Uma Thurman: 'Parenting Isn't a Sprint – It's a Marathon'

10/29/2009 at 04:00 PM ET
Peter Kramer/AP

Being corrected in public for committing a parenting no-no is the moment every parent dreads, including Uma Thurman. “Oh tons,” she tells BabyCenter of the number of times she’s been the guilty party.”It’s horrible.”

At the same time, the 39-year-old actress admits she’s occasionally been the one doling out the guilt. “I saw this father lifting his kid up by the arm the other day and I thought…’I know that’s why I have lifelong shoulder problems,'” Uma recalls. “Somebody thought it was fun and I probably was laughing, meanwhile for the rest of my life I have to go to the chiropractor.” She adds,

“I bit my lip and thought ‘Don’t say anything’ but then I saw him pick her up again by the arm so I said to him quietly, ‘You know you can cause damage to the rotator cuff accidentally?’ Then I thought, ‘I’m such a creep!'”

Being overly harsh with herself is something Uma acknowledges in the interview, expressing sentiments most moms can relate to. “You feel at times so awful about something going wrong or something you wish you could have done better,” she admits. “I guess I put a lot of pressure on myself, like I’ve ruined everything.”

When she’s feeling overwhelmed, however, Uma says she reminds herself that “parenting isn’t a sprint — it’s a marathon.” She goes on to point out,

“Life is long and all of your unnoticed good efforts also add up to something.”

Listing sleep deprivation — something she calls “a known torture” — as the biggest challenge of motherhood, Uma says that hers began in earnest while still pregnant with Maya Ray, now 11.

“It’s part and parcel of having a child,” she observes. “I never ever slept again after my first pregnancy. And I was a champion sleeper! I could wake up… go back to sleep… wake up … do it again. It was almost like an Olympic sport for me.”

In addition to Maya, Uma is mom to 7 ½-year-old Levon Roan with ex-husband Ethan Hawke.

Uma’s new film Motherhood is in theaters now.

Source: BabyCenter

– Missy

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Mia on

Anybody think of the hilarious idea of hearing one of your friends say, “Uma Thurman told me not to lift (insert name here) that way because I can hurt my rotator cuff” LOL.

CelebBabyLover on

Mia- She was saying he could hurt his SON’S rotator cuff, not his own….but I see your point and agree with you! :)

Claire on

I’m happy she said something to the dad, often time people just don’t know. Not everyone has had injuries like that or work in the medical profession. My mom tells people things like that all the time and she’s a doctor so I’m used to it. I personally think it is helpful.

cait5 on

hmmmmm. for every rotator cuff injury there is a child out there that has missed out on the sheer exhiliration of rough and tumble play and all the benefits that it brings… and all because someone has scared the pants of mum or dad with a list of all the terrible things that COULD happen. Life, and parenting,is not about always staying safe IMO.

Provided you aren’t dangling a child off a balcony you won’t get a word out of me.

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