Jools Oliver Details Fertility Fight

07/27/2009 at 02:00 PM ET
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Model Jools Oliver always knew she wanted a family, but also suspected it would not be as simple as it sounded. “Even when I was 17, I thought there might be a problem and that I’d have trouble conceiving because my periods were irregular,” notes Jools, now mom to daughters Poppy Honey, 7, Daisy Boo, 6, and Petal Blossom Rainbow, 3 ½ months.

After Jools married celebrity chef Jamie Oliver in 2000, the couple started trying for a baby without success. Soon after, the pair decided to have testing done to see what the problem was. “I was quite quickly diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), which meant that I wasn’t ovulating each month like normal,” she explains. Despite the diagnosis, Jools was unfazed by the road ahead.

“You hear horror stories and you think it’s going to be hard, but I didn’t care. I just wanted a baby.”

Jools made the decision to take the drug Clomid, which stimulates ovulation. “I had all the side effects,” she remembers. “Dizziness, panic attacks, blurred vision.” However, she was “determined to get the thing done. It was awful, but I just thought: ‘Keep going.’ I’m sure any couple that has been through fertility treatment understands what I’m saying.”

Even more paralyzing than the side effects was the fear that Clomid wouldn’t work. “I think I spent lots of time panicking and that made the effects of the drug worse,” she admits. “It was a hard few months and there was so much pressure on us both. It was especially tough for Jamie because he was working. It’s not a nice way to try to get a baby really.”

After months of trying, the couple learned that a baby was on the way. An overjoyed Jools “fell in love” with the doctor that helped her and Jamie achieve their dream. “I suppose I’m just another patient to him,” she muses, “but if I go back to the hospital for a check-up and see him, I always think about what he did for me. He probably does it every day, but for me it was a miracle.”

Click below to read about Petal’s arrival, the girls schedule and if more kids will be on the way.

Four months after Poppy’s arrival in March 2002, Jools found herself expecting again — naturally, this time. “That was such a shock,” Jools remembers. “But after about a week, I thought: ‘This is great.'” After taking a break to recover from having two children so close together, Jaime and Jools decided to try for a third child — only to find that her periods had stopped. “When I wanted another baby, I thought that I wouldn’t be able to. I feared I’d waited too long to try for another, so I had to use Clomid again,” she explains.

The side effects returned, although Jools didn’t put two and two together at first. “I thought I was going mad or that I had a tumor,” she recalls. “My doctor even sent me for a brain scan. Jamie said to me: ‘This is ridiculous. What are you doing to yourself?’ In the end, my results were fine. The doctor did tell me I had to calm down though or the treatment wasn’t going to work.”

Three months after the arrival of Petal, Jools is back to her pre-pregnancy shape, but don’t ask her for any tips on losing weight — “I haven’t got any!” The model admits that she has yet to exercise since the birth, crediting breastfeeding and “never getting the chance to sit down” for her trim body.

“During the week I don’t put Jamie in the mix at all. I get up at 6 a.m. and I do the girls’ breakfast, get them dressed and ready, then I feed Petal while we hang out in the house,” explains Jools. “My nanny comes at 8 a.m. to take the girls to school and then I’m at home with the baby all day.” Once the older girls come home from school around 3 p.m., “it’s like a whirlwind” at home.

“They used to go to bed at 6 p.m. and now it’s creeping up to 8 p.m… I’m really good at getting them to bed, but they’re really good at getting back up to ask complicated questions that need long answers!”

Jools and the girls are excited for the weekends when they meet up with Jamie at the family home in Essex and dad takes over! “I spend time with Petal, and he does boy things with the girls,” which makes Jools more than a little nervous. “I’m quite controlling and I wasn’t happy that he’d taught them to climb up trees,” she admits. “The next day Poppy was out and scraped her tummy. But I shouldn’t complain because Jamie’s excellent at the weekends, anything I ask him to do, he’d do it.”

Now that the couple has the schedule all worked out, would they add a fourth child to the family? Jamie “would like a boy, but he loves his girls,” Jools notes. “When they arrive, you can’t imagine them any other way.” Although Jools “thinks Jamie’s done,” she feels she has “one more left … like I’m not done yet.”

