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Jennifer Hudson: 'Love is What Drives Me'

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Over the course of a year that brought the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, new mom Jennifer Hudson says it is the love of her late mother and love for her new son which propels her forward.

“I think she was a great example of being a mother, so when [David Daniel Jr., 7 weeks] first got home, I was like, “Everything I do will be out of love,’” the 28-year-old songstress and actress told PEOPLE Tuesday evening at Central Park’s Rumsey Playfield. “That’s what drives me in the middle of the night when I’m knocked out sleeping and he wakes up.”

“I’m like ‘Oh, I can’t get up.’ But the love is what drives me. Out of love I can do everything.”

Her enthusiasm for parenthood is rivaled by that of fiancé David Otunga. “Sometimes we have to fight over the baby,” Jennifer admits. “Because first he wants him, and then I’ll want him…My son is kind of spoiled right now because no one wants to put him down.” Case in point? Jennifer was asked whether David will dress up for Halloween.

“Yes, his dad went and bought him some Halloween stuff the other night and I was like, ‘Oh, wow, you already did that. I wanted to pick it out!’ See? We have to fight over who gets the baby.”

Christmas — naturally — “is going to be ridiculous,” Jennifer promises. “I can’t wait.”

“I wish he was older so he could remember it, but this is the first one, so I have to go all out. I might get him his own personal Santa Claus, I don’t know but it’s going to be great.”

Click below to read about David’s lengthy list of milestones.

As for David’s latest and greatest accomplishments, Jennifer says that despite his young age her son already has much to brag about. “He does a lot,” she insists. “He tries a lot to turn over, he’s lifting up his own head, he tries to hold his own bottle, sometimes I swear he’s talking to me….Or at least trying to!”

“The other day he said ‘Hi!’ I swear I’m not crazy, David was there too, and he was like — he just said ‘Hi!’ I’m like I know! He just said ‘Hi!’ So he’s very aware, although he’s not yet two months…he’s very aware.”

David is also showing early signs of an inclination towards music, and Jennifer says she will often harmonize with her son’s cries to soothe him. “The other night he was having a fit screaming, and someone turns on the music and he just stops and calms down,” she explains. “And I was exactly the same way as a baby.”

As she attempts to leave the past behind and build a new future with her fiancé and son, Jennifer says that she’s savoring every happy moment with her newfound family-of-three. “I don’t take anything lightly; I value everything and every little accomplishment that I achieve,” she proclaims — and motherhood tops the list.

“My baby, that’s the best part. There are no words for it. He’s the best. It’s just amazing us discovering each other, me becoming a mom.”

– Missy with reporting by Shruti Dhalwala

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I am so glad motherhood makes her so happy and that she is enjoying being a mommy!! With everything she had to go through with her mother, brother and only nephew being murdered, God sent her a little piece of heaven to make her smile again :)

- XOXO on

I admire Jennifer so much, for picking herself up again after what happened to some of her family members. I lost a sister to cancer 11 months ago after a 4 year battle, and it was brutal to just get out of bed and look after my son. I had to keep going not just for myself, but for others around me. It is still extremely difficult. The love driving her comment is absolutely beautiful, I can completely relate. So I totally feel for her, even though it was quite a different situation. I am so happy for her that her newborn has brought her so much joy, she certainly deserves it. All the best, Jennifer!! And be sure to enjoy every moment with your precious little one.

- Miranda on

I love Jennifer and am sure she is a great mom but it always makes me sad to hear of a baby that young not being breastfed. I wonder if she tried at all?

- Shawna on

Well I think that’s unfair to say. I ended up having to just pump exclusively for my first son (through my own fault, I introduced the bottle too soon and he had nipple confusion) but he still had only breastmilk for 10 months. You don’t know what her situation may be.

I am so glad to see her happy and embracing motherhood after all she has been through this past year.

- Brandi on

Shawna, who’s to say she’s not pumping exclusively and giving him breastmilk in a bottle? I seem to recall her saying something in an earlier interview regarding BFing.

It’s so wonderful after all she’s been through to see her so happy with her little family. Congrats again, Jennifer!

- Shannon on

Shawna.. some women can’t breastfeed. It was a month long struggle with my son to get him to latch on, and when he did he would only feed for about a minute before crying from hunger. He lost so much weight and I had to supplement pumped breast milk with formula just to keep his little tummy full. Think before you judge.

