Halle Berry Hopes Nahla's Beauty Comes From Within

04/08/2009 at 02:00 PM ET
Courtesy Harper’s Bazaar

With a male model for a dad and the Sexiest Woman Alive for a mom, that 1-year-old Nahla Ariela Aubry is a stunner can hardly be considered a surprise. When Halle Berry is asked in the May issue of Harper’s Bazaar about her daughter’s blessed genetics, however, it’s clear she’s hoping that Nahla’s beauty will be more than skin deep. “Let her be sweet because I believe beauty is as beauty does,” the 42-year-old Academy Award-winner says.

“My hope is that she is sweet and kind because no matter how beautiful you are, ugly ain’t cute.”

Unlike in previous interviews, there is little ambiguity from Halle on the issue of whether or not she and partner Gabriel Aubry will go on to have more children. “Yes,” she says, adding:

“My pregnancy was amazing. I was happy that whole time, I felt good, I had energy, I was like Superwoman. I wish I could feel like that for the rest of my life, that’s how fantastic it was.”

From the sound of things, life is pretty fantastic for the family of three already. Riding the high of the recent election, Halle expressed optimism that Nahla “will grow up in a completely different America” because of President Barack Obama, someone who is “more like her than not, who shares her history.” Meanwhile, as she chatted in her pool house, Halle’s vegetable patch — for which her daughter provided inspiration — was just outside. “I thought, ‘Wouldn’t it be great when Nahla can run out here and pick fresh fruit right in our own backyard?’” Halle recalls, motioning towards apple, plum and pear trees. When she’s not in the garden, she can often be found indulging in another of her “guilty pleasures” — shopping for baby clothes online. Halle adds,

“Nahla can’t wear all the clothes I’ve bought, and we don’t go anywhere because I can’t deal with the paparazzi. Gabriel’s always like, ‘She doesn’t even leave the house! Halle, you’ve got to stop.’”

It’s not all fun and games for Halle, however. Owning up to an affinity for Doritos, she admits that she’s had to adjust her eating habits and exercise more than ever before to reclaim her famous body. “Having a baby takes so much from you,” she says. “It’s the most glorious thing you’ll ever do, but the aftermath is not so glorious!”

Source: Harper’s Bazaar

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Lis on

Huh? Halle seems pretty indecisive.

dee on

She sounds so happy. And I am happy for her.

Amanda on

I am not one of the pregnant women who can claim to feel glorious, fantastic and amazing while pregnant. This is my 3 pregnancy and I hate the way I feel when I’m pregnant. Exhausted, drained, pains everywhere-feel horrible when I’m pregnant and I get so annoyed with celebrities who make pregnancy out to be the best time of their life.

Either they’re lying outright, which I wish they wouldn’t, or its one more thing about them for me to be jealous of-along with returning to heir pre-pregnancy bodies 2 months after birth, ability to pay someone they trust to watch their baby whenever they want, and the ability to buy so many clothes the kid will never possibly wear them.

(wow-I’m really grumpy today. Forgive me, I’m 34ws pregnant and it hurts to walk, sit or lay down)

Morgan on

Amanda, while I can empathize with you, on the pregnancy thing I have to agree with Halle. My pregnancy with my daughter was fantastic. I had lots of energy and was definitely not one of those who suffered from back pain, bloating, achy breasts, hemorroids; I felt great. Really good up until I went two weeks overdue. That’s the only time mine sucked. My point is: every pregnancy is different, even when it’s the same woman. Look at Angie Harmon: she had a shockingly different 3rd pregnancy than her first two.

meghan on

I am always skeptical when a woman claims to have loved every moment of their pregnancy. Call me a cynic but it sounds like such bull. I also never believe a woman who says she can’t bear to be away from their baby for even an hour. Sure, it’s nerve-wracking to leave them in the care of others, but everyone needs a break, even from the most easygoing baby.

Stella Bella on

I feel you, Amanda- especially today. I’m at 24 weeks and I have never experienced such continuous pain in my life until I got pregnant!!! My hips are so painful that I hobble around like an old woman some days. I used to walk an hour a day and I’ve pretty much had to give up walking for exercise. I switched to swimming, but my favorite stroke is too painful. Most of my life right now feels like a list of things that I can’t seem to manage physically. My favorite foods don’t taste the same, I was sick well into my second trimester, and now I ache…. I can hold out hope that someday I’ll have a pleasant pregnancy, but it doesn’t appear to be happening this time around. :(

allison on

I feel sorry for Nahla never getting to leave the house! That must suck as kids get so board with their environment! I must say though-having another baby at 41? Kinda cruel in my opinion.

gianna on

I think halle wants another baby, but it’s just not happening for her. It was hard for her to get pregnant with nahla too. At least she was lucky enough at her age and with diabetes to have one child. I think nahla will be her only child.

brannon on

sorry guys – i loved my pregnancy and i had complications and ended up on bedrest. still best time of my life. to each their own i guess (my best friend is currently pregnant and has been miserable the whole time) i think Halle is trying to maintain some privacy with her answers. she knows people will judge because of her age and while they may be trying, she may also be aware of the difficulties (considering her age, diabetes, etc.) i’m sure if it happens we will all figure it out :) (plus i can think of a lot worse things than trying …and trying…and trying with gabriel :) )

Mariasha on

I wasn’t aware that being diabetic had any impact on your chances of becoming pregnant. Seriously, I never heard of that and I am diabetic myself…but then again I never even wanted to become pregnant.

