Mary Louise Parker's Priorities: Kids, Job, and Family

05/19/2009 at 01:00 PM ET
Courtesy More

In 2003, what should have been a joyous time for Mary Louise Parker and actor Billy Crudup devolved into a tabloid frenzy when the pair split during the actress’ seventh month of pregnancy. Now, with the past behind her, Mary Louise is focusing strictly on the present. During an interview for the June issue of More magazine, Mary Louise is quick to note that commenting on her personal relationships would not benefit her son in the least. “I’ve never commented on the situation and I won’t because it’s not fair to my son,” she says of the breakup.

Reluctant to divulge any details of the family dynamics, Mary Louise does admit that she shares a civil relationship with Billy in order to allow their 5-year-old son William Atticus the opportunity to blossom in a healthy environment.

“Who wins? No child can benefit [from their parents fighting]. Your love for your child should eclipse any other feelings you have for another person.”

After welcoming her son Mary Louise felt a pull towards more children, but newly single, she instead decided to look into her life-long dream: adoption. Despite experiencing initial wariness toward the prospect of adopting a child by herself, her determination to live life sans regrets had her making the phone call. “I thought, I’m single, it’s too hard. But then I thought, I don’t want to be on my deathbed not having done something because it was too hard,” she reveals.

Fortunately for the excited mama, whose demands were simple — “I just wanted a child who needed a mother and a home and food and love” — the pieces to the puzzle quickly arranged themselves. Now mom to 2 ½-year-old Caroline ‘Ash’ Aberash, Mary Louise has no second thoughts about her decision to expand her family. “I’m so glad I did — she is magical,” the Weeds star gushes.

With two young children, Mary Louise admits that the dating scene has been complicated ten-fold. However, the busy actress makes it quite clear to her potential partners: the kids come first. For now, she says, she has notched out a spot for any suitors as number four on her list of priorities. “Some men are really daunted by it, some are really attracted,” she explains.

“I had someone ask, ‘Does this mean we can’t go out anytime we want?’ And I said, ‘Yes, that’s exactly what it means. It means you come fourth, ’cause it’s my kids, my job, my family.'”

Source: More; June issue

– Anya

FILED UNDER: Dads , News , Parenting

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Sarah K. on

What a classy lady. Both of her children are very lucky to have such a devoted and selfless mom.

brook on

I can’t wait for the new season of Weeds! I think she is an amazing actress!

Meream on

She has a wise (and beautiful!) head sitting on her shoulders. How old is she again? She looks so young.

Lis on

I cannot respect her enough for keeping the details of her split private. Very classy.

kmf on

Oh I just adore her, she always seems so together and mature. Plus I love that she thanked her son for making her chest look so great when she won a Golden Globe a few years back, she was breastfeeding at the time I believe? :)

eva on

She sounds like a dedicated and intelligent woman.Her children will surely benefit from having her as a mother.

Mirella on

love her! wish we saw more of her…

melissa on

She is one CLASSY lady! love love love her!

Andrea_momof2 on

I admire her class when it comes to her ex. I imagine she’s been through a LOT of crap but Billy’s always going to be William’s father so why make it harder on him?

SY on

For once someone in a broken relationship is taking the high road for the sake of her child. I wish that more people, celebrity or not, would use this as an exemplary example of class, maturity and true sacrifice. William and Ash are very lucky to have Mary Louise Parker as a mother.

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