Comments on: Sandra Bullock Says Betty White's Take on Stepchildren Gave Her Strength

By: mary

mary — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 00:50:38 +0000

I don’t see anything offensive about what Di said. She is unhappy the biological bond is, in her view, not sufficiently emphasized or valued. BIG DEAL. It is not her duty (nor anyone else’s) to be inclusive or “positive.” I’m so tired of you positivism bullies… people are allowed to have real thoughts and (I’m sure this saddens you) but they are permitted to express them hear.

Being a bully in the name of being positive or inclusive is still being a bully……

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:18:37 +0000

Di – your comments were offensive to me. I lost my only biological child due to pregnancy complications on February 16, 2006. I will never have another biological child, but I do have 4 stepchildren, 2 stepgrandchildren and another stepgrandchild on the way. I love each of them as my own – biology or not. You may be book smart, but you have shown your heart ignorance.

By: Bree

Bree — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 20:03:11 +0000

Di, I am sooooo glad you cleared that up. You bristle at the “insult” you took ‘ignorant’ to be, then you tell others to get a life? Don’t throw stones from your glass house, lady. You need to stay off of message boards, because you like to stir up controversy, whether you say you do or not. It shows. If you had even minutely understood what Sandra said about breeding, you wouldn’t have said a bloody word.

By: sdfsd

sdfsd — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:37:16 +0000

“I find it extrmely offensive that anyone would dismiss the bonds you can have with a child just because you didn’t give birth to them – pregnancy lasts 9 months – motherhood lasts a lifetime.”

I agree! Besides, fathers NEVER give birth and sometimes they have a stronger bond with their child than the mother does.

By: sdfsd

sdfsd — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:34:25 +0000

“She is 44 and probably isn´t able to have a biological child anymore. Actually I find it very tactless to ask 44-year-old woman if she is planning to have a baby of her own.”

While it is not too common for a 44-year-old woman to give birth to a baby of her own, it is common for someone that age to adopt a child of her own, so I don’t think her age has anything to do with it. I think it is very tactless to ask ANYONE, no matter the age or gender, when they are planning to have a baby of their own.

By: Sarah M.

Sarah M. — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 07:58:39 +0000

Shannon – Yes, everyone has a right to their opinion. But they don’t have to demean others in getting their point across. Which is what Di seems to do with just about every comment that she makes. (Not just on this particular post, but on all of the others that I’ve seen her comment on!) You can disagree with grace and dignity, or you can see just how rude you can be. Di seems to just want to be rude, IMO.

Noone really knows why Sandra doesn’t have any bio children, or if she actually does want them or not (except herself and perhaps those closest to her). But it can’t be denied that her step-children are lucky to have her in their lives!

By: Kimmy

Kimmy — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 15:21:54 +0000

I actually understand why she chose the word “breeder” and it wasn’t meant to offend. There are many people who have kid after kid after kid and don’t give a rats a$$ about them and are not real parents. Parenting ISN’T about how many kids you have BUT how you love, care and raise them. If she is doing that without being their biological mother then she is being a parent and a damn good one!

By: lulumay

lulumay — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 06:11:58 +0000

Her words give me comfort. I am 43 & VERY single. I work with kids for a living. I love them. I want nothing more to have a child but I know that may not happen due to age & circumstance. But if I were to meet a man who had children I know that I would love them & want what is best for them. I feel that way about all of my friends’ kids. I would throw myself in front of a bus for them. As for adoption it is not something I am ruling out but financially I am not sure I could do it on my own. I am glad more & more people on this site are starting to be a bit more understanding of other peoples life situations/choices. xo

By: gianna

gianna — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 05:20:25 +0000

I think she has problems having kids, and that’s why she hasn’t. Not so much that she doesn’t want, more so that it’s not happening. And breeding is probably her way of feeling better about not having bio kids. Stepkids are in your life as long as you stay married, and than usually if you divorce, your not part of their lives, look at halle berry.

By: Mia

Mia — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:42:45 +0000

Everyone’s experiences are different: Some people have kids biologically, some adopt, some use a surrogate, some have step kids, and some don’t have kids at all. Everyone is different, and goes whatever direction works the best for them. Her step-kids are lucky that they have such a loving step-mom, and I’m sure they will become close(r) as the kids get older.