- Lila on

Shawna – I have three healthy, thriving children who were all bottle fed. First choice was breast, but it didn’t work out. There is no need for you to feel “sad” about anything. Formula is not the devil’s food.

- Sadie on

I have always loved and respected Jennifer Hudson. She is now flying high and living the dream life. Her baby son David Jr is her joy and inspiration to live her life to the fullest. I just hope and pray. Jen and husband David life togather are filled with more blessings to come. Breastfeed are not this baby will be shown alot of love. There are alot of healthy bottlefed babies as well as it is breastfed ones. People tend to choose what is best for them and their life styles. Jennifer is a super star and on the road more often then others.

- norma on

Jennifer…….wishing you all the happiness your heart and hands can hold!

- Rick on

I agree with Norma. People need to stop judging her by if she breastfeeds or not. As long as the baby is healthy thats all that should matter. I breastfed all 3 of my kids as well but I don’t judge others just because they can’t or chose to not do the breastfeeding. I for one am so tired of hearing this argument. Babies can live off of formula just as well as they can breast milk and still be HEALTHY!

- christi on

Um, wow Shawna. Who cares? The shaming of moms on here is ridiculous and saddening. I personally could care less if someone said they think for them that breastfeeding is icky, or they’re too lazy to do it. Whatever. Who cares if she tried or what her reason is? She sounds like a devoted mom and it’s wonderful that she is happy!

- alanna'smom on

I’m so glad to hear that she’s so happy with her baby! It’s so wonderful that she’s had a beautiful healthy child.

- Jane on

My favorite part of the article is, “Her enthusiasm for parenthood is rivaled by that of fiancé David Otunga. “Sometimes we have to fight over the baby,” Jennifer admits. “Because first he wants him, and then I’ll want him…My son is kind of spoiled right now because no one wants to put him down.”

You see this is a baby who is wanted and will be loved. A baby that seems to have happy parents who don’t mind the sight of each other. It’s not always like that.

- Bill on

Oh, she deserves this happiness a hundred times over! I cannot fathom going through what she did. When she ever sang “Will You Be There” at Michael Jackson’s funeral, I was crying more for her than for him at that point, it was so poignant. She is amazingly talented, and I wish her nothing but joy with her career & her new family!

- Tricia on

Geeze, Shawna… I feel sad for you that you think it matters that much. My daughter is a completely healthy formula-fed baby. It was either give her formula, and take my crazy pills, or go crazy. Which is sadder? Enough with the shaming of non-breastfeeding mothers.

- Summer on

My grandmother was a very well respected private baby nurse. She advocated use of bottles even for breastfed babies. Why? Because daddy needs to bond with his baby as well. All the breastfed babies in my family would take either – bottle or breast. In addition some mommies work outside the home and can’t be there to nurse. When Jennifer has to be away from her son for a few hours, she knows that her son will feed comfortably because he’s familiar with both breast and bottle.

- SweetDiva on

I agree with Shawna, the thought of a 7 week old baby holding his own bottle makes me sad too. I didn’t take her comment as any sort of criticism of Jennifer Hudson or any other mother using bottles. Breastfeeding and bottlefeeding are not equal. There are dangers in not breastfeeding, in fact 1.5 million babies die each year because they are not breastfed. That’s sad! The vast majority of women are physically capable of breastfeeding. It is society’s lack of support, terrible breastfeeding knowledge and advice, other unhealthy health practices (including high c-section rates), etc that make breastfeeding so difficult for so many women. FYI, fathers can bond with babies in much safer ways than bottlefeeding. I also find it amusing that so many people who commented seem to know how Jennifer Hudson is living her life. If she is expressing milk out of necessity then how is it she has first hand knowledge of her son trying to hold his bottle? Many singers, actresses, and other working mothers have been able to breastfeed. Working does not mean you can’t breastfeed, but you may need to get creative and also make it a priority. Breastfeeding is important enough for the health of mother and baby that it should be a priority.

- Mimi on

I hate to read that formula feeding is a lifestyle choice. Formula has 1/100th of the ingredients that human milk does. Human milk is filled with living cells. Formula is high fructose corn syrup and cows milk or soy milk… no comparison.

Formula should only be given when medically necessary- in cases of severe jaundice, weight loss or if a mother flat out refuses to breastfeed.

Our country needs more support for moms and breastfeeding!

Love to Jennifer and her baby!

- sunstone on

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