Catt Sadler on the Upside of Single Working Motherhood

John Shearer/WireImage

As a single mother-of-two and co-host of the Daily 10 on E!, Catt Sadler has her work cut out for her — literally! While “there is guilt” in heading out to cover a red carpet event and leaving sons Austin, 8, and Arion, 4, in the care of others, Catt tells Cookie there is an upside as well, and it is one she learned first-hand. “My mom was a single working mother,” the 33-year-old television personality explains. “She explained to me the benefits of our kids being exposed to different caregivers and having multiple, varied experiences…versus being so attached to just ‘Mom.’”

“She was right. Both of my kids are very social and well-adjusted. I think that is, in part, because they don’t live in a protective little bubble at home with just me.”

Describing the boys as “total hams” who love making mom sing show tunes at bedtime, Catt says a typical Saturday morning involves “pancakes, bacon and fresh fruit followed by lazy play in the backyard.” The boys collect snails while Catt sips her coffee, and the attire is super casual! “The longer Austin and Arion can stay in their jammies, the happier they are,” she reveals. It can’t always be bliss, of course, and Catt — like so many moms — singles out a flight as her most frazzled mom moment. “Austin was almost 2, and we were flying home from Vail, Colorado,” she recalls. “He had gotten an ear infection while on our trip.”

“The plane ride home caused him so much discomfort and pain [that] he cried inconsolably the entire flight. No matter how much rocking or walking up and down the aisle, the poor guy couldn’t get comfortable. I’ll never forget the stares and glares from the other passengers.”

Hopefully the boys have matured into happier travelers, for Catt has big plans for their future. “I wish I had traveled through Europe for a good year to live, work, and play [before having kids],” she explains. “I spent a week in Barcelona a few years ago, and I am dying to return. I can’t go back in time, so my goal is to pack up the kids and take them with me!”

Austin and Arion are Catt’s children with ex-husband Kyle Boyd.

Source: Cookie

– Missy

Comments

Oh, Cat. I am not going to start a mommy war but her idea that kids with SAHMs just sit at home alone all day is really far from the truth, at least at my house. My kids have fuller social calendars than I ever did! I understand that sometimes people need to put down the other side to make themselves feel better about their choices. Cat, just be confident in your own parenting choices, it doesn’t matter what someone else does!

- Jen S on August 16th, 2009

I never liked her when she worked for Fox 59 here in Indianapolis and I don’t care for her now. My mother was a stay at home mom and she didn’t just “sit all day at home” she took care of the household along with my brother and I as well as handle certain matters my Dad wasn’t able to while he was at work. And I turned out just fine. I have no issue with working moms either you do what you have to do. I think its a personal choice I just don’t see the need to knock SAHM’s as isolating their children because that’s not the case.

- CF98 on August 16th, 2009

I agree, that comment did not come off well. She won’t earn more fans making those kind of statements.

- Megan on August 16th, 2009

Where on earth did Catt knock stay at home moms? I think people have their own issues and are trying to put words into her mouth so they can get all righteously offended and vent about whatever it is they’re feeling about their ‘side’. She never said anything about sitting at home all day. People just love to project their personal issues on this blog. The advice the first poster gave is right. Don’t put down the other side just to feel good about your own choices. It works both ways on this issue.

- LisaR on August 16th, 2009

I think the first and second commenters have missed the point. Nowhere in that did she say that stay at home mums just sit around or their kids sit alone all day. She made the comment that SINGLE working mothers have to rely on more people to help with the care of their children and as such, the children are exposed to more carers than just mum whereas children with stay at home mums are more attached to their mums.

I myself am a SAHM and whilst my children are very outgoing and sociable, it is true that the majority of their care is handled by me, not someone else. I think that was all she was saying. She most definitely was not “putting down” SAHM’s.