Source: News of the World Magazine

— Angela

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Iman on

I don’t know if I could get myself to try for another baby like she may do hearing what she had to go through with all the side effects. They sound horrible, and I don’t think I’d be able to do it if I already had three beautiful children.

Lola Marie on

Bless her heart…that’s a tough journey, but its obvious the rewards are far and exceedingly worth it.

Lil Baby Cakes on

I always commend celebrities like Jools who come out and actually tell the world about their fertility fight. It’s always nice to know that other women may be struggling with the same problems and it is possible to have success and have a baby. It can give other women hope and know that celebrities are humans too.

Kayla on

The baby is adorable…I still can’t get over the name though

megan on

I am happy for them. However, I am surprised how many times in the past Jamie publicly commented about wanting a boy; you’d think that Jools going through all that would make him go “maybe I need to keep that thought to myself, because it’s the least important thing right now.”

Brittany on

Its nice to hear of someone famous out there that suffers from PCOS. I have PCOS as well and we are struggling to get pregnant. So it’s really nice to hear a success story.

Joanne on

I love to read how determination can pay off, you deserve all your bundles of joy and I hope if you decide to try again you will get a boy. It’s such an encouragement to fellow TTCer’s xx

Cathylee on

It sounds hard, I’m happy she has got her dream!
But why, oh why, would you have a problem with your daughters learning to climb in tress? I absolutely loath gender roles in modern families. Why wouldn’t girls want to be active and get dirty and scratched?

Mrs. R. on

I think Jools is amazing for not only sharing her story of infertility, but also for how much she does in her home.

It’s reassuring to hear even celeb families struggle to balance work and life and partnership. It was nice to hear from a mom who’s husband is working so hard during the week that he’s ‘not even in the mix’ and so the mom works extra hard. Our family is like that, and it’s hard sometimes, but like Jools, I relish weekends when my husband and daughter spend so much time together.

Christa Bledsoe on

Inspiring story, but I think the names are ridiculous.

Tee on

I am so glad that Jools has chosen to share some of her fertility problems. It’s so inspiring to me to hear about couples that have successfully conceived and carried a child to term. So many people just assume that conception will be easy and that is not always the case. Brittany, I’m sorry to hear about struggle with PCOS. I’ll be praying for you, that the Lord will give you the baby that you long for.

brannon on

This is probably going to sound really idiotic but as I’m still thinking about heidis humpty dumpty post… Bear with me. I would imagine those w fertility issues would be more likely to conceive on days of ovulation. Therefore, it would seem that those struggling w fertility would be more likely to have boys? I know its not an exact science but just a weird random thought.

Jacquie on

I have PCOS also but didn’t discover it until we were ttc with our second daughter. Along with endometriosis, it made it difficult but not impossible. We have two dds and I am very greatful for that. Although we had to go through some infertility stuff, we never got to the point of taking Clomid but I know it can be horrible. For me, the rest of the side effects of PCOS are the worst part of the whole thing.

Kim on

Who goes to bed at 6:00 p.m.? How do you put a 7 and a 6 year old to bed that early? We don’t even eat dinner until 7:00 and my five year old goes to bed at 9:00. B

momof3 on

LOVE Jools Oliver; I think it’s great that she’s so honest and down to earth about the struggles they’ve encountered in expanding their family. My family is very similar–my husband works really hard during the week so that I can stay at home with my children and he’s fantastically hands-on at the weekend. I think the girls names are delightful–I love old-fashioned English folksy names.
I also believe in putting children to bed at the proper time-we start baths etc at 6pm and have them in their rooms by 7:30pm at the latest. Kim, I beg to differ–I think 9:00 is much too late for a five year old.

MZ on

cathylee, i don’t think she had problems with her girls climbing trees b/c they are girls, but b/c they might get hurt. i think by “boy” things she meant things her husband picks out.

