Kelly Rutherford Reflects on Memories of Mom

04/02/2009 at 11:00 AM ET
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Even as a young child, Kelly Rutherford took her job seriously; From the moment she was made a big sister, Kelly “took over immediately,” watching her little brother enjoy holidays and spending her time shopping with her mom.

While the responsibilities of an older sibling are far from those of a mother, her childhood experiences paved the way in parenthood for Kelly, who is due with her second child — a girl — in June.

Leaning on her family and looking to them for advice is not uncommon for Kelly, who often mirrors her mother’s parenting skills in raising her 2-year-old son Hermés Gustaf Daniel.

Asked during an interview with BabyCouture magazine how she hopes to be remembered by her children, Kelly is quick to joke that her wish is really quite simple.

“I would just like them to always think of me,” she laughs. On a more serious note, the mother of two reflects back on her own mom for the answer.

“I remember talking to Hermés as a baby…I’d say, ‘I’m always here for you. You can always tell me everything, whatever you need.’ I think it’s important for him to know that — that he’ll never be judged — that I’m here, and present. My mother has always been that way with me, growing up.”

An avid fashionista much like her own mother, Kelly admits that her baby boy seems to have inherited the style gene from her side of the family! Already a great shopping buddy to his mom, Hermés has no problem heading into a store and choosing from the selection. “He likes fashion, he likes things already,” shares Kelly. “He knows the colors that he likes.”

More on Kelly’s name choice for her son and balancing the demands of Gossip Girl with her priorities as a mother below.

When it comes to dressing her dapper dude, the 40-year-old — who keeps Hermés “distracted, watching cartoons” while she dresses him — opts for a traditional sense of style, including cashmere sweaters over polo shirts matched with skinny jeans and Tretorn tennis shoes. Her effort, she says, is all in order to avoid any future embarrassments! “We try not to have any of those pictures where he looks so goofy that he looks back at us and says, ‘I hate you for putting me in that outfit,'” she reveals.

“I want him to look back and say, ‘Oh my God. I looked great. I looked so cool at two years old!”

One area where her baby boy is sure to stand out is in the name game, but Kelly’s “last minute” choice fits her son perfectly — in more ways than one. With an ode to the Greek messenger god, Kelly laughs that his “strong name” also coincidentally pays tribute to her favorite designer store!

“My friend jokes that he’s gonna grow up wondering why his name is on all the boxes in my house, ha ha, because I love the stores…” she laughs.

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Set to welcome her baby girl in a few short months, the timing of the actress’ due date will fortunately coincide with a previously planned hiatus from Kelly’s hit show, Gossip Girl.

The decision to work around the expectant mama’s pregnancy, however, does not come as a surprise. According to Kelly, the show has been more than understanding when it comes to her list of priorities in life.

“I’m pretty much a full-time mom with a part-time job on a show called Gossip Girl. I don’t work that much. They’ve been very generous with my schedule and with my desire to be a mother, so it’s worked out great because I get to spend about 90% of the time with my son and 10% of the time on the set, working.”

When her days are spent on set Kelly is never far from Hermés, who enjoys time taking in life on location. “He’s great on set. There’s so much to see,” she says. “There’s the fork-lift they use to build the sets — he loves to check that out. And all the trucks and brooms — he loves to sweep.”

While the busy atmosphere provides the toddler with “so much to play with,” his love of all things fashion-related often has him passing the time in the make-up trailer! “He loves the make-up and hair trailer,” Kelly reveals. “He’s always blow-drying everyone’s hair.”

Having recently been granted permission by the courts to travel with Hermés back and forth from Los Angeles to New York City — from her home to her show’s set — Kelly reports that her son has become an expert bi-coastal boy. The trick, she says, has been to keep him on a similar schedule, making sure to include his favorite spots in both cities as a part of his routine.

“We spend a lot of time in New York. He goes to Kidville, he goes to the park. He has his regular things he loves to do in New York, and then when we’re in L.A., he has regular things he loves to do,” she explains.

“So he has friends in New York that he likes to play with, and then here [in L.A.] he has his friends, so I think it’s kind of fun for him. We don’t travel back and forth that much. Now that I’m pregnant, I’m not doing it all the time.”

Hermés and baby girl are Kelly’s children with her estranged husband, Daniel Giersch.

Source: Baby Couture

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carolina on

I’ve always wondered how she pronounces her son’s name.
Is it like the French say it: Er-meh? …or more like Her-mees?

She looks great in those photos btw

Natasha on

I think it’s Air-Mez, but I don’t know for sure.

Ali on

Well her son will look at the pictures and will say “mom why am I wearing a cashmere sweater at 2?”
She seems a little too obsessed about how he looks like and how he dresses. I am sure it wil be even worse for the baby girl.

Natasha on

I agree Ali, I think every kid is gonna look back and say WTF was I wearing? Who knows what the style will be in 20 years but guaranteed the clothes Hermes wears now he won’t like!

Devon on

I don’t think he is going to look back and say, “Mum, what were you thinking when you put me in that!” Kelly dresses him in a very classic way that won’t be out of style in 10-20 years. Cashmere never goes out of style. My Mum dressed me in very much the same way, in the ’80s, and if you were look at the pictures, you wouldn’t have guessed is was 1983 except for that fact that my Mum’s big ’80s hair and my Dad’s big ’80s beard! I still think I was a very well dressed child, and that is exactly the same way I plan to dress my children.

D on

Ali, i agree…but I guess to each their own. I put my two year old little boy in punk rock clothes, but then again that is what I like. I love messy little rock-star boys. Polo shirts are cute but my little boy just looks so grown up in it.

Sam on

Skinny jeans are not “classic,” unless she means something different from what I’m thinking of.

Elli on

Hmm, so that’s what she wants by dressing him like that. I don’t like children dressed like grown-ups. Hermes always looks like he has just jumped out of an ad for Hilfiger or Lacoste etc.
What happens if he spills cranberry juice – oh, I know, no problem, there are plenty of cashmere sweaters left in the Hermes-boxes…😉

gg on

Hermes is pronounced “Air-mez”.

molly on

well I think how she wants to dress him is fine and I have seen pictures of him and he looks very well dressed ,kind of grown up, however he also seems very happy. I feel as long as the child is happy in their clothing then dress him in it and I also get the sense that kelly would understand if he was uncomfortable or unhappy in the outfit.I also think that since she has the money she should by the clothes she feels are appropiate however dont go all out like Katie and Tom Cruise who bought Suri a 200 dollar dress to play in the park.

JC on

I’m guessing he probably looks a little “preppy” in his outfirst – cashmere and polos. I’ve seen pictures of kids dressed like that – guess what you still laugh at them. Actually, I think it is worse to not have those funny pictures. They are funny to look back on and laugh at…the pictures of kids looking are preppy just kind of make you roll your eyes.

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