- Mel on August 16th, 2009

Did they take out the area where she talked about SAHM? I don’t see it up there. Anyway I think either way is a benefit and has its draw backs. I have always wanted to go experience life and then become a SAHM so I think its awesome to do both.

- bren on August 16th, 2009

Looks like some folks are itching to start up that old, and I do mean old, working vs stay at home mom debate. It’s not even called for here as Ms Sadler doesn’t even mention it. This is not the way to get validation for your lifestyle choices, ladies. Why so defensive?

- Emma on August 16th, 2009

Well said, Jen S. Be confident in your choices and don’t slam someone else’s to feel justified in some way. *Sigh*

- Meldoy on August 16th, 2009

“There is guilt” in leaving her boys, so she has to knock other peoples choices? Gimme a break.

- Stella Bella on August 16th, 2009

I agree that she wasn’t necessarily bashing SAHMs, but her comment

“Both of my kids are very social and well-adjusted. I think that is, in part, because they don’t live in a protective little bubble at home with just me”

did rub me the wrong way, I suppose because it made it seem as if the kids of mothers who are SAHMs are less social and less well-adjusted.

- wowfornoobs on August 16th, 2009

People are reading far too much into her remarks and inventing things that aren’t there. The reactionary element of some peoples’ comments on this site often borders on the ridiculous. Most of us know just how hard it can be sometimes as a parent, and we also know that everyone does things differently, so why dont we give support to fellow parents instead of criticism? Just a thought…

- E on August 16th, 2009

Some of these comments seem to say almost the same thing over and over, and it’s weird, because they’re all remarking about something Catt never said. Weird. How did so many people come up with that?

All she said was that she was trying to make the best of a situation that’s obviously not ideal, but she’s looking at the benefits. I doubt she was trying to insult anyone. Jeez.

- Gianna on August 16th, 2009

I was just wondering how “Arion” is pronounced? Is it like Orion? Aaron? or something else. In my head I just keep saying it like “Aryan”, but I assume that is wrong. Maybe it’s a name that I’ve never heard of??

- Meredith on August 16th, 2009

I’m glad my son is at home with me (and his daddy) in his protective bubble (and I work at home- bookkeeping). He’s 3 and a half and he may be a little on the shy side at first but he is also well-mannered, calm and patient.

I feel bad for people that cannot afford (or choose not to afford) the opportunity to relish those first 5 years at home. That time goes so quick I’d hate to think he spent a majority of it with anyone else but me.

- mari on August 17th, 2009

I too am curious about her younger son’s name. The idea of it being like Aryan is a bit unnerving.

The Daily 10 is a boring show anyway but I think shes has a cute bubbly personality.

- Whitney Sterk on August 17th, 2009

mari, ITA. You never get that time back. Our son turns 5 in 3 weeks & the time’s flown by and even more so, so far, with his 19mth old sister. Making most of it while they’re both young, since our little girl’s definitely our last – happy with our lot of two! I work very part-time, an alternate Sunday shift at a legal firm doing legal secretarial work and it works well as only 5 hours a fortnight, some extra $, keeping my skills up, and they’re home with dad, which means no childcare costs. Back home in time for dinner/bedtime on a Sunday, by 6pm. Majority of time I’m a SAHM, but think it’s harder at home. Going to work the 5 hours, when it’s quiet, less busy, is easier than ‘working’ at home, lol…gives me a brief break from the chaos, which all mums need from time to time, but also wouldn’t have it any other way as when they’re teens and later have left home, we’ll miss the chaos, no doubt…!

- Sam & Freya's Mum on August 17th, 2009

our son is outgoing and sociable. He has lots of little Kindy friends, our parents and friends comment to, he’s not shy, loves other company!, so I think it’s more their personality in some cases (they’re all diff and of course some kids are quieter or painfully shy and grow out of it perhaps when older, but not our two though, lol) than whether or not they have different carers/nannies etc at a young age…plus our kids have experiences out and about, away from their ‘bubble’, the little one with me while visiting girlfriends, going to park, pool, library, playdates occasionally, playgroup for 19mth old etc. It’s mostly their dad or I doing it. Occasionally stay at my parents’, babysat by them and also their aunty, so they’re used to being with others, but they’re not living isolated – I like getting out and about anyhow…!