Hayley on

i have a 24 month old son and a 8 month old baby girl who i love😀 and they both got to bed at 6.30..and get up at 9.30 the next morning.. .any later say if we have gone out for dinner some times i find them both tired the next day when they get up and i always find it has a knock on effect on nap times too..

i honestly don’t understand why people would want small children up late into the evening…not only will you have to try and correct it later when they are older but the evenings are ‘my’ time , for me its time to catch up on wasing, ironing maybe watch a bit of tv or read a book, things i don’t do as much in the day as i’m tooo busy playing lol,…maybe thats why my children go to bed do ‘early’ lol lol too tired from being chased about by mummy :p

i don’t like to judge how others bring up their own babies i just don’t understand it..i think solid bedtime works i no i am lucky to have 2 children that sleep in the same room sleep stright through from 6.30 till 9.30 but i have worked hard at their ‘bed times’ and ‘naps’ to make sure they are well rested and i get some ‘me’ time even if i spend it cleaning up…if your little ones go to bed that late how on earth do you fit it in????

Alex on

I love Jools! She’s so honest and down to earth. Her book about getting pregnant the first time round is wonderful – so heartwarming and hilarious in parts! Always love reading any interviews with her

homeschoolmama on

There’s no such thing as “proper” time for bedtimes. It’s an individual thing each family has to figure out for their particular schedule (though I will say that I find 6pm, personally, ridiculous – most kids that age only need 10.5-11 hours of sleep a night – what, do they wake up at 4:30-5 in the morning? The earliest I have ever, in years and years of parenting, heard from others was 7 or 7:30pm. Most people I know with kids in school have 8 or 8:30 bedtimes.)

My DH doesn’t even get home until 6:30ish. I’m not going to deprive them of time with their dad just to follow some arbitrary schedule. 9pm isn’t even that late! It’s barely dark by then, and my kids aren’t going to go to sleep when we could still be outside playing in the backyard at that hour, or coming home from the park, or from out to dinner. My 5yo goes to bed around 11! And then he and his siblings all sleep in until 10am or so. It’s unusual but works for us. We homeschool, have very very slow-paced days, and get to go to whatever night activities we want without worrying about rushing home for bedtimes. We also have tons of family time each evening, which is important to us. None are my kids are sleep-deprived; on the contrary, they are able to fall asleep on their own cues, without a routine, sleep as long as the need, and wake up refreshed, flexing as they need for traveling, etc. Don’t knock it til you’ve tried it!

Sanja on

I love Jools and it’s wonderful to hear celebrities give such honest interviews.

I also love the names Poppy, Daisy and Petal. The only problem I have with them is that Poppy and Daisy are VERY popular in the UK, so I’d never use them. Petal is still an option though (hope it doesn’t get more common now that the Olivers have used it).

homeschoolmama on

Haley –

I have worked with dozens of dozens of young families in my line of work, and I have literally NEVER heard of children sleeping 15 hours straight. Not saying you are lying, of course, just that that is a most unusual situation and you shouldn’t assume other children would do that. In fact, many many 8-month-olds (esp breastfeeding ones, and ones who were not sleep-trained through CIO) are still waking 1, 2, 3+ times per night). That’s a LONG time for the average infant to go without eating. So, if it works for you, great, but I must point out that that would not work for the majority of families. Most babies and toddlers will sleep 12, maaaybbbe 13 hours straight at most. Which means that you either a) put them down early and have them get up relatively early or b) put them down late and have them get up relatively late. Most people don’t find themselves in the situation of kids going to bed early and then sleeping until 9:30. In fact, many working moms struggle to get their kids to bed by 8:30 and then they wake at 6:30 and have to go to daycare.

As for “me” time, we still have it. When mine were littler, we routinely stayed up 2-3 hours after them, watching movies, chatting, relaxing, playing games, etc. Now that mine are 2, 5, and 7, we all hang out together, and DH and I are free to do whatever we like (well, almost anything, LOL!) with them in the midst of us. They run around, play, read, draw, entertain themselves, and DH and I pretty much do our own thing. It’s very low-key.

Courtney on

I admire her for coming forward with her story. We had fetility problems as well tho not PCOS. And the thing with Heidi’s humpty dance is still cracking me up. We charted BBT and knew the EXACT day that we ovualted and concieved…most people have NO CLUE when they ovulate…which is why it was funny to me how so many people looked at the calender to see if that was true for them…LOL.