ElleJsis on

I love Halle Berry! I’m not a fan of her acting, but she seems like the most down to earth woman. Her and Salma are my absolute favorites. I feel badly that she and Nahla don’t get out especially because she’s getting older. Maybe they should consider getting out of L.A if it’s so distressing.

“My hope is that she is sweet and kind because no matter how beautiful you are, ugly ain’t cute.”

Thats exactly what the women in my family say. I tend to believe her when she says she felt good. Halle was out and about down to the last month!

Courtney on

I have to say that I absolutly LOVE being pregnant. I have been pregnnat 7 times. I have 4 living children. With my first daughter I threw up every single day till she was 9 days old…With my second I had to have a PICC line. With my 3rd I had gestational diabetes and had to prick my finger all the time. With my 4th he was breech and was a large baby. I also had 3 miscarriages. Even tho every pregnancy was different I LOVE being pregnant and would do it again in a heartbeat. You will never be as close to your child as you are when you are pregnant with them.

I hope that if she wants another child she is able to. Its heartbreaking when you want another one and can’t. ( I know, believe me).

Nahla is a beauty!

LaKesha on

Having a baby at 41–Cruel. That’s ridiculous. 41 isn’t what ot use to be. Halle is in amazing shape, she’d be a wonderful parent at 41, 51, or 61. There are much more cruel things a person can do than become a parent at 41. Ridiculous comment.

Carie on

Mariasha…diabetes can indeed affect your ability to get pregnant. It can also affect whether or not you miscarry, the size of the baby, etc. I am a Type 1 diabetic and was when I became pregnant with my son (he is now a radlicious, rambunctious 6 yr old!!!!). I was truly blessed to get pregnant as quickly as I did and have a healthy pregnancy but I was also a tightly controlled diabetic in regards to my blood sugars. Basically if your sugars are not controlled, especially in the first trimester, it can harm the development of your baby (this is what my doctors told me). And if your sugars are not controlled it makes it more difficult to get pregnant. Once you are pregnant you are considered high risk heh. The month of October 2002 I had to go to 5 different doctor’s appointments (Ob/Gyn, Endocrinologist, Nutritionist, Dietitian and Level 3 Ultrasound). My husband and I would like to have another child but the pregnancy did a number on my body and before we can even try I have to get my sugars more tightly controlled and lose about 25-30 lbs. I am working on it and pray that I will be blessed to have another one but I definitely realize the blessing I have in my kiddo……..he is truly a treasure to me heh.

Sam on

“President Barack Obama, someone who is “more like her than not, who shares her history.”

I really can’t see how Obama and Nahla have a similar history . . .

Mrs. R. on

Ok, So I fit into the category of having super awesome pregnancies. Aside from being tired and uncomfortable occasionally, I just really have enjoyed both of mine. I mean, I could sit around and complain about the varicose veins, or how it’s harder to sleep, or something… but really – I feel super lucky and happy to be having a healthy pregnancy, and that my energy is still at a level that I can enjoy my life and my daughter’s toddlerhood.

As for Halle… it made me sad to think she doesn’t take her daughter out a lot because of the paparazzi. I mean, it makes sense when you live in a gigantic house with plenty of space and toys, have a huge yard probably with it’s own playground, but still… I would hate to live my life inside walls. It made me feel very sad for her.

Brandi on

sam, she was asked what the fact that her nahla and obama are all biracial means to her. this is the whole answer halle gave:

Nahla will grow up in a completely different America. Obama is someone who’s more like her than not, who shares her history. Hopefully she’ll grow up in a world where it’ll be easier than I had it. I had a rough time. I was accused of stuffing the ballot box for my high school prom-queen election because they couldn’t believe the only black girl in the school won.

CC on

What always cracks me up is how everyone says that the children of celebrities will be so beautiful because their parents are so beautiful – when we all know that a fair share of them have had plastic surgery. I’m not saying that’s the case here – I have no clue if Halle or Gabriel have had plastic surgery – it’s just a general observation.

And it brings up an interesting dilemma no? If you changed your appearance and then your son/daughter is born with the same trait that you felt you needed to change (an unflattering nose for instance) – would you think twice about your decision now that your child was carrying that same trait?

Jane on

“I really can’t see how Obama and Nahla have a similar history . . .”

Black History perhaps? Halle considers herself to me Black so maybe she considers her daughter Biracial or more identifying with her black side?

I don’t really know. For all she knows barrack will be out of the white house when Nahla is like 5 and she probably won’t have a lot of memories of Obama in the white house.

Kim on

It bothers me that Halle only refers to herself as black, yet her mother is white and is the one who raised her but her (black) father was not around and left her and her mom at a young age. So if this was my mom, I wouldn’t be ashamed to say that I am white but be proud of it b/c my white mother raised me. In a way it’s sort of offensive to her mom. Just my opinion!!