- Sam & Freya's Mum on August 17th, 2009

I know what she means by ‘protective little bubble’ being bad. Having been raised in one, it can make you ‘anti-social’ in a sense. my mother was a stay-at-home parent and I did suffer from it, but that only had to do with how she dealt with it and what sort of a person, therefore parent, she was. Aren’t we all messed up by our parents, to some degree? Get over it.

on a sidenote, having no clue who she is, I thought at first glance that it was Lauren Conrad(?), from this reality show, thinking when did she become a mother??

- kai on August 17th, 2009

Ummmmm…I think she def IS saying that there are advantages to children having multiple caregivers. For young (under 2) children I disagree. I do agree that such children are less clingy and thus convenient to parent but children have years to evolve independence, those early years are the ONLY time that they internalise messages of self worth that affect how they in turn parent, the relationships they form and their lasting self-esteem. They SHOULD be obsessed with mom or whoever is their primary caregiver.

- lopsy on August 17th, 2009

I don’t see what is wrong with children growing up with’just Mom’. I was a stay at home Mom with both my sons. We went to the library and engaged in other activities, so they could be with other kids. They are both outgoing and self confident. So Catt shouldn’t put down stay at home Moms.

- Joy on August 17th, 2009

ohh…… this one made me mad!!!!! I am a stay at home mom ( with a husband) my kids are active! I am the MOM, I take care of MY kids!!!!!!!! And I bet deep down she really wants the same thing just won’n
admitt it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LISA

- Lisa on August 17th, 2009

I think the 2nd boy’s name is pronounced like air-E-on; but I could be wrong.

- Karen on August 17th, 2009

“She explained to me the benefits of our kids being exposed to different caregivers and having multiple, varied experiences…versus being so attached to just ‘Mom.’”

I’ve been on both sides -working outside the home mom with my first two and SAHM for the last’s babyhood. My youngest is outgoing and social, probably even more than his siblings. It is his personality. Although her intent may have been to either justify or promote the fact that her children are social and well adjusted because they had different caregivers it does come across to me as condescending. Kids can have “multiple, varied experiences” by a SAHM as well. We all need to make our own choices when it comes to this without judgment or justification.

- Lorelei on August 17th, 2009

Yikes. The comment about working moms vs. stay at home moms (at least that’s how i read it) sounded very judgmental. There is no need to belittle “the other side”. Why can’t women just support each other?

- martina on August 17th, 2009

Ha!! That makes me laugh. When I decided to be a stay at home mom, people had their comments, my favorite being that my kids would be clingy and my son would be a mommas boy. My son is age 5 and my daughter is 3 and I’m not exaggerating when I say, they rarely are taken by other caregivers and I’m not exaggerating when I say: they are the most independant, unclingy, social little children that I have EVER seen. My children never cry when I do leave them, in a social situation they want nothing to do with me, making friends everywhere we go. This goes to show you, it’s the child, not the situation they are brought up in. I hate the one size fits all mentality by mothers!!!!!!!

- Asha on August 17th, 2009

Gee Lisa, how articulate.
I work and wouldn’t want to be a SAHM, perhaps Ms Sadler feels the same. Just because you are happy being a SAHM doesn’t mean everyone feels the same and deep down are wishing for the same thing.
I loathe the whole SAHM’s are best, no working moms are arguements. How about saying there are good and bad things about both sides and support other women’s choices even if they aren’t what you would like.

- Louise on August 17th, 2009

I think people are over analysing her comments – looking for things that aren’t there.

