Lindsay Davenport Hopes For a Tomboy

04/02/2009 at 06:00 PM ET
Pacific Coast News

Although dread may not be a mother’s typical reaction upon discovering the sex of her baby, Lindsay Davenport jokingly admits that after being told the baby she’ll deliver in mid-June will be a daughter, the reality that she could be giving birth to a girly-girl hit her hard!

“Oh my God, that’s my biggest fear. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t do my hair. [She] had better be a tomboy, because otherwise I don’t know how I’m going to cope.”

Not that the 32-year-old tennis star is new to motherhood in the first place! Already mom to son Jagger Jonathan, 21 months, Lindsay has been enjoying time off the courts since announcing her second pregnancy. “I’ve spent every day with my son since he was 15 months, and it’s been the greatest time,” she explains. “I’m really lucky.”

While Lindsay has stepped off the clay for now, she believes that fellow tennis star and mom, Kim Clijsters, will do just fine in her return to the courts. “She doesn’t want to do this job without her husband [Brian Lynch] and daughter [Jada Ellie, 13 months] being able to go with her all the time,” notes Lindsay, who often shares e-mails and text messages with Kim. “She just wanted to make sure that the media demands weren’t going to be overwhelming. I told her, ‘I’m not going to lie — I’m sure the first few tournaments, you’re going to have a lot going on.’ But everyone understands her priority is her family.”

Lindsay is married to Jonathan Leach.

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Susan on

That is my all time baby photo. So cute, so curious, so sweet. Love it.

BJ on

Haha, I feel the same way… I’m such a tomboy, I’d be clueless if my daughter loved pink and princesses!

Gapeachssi on

“Oh my God, that’s my biggest fear. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t do my hair. [She] had better be a tomboy, because otherwise I don’t know how I’m going to cope.”

I’m glad to know other grown-up tomboys have this same fear. I had my daughter last week and felt the same way as Lindsay the entire pregnancy. I’m completely thrown for a loop by the world of little girls. With 2 older brothers, at least I know if my daughter does become a girly-girl, she’ll be able to hold her own against most anything and have a good sense of style doing it.

Charity on

I have to say one of my pet peeves is women who are scared of having a little girl, especially when they say “I don’t know what I’d do with a girl!”. As if her little girl is going to be girly girl when she (the mother) is a tomboy. I have to wonder, do these women wish they’d been born male? Sorry if that sounds harsh, I just don’t get it!

Of course, I am very much a girly girl.

Emily on

I think she means more if she is a girly girl and she wants things such as a plait in her hair and she doesn’t know how to do it, can’t give make up advice that sort of thing. I don’t see why there is anything wrong with that, or makes you wish you were born male. It’s probably not that nice to think your little girl might ask you to do something you can’t do, when you would like to be able to do it for them properly. Why wouldn’t the little girl be a girly girl? Kids aren’t carbon copies of their parents.

Jamie on

Charity, choice of dress and style has very little to do with gender identity. I’m not saying this to attack you, but just because a woman dresses more ‘masculine’ or a man dresses more ‘feminine’ it does not mean that they are trying to compensate for being the ‘wrong’ gender.

All these ideals are completely constructed by social conventions. It doesn’t make them good or bad, or one ideal better than the other it just makes them… What they are. I understand when Lindsay is coming from because my mom is very tomboyish (though in her case she is a lesbian) and I am possibly one of the girly girlish people I know. Haha. My grandmother was the same way as I am so it looks like it skipped a generation or something in our family. My mom and I don’t see eye to eye on anything dealing with clothes and stuff but I know no matter what that she supports whatever style I choose to wear. I’m sure Lindsey will adjust to having a girly girl if she chooses to be that way. It’s all part of the joys of mother/daughter relationships. :-D

Daniella on

This is a very real fear for many of us tomboys. My mother felt this way all through her pregnancy with me (I am her only girl). Thankfully for my mum, I was very much a tomboy & spent more time getting dirty, fighting my way out of dresses & roughhousing with my brothers than playing with dolls or worrying about my hair. Then again, my poor aunt was a complete tomboy & had a daughter who was a complete & utter girly girl. The poor woman still does not know how to plait hair or properly apply makeup :)

And no, we do not wish we were born male. I take that as an insult since despite the fact that I have always been a tomboy, I have also never felt nor wished to be anything other than female. And it’s not that we’re afraid of having a little girl, it’s more of the fact that we worry that we may not be able to do certain activities with them. The same can go for girly-girl mothers who have a tomboy daughter.

Girly tomboy on

oh please. I am a “girly girl” but also know how to get sweaty mountain bike, wear jeans etc. Who is under the impression that girls are either “girly girls” or “tomboys”…. is it so hard to believe that girls can be a little of both? Stupid labels lead to pointless debates

Jane on

Just because someone likes makeup, pink, dolls and glitter, doesn’t mean they don’t like sports or getting dirty and playing in the mud. I’m very much a girly girl, and as a kid, there was nothing I liked more than running around outside in the rain and splashing in the mud and puddles. I played softball in high school, but I loved getting my hair done and shopping, too.

Lindsey’s attitude bothers me, to be frank.