Lisa on

Halle considers herself Black because her mother told her at a very young age that society will judge you as Black. Her mom has a understanding of racism. Kim, please read your history, I am not sure of your age. However, in United States during slavery had were clear standards of what was consider one to be Black. Halle Berry is Black/African-American with a white mother. Halle has a wonderful relationship with her mother and don’t believe she is dissing her mother.

Why can’t one of the most beautiful women in the world be Black/African American? All Black people are mixed with other races.

Mixed on

The majority of black people are of actually of mixed heritage, either with a white(or another race) or mixed parent or grandparent. A lot aren’t gifted the luxury of considering ‘biracial’ as an option.They’d be laughed at or not believed. Its simply how the world looks at you. If you look black, you are black, if you look white you are white..no matter what your actual heritage is. Blackness is not a matter of race as much as it is social identity.

I applaud her mother for recognizing that Halle fits into the black identity and she explained that to her at a young age enabling Halle to embrace it. It isn’t a matter of being ashamed she takes me her mom everywhere and talks about her in interviews. She just recognizes where she’s the most accepted. Blacks tend to be a lot more accepting of people of varying shades and hosting them under their umbrella. Whites not so much, unless you’re a celebrity..then it becomes biracial, multi-ethnic etc etc

gianna on

Kim I agree with you, to me halle is a biracial woman, she comes from one parent who is white and one parent who is black. Her daughter is also biracial because the dad is all white and halle is biracial. Just because halle may look more black, doesn’t mean nothing, because what if she came out looking white, she would still be biracial. It’s not about what you look, it’s about genetics.There’s so many interracial couples now having children,there is nothing wrong with being called what you are, which is biracial. Prople don’t have to choose am I white or black, if your both your both, no big deal and be proud of it. Tiger woods calls himself a biracial man, and that’s exactly what he is.

Laura on

“It bothers me that Halle only refers to herself as black, yet her mother is white . . . In a way it’s sort of offensive to her mom.”

Halle said in a previous interview that her mom told her when she was a child that she is black. Thus, she grew up believing the decision to call herself black v. white was a political choice and necessary for self-esteem and identity. It is no disprespect to her mother at all. On the contrary, because Halle was born in the 1960s, the mother made the right decision. For “biracial” kids born today, the identity issue is not the same as it was for Halle and others her age and older. Moreover, if Halle calls herself white or even biracial, she will be charged by many (black and white) with having identity issues or with being “confused.” Anyhoo, people don’t generally change their identities in their forties.

Sarah K. on

In the past (and even now) biracial people were discriminated against as well. I don’t think Halle was “dissing” her white mother at all by referring to herself as black. Halle and her mother are very very close and have always been. But, the world still sees Halle as a woman of color and her mom made sure Halle understood that growing up. I think she did Halle a great service by encouraging her to embrace her color. It was her white mom’s idea to raise her daughter to identify with being African-American, so I doubt she’s offended.

Elle on

You can consider yourself a black woman and still acknowledge being biracial. A lot of black/white mixed people feel more comfortable in the black community by and large is a lot more accepting because most come from a mixed background. Should the next generation of black mothers now give their children the identity of ‘mixed’ because its now accepted? Or does this mixture have to be fresh, only a generation or two old? Biracial is a nice term, but it’s pretty non-functioning in the real world where people go off looks an quick judgments.

Its a nice world some of you guys live in. I’d like to visit.

Elle on

P.s- is it just me or does halle look really tired on that cover?

Mia on

Yes-she does look very tired on the cover, but I think she seems happy though!

I’m very happy for her, and I do hope she/Gabriel can have another one, or expand their family in some shape or form, but the numbers might not be on her side, but maybe it won’t take AS long since her body went through pregnancy once, but we’ll see what happens. (If they do get some extra assistance, maybe they will get twins :-D)

And like with everything else-everybody is different. Some people love pregnancy, some people don’t, and there are plenty of celebrities who speak of both spectrums. I know Gwyneth Paltrow made a comment that “my mother loved pregnancy, every minute of it-and I thought I would be the same way, but I hated being pregnant” And Gwen Stefani made comments about how uncomfortable and awkward she felt being pregnant. It’s different for everyone.

Laura on

Elle, it’s not just you. It’s a bad photo.

Emma on

It’s very nice to see a civil conversation about race on this site. Maybe the world is changing after all. It warms my heart.

Terri on

Who said that Halle was ashamed to say she was white or had a white mother? Maybe you shouldn’t project your issues on Halle. She seems perfectly happy and comfortable with who she is. And she doesn’t sound indecisive to me either. She always said she would like to have another baby if her body was willing.

Terri on

Tiger isn’t biracial, he’s multiracial.

Nicole on

Elle, I think that the lighter hair color, in addition to the pink cover, really serve to wash her out and make her look tired. I’m sorry that she and Nahla don’t get out as often as she’d like, and I hope that she and Gabriel figure out a way they’re comfortable with for their baby girl to get to experience more things!

desaudia on

Halle is the hotness…She is really down to earth

Kim on

“Its a nice world some of you guys live in. I’d like to visit.”