- Helena on August 17th, 2009

Louise-That’s fine that you wouldn’t want to be a SAHM, as a SAHM I could care less if other moms don’t want to raise their own kids and let someone else do it, you’re missing the point, she’s knocking SAHM to make herself not feel guilty, re-read the article.

- Asha on August 17th, 2009

“ohh…… this one made me mad!!!!! I am a stay at home mom ( with a husband) my kids are active! I am the MOM, I take care of MY kids!!!!!!!! And I bet deep down she really wants the same thing just won’n admitt it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LISA”

Oh my goodness…thanks so much for the laugh! This comment is precious. Stay at home moms are some of the most defensive and easily offended people out there. I wonder why that is?

- Josie on August 17th, 2009

“she’s knocking SAHM to make herself not feel guilty, re-read the article.”

I read the article, and based on these comments I actually I think it’s the SAHMs who are knocking Catt to make THEMSELVES feel better. She never insulted them, but yet here they are, once again, all riled up over absolutely nothing. And even if someone did disagree with how you live, have the confidence to ignore them and live your life the way you see fit. If you believe what you’re doing is better, then that should be the end of the story for you.

- Marie on August 17th, 2009

Im a stay at home mom at the moment, but I was raised by a single working parent. I plan on going back to work when she turns two in 9 months. I think I’ll like being a working parent much better and I’m looking forward to going back to the office.
Sadlers comment wasn’t meant to criticize SAHMs and I don’t think her comment gives anyone here permission to criticize working moms.

In regards to socialization, my daughter does spend a lot of time with me and her father alone, but she has playdates and babysitters too. I think a lot of stay at home moms I’ve met can lead a very isolated existence with their children. If they aren’t with their kids at all times they feel like they aren’t doing their jobs. These sahms don’t see the detriment they’re doing to their kids.

- gaia's mom on August 17th, 2009

She said, “in part” right? I don’t think she meant it to be offensive.

- Jessicad on August 17th, 2009

Gaia’s mom, to go from “I don’t think her comment gives anyone here permission to criticize working moms” to “These sahms don’t see the detriment they’re doing to their kids” makes you contradict yourself.

- megan on August 17th, 2009

I’m a SAHM and I have no issue with her working. I certainly do not need to bash her or any other WOHM to validate my choices. I could care less what she does as long as her children are cared for. Oh, and she’s wrong about children needing the varied experiences multiple caregivers can offer. Her justification goes against every psychological fact of the cycle of attachment. As a foster mom, I am well-trained in the cycle of attachment and have seen first-hand the affects of that cyle being ignored. I have no doubt that Catt is doing what she thinks is best and loves her kids.

- Meldoy on August 17th, 2009

I think that some women are meant to stay at home and others are meant to go to work. I am a stay at home mom and I don’t like some of the comments left by other stay at home moms, why judge another mom for the decisions that she makes. She is trying to the best for her children. I believe that the remark was taken way out of line. I have the upmost respect for mothers who make the decision to work outside of the home whether it be because the family needs two incomes or just because she needs to balance the family life and professional life. I would never judge other mother for working, I would be judging my mother. Shouldn’t we be praising mothers for the work that they do on a regular basis. Really when did women become so critical of other women. Judge yourselves before you judge others.

- B on August 17th, 2009

Megan you cut off part of my comment. I wasn’t talking about all sahms I was talking some(hence the ‘these’) that I’ve encountered.

Any sahm who isolates herself her child and doesn’t socialize her kid is definitely doing their child a diservice, the same goes for any working moms. Its just more likely with someone who stays at home because they’re the main caretaker.

- gaia's mom on August 17th, 2009

Maybe I forgot how to read but I didn’t see Cat “bashing” stay at home moms anywhere in her comments and I’ve read them several times over. All I got was that she’s glad her boys are exposed to different types of caregivers. Nothing more, nothing less.

