Comments on: Constance Marie on Staying Positive During Infertility

By: JLEMILY

JLEMILY — Fri, 08 May 2009 20:25:12 +0000

I am 33 and have been trying to concieve for more than 6 years and have spent about $20,000, still with no success. I have already taken out a loan, have already adapted a healthier lifestyle with organic foods and detox, etc. Now what am I supposed to do now that I am out of money.

It is easy for celebrities and such to encourage women to continue the course because money is not a hinderance for them. Treatment, including IVF, has failed, and adoption is expensive as well and a very involved process.

I am happy for Constance and all the other celebrities who have found success after multiple IVF tries , but continue to be heartbroken for myself and the others like me as we approach another Mother’s Day, still childless.

By: Cassie

Cassie — Fri, 08 May 2009 16:28:30 +0000

I’m 29, will be 30 in August, and have yet to conceive a child. My husband and I have been married nearly four years, and have been trying to get pregnant the whole time.
All my friends have kids, and I’ve always wanted to be mom. Not everyone has any easy time getting pregnant. Even though our bodies are designed to have children at a younger age, not everyone is so lucky.

By: Angelia

Angelia — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:54:17 +0000

And there is nothing wrong with her adopting! Its a wonderful thing to do.
Celebbabylover do you have kids or do you just obsess over celebritities kids?

By: Angelia

Angelia — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:53:05 +0000

I didnt say its IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant in your 30s, all I said was fertility starts to decline which is true. Look it up if you dont believe me. Also where are you living where people ae in their 30s before they have their first? Tbe nation wide average is 25 years.

By: CelebBabyLover

CelebBabyLover — Fri, 08 May 2009 04:35:39 +0000

Angelia- What’s wrong with lulumay adopting if that’s what she wants to do?

Anyway, as for your other comment about when fertility starts to decline…Then how in the word do you explain the fact that most of the mothers I know (my own included!) were in their early 30s before having their first child?

By: Angelia

Angelia — Fri, 08 May 2009 03:47:35 +0000

lulumay have you considered a sperm donor?
I know several single moms who are doing a wonderful job of raising their children.

By: lulumay

lulumay — Thu, 07 May 2009 23:19:44 +0000

So many people assume that the only reason women wait till their 40′s to have kids is due to career or selfishness. That is not true. Some of us have not met Mr. Right & never thought we would be childless (& single) in our 40′s.

It is very hard when people lecture & say, “Don’t wait too long!”.

We KNOW that. But sometimes we have no control over some of the factors.

I am 43 & single & want nothing more than to me a mom. I NEVER thought that I would be in this situation. I know I can adopt but I am not sure I am ready to be a single mom. I was raised by one & I know how hard it is.

Good luck to all.

By: Angelia

Angelia — Thu, 07 May 2009 17:16:00 +0000

Actually fertility starts to decline at 26 and by 30 it has really declined. By 35 you have only a 5-10 percent of pregnancy each month while a woman in her young 20s is 30-50 percent.

By: Traci

Traci — Thu, 07 May 2009 05:15:26 +0000

Constance, congratulations on having that gorgeous baby!

By: CelebBabyLover

CelebBabyLover — Thu, 07 May 2009 04:20:36 +0000

Bieta- I’m pretty sure the number IS 35. I know a lot of women, my mother included, who had children when they were in their early 30s.