What’s that supposed to mean? What a strange comment. Nobody knows what race I am and I don’t think because somebody is biracial they have to refer to themselves only as black b/c the black community is “more accepting”. I’m sure Halle is very much discriminated against..what a joke…

fevvers on

Personally i find the whole Obama-Nahla link tenuous…Obama grew up poor and biracial, nahala is the blue-eyed child of two very wealthy popular people in a showbiz world where she will be cosseted and probably experience relatively little racism. Honestly little Nahla’s life may be full of more suffering if she develops bad acne or becomes obese than she will ever experience as a result of her skin colour. Which makes me wonder what proportion of “racial” discrimination is really an issue of social class and wealth? (just a comment and a genuine question).

I see more links with Nicole Richie and Nahla myself.

Erika on

I agree with the previous poster about the Obama. Just because they are the same race they are alike? I don’t understand those comments. I am not trying to start a debate here, it’s just everywhere I turn I see how people are only celebrating our new president because of his race, not what he has to offer.

Anyway, Nahla is adorable, and I hope that they have more children! Halle seems so nice and down to earth!

Emma on

I may have spoken too soon.

Elle on

That isn’t what I said Kim.

I said that by and large the black community is more accepting of black/___ indviduals. That is why a lot of mixed raced people CHOOSE to identify with their black-side more. As someone who is biracial of black and south east asian descent that has been my experience and the documented experience of others(loads of books on the subject). Black people are aware of the HUGE spectrum of colors and features that we come in, a lot of others are not. To my afro-american friends and family, I am a mixed woman but in their words “I am still black”. Because in the black community you can be dark as night or white as a sheet and still be embraced. I’m sure that this is not the experience of every biracial(black+) person but it is for many many people.

When I said bi-racial is not a functioning term, I don’t believe it is. Like I said the majority of people that would be considered black by the world are actually multiracial, but their outward appearance speaks a lot more than whats in their DNA or heritage. People consider Halle, biracial because she’s a celebrity and because there are facts on her life out there that let you know. If halle was a school teacher, she’d be considered black.Her mom was serving her daughter well by giving her that basic understand.

and my comment was not strange. As someone born in the late 80s, having lived in the states and abroad as a biracial/black woman; the world hasn’t changed as much as people want to give it credit for. I’d really like to go to a place where a person got to choose how the world viewed them.

Elle on

Erika I really agree with you! His race comes up way too often for my taste; from everyones mouth white, black, hispanic, asian etc.. I didn’t vote for obama and people actually told me that because I’m mixed and black he should be an inspiration for me. I told choose my heroes by race tho I am proud of my own; and if I was I could come up with some better examples for myself.

Elle on

i don’t choose i meant lol

Sarah K. on

Emma, I was just thinking the same thing :)

About the whole Obama-Nahla link, it was not Halle who made the connection. She was asked by the interviewer to describe what the fact that both of them are biracial meant to her (the question is in the magazine). She was just answering an awkward question the best she could.

m-dot on

I don’t see anything odd about Halle’s comparison to the President. She’s raising a mixed (black)race child at a time when we are having our first mixed (black) race President. Had she been born at any other time in history, this would not be the case. Never has this country been ready for that, which is why never have they voted a person of color in. It’s monumental! It gives all of the children of color hope to have access what had proven to be the unattainable for the entire existance of the country.

As for being disrespectful to her mother…that’s insane. As someone stated earlier, just about every “black” american is of mixed race genetically. Some genes are closer in the line or more apparent than others, but the facts remain. It truly is more of a social identity. Halle is apparently a “black” woman. So for her to identify herself as “white” wouldn’t make much sense. She completely owns that she is a directly mixed race black woman (AKA I appear black, but my mom is white). Regardless of which parent stayed aroung or who raised her, her race remained. Angelina raising Zahara won’t make her a shade lighter. So should she deny her ethnicity because her ethiopian mother wasn’t the one to raise her?

Erika on

I agree with you Elle! I also couldn’t care less about gender but more the qualities and FWIW I didn’t love Obama during the campaign and he wasn’t my choice but I choose to support him not because he is the president. And I also don’t think people should teach their kids to make someone their hero just because of their race…it should be about what he does.

This being said, I didn’t hear the interview so it could have been said totally different, I don’t blame Halle for any of this!

daniela on

That’s Halle on the cover?! Hardly looks like her at all. I don’t like the hair color, it washes her complexion out to me. Looks like she dropped quite a bit of weight as well, which can change the appearance of facial features.

Anyway, I hope she gets her wish of having another baby. I don’t think 41 is too old and would be cruel if she should have another baby – I mean what’s the difference between having one at 40 vs 41 or 42??? Plus a friend of mine adopted her first at 42, and adopted a second child at 44. she’s now 50. She’s got more energy and is as healthy as a 30 or 35 year old and one of the best mothers I know. Age should be only one factor in deciding to have children.

Erika on

my last post was supposed to saw now not not lol

Emma on

Thanks Sarah. I agree with you too. She was asked an awkward question and she answered it. Period.