- Ava on August 17th, 2009

Asha, you are being overly defensive and your comments do not help your argument. Again, just because you do things one way does not mean that it is the right way for everyone. As someone who was brought up by 2 incredible, loving, working parents, it is offensive to me that someone should suggest that just because my mother worked I was ‘brought up’ by someone else. There is a big difference in simply caring for a child for a few hours a day while their parents work and bringing them up. I was not raised by anyone but my mum and dad. Please do not be so quick to judge.

- E on August 17th, 2009

My only comment on this is she said about taking more time to travel + such before she had kids, and people can agree/or disagree, but I think that’s true/very important. Although I’m sure having kids is incredible + having a strong family unit is the most important thing, more people often say its important to have “exhausted yourself” + done everything you ever really wanted to do on your own time: travel, go to school, work-before you have kids.

About stay at home/being just mom (as she mentioned), I think she just meant that her kids get to be exposed to different types of people (like different Nannies/cultures) instead of just her POV + ideas.

For example, Angelina Jolie: ““We don’t ever have anybody spend the night. We may have to adjust that when the next one comes. But we do have ladies that work with us, and they’re also from different cultures and back-grounds. One lady’s a Vietnamese teacher — wonderful. One is of Congolese descent from Belgium. Another is from the States and is really creative and does art programs.”

And also, its important to still claim your identity + who you are. Having kids changes you, and that is a big part of your life, but people tend to forget that there was life before that + the whole focus becomes your kids + when they start to grow up/pull away, they don’t know what to do with themselves. Like anything else, too much of anything isn’t a good thing, and its important + healthy to have other activities, like working, or art, sports..etc. Kids are people too, they need space + moderation like everyone else.

- Mia on August 17th, 2009

You wanna know why SAHMs are getting so defensive? Because we feel very passionate for our decision to put our children first. Please, I don’t want to see any comments about a working mom putting their kid first, it’s contradictory in terms. I know I’ve felt strongly about wanting to be a SAHM since I was a teenager and knew I wanted to have kids (I’m not a teen mom, had my first at 31). I love my kids, I want to spend most of my time with them, come on: THAT’S WHY I HAD THEM. I have a friend who sees her son 2 hours a day. How can you bond with that little of time?

My children are not in a protective bubble. They get exposed to more than if they were in daycare, doing the same thing everyday, seeing the same people everyday. We go everywhere and experience so much in one weeks time than a child in daycare probably experiences in 6 months. Their world is their classroom, not within the walls of a daycare center. They are around new people constantly. I’m just sick of the arrogance and ignorance and Catt’s comment was just that.

- Asha on August 17th, 2009

“Please, I don’t want to see any comments about a working mom putting their kid first, it’s contradictory in terms.”

That’s a whole lot of arrogance from someone who is supposedly ‘sick’ of someone else’s arrogance. FYI, some mothers, especially those single by choice or by circumstance, actually have to work to put food on the table and a roof over the heads of their kids. To them, that IS putting their kids first and they’d probably have a few choice words for you if you told them otherwise. I wish you WOULD approach one of them and say that to their face. I think you need the exposure. In this economy especially, the reality is just that…some women, even those with a spouse bringing in an income, are working because they do put their children first and they realize that eating is essential. If you still think that this is not ‘putting their kids first’ then you may be the one living inside a protective bubble.

- GiannaG on August 17th, 2009

Thank you GiannaG. Asha, again, your comments simply come across as uninformed.

- E on August 17th, 2009

Well said, GiannaG. Asha, I find your comments insulting and I am not even a mother yet myself. I presume you also feel that every working father out there is failing to put his children first? I’m sure many parents would love the luxury of not having to work after having children, but that’s not a reality for many people, and to suggest that going out to work somehow means that they don’t put their children first is ridiculous.

