Cheryl Hines Plays 'Good Cop,' Bad Cop Nonexistent

04/04/2009 at 05:00 PM ET
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After discovering the idea of good cop versus bad cop, children are often savvy enough to play one parent against the other. For 5-year-old Catherine Rose, her job has been simplified — there is no bad cop! “I’m pretty much the good cop,” says Cheryl Hines, before admitting that her husband Paul Young shares the same role. Laughing that her little girl is “clearly very spoiled,” the actress explains she is looking to keep Catherine happy, which means wiping away her tears when she cries. “I coddle! Are you kidding me? I cry with her!” she tells Cookie magazine. “I’m the worst. I’m not the strictest mom in the world, but you only live once, right?”

Although Cheryl may be keen on keeping Catherine content, when it comes to bedtime, the 43-year-old mom is determined to keep her little girl on a schedule. With nights spent laying down as a family of three reading books together before their daughter falls asleep, the In the Motherhood actress often finds her bedtime routines being questioned! “I come home and it’s like 10 o’clock and Paul and Catherine are watching TV on the couch together,” she shares. “It’s not the end of the world, but I think we probably disagree on that a little bit.” Apparently Paul isn’t the only one causing a stir in the great bedtime debate — Catherine is always up for the challenge as well!

“It’s funny when she tries to manipulate me. When it’s time to go to bed, she’ll bargain with me. She’ll tell me she will go to bed if I let her watch her favorite movie. Things like that, where it’s like, ‘Well, that’s not really a negotiation.'”

After welcoming Catherine when she was 39-years-old, Cheryl has no regrets about entering into the realm of parenthood as a “late mom-bloomer,” explaining that she was able to do it all before dedicating herself to her child. Hopefully, her long list of accomplishments included a great deal of sleep! “[Catherine] sleeps with us a lot,” she says. “I worry that I’m cutting off her circulation or that somehow I’ve gotten her tangled in the blanket.”

All the training in the world couldn’t prepare Cheryl for the struggles she has faced juggling a baby at the airport, she admits. Listing airport security with an infant as her “most mom frazzled moment,” she recalls the unfortunate task of balancing her baby and the suitcase, all while managing to collapse her stroller. To this day, Cheryl laughs that she has yet to understand how parents are expected to do it all. “I just didn’t understand how anyone was physically capable of doing that,” she says. “I don’t know — I just remember sweating a lot!”

These days, in lieu of facing the nightmare of traveling with a baby, Cheryl instead finds herself in a never-ending battle with pottery! What started out as an innocent Valentine’s Day craft, has turned into “hundreds and hundreds of dollars worth of Color Me Mine every weekend,” Cheryl admits.

“Now, every time I take her back to pick up her pottery, she wants to color something else, so it’s a vicious cycle. I need to pick up her completed pottery when she’s not with me, otherwise, I don’t think we’ll ever stop going there on the weekends.”

In the Motherhood airs Thursdays on ABC.

Source: Cookie

— Anya

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Nina on

I love her! She’s so funny.
I wish her show In the Motherhood was more funny, I really wanted to like it but think it’s rather boring! 😦

Sam on

You only live once? Yes, isn’t that kind of the point of good parenting? Not saying she isn’t a good mom, but her reasoning for being laissez-fair is a bit strange.

Still Life in South America on

I am LOVING these Cheryl Hines stories.

I start sweating just thinking about getting through airport security with a baby! Kudos to all of you moms out there–especially with more than one child, having to take off shoes, hand over breast milk to DHS attendants, Arrrgggh!

Bieta on

Its weird hearing people talk about how their kids are spoiled. I come a background where being spoiled was almost a sin. If your child was considered spoiled, it was along the lines of being useless and a taker. My community is very much about giving and being a hard worker and not asking for anything. Even in the little kids. In my culture kids are treated well(tho many are on the stricter side) don’t get me wrong, but we don’t believe in ‘spoiling’ out kids. Its not a breezy ‘yeah they’re spoiled..what are you gonna do?’ thing. I come latin american and carribean culture btw. On another note, I’ve done the airport thing with my step-kids a 18month old included…and it was not fun.

Anna on

I do find it strange when parents say their kids are spoiled, and then they laugh, as if it’s a good thing.

Her daughter is so cute though! 🙂

g!na on

I loved her in RV !!!!!!

Anna on

I also find it strange when people say their child is spoiled as if it’s a good thing.

Keeping a 5 year old up late is also not smart. Next year she’ll be going to school and needs to get enough sleep for learning.

iluvallbabies on

She is laid back and therefore her only daughter gets away with a few things more- like a movie on the weekend, or an extra treat here and there. Big deal. Its her daughter and she ADORES her from every interview I here. Im sure she teaches her also to be grateful and not a spoilt brat.

I agree, you only live once so you can break a few rues here and there 🙂

ooji on

i agree that breaking a few rules isn’t that big of a deal, like a little extra candy or the occasional late night, but i think that a truly spoiled child is obnoxious…so many kids think they “deserve” everything they want, because their parents always give them everything they want! like, today at the mall, some girl (maybe thirteen, at the most) was bossing the staff around the coach store, and complaining to EVERYBODY that her parents bought her the “wrong” purse for getting good grades this past quarter, so they were buying her another one to “correct” their “mistake”. and her mom just said, as way of excuse, “she’s our only daughter…” i’ve never been so turned off by a sixth grader in my life! this is not to say that cheryl hines’s daughter will be like this, but this is what i think of when i think of “spoiled.” i don’t really think it’s something to laugh about or find cute…

jaykar625 on

Keeping a 5 year old up late is also not smart. Next year she’ll be going to school and needs to get enough sleep for learning.

fevvers on

Yep, I saw a 10 yr old having a tantrum in a mobile phone store because the store had sold out of the model her parents were buying her and she wanted it THIS WEEKEND to show her friends. Its not even the behaviour that gets me, its the way the parents stand there acting like it is acceptable when everyone else is completely shocked.

Still Life in South America on

I think we’d all agree that there are varying degrees of spoiling. I hope that Cheryl is using the term loosely because I envision “spoiled” as fevvers’ mobile phone store example.

I am so happy that my parents and grandparents didn’t spoil me. When we were given privileges like a candy bar or a Happy Meal, it seemed like the coolest and most special thing. Spoiled children miss out on that feeling. Wouldn’t you agree?

Bieta on

Completely agree!

Mary on

agreed. spoiled and coddled children can be annoying. the parent may think it’s ok, but it’s not fun for the other adults that have to be around them. i think in the end, it’s making things ‘easier’ for the parent, but it’s not helping the child one bit.

umma on

i think it’s too easy and a bit unfair to judge the parents’ by the kids actions, especially if you just see them in the mall. some kids are brats despite their parents best efforts. just like women should give other women a break when it comes to competition–so should parents! i’m with cheryl–enjoy life and stop thinking you and your kids are the only ones raised the “right” way. and it’s so obvious that cheryl was joking about her “spoiled” child. there are degrees. why would anyone laugh about a serious behavior issue?