Rain Pryor Opens Up About Fertility Issues

04/15/2009 at 01:00 PM ET
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Actress Rain Pryor and her partner Yale‘s 1-year-old daughter Lotus Marie “lights up our world and challenges it all the time” and they consider her “a gift and miracle” — for good reason! The couple went through months of trying and suffered numerous miscarriages prior to conceiving Lotus. “I felt too old, like my time had passed me by, like I had spent my life chasing after relationships I tried to make work, or dreams of happily ever after that had no basis in reality,” says the 39-year-old comedienne. “Yale and I had been trying to conceive for months. We had three, I repeat three miscarriages and I was devastated … Yale appeared to take the whole thing in great stride,” shares Rain, but “I was a total mess.”

Prior to her last loss, Rain was in London for a show during the summer. “There [Yale and I] were on tour and I found out we were pregnant. We were overjoyed and scared.” Unfortunately, Rain again miscarried, this time at eight weeks and overseas. Undergoing a dilation and curettage (D&C) procedure because her body was unable to pass the blighted ovum, Rain remembers the experience as “terrible. I cried and cried thinking all hope now was lost.” Although her doctor was “brilliant” and reassured her, during the D&C they discovered that the actress had five fibroids and endometriosis. “‘OMG! WTF?’ were my thoughts,” she recalls, and a week later Rain underwent surgery to have them removed. Throughout her experiences, Rain — like Nancy O’Dell — has learned about the secret society of moms who have lost babies.

“Having a miscarriage is the one thing I’ve noticed no one wants to talk about. If they do it’s in private, like to say it aloud to more than one person would put you on some government list as a babymaking outcast. In reality, miscarriages are common and eventually one is able to conceive or venture off into other methods if that’s what the universe has in store.”

For Rain and Yale, the next step for them was born of advice from her ob/gyn in the UK. “The doctor said, ‘Well you two love birds should keep going at it. You are clear and fertile.’ So, like bunnies and cliché wannabe parents we went at it,” laughs Rain. “I had the ovulation kit, the right positions, the meditations, prayers from Thai and Tibetan monks and African priestesses.”

The couple were excited as well as terrified when they learned that they had conceived again. “For three months I was a nervous wreck. Home in the US and hooked up with an amazing ob/gyn, I was watching everything I did … Don’t exercise too hard or too much … No sushi … Lots of water … isn’t it enough that I’m peeing like a racehorse without it?” After Rain reached her twelfth week of pregnancy without incident, she was thrilled and Yale was “full of pride and didn’t stop smiling.” “Okay truth be told, we did the happy dance. You know the one where you look so goofy you hope the neighbors don’t see?,” Rain jokes. “That was the beginning of the most amazing wonder of pregnancy.”

Lotus Marie arrived on April 1st, 2008.

Source: Pryor Parenthood


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Courtney on

Awww, I feel for her, and I completly understand. More than anyone not talking about miscarriage I would be thte majority of people have no idea what a blighted ovum is. I had twin blighted ovums and it was by far the worst experience. How can you be pregnant but there not be a baby. Very hard to reconcile in your mind. I had to have a D&C at 10 weeks and that was just as unpleasent. I hate even thinking about it.

I am glad she was blessed with her daughter. You never forget what you lost, but it does get easier.

Patrice on

Wow. Rain is so inspirational with her words, positive attitude, and humor! God bless her and her family : )

cristie on

I had a miscarriage last June and also had a D&C. It was the worst thing I have ever gone through. I was 27 years old at the time so age apparently doesn’t matter. I am still recovering. Glad to know that there are other people out there that have gone through it so I’m not alone.

Kristen on

Thank you for sharing these stories! I am so pleased that women are going public with their stories. I recently suffered a miscarriage and its been very difficult on us both physically and emotionally. Hearing the stories of other women is so helpful. Please keep doing what you’re doing.

christina on

My heart goes out to Rain and Yale for their losses. I’m glad they’ve been blessed with their daughter.

Infertility and Miscarriage are two secret societies that I always hope no one gets inducted into.

Myra on

I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum at 10 weeks and miscarried naturally the next day right before Christmas 2008. My family thought they were comforting me when they said things like, “Well – at least there never really was a baby.” But to me there was a baby for 10 weeks. It was devastating, and I still get emotional about it.

chris on

THANK YOU, THANK YOU for sharing your story, as most women do not have anywhere to turn. I just don’t think some people understand how losing a baby can turn your world upside down. I have had three miscarriages. I am very thankful for my daughter. I would not wish infertility on my worst enemy.

chris on

Myra I know what you mean. I look at it this way – I fell in love the moment I knew I was pg. I would never try and understand how a couple handles a 4 week, 4 month, etc. loss. Everyone is different. I still grieve for my 2007 loss. It does get better.

millefleur on

Thank you so much, Rain Pryor, for sharing. Three miscarriages. How devastating! With the help of these celebs sharing their stories, hopefully we who have had miscarriages will no longer feel like we are suffering in silence. It really helps to talk about it and not feel like it has to be a secret.

G on

Thank You Rain for sharing your story.
I lost 2 pregnancies. 1 at 18 weeks with my twin boys. and i had a blighted ovum at 12 weeks. and people usually pretend you were never pregnant. its like you have no one to talk to . most people dont understand because they havent been through it. when people talk about, i dont feel alone.

FC on

Wow, I’m glad she opened up about her fertility issues. Any miscarriage is a low-blow. It’s like a piece of happiness you were blessed was ripped out of your life for no apparent reason? Bless them.

I’m so glad they were given another blessing in the form of Lotus. 🙂 Rain’s right about Lotus being a “gift and a miracle”. She was that and then some for her and Yale after their trying times.

renee on

Thank you for sharing your story. I also miscarried at 7 weeks. I didn’t find out until I was 10 weeks pregnant and preparing for my first ultrasound. I thought that I would never had children. However,5 months later, I was pregnant with my son who is now 3 years old. He is my husband and I “miracle child.”

Beverly on

I was so glad to hear Rain, Yale, and Lotus are doing so well. When I knew Rain, she was married to Kevin Kindlin.
We all referred to Rain as Saint Rain. I know she tried hard to make that work but like she stated, she was chasing a dream that was in fact a nightmare. You go girl, maybe now your dreams will come true. Love you Rain, God Bless you.