- Elizabeth on August 17th, 2009

In defense to Asha – There ARE women out there who say “Oh, I need to put food on the table” when in reality what they NEED is their 5000 square foot house, their BMW(s), their mani/pedi every 2 weeks, their hair cut/color every month, tanning sessions, the latest styles of clothes…the list goes on. Yes, there ARE women who NEED to work to pay the essential bills…but there also DEFINITELY ARE women out there who have kids and WANT others to raise them because they don’t want to be bothered. It’s not a glorious job to stay at home, a lot of women would rather work, I know of several. Staying at home is hard and there’s a lot of women who don’t want to do it. However, in MOST cases this subject is not extreme black and white – there are LOTS of shades of gray as far as this subject is concerned. There are righteous people on BOTH sides who need to get over themselves and realize that (in most cases) people are doing what’s best for THEIR families. I also DO believe that this women WAS throwing a dig at SAHM’s – JMO.

- SH on August 17th, 2009

SH you are a voice of reason on this post!

- Emily on August 17th, 2009

Definitely agree with GiannaG and Elizabeth brings up an excellent point as well.

What I don’t like is this vibe that I’m getting that SAHM=good mom. I’m sorry, but since when was that the equation? There are many good sahms and very good working mothers your occupational choice has nothing to do with you parenting skills. Also its really amusing how some of you ladies are turning ‘work’ into Mojitos on the beach. It’s called WORK, whether thats typing all day, working on an oil rig in the gulf of mexico, or being a flight attendant. At the beginning and end of the day they still have to come home to their children and clean/cook like a SaHM.

There’s this rhetoric that a woman is supposed to want to stay home with the kids and that will quench all ambitions they’ve ever had. Why? Most men don’t/can’t, it doesn’t mean they love their children less or don’t put them first. Some women I know as much as they love their children, love their jobs and are fulfilled in a different way by each. Of course they’d drop everything at a dime for their children but they enjoy work.

- Bieta on August 17th, 2009

I think the reason SAHM get annoyed sometimes is that people constantly assume you are choosing to be at home because you just darn love being around babies. I think my kids are the neatest people on the planet but I am at home rather than enjoying a significantly easier life with more money and the potential to go to the toilet by myself sometimes because I honestly think based upon a lot of research and professional experience as an ex child psychologist that this is what is best for my children, well all children. And I know there are women who can’t have the luxury to stay at home, but I am not going to sugar coat the facts so others don’t feel upset. I don’t support women that put small babies in daycare who have ANY OTHER FINANCIAL OPTIONS. I think its awful. And I think if you want children then you should put your finances and your satisfying career on hold or just not have them. Wow. I actually said that.

- lopsy on August 17th, 2009

You’re exactly right SH. There is a post on the dooce site about this topic too, drives me nuts when I hear a mother say she “has” to work, then she drives off in her $50,000 suv to her $400,000 house! You don’t have to live that way, downsize!! People in this country care way too much about materialistic things and it’s ridiculous. but so many times it comes off like moms who stay home think they are better moms, not true! Ugh, I could go on for days on this topic, so I’ll stop:)

- Jessicad on August 17th, 2009

BUT, most working moms are absolutely putting their kids first. I’m a single mother who gets zero child support, what else am I supposed to do? Teach my daughter to live on welfare or show her how to be a strong indepedent woman and take care of yourself. I dare anyone to tell me I’m not putting my daughter first. I have so much respect for stay at home moms. It’s hard work! I was able to do it for 9 months after my daughter was born because I saved when I was pregnant, I knew I’d be returning to school then working. I just graduated and now I’m able to take care of us on my own, but being a stay at home mom isn’t harder than a working mom or vice versa. We’re all fighting our own battles and should respect each other a little more.

- Jessicad on August 17th, 2009

Lopsy, out of curiousity how long do you plan on staying home? I think most women if given the luxury would take the two years off from work. I never bothered to look at any studies honestly.