And I guess I am weird as well…my kids (8,7,5,2) go to bed as early as 6 and at the very latest 7:30. They sleep till about 9-9:30 during the summer and 7:30 during school. I can not possibly imagine having kids awake in my home at 11 at night… I can not remember a time in the last 9 years that I have had a child up past 9…and that was when she was throwing up…

Alesha on

It is refreshing more & more celebs being “normal” & talking to “us” about personal issues such as infertility, having gone thru it myself w PCOS, & the side effects from it, as well as Clomid, are like Jools says, & then some;) I also constantly felt like I was carrying a dozen precious eggs & sitting was excruciating, like they were gonna “pop” or “hatch” @ any minute;) ALL WORTH it for our DD twins:):)

amandamay on

You also have to remember that not everyone needs the same amount of sleep! I’ve never needed much and hardly slept as a child (I remember lying awake in bed, bored until 11pm even as young as 6 and still woke at 7am happy and refreshed) My son also has never slept much. At age 7 He sleeps on average 9 hours a night. If he were to go to bed at 6pm he’d be awake at 3am! And I’m not kidding. He usually goes to bed at 9:30pm and wakes at 6:45am like clockwork. Don’t be so judgey. Some people are major sleepers (I have an adult friend who still sleeps 10 hours a night or she feels awful the next day) and some don’t need much. Sleep isn’t a “one size fits all” kind of deal.

Toija on

It always brings a smile to my face and heart to read a story has given birth to a child if she has struggles with infertilty.I suffer from PCOS and was diagnosed in 2002 after 2 miscarriages.I tried Clomid for 5 cycles, I was hospitalized for 3 days for a side effect due too the Clomid.I truly believe that the infertilty is the worst side effect of this disease, because it brings so many other problems. I left my husband of 8 years because I could not deal with the depression and guilt of not being able to give him a child. Even though he was completly satisfied and happy of having a childless marriage. We look about IVF and adoption but just couldn’t afford it. And we didn’t know a woman who wanted to give up her child for adoption. Here in the USA the insurance companies still view any infertilty treatment outside of Clomid is experimental and not worth the time. If they only consider the facts that this problem causes ending of relationships,mental stabilty, and lives.

Sarah M. on

Most families I sit for, the children go to bed between 7 and 8. And that varies per kid, per day. If they wake up an hour earlier or later than they usually do in the morning, their schedule is either an hour ahead or an hour behind than it would usually be. Including bedtime. I also know someone who has a 2 year old and a 9 month old, and both of the kids go to bed around 9. The dad said that they did this because they wanted their children’s schedule to, for the most part, mirror their own. And the parents don’t go to bed until around 9. It works for them. Every family is different.

I’m glad Jools is being open about her problems. It gives hope to those facing similar problems that it will be okay in the end!

Tee on

Toija- I’m so sorry to hear about the struggle you have had with infertility. I am not married, so I have never struggled with getting pregnant. However, I have fairly severe “female issues.” I have been told that the odds of me carrying to term are slim to none. All I have ever wanted is to be a wife and mother, so I ache at the thought that I probably have to forego having a biological child. If I hurt this much over it and I haven’t even tried to get pregnant, I can’t begin to imagine how hard it must be when you are trying to conceive.

Silly question, but can anyone tell me what DD means? I often see DD or DH in comments and I don’t have the slightest idea of what they mean!

CelebBabyLover on

TEE- DD= Dear daughter. DH= Dear husband or dear hubby.🙂

Lauren on

Tee, I think DH stands for Dear Husband, Darling Husband.. Something along those terms. And DD means, Dear daughter(s)😀

Seraphina on

DD = Dear Daughter
DS = Dear Son
DH = Dear Husband

I actually think DH, DS, DD are all a bit silly, but they allow people to talk about their children and husband without using names.
🙂

natalie on

my parents fought with infertility for about nine years before I was born, but i was conceived without the help of infertility drugs, in-vitro and other stuff along that line. i guess they must have proved that they really really wanted a baby.
i don’t disapprove of the usage of fertility drugs but i definitely think you should give nature a fair shot before doing it the other way. when nature fails, and you still want a baby, you should be given the chance of conceiving, definitely.

other than that, I hate the name Petal. oh, sorry. scratch that. Petal isn’t even a name!! Okay I get it, the names of their daughters follow the same theme but come on – first you had Poppy, then Daisy.. Did you find Rose or Lily to be too common?!

zarab on

I absolutely love Jools Oliver after reading her wonderful, heartwarming and very funny book ‘Minus Nine to One’ before I fell pregnant, during my pregnancy, and again after I gave birth. She seems like a very down-to-earth, honest woman, and I think it’s wonderful that she’s able to be so open about her struggles to conceive.