CelebBabyLover on

What gets me is that Halle said “Yes,” to the question of if they will have more children (and since she then went on to say how much she loved being pregnant, I’m guessing she was indeed referring to getting pregnant again rather than adoption). At her age, and with her diabetes, it’s very likely that she and Gabriel WON’T have more kids. Why make such an absolute statement when you really don’t know if it will happen or not>

Anyway, to the poster who mentioned Halle having twins if she ends up having assistance…I doubt she and Gabriel will use fertility treatments. In her other recent interviews, she seemed to allude to the fact that they’re only willing to try the “natural way”. Plus, from what I’ve read, fertility treatments can be very risky for someone with diabetes (they can reak havoc on the blood sugar).

In anycase, Halle may very well have twins even if she gets pregnant again naturally, given her age! Women over 35 have an increased chance of concieving twins naturally (I believe it has to do with the fact that more of a certain hormone is released, which triggers the release of more than one egg). :)

fevvers on

By the way CC i agree with you. That is interesting. I often think about that when I look at certain stars like Katie Holmes when people say Suri has her nose. I’m like, which one? I’m not being sarky here, for the record I think Katie was/is beautiful both ways so it hardly matters but I wonder if she regrets it or, alternatively, is already planning a wee nose op for Suri’s 16th.

kai on

hhehe, Emma, your comments made me laugh.

I’m not much of a Halle fan, she’s boring to me for some reason, but I can’t blame her for her answer (regarding Obama), the question was kind of weird.

@CC good point!

Caroline on

It doesn’t even look like Halle on the cover …

eva on

I am a white woman raising a biracial child on my own. My daughter identifies herself as black, never biracial and I’m proud and supportive of her choice.Never in my wildest dreams would I think she is denying me or excluding me from her life. Race has nothing to do with love.

BeckyPeabody on

To Halle. Barack Obama will not make it a better country for your daughter. It will be the millions of open minded people who don’t view things through the prism of racial classifications that in aggregate, will make this country better. Your daughter will have it easy, because she’s terminally cute and has a golden glow.

When the interviewer said, –both of you are bi-racial, as an excercise of parental autonomy, she should have either ended the interview or chided the interviewer for her presumptive overbearingness. No one should presume to asert a racial, religious or sexual orientation for anyone–public or private person.

BeckyPeabody on

Maybe Halle is trying to atone for that brohaha association to comments to a magazine regarding being with a white man. By equating her daughter to Barack Obama, who is half African/half white, she just sort of obliterates her husband’s white genetic contribution.

Laura on

Too much is made of the comment about Obama. Halle probably just meant that the election of a person of color to the world’s most powerful post opens up far more possibilities than Halle’s mother could have ever dreamed of for her daughter. Of course, his election opens up possibilities for all historically disenfranchised groups, but Halle was talking about her own daughter.

BeckyPeabody on

I’m sorry. But, she said that her daughter shares his Obama’s history. How? The history of Halle’s West African/American father and Obama’s East African father is like 500 years or greater.

She’s playing a very nasty race card here. Very subtle way a alluding to some historical social alienation, that ironically gets petpetuated by comments like hers.

Elle on

Thank you Eva. Some folks choose to identify themselves as black, its not forced. I guess some people have a hard time believing that for a whole truck load of reasons I won’t get into.

BeckyPeabody on

Of course it’s easier in this society, to identify as black. There are scholarships, lower academic standards, awareded to bi-racial students who drop the “b” word on an application.

I don’t care what any given bi-racial identifies as. I know whites with a little black ancestry and they are comfortable with their identity. As well, I know blacks with a chunk of white ancestry. While I like them both, my greatest respect and admiration goes to the bi-racial student who challenges themselves to compete without the “privledge package” afforded to bi-racial students competing as black.

Once the “priveledge package” associated to black bi-raciality is phased out- it will be intereting to see how quickly the black-identified bi-racials hang tough. In the meantime, please do not try to pass this (I’m black-though genetically bi-racial) as some sort of moral high ground It is not, necessarily. It it often fiancially strategic.

Sarah K. on

BeckyPeabody, I questioned whether your numerous hateful posts even deserved a response. You are either reading way too much into her comments or you’re just trying to stir up controversy.

You just identified some of the very stereotypes that other people in society are trying to get rid of. How ignorant to assume that people who identify with being black do so for the financial gain. What financial gain? Sorry, but the financial perks associated with being a white American far outweigh the measly scholarships awarded to a very very small percentage of minorities.

And, it is extremely presumptuous and rude to suggest that Halle is try to “obliterate” Gabriel’s “genetic contribution.” Considering she is still with him and chose to have a baby with him, I’m guessing she doesn’t feel guilty about it. The shared history she was referring to was that both Obama and Nahla are growing up biracial.

giftbox on

I usually just scroll through the comments under posts and either laugh at a cool witticism or shake my head at the drama that is whipped up over something I feel is insignificant, but comment # 58 from Becky Peabody is so horribly racist and offensive on so many levels that I am astonished it was posted. She writes:

“Of course it’s easier in this society, to identify as black. There are scholarships, lower academic standards, awareded to bi-racial students who drop the “b” word on an application…

Once the “priveledge package” associated to black bi-raciality is phased out- it will be intereting to see how quickly the black-identified bi-racials hang tough. In the meantime, please do not try to pass this (I’m black-though genetically bi-racial) as some sort of moral high ground It is not, necessarily. It it often fiancially strategic.”