- gaia's mom on August 18th, 2009

I understand what you’re saying, SH, but Asha was referring to ALL working moms in her last comment, condemning them all in one fell swoop. She wasn’t making any distinction between the supposedly materialistic moms (I guess having any sort of ambition when you have kids is frowned upon) and women who have to work because if they miss another rent check they’re out on the street. As far as she’s concerned, she knows better than them all. Her painting them all with that one broad brush from up there on her high, high horse is what came off as extremely arrogant and ignorant, which is what was ironic, given that she claimed to be put off by Catt’s supposed arrogance and ignorance.

- Josie on August 18th, 2009

Asha, it’s a good thing they don’t allow name calling and profanity on this site or I’d have a few choice words for you right now. I am a working mother. I have 3 kids who are all in daycare. I went into my marriage and having kids going on the promise from my ex-husband that when we had them I would stay at home. My life’s goal was to be a SAHM. However things dont always go the way I want, and I am now a single working mom trying to raise 3 kids. I HAVE to work just to put a roof over their heads and food on the table. I HAVE to put them in daycare. How DARE you sit there and imply that I’m not putting my kids first? Who on earth do you think you are? I wind up in tears so often b/c I can’t spend the time I want with my kids, b/c I can’t do PTO and Girl Scout, and take them to playdates and Mommy & Me classes. IT SUCKS. And to have someone sit here and presume to say I’m not putting them first b/c I work is an absolute slap in the face. I would never wish this life on anyone, but I can’t help what you would do if your man left and refused to help you at all. Maybe that would knock you down a few pegs and make you have a little more sympathy for those of us who HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE.

- Shannon on August 18th, 2009

Honestly, who cares what this woman says? Her opinion is just that — an opinion, based on nothing more than her own experience. Maybe she is getting in a dig at SAHMs, maybe not. What does it matter? She is nobody, certainly not any kind of authority on parenting. We are all doing the best we can for our kids. There is no one right way and to assume there is, well, that’s just small-minded and laughable.

Stay-at-home mom, working mom — the only important part of the title is MOM. Kudos to all of us moms who do all that we can to make sure our children are healthy, happy and well-adjusted.

- Christy on August 18th, 2009

jessicad, I don’t want to disagree with your point, but I do want to point out that in many areas of this country, one cannot buy a house for under $400,000. In some states, houses are much cheaper, but in places like California(homes near the water or with nice views, or just in areas with those), NY (Outside Manhattan and on Long Island especially), Massachusetts, Washington D.C….I think you get the point. Not everywhere has a housing market where a house for that much is extravagant. In fact, in some places, that would be “downsizing”. Once again, don’t want to be mean, just wanted to point that out.

- Candice on August 19th, 2009

Candice,
Well, if a woman wants a home “with a view” then she probably wouldn’t raise her kids at home then…exactly my point.

- SH on August 19th, 2009

SH, I didn’t say only a home “with a view”, I also said in areas with those things…i.e. mountain towns or beach cities and towns, or in the suburb of a major city. That $400,000 house would be one without the view, its just “expensive” because of its proximity to these amenities(even great school districts, great community items and nice parks would increase prices). If one works in these areas, they are probably going to live there, especially if they are working and don’t want a long commute to further the time away from their kids. Just because you live in a very expensive area doesn’t mean you have the most expensive house. What I was trying to say before is that in an expensive real estate area/market, the $400,000 house might be the cheapest thing around, and hey, it could be a real fixer upper. Price doesn’t truly define your home because location defines your price. Mid-American States will very often have homes that are much less expensive than those on the coasts so you will get more bang for your buck there. Also, the further you go from popular cities the cheaper housing gets. Its all about location and the local market. That is what I was trying to say, not anything about buying a house with a view.

- Candice on August 20th, 2009

ok people, Catt didn’t outright SAY that children of SAHM’s are less sociable, etc. She INSINUATED it when she said, QUOTE,
“Both of my kids are very social and well-adjusted. I think that is, in part, because they don’t live in a protective little bubble at home with just me.”
That sounds like a put-down of SAHM’s. If it wasn’t, fine, but it sounds like it!

- Katherine on June 18th, 2010