I must say that one thing that does sit a bit uncomfortably with me though is how much praise she seems to lavish on her obstetrician, both in the book, and in this interview. I can understand that she’s very thankful, as he helped her to achieve her dream of a family, but at the end of he day, it sounds as though all he really did was prescribe her Clomid, which is known to have a lot of potential adverse side effects. And really, how hard is it to write a script?

I also faced a number of health issues before I conceived my first baby, but after much research, chose to follow a natural preconception plan, under the guidance of my naturopath. This involved everything from taking herbs and vitamin supplements to help regulate my cycles and sort out my fertility issues, to giving up alcohol and caffeine (my partner had to do the same), following an organic diet, and commencing a new exercise program, which included yoga and meditation etc. It was a four month plan, but at the end of the process, we ended up conceiving our child on our first try, and I had a wonderful pregnancy, beautiful birth, and now have a gorgeous and very healthy six month old baby boy.

I would just like to stress how much I would advocate this approach as the first step in trying to resolve fertility issues, as the natural fertility approach has far greater success rates than Clomid, IVF and other medicalised approaches, although many people remain unaware of this approach. Natural fertility methods can also be used in conjunction with other fertility treatments, such as IVF, in order to optimise the chances of conceiving a healthy baby.

I do feel that doctors can often be lazy in just filling out a script when there are often underlying health issues that should really be addressed first, and it concerns me a bit when people put so-called specialists up on a pedestal like Jools seems to do…

Anyway, on another note, she seems so happy with her growing family, and I wish her, Jamie and her gorgeous girls all the best. She really is a wonderful role-model, and I hope she writes another book soon!!

Mia on

Natalie, while there are many natural methods to conceive: certain foods have shown results in increasing fertility, as well as relaxing + getting rid of stress,so it does happen, but there are severe cases that need the help of medicine + I don’t think that should be judged upon, esp. as an after thought. However, it has been proven that stress can be a huge factor, in certain cases, which will often throw the cycle off track.

But-I’m sure if Jools or any other woman with fertility issues “give nature a fair shot’, they would have, and probably have 100x over, but sometimes that’s just not the way things work. There are many couples who “prove they really want a baby” naturally, and it doesn’t work (whether its from biological conception, IVF, surrogate even..etc, any combination), and then they might adopt. Fertility issues + any medical issues,are not a casual thing. I think the whole concept of pregnancy is incredible + very beautiful, but unfortunately, it’s not as easy for some to just “let’s just see what happens”. Modern medicine is a beautiful thing + is should be utilized for those who need it.

Rosa on

Wow that’s impressive – going to bed at 6 pm and waking up at 9:30 AND they take naps? How is that possible??? I have an 8 yr old and he goes to bed at 8:30ish and wakes up around 7:30 am. I have a 2 yr old who goes to bed between 7:30 and 8 and wakes up anywhere between 6 and 7 and takes a 3-4 hour nap everyday.

Hayley on

homeschoolmama Says:

i never said they didn’t wake up….or they went stright to sleep either…yes some times i hear them baby jabber to wach other for ten mins or so brfore they both fall asleep and in the night too but they do not cry or need any one coming in to them *unles they are poorly * i breastfed both my babies and still do my little one and can assure any one who might be concerned my children are hungry through the night they are NOT i could not sleep if they were, in fact both would much rather play than eat breakfast at all.

i am a midwife myself and have met lots of babies, children both young and older who have the same kinds sleep patterns as mine, they may wake up but do not need mum and dad do they do not cry for you they amuse themseves before falling back to sleep which is the point of my post ….i am lucky enough to have 2 happy, healthy well rested , well fed children who like to have naps and like sleeping….i am sorry if noones ever heard of this **which i can’t believe is true** but it is.

