30:04 +0000

Elle – Most women would refer to their unborn baby as “it” if they don’t know the sex yet. It’s a lot easier than repeatedly saying, “the baby.”

Jessi – I wish you the best of luck with your second child! You sound like you have a good plan for yourself, which shows a lot of maturity

Regarding Ashlee – I didn’t realize that 24/25 was a young age to have a baby. I had my daughter at 25, and am now 26. I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, married for 2 and a half, we own a home. I finished both college and grad school and worked in my chosen career for two years before we decided to have our daughter. I don’t feel “immature” at all. But, having said that, there are women my age who are VERY immature still. It all depends on the individual. There is no right age to have a baby because it will differ for everyone. I know plenty of women who I went to school with that I wouldn’t entrust a goldfish to, let alone a child. But, I also know of several who are very stable and are great mothers. As with everything in life, it’s a very personal decision.

By: CelebBabyLover

CelebBabyLover — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 06:36:56 +0000

Elle- Maybe she doesn’t know the baby’s gender and thus doesn’t know how else to refer to him/her.

By: Elle

Elle — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 08:23:21 +0000

Jessi, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss and wish you the best with your baby-to-be. However, your use of the word “it” to describe your baby makes me cringe and shows a lack of maturity, IMO.

By: Jessi

Jessi — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 04:56:49 +0000

I forgot also will be finishing college online. I can do this with a baby.