Oh.My.God. I am just completely floored by this mindset and the gall to spew such nonsense.

Mixed on

I had this long response back, but I realized it really isn’t worth it. I’ll just say that, I’ve considered myself black from the day i could distinguish that different identities existed. You are extremely ignorant for thinking that the only reason a person would consider themselves black is for financial gain. You are ignorant for not understanding why these so called ‘privilege packages’ exist for all people of color and women.

Mixed on

and that was for peabody lol should have specified.

eva on

Thank you BeckyPeabody for insinuating that the only reason my ten year old identifies herself as black is out of academic laziness and her eagerness to be an underachiever. Here I was all this time thinking that she sees herself as black because that’s what the mirror tells her, plus she loves the memory of her father and she is surrounded by wise black women she looks up to. It is certainly a good thing to know that other folks will only see her as the free rider of the benefits of the “b” word. How nice.

BeckyPeabody on

The proof is in the pudding. When bi-racial students no longer are allowed to enroll in school/and/or compete as “black”–with lower standards associated to it, then there will be a more admirable sense of identity around claiming blackness. Until then, please don’t lecture me on the moral high road of calling yourself black or someother “affirmative action” eligble minority, when in doing such, you get a leg up on other non Affirmative Action eligible groups and gain entry based on lower standards of achievement. And white-mixed race would be among those who must compete without a boost or compensation for historical issues. It’s their choice. And for those who can somehow eke it out, I think that it’s a far more challenging, self-affirming proposition. As well as signaling progress for the decades of affirmative action that we’ve already endured.

My mind is made up. You won’t change it. You won’t intimidate me by cries of racism. You have the right to glow and delight in someone who thinks of themselves in post victim status. (That’s really what Halle Berry and Barack Obama have in common) I have the right to glow and delight in someone whose self-definition challenges victim status.

Crystle on

Halle needs to get her daughter out of the house for some fresh air not to be cooped up in the house all day like some prisioner Halle could run a different direction without the camera people noticing lol

eva on

Oh good, did everyone else know that the only dimension to black identity is the role of victimhood? I would like to know what my role in life is as a hispanic jew. Should be fun to hear.

Mixed on

” when in doing such, you get a leg up on other non Affirmative Action eligible groups and gain entry based on lower standards of achievement”

The leg up from who??? The only group that doesn’t qualify for under affirmative action is heterosexual white men. Turn on the CNBC and you’ll know why.

You are honing in on blacks specifically and you are wrong. Aside from that not everyone black or person of color has needed the assistance of AA.

I’m sorry you didn’t get into your college of choice, but seriously let it go.

Laura on

BeckyPeabody has had a very hard life as a (presumably) white person. So hard, in fact, that she took WAY out of context a totally innocuous statement by Halle. Wow!!

brandi on

I’m shocked Becky’s comments were published.

Thank you Eva, you took the words out of my mouth.

Kim on

Becky P. has the right to her own opinion just like everybody else. Just because you don’t agree with it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be published! She has some valid points but people don’t want to hear them.

Laura on

Kim’s life was hard like BeckyPeabody’s. Or, maybe Kim and “Beck” don’t fully comprehend this nation’s history. Anyhoo, cheers to Halle, Nahla, and Gabriel. (I hope Beck forgives me for listing Gabriel last.) Peace.

Anon on

Just because you agree doesn’t make it valid. No one is saying she doesn’t have a right to voice it, but I find the postings of Elle, Eva, Mixed, Giftbox and Sarah K a lot more convincing. I appreciate them.

DeeDee on

I am a bi-racial citizen of this country (AmerAsian) but I did not grow up here. When I first came to this country I didn’t realize there were categories that I had to pigeon-hole myself into. Before, I was just me, trying to figure out my way in life. But when I got here, I became a statistic. Every form I filled out was a nightmare as they didn’t have dual identities back then. I was supposed to be either one race or the other. My American father always had us listed as white (I have white skin) and for a time I tried doing that but other people started questioning me as they figured I looked somewhat more exotic than the average girl next door. I am not ashamed of my dual ancestry – I am what I am and proud of myself but it was sometimes very frustrating and infuriating to be denied one-half of my identity by others. I often went the “Other” route or still picked two boxes because I was/am stubborn and hated having to be labeled. Now, it’s easier as they have bi-racial boxes in most cases. Still — I wish society would get over labeling others superficially and look to what’s inside for the goodness in people’s hearts.

So I do understand what Halle Berry is saying. Her mother was/is a wise woman who made it easier for Halle to navigate a very confusing childhood/teenage years. Halle is not denying what she is – she is mirroring back to society what they see and label. She does not have white skin and would have been derided as being false and other nonsense. Hatred is hatred and is still hiding under the guise of feeling unfairly left out of ‘entitlements.’ Believe me, there isn’t much out there floating around. And no, I didn’t partake in any. I inherited smart genes from my parents as well as the other bonus – a nice outward appearance of my combined ancestry.

