Ana Gasteyer Gets Lost in Motherhood

07/24/2009 at 12:30 PM ET
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Many parents give careful consideration to the age difference between their first and subsequent children, and for Ana Gasteyer and her husband Charlie McKittrick, the bigger the better. “It’s great that they are so far apart in age,” the 42-year-old mom of Frances Mary, 7, and Ulysses, 16 months, tells the August/September issue of Fit Pregnancy, “so we had full advantage of each one’s infancy.”

Ana also considers herself “lucky” that her firstborn was a girl, noting,

“She never batted an eyelash about having the baby around. I am not so sure how it’d go if it were the other way.”

Although she wishes she had not returned to work so soon after Ulysses was born — advising other new moms to “take it slow” — the former Saturday Night Live star has no regrets. Calling motherhood “the most fulfilling thing” she’s done, Ana is content to focus all her efforts on “what will make them better, happier people, or the world a better place.” She adds,

“I am very lost in it right now and feel tremendously lucky.”

Source: Fit Pregnancy, August/September issue

— Missy

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Linda on

I never understood why a year and a half to 2 year age difference seems to be everyone’s preference. I always felt like my oldest missed out on having my attention divided when she still was at a dependent age. Whereas there is a big age difference between my 2nd and 3rd. They aren’t as close when they are young, but once they get older there are as close as any close in age siblings. And they get the advantage of all your attention and less sibling jealousy.

Mandy on

Glad to finally hear what her son’s name is.

I bet he’s a cutie!

Sam & Freya's Mum on

Linda, I agree. We have a 3 year, 4 mth gap so not a huge, huge gap, but still liked the idea of having at least 3 years or so between, or at least not two under 2 1/2 anyhow and we ended up having over 3 years due to a miscarriage but prefer bigger gap. Means the youngest gets one-on-one time now she’s 18mths & big brother’s at Kindy 3 full days and will start at school in 5 weeks or so, so freya get even more time. Works out well I think (not that you can plan gaps really of course), but esp as she’s now at the full on toddler stage, lol…Diff strokes for diff folk. To be honest in some ways I’m personally not sure that I’d like the huge 5 1/2-6 year gap Ana Gasteyer must have (don’t know her circumstances, whether they wanted it to be that big a gap or not?), but would much prefer that over 5 year gap to a year or so, no thanks! Sure, it gets stages out of the way early on, and they grow up close, but personally I like the baby stage and taking it all in, enjoying it while young, & there’s no guarantee they’ll have a close bond either! I have cousins a year or so apart chalk and cheese in personalities & not close. You never get the time back and I have no regrets looking back that Sam got his time alone for over 3 years before little sis arrived. Thankfully tho’ he’s great with her, loves her to bits, being a bit older can understand and help more, so works for us….

Karen on

Totally agree with Linda and Sam & Freya’s Mom. My first 2 are 3 1/2 years apart, and then we had a 5 year gap (had 2 misses, didn’t purposely wait that long).

I never understood the “get it over with” idea for having babies close together. You just miss out on so much.

Rachel on

I also agree, I have experienced a 6 year gap and a 13-month gap (all were planned) and the 6 year gap was mountains easier. We still have a lot of issues between my son and daughter who are only 13 months apart, even at ages 2 and 1. Lots of jealousy and competing for attention while we never had anything between my oldest daughter and son.

katie on

it may be easier to have a large gap, but i think some parents have a close age gap so that the children can be friends (not that they cant be when they are farther apart in yrs) and play more appropriately with each other.

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