As a carer of mothers and babies i think it was wrong to say you had NEVER met a child like mine…it does imply you think i am not being honest…which would be pointless..i am not bragging and aware of how lucky i am but has taken effort on my part to get them where they are..i have had sleepless night ..as in no sleep at all with both children..all i am saying now is that i am lucky enough have have a routine that works for me and my babies…they are happy..i am happy thats all that matters.

Hayley on

ps when i say stright through i mean with out me needing to go in..as in no sad Crying babies..maybe a bit of lubly jabber here and there but no crying…this mummy does not like it lol lol can’t stand hearing my babies cry……i must make it better lol😀

again love to all happy children and mummys too…and the dads they have there uses lol LOL

madsmom on

homeschool mama
in one breath you say it is an individual family choice for a bedtime and that you don’t judge then you go on to say in years and years of parenting you have never heard of anyone going to bed at 6pm–what do they get up at 5 in the morning? Well my daughter does go to bed at 6pm and get up at 5am so we can leave the house and I can be at work at 6am. It works for us and we are both happy and well rested–everyone is different–its really not ridiculous–really no need to judge

mommaharris on

Jools — the drs do remember you. And they look at each of us as a success. I know, because I asked mine. He remember me and my son — and it was 5 years ago that I had my success.

Thnx for sharing!

Gina on

I have PCOS too. Clomid didn’t work for me. Glucophage and Actos did the trick. Now we have a beautiful 5-year-old daughter.

Jen on

I have struggled with PCOS and infertility for nearly 7 years and gone through treatment with clomid, injectables and IVF. No success, but even with the side effects I would go through it all again if it meant I could concieve. It is a very difficult journey.

Natalie–I take great offense at your statment regarding your parents “guess they must have proved that they really really wanted a baby” after struggling with infertility for 9 years and then conceiving naturally. I really really want a baby as well and my struggle of the last 7 years has not been rewarded with that.

Zarab: Being diagnosed with severe PCOS makes conceiving naturally next to impossible. I would have loved to have been lucky enough to conceive naturally or to have benefited from the more natural remiedies. I did try acupuncture in conjunction with an IVF and it did not work. I also tried herbs and natural supplements, cutting out caffeine. I took excelent care of myself and still failed. What do you suggest now?? I am glad that you found success but please do not belittle the medical treatment that so many of us depend on and but our hopes in.

Mia: I thought your comment was expressed very well and you appear to have an open mind on the issue.

Furthermore, I am very happy to see a celebrity bring forth the ever rising issue of infertility. Although I understand everyone’s desire for privacy, that the older celebs who many are conceiving a high number of twins should help the cause and should discuss their experiences. Only through this will infertility and treatments get more positive attention.

betty on

I hope I don’t soun rude, but if she has 2 kids at school during the day and they all go to bed around 6, what does she need a nanny for? She seems like a nice person, but that her schedule is more than manageable by herself.

rachaelosullivansplace on

Dearest Jools,

If you can read this, I wish you all the most abundant blessings. I adore your babies names, I adore you and Jamie. You are by far, my favorite celebraties EVER!

Blessings to you sweets…xxx

Mommyof3 on

What a great story! I love hearing happy endings!:)

I have 3 children aged 3 (just turned) 4 and 6. Our schedual has been the same for all 3 since they were 4 months old…give or take. Our oldest goes to bed at 8pm and wakes at 730 and the younger 2 go to bed at 7-730 and they are up at 730. I believe in having a strict routine for bed, this way they are up on time for school/daycare. Plus I strongly believe it gives them a taste of what work will/could be like for them later on in life.
Sorry, I don’t mean to judge but I don’t agree with children waking up at 11am. That is just beyond rediculas! JMO

Mia on

Maybe she likes to run errands during the day, and needs a nanny to watch the kids, or run the errands for her while she stays at home?