Laura on

“Hatred is hatred and is still hiding under the guise of feeling unfairly left out of ‘entitlements.’”

This is a million-dollar sentence, DeeDee. Thanks for your comments.

Anon on

Interestingly enough, there’s a show on Tyra right now about Bi-racial people choosing one identity and Black women who are tired of being mistaken for being mixed; and the disappointment they get receive when they tell people they’re “just black”.

DeeDee on

Oh, and to people who say it’s all about genetics and not ‘looks’ – you’ve never been there. It’s all about looks for most people. Genetics are the follow up answers to the questions. As in: “What are you?” Yes, I still get that. Another winner (not!): “What’s your nationality?” Like if I’m not obviously white or black, in some cases, I must be an alien and not entitled to belong in this country. I’m mostly patient and try to give answers that I hope are educational and not the answers that are oftentimes floating around in my head like: “I’m a human being, you moron, and entitled to courtesy and not rudeness.”

As for nationality, please don’t ask me that. Ask me for my ancestry instead, if you can’t help yourself and absolutely must or burst with curiosity. Nationality is the nation I belong to – am a citizen of, and I am and have always only been an American and nothing else. Nothing wrong with other nationalities but I seem to be peculiarly attached and loyal to, my country. My sense of loyalty and belonging is very strong and for people to question that really rubs me wrong for some reason. So if you must, ask me for my ancestry – even for my genetic makeup — although you do know that it’s rude to do so. I have tolerated a lot of rude behavior over the years and I know will do so again.

As for the pregnancy thing, I have a sister who went through 5 pregnancies swimmingly. No problems, had a lark, looked and felt terrific, hardly showed until the last 2 weeks of her pregnancy and then I had another sister who was sick from day one to the last day and felt ghastly and looked bloated throughout. So, it’s the luck of the draw apparently and it seems like Halle had the good one this time. And for another thing, doesn’t Nahla look more like Halle’s mother more than anything? Just my personal opinion, of course. And have a wonderful day everyone!

Kim on

To Laura: You know NOTHING about the life I have lived. I am of mixed race and am sick of the victim/entitlement mentality all around me. I have worked hard for what I have! I didn’t get any free rides!

Laydacris on

Kim and Becky need to get a life!! simple!

BeckyPeabody on

I’m still waiting for an honest appraisal of how the African American experience and the African experience, equate. The common theme or thread would be nice. If there is something that I’ve missed and the answer does not root itself in past sins and oppression, then I will apologize to the board. If on the other hand, the “history” is one of exclusion, social isolation, discrimination, oppression or any of that, then I offer only a
deep sigh of regret, that this woman who has been priveledged so much in this country, would continue to draw boundaries not only around herself, but her child. Not to mention a little axiom called “Self Fulfilling Prophesy”.

I am deeply concerned about our country and the sheer waist of energy and intelligence wallowing in past sins and transgressions. Romanaticized and mis-categorized as culture.
And castigate me if you like. But, in hard economic times like these, with no real end in sight, there will be pockets of academics/talk show hosts who will begin to debate, racial and immigration issues and the programs designed to redress prior discrimination, oppression etc.

Thanks Kim for your thoughts. I do apologzie for all of the previous typos.

Liliana on

BP-

So minorities are free loaders and anything they ever accomplish is only due to opportunities given to them (and taken away from the WASP-y males) rather than as a result of any sheer hard work and dedication… while the problems that cripple their communities are completely their own fault?? Interesting…

…and they say racism in America is no longer a fact of life.

BeckyPeabody on

Liliana,

I will go to the mat do defend my thoughts. I won’t do the same when fellow posters embellish my thoughts almost to the point of absurdity.

Thanks but not thanks. If on the other hand, you want to actually challenge something that I’ve stated, based on facts that’s fine. But, I won’t play your game.

bette on

Becky,
“priveledged”=PRIVILEGED

“waist of energy”=WASTE of energy..(Sorry, I’m a Lit major.)

Anyhoo,since you seem to be in the dark about why such programs of “privilege” exist–i.e. Affirmative Action–it would behoove you to read books by any AND ALL of the following scholars/authors: W. E. DuBois, Dr. Johnetta B. Cole, Patricia Collins, James Baldwin, Walter Rodney, Amos N. Wilson, John Hope Franklin (R.I.P.), Charles Johnson, James Weldon Johnson, and Frederick Douglass–to name a few.

You seem quite bitter and perhaps this is out of a lack of understanding. READ, READ, READ and your outlook will expand. It is not enough to act as though you are well-read, but you must also PLAY the part, as well.

Anon on

Quite a few people have “challenged” your opinions on a number of fronts. You’ve ignored them.Plus, what is the point of arguing with someone who clearly has a bone to pick.

brandi on

Anon I agree. It is rather pointless. According to some posters, I guess our president should be alerted that he became president because of his privileged background.

BeckyPeabody on

Anon,

Well, when a specific question is directed to me, I will try to answer. Provided it is not a question of the rhetorical sort.