NELLA on

Girly tomboy I agree with you 100%…I totally believe a girl can be both girly and a tomboy it’s the best of both worlds.

hkdiaz on

I am very much a girly girl, but my 4 yr old is such a tomboy! I do miss dressing her in little dresses and stuf, but I have to admit, she is so cool! My favorite thing is that she loves superheroes. When she and her friends play, her friends are the princesses and my daughter is the superhero and comes and saves hem-no waiting around for a man to rescue my baby! :-)

Sam on

I agree with Girly tomboy! Most females I know are a mix. I think the two extremes (all tomboy or all girly girls) are actually more rare. And I don’t think it should matter either way. Your kids are who they are, and when you get pregnant you can’t have any expectations of how they’ll turn out. There’s nothing wrong with a daughter being different from her mother and I really don’t understand what Lindsay is so afraid of. Girly girl women raise sons all the time, so why can’t a tomboy raise a girly girl?

When I was little I would get made fun of for “dressing like a boy” because my mom refused to dress me in girly clothes; she wouldn’t let me grow my hair out and rarely allowed me to wear dresses. I hope Lindsay doesn’t try to force her daughter to be a tom boy! Let her be herself.

Vicki on

Lindsay has a well developed sense of humour when it come to interviews and this was said as a tongue in cheek joke. I read this and it made me laugh. I do agree with one thing that was said that I totally agree with why label little girls tomboys or girly girls just let them be kids and find their own identity. They will spend most of adult lives having labels put on them why do it to them while they’re kids.

Courtney on

Umm, I don’t wear makeup or have time to do my hair just right every morning. I wear jeans and tee shirts and I am far from a girly girl. And, umm, never one day in my ENTIRE life did I ever wish to be male…thats insulting. I don’t care if people get it or not. Its a matter of differing styles. I am also a mom to 3 girls and I do their hair every day and they are very girly. I love it. It’s just not for me..

Patrice on

Ugh, I hate it when prospective (or new) parents make comments like this. Although I’m sure Lindsay was joking, I believe all parents should be open minded and encourage their children to be whoever it is they are. What if she DOES have a girly girl? Will she refuse to by her pink because SHE would never wear it??

Erika on

LOL I don’t have kids yet, but that is opposite of my fear. I really want a girl to put in dresses and bows and to play dress up and princesses and barbies with and I wonder, what if my daughter is a tomboy? I will probably make her do that stuff anyway lol because it’s fun for me!

sat on

What an assumption to make! That a woman whose hair and makeup is not her first priority wishes she were born a male?! That’s even offensive to men lol!

Fiona on

It’s not about wishing you were born male, it’s having spent a lot of time with males all your life (I get on so much better with males than females and always have done). I’m expecting a girl soon and am actually pleased to see a celeb being honest about their reaction when they found out what they were having – yes I would rather have a boy because it would be easier but who says the tomboy mum won’t rise to the challenge?

Sarah on

wow some of ya’ll are way too sensitive…light the heck up. You sound like a bunch of whine-bags

kate on

go sarah! couldn’t have said it better;)

I was recently in a kids’ toy store, in the girls section – yeah, that must be intimidating for someone who’s never been into stuff like that lol

that picture is very sweet!

mom2foxkids on

I remember when I was told my first child was a girl. I knew she would be a girl (mothers intuituion) but I insisted that I would be having a boy! I have never been one to do my own hair, I had dreadlocks up until right before I got pregnant, I have even gone so far as to shave my head several times in my lifetime. I was mortified!!! How the heck was I going to do this baby girls hair?? poor kid would be doomed….

Well, my baby girl was born BALD, completely and totally BALD, not even the little fuzz that most babies have. She stayed bald for about 2 years, hehehe. It all works out in the end :) Oh, and now that she is 4 1/2 she enjoys doing her own hair, she doesn’t even want me to try!

Mia on

I have an older brother, and most my family members are males, and I’ve always had mostly guy friends, so I generally fall under the more “tom boy” area, I’m used to the “energy” but I love being female, and have never wanted to be male at all…so that just sounds like a strange comment.

I personally just have never been into wearing makeup, I don’t like the way it feels, and I don’t really like wearing dresses/skirts, I never have, although I have been more into dressing up now that I am a bit older (I’m 21), I just enjoy being comfortable, and jeans, and a nice shirt are the best way for me. I’m also not into jewelry, I think it gets in the way. I think hobbies can range across the board whether you are male/female, its just the shaping of the culture that says “its a boys thing only” or “girls thing only” .

Judith on

I had not one, but two daughters. I was not good with hair, either. I just did the best I could. On the other hand, a hairstyle like Suri’s is good, because you don’t have to do anything but comb her hair; it’s a cute style, too. I had to put spongy rollers in my daughters’ hair. Their dad was better at styling than me!! They are now 32 and 31. Good luck, Lindsey!!

Maxine (aka Max) on

I am a tomboy as well. When I was about 11 or 12, my mom kept dressing me in these prim, girly clothes and admired how cute I looked, even though I wanted to play in mud instead. I once cut my hair very choppy short with the sharp scissors so Mum gave me her old Halloween princess wigs to wear. Luckily, I got a little sister who was a girly girly, so I didn’t have to worry about dress up. I’m still a single tomboy, and some ladies that look like walking, talking Barbie dolls sometimes nickname me “Butch”. If I EVER get married, I’ll let whatever son/daughter I have be him/herself.

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