Comments on: Melissa Joan Hart Loves Showing Off Her Boys

By: fuschia

fuschia — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 06:34:16 +0000

bubbs….amazingly well put.

By: Nina

Nina — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:22:22 +0000

I just wanted to say a preschool in Santa Monica where my son goes had to go to city council to try and get boundaries for the paps because they were too aggressive with the kids….so not everyone likes pics of their kids.
And a big thank you to CBB for not posting pics of Jen and Ben with Violet at school! Hopefully others will follow and leave our preschool alone!

By: Foosa

Foosa — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 13:35:34 +0000

I don’t know why everyone is assuming Melissa is a stay-at-home mom. She is working constantly, both in the home and out. Having a nanny is the best option for her because she can have someone care for the children and do a daily routine that she can do also on her days off. Melissa and Mark both work, so having a nanny would be the same as other parents using day-care. Only Melissa uses the Nanny as she NEEDS her (a few days a week), she’s not a live-in nanny.

By: bubbs

bubbs — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 05:52:02 +0000

i have two kids and a PT nanny… BUT i can see why Chile’s feelings have changed after hearing that Melissa has a nanny. We are all mums, regardless of what childcare options we use, but not all of us are the exclusive or even primary caregivers to our children. When my first child was born i returned to work when he was 4 months old and the nanny left notes on friday keeping me up to date on his routine, how many solid meals he had, what foods he had tried etc etc. She was his primary caregiver and that was simply a fact. Sometimes i was jealous, sometimes i was relieved i didn’t have to spend my waking hours worrying about unsettled day sleeps or carrot puree and most of the time i was both. When i had my second son i decided i wanted to experience being the primary caregiver to my children and did not return to work until the youngest was 2 years old. And can I tell you – I was shocked at how difficult the job was!

Soooo what i am saying is that Melissa is just as much a mum with a nanny, but she is no longer “in the same job” as the average SAHM…. and so they may not feel that they relate to her as much.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 03:47:54 +0000

Nona- I think that sometimes for celebs it’s more than protecting their kids identities, but simply about keeping them safe. the best example i can think of is the Affleck-Garner family, while they didnt necessarily show off Violet (or Serafina, for that matter) right away, there were still a lot of pictures of them as Violet got older. but as the paparazzi started getting more aggressive, they started getting more protective, which makes a lot of sense. the way melissa shows off her boys is mostly at events where pictures are taken professionally as opposed to the paparazzi following her incessantly to try and get pictures of her and her boys.

By: michelle

michelle — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 01:19:51 +0000

With the right nanny, children get the best of both worlds.

I had a nanny growing up and I love her like she is part of my family. Not that she ever took the place of my mom – because she didn’t, we had a very different relationship. She was more like a favorite Aunt. Her name was Mary, but for some reason, I called her Nanny Mae. Not Nanny because that was her job, but Nanny because it is a term of affection. I grew up in Louisiana and we called our godmothers “Nanny” and our godfathers “Parrain”

By: Liliana

Liliana — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 01:15:02 +0000

I, too, have a part-time nanny and for my family, it’s what works the best. I’m in no way wealthy but I’m a single mother who works full-time, therefore; I can’t be with my children 24/7.

I think it’s wrong to judge Melissa based on the childcare she chooses for her children. Are there parents who use nannies as an excuse to not have the responsibility of caring for their children day in and day out? Absolutely. But that’s not the case with everyone and it’s not fair to look “down upon” families who do have outside help.

By: Sarah M.

Sarah M. — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:46:35 +0000

I guess I have the more unique view to the nanny issue, seeing as I am one. I love the kids to pieces, but would NEVER wish for them to think that I was their mother. The mother’s that I have worked with, and am working with now, hold a dear place in my heart. They are trusting me with their children, and to me there’s no greater trust than that! The kids I’ve nannied for call me ‘Sarah’. When they slip and call me mom, which happens sometimes, they are automatically gently corrected.

I LOVE Melissa! She seems like a great person, and like she adores her children!

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:30:21 +0000

I don’t see why having a nanny makes you not a mum trying to get through it either. I had a nanny as a child as both my parents worked full time and it is what worked best for us. It made my parents no less parents and still doesn’t. We are not particularly rich either, and I think it is a bit rude to working mothers to say that kind of thing, they are still mum’s trying to get through it and it could be argued they have it harder and vice versa.

By: April

April — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:17:15 +0000

She’s mentioned it before, she talked about it after Brady was born and she was going to film that movie last summer.

I guess I just don’t see the big deal with nannies. We have one, part-time, and we’re certainly not rich. It’s what works best for our family. I work second shift as an RN, and my husband doesn’t get home until 5 or 6, so we have a college student come from 2-6 Mon-Fri. We are going to lose Kaitlin next year when she graduates, but so far it’s been wonderful. We tried daycare for a year and it didn’t work out-my girls are shy and the group atmosphere was too much for them. Having them taken care of in our home and allowing them to form a close bond with one person has really been in their best interest.