Comments on: Liv Tyler Tells Milo School Is Cool (For Now!)

By: Molly

Molly — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:03:32 +0000

What kind of lesson would she be teaching her son if he threw a fit because he didn’t want to go to school that day, and she said “okay, you don’t have to this time?”

He probably has a great time once he gets there, too. I started preschool at age 2.5 and loved it, but when I started kindergarten I freaked out and cried for about an hour the first day. I got over it, had a good rest of that day, and didn’t have a problem the next day. Some things aren’t negotiable.

By: Vincent

Vincent — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 00:45:00 +0000

My 4-year old daughter just said one morning after being home sick for a couple of days, “I wanna go to my daycare a 100-million times!” Me and my wife where not sure if we should leave her there that day or not. All our three kids went to montessori daycare here in Sweden, and I am only positive about what it has meant to them and their early development.

She goes there at about 8.00 and we pick her up at like 2-4 pm (she decides in the morning how long she wants to stay). If I should have an opinion about whats best for the kid, I’d say the parents are often pretty intuitive about when their kids suffer or benefit. Some kids cry alot when their parents leave them (maybe they should be home more) and some run straight inside – almost forgetting to wave byebye.

Here in Sweden daycare is paid by the government, so 99% of parents leave their kids at daycares and go to work. And honestly, in many cases when parents leave toddlers below 1 for full days – it’s not good. We was going to start with our now 4-year old when she was 2.5, but we felt not good about it so we waited another 6 months until she was 3. Then she just loved going there. Bottomline here: use common sense and your parental intuition

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:06:50 +0000

momof4,
Thank you so much!

By: Nina

Nina — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 23:00:47 +0000

I believe it depends on the quality of childcare as well as their philosophy on separation. My daughter just started part time preschool and they go through a fantastic separation process where the parents stay until the child is ready for them to go, and than gradually start leaving for a period of time until there gone for the whole time. Let’s face it most of the separation process is harder on the parents than the kids! So this way allows the children and parents to feel comfortable.
Also Milo’s feelings could be triggered by other things like traveling a lot or his parents divorce. A quality preschool would help the parents and children deal with the real issues involved.

By: cassie

cassie — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 21:30:22 +0000

oh my son is the same…he doesn’t want to go to school

By: momof4

momof4 — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:53:58 +0000

Thank you, Jane I feel that your children (present or future!) are/will be lucky, as well.

michelle, I didn’t intend to put anyone down but I do feel strongly that the early years of a child are best spent with a parent. There will be plenty of time to show my children that work outside the home is important when they are older and don’t need me as much as they do now. It wasn’t that long ago that Kindergarten was the place for children to become independent, learn social skills, and spread their wings.

And believe me, I know how fortunate I am to be able to do this! I think about it every day and cherish this opportunity.

By: Liliana

Liliana — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:35:42 +0000

Baby Carriers, I completely agree. My youngest, who’s almost three, started a program in September where he attends classes two days a week for three hours. He enjoys the sense of independence he has gained and loves to socialize with other children. While I do work full-time, I would’ve chosen the same for him if I was at home as it’s not about convenience.

By: michelle

michelle — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:18:03 +0000

Some people also have the “time, resources, and drive to devote to educating their children”, but they still choose to work outside of the home to instill in children knowledge of a work ethic that can help provide for their family. I also want my daughter to know that she can successfully have a family (and love, care, and educate them in their early years) while still working outside of the home in a field that she is passionate about. Everyone has a different philosophy on this topic, I know, but it is helpful when they do not write about it in such a way that puts down those who choose to work or those who must work in order to scrape by.

By: Jane

Jane — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:23:00 +0000

Julie,
You must have not seen this part of what momof4 said

“I would like to add that I am a stay-home Mom and have the time, resources, and drive to devote to educating my children before school and I realize that many parents have to use daycare or pre-school due to work so this is not always an option.”

In addition, sometimes there is this image of the stay at home mom as someone who has plenty of money, etc. I have known many stay at home moms whose families are just scraping by – they have had to make great financial and career sacrifices in order to have one parent at home.

By: All Women Stalker

All Women Stalker — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:22:42 +0000

Oh, he’ll be fine. I hated going to school when I started, too, but I finished on top of the class. Yes, I still remember. Haha

-meream