Sam & Freya's Mum on

Mummy of 3, ITA. Our son goes to bed at 7.15-7.30 (he’s nearly 5) and 18mth old goes to bed around 6.30ish and it makes sense to us – gives us some downtime as well, they get their sleep, easier for getting up for Kindy etc, a win-win allround IMO…

zarab on

Jen, I know that the natural fertility clinic I went to has had great success in treating women with PCOS. Of course, not every woman with this particular issue will be able to conceive naturally at the end of such a program, but my point is just that more women should consider natural methods as a first option, and then of course, if things don’t work out, modern medicine may be able to help, either on its own or in conjunction with treatments such as acupuncture. I’m very sorry these treatments didn’t work for you, but they have worked for many women with serious fertility issues, so all I’m saying is that they are worth a shot, and a better first option than taking drugs that can have serious adverse side effects.

From reading Jools’ book, I didn’t get the impression that she had sought the help of a naturopath or acupuncturist before she began taking Clomid, so my comment was really just related to her comments about her OB, as in the book she almost seems to treat him like some kind of god, and I wonder if she’d known that there were other, more natural treatments available that may have helped her conceive, whether she wouldn’t have opted for them first, especially given that she experienced some serious side effects with the Clomid.

I had severe endometriosis, very heavy and painful periods, and had eight operations to remove ovarian cysts before I fell pregnant, and it was only through following a natural fertility program that I managed to regulate my cycles, and sort out my fertility issues (and I no longer have endometriosis). I had previously been told by my gynaecologist that my chances of ever conceiving naturally were slim at best, so given that I fell pregnant on my first attempt after following a natural fertility program, I have a desire to share my experience with others, in the hope that it might help someone else who perhaps wasn’t aware that there are other options besides Clomid, IVF etc….

Ruthella on

Three 15-hour-stretch-sleepers in my house! All three of my kids routinely slept from 7pm til 10am when they could, plus a two hour nap in the afternoons.

When the oldest started school, this was no longer possible but in the holidays my 2 year old will sleep in til 9am at the earliest most days.

I’ve never put them to bed earlier because their Dad likes to spend time with them on an evening, and he does the bedtine routine!

CelebBabyLover on

Natalie- Your parents’ experience sounds a lot like my parents’ experience! They took a little less than 9 years to concieve, but it still took them several years. The one are in which their experience is different from your parents’ however is that they, *gasp* got medical assistance without trying natural methods first (apart from possibly doing things like tracking my mom’s cycles to determine when she was ovulating).

With this medical help they were able to concieve my older sibling. However, a few years later, they decided to try for another baby…and I was concieved, au natural!🙂 My point is that not only does what works for one couple not neccesarily work for the next, but what is neccesary to concieve one time might not be neccesary to concieve the second time.🙂

Oh, and I hate how people always assume that it’s always the woman who has fertility problems (obviously in Jools’ case it was, but some commentors have been clearly aiming their comments about what infertility treatments you should and shouldn’t do at women)!

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I should have added that my partner also followed the same preconception program as me to improve the quality of his sperm, so no alcohol, no caffeine, organic diet, exercise overhaul, boxers instead of briefs, vitamin supplements etc etc. In Jools’ case, however, she’s clearly stated that her problems with PCOS were the cause of their fertility problems, which is probably why comments (mine included) have focussed on female fertility issues.

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zarab- I hope you don’t think that I was singling you out, because that certainly wasn’t the case. I was talking about people in general.🙂

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CelebBabyLover – no worries, but I agree with you that too often people assume it’s the woman who has fertility issues, not the man.

I must say again that I really love how honest Jools is, and I’d recommend her book to anyone who hasn’t read it!🙂

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I am so glad to see Jools openly talking about her experience and I love that she brings hope to people suffering with infertility. Her babies names are all soo pretty (Petal is a real name, its been in my family for generations) and she seems like a wonderful mum. I’d just like to add that being unable to conceive is not the only form of infertility. I conceive very, very easily but try as I might I cannot hold on to the pregnancies past 7 weeks. I’ve lost 6 pregnancies in the last year and a half and have had all the testing, tried both natural treatments and medical treatments, including clomid, heparin shots, progesterone etc. I don’t smoke, I don’t drink, I’ve never done recreational drugs, I cut out caffeine and eat a healthy balanced diet. I have had every test under the sun and there are no answers as of yet. It is just as heartbreaking and soul destroying as being unable to conceive with added grief for the loss of your “babies”. Hopefully with more research the scientists will find more answers and solutions with less side effects then Clomid etc.

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