Most of you are arguing at an entirely different level. I’m not arguing whether or not Affirmative Action was once needed. It clearly was. I’m far from alleging that once in the door, bi-racial woman underperform. I am making a very narrow argument. Which is— in accepting a position for which you were not totally qualified, that there is no moral superiority to the bi-racial who gets her foot in the door by virtue of claiming to be black, over and above the bi-racial who fills out the application as white. And I would posit the same about other minority candidates in similar situations.

One of the women that I most admire is Holly Robinson Peete. She’s tireless, smart and an itinerant humanist. She advocates for Autistic Children. She travels to Africa where she does volunteer work on behalf of children. She’s holistically involved–without ascribing metaphorical boundaries. There is a universality in her spirit that is admirable. She’s setting a wonderful example for not only her children, but all kids growing up in America.

Still waiting for the cultural background/similarities between President Obama and Nahla. Anyone?

CelebBabyLover on

Beckypeabody- “Still waiting for the cultural background/similarities between President Obama and Nahla. Anyone?” Simple! Obama and Nahla are both bi-racial!

LipoSuction Guide on

I love Halle Berry! I’m not a fan of her acting, but she seems like the most down to earth woman. Her and Salma are my absolute favorites. I feel badly that she and Nahla don’t get out especially because she’s getting older. Maybe they should consider getting out of L.A if it’s so distressing.

BeckyPeabody on

At the Dna level, most people are bi/tri racial. Particularly Hispanic, Middle Eastern and some Caucasian/Asian populations.

Dna is never simple.

Laura on

Kim, my comment was designed to elicit a response, and it worked. You are quite easy. Btw, I am African American (regular, not mixed, LOL!) and have never had any “victim/entitlement” mentality. I’ve known nothing but hard work and delayed gratification since I was a teenager. Actually, I could use a bit of rest. While I suspect there are minorities and others who have “victim/entitlement” mentalities, you and Beck really need to broaden your experiences so that you are not so quick to stereotype all minorities. Stereotype is arguably more pernicious than racism. And if everyone around you is stereotypical, I suggest you relocate ASAP. Cheers!

Baffled on

“I am making a very narrow argument. Which is— in accepting a position for which you were not totally qualified, that there is no moral superiority to the bi-racial who gets her foot in the door by virtue of claiming to be black, over and above the bi-racial who fills out the application as white.”

BeckyPeabody, is this a hypothetical? Do you assume that all bi-racials and minorities are unqualified? People of African descent are simply not considered “white” in this country. (Possible exception for Nicole Richie.)

BeckyPeabody on

Dna tells a different story about the level of black admixture in America. Approximately 1/3 whites have some level of black DNA markers. This is well documented.

I won’t take further issue with your comment about having African Ancestry. There are at least five very famous celebrity babies/kids, who look completely white but whose parents are mostly white with some mulato history. You, nor I know how the parents plan to register their children in school, nor what if any racial/ethnic sensibilities, that the child will be inculcated with. And the emphasis here, is “if at all”. Moreover, most bi-racial children are given a choice to register as black or white in schools. I have no idea what goes on in the minds of parents, when they make the decision, only that they have a choice.

Times have changed, quite simply that.

BeckyPeabody on

Baffled,

I do not assume that all bi-racial identifying as black are underqualified. Quite the contrary. I’ve generally been impressed with bi-racials as regards intelligence, interpersonal skills, compassion, etc.

Dee on

She DOES look tired…Amazing, that’s what I first thought when I say that. Well, now I know it isn’t just my eyes…lol

If she’s happy..let her be. I had the same sens of energy and inner happiness during my pregnancies as well…even tho my ex was a total ass.
:)

Baffled on

BeckyPeabody, your last sentence wreaks of superiortiy. I wonder whether you stop to wonder if bi-racials and minorities are impressed by your intelligence, interpersonal skills, and compassion. It’s possible that you did not intend to be superior, but nonetheless, . . . . It would be nice if we Americans had these kinds of discussions in person, and not just over the Internet.

CelebBabyLover on

LipoSuction- It’s very possible that getting out of L.A. isn’t an option for them.

ElleJsis on

Actually I said that, I dunno why lipsuction quoted me?

I think they could get out of L.A. Halle is a big actress, she does like one movie a year if that. Gabriel is a supermodel, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t go on castings for his justs anymore. Gabriels family lives in Canada and I dunno where halles family resides.

They could move out of L.A or at least out of that part of california.I could understand if its not worth it to them, but even Nicole Kidman moved to nashville..and Catherine Zeta Jones I think lives somewhere in the midwest.

taegan on

I hope she is able to have another soon. But her diabetes could cause problems.

Also it’s sad about the paps and Nahla, I really believe there should be a law against how close or vocal they get around kids! I don’t care how much you hate a celeb it’s wrong to subject their kids to close up flashes and loud voices screaming the child’s name!

Paps need to make a living? That’s fine, just do it respectfully towards the kids.

Judith on

I love this interview.. Halle is very down to earth.. I hope she can go out, instead of being inside alot. I read that Marilyn Monroe put on disguises to ‘get out’. Like big hats, sun glasses; it was winter: big over coat..

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