Amy Adams Will Keep Family on the Smaller Side

03/22/2009 at 07:00 AM ET
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Actress Amy Adams knows what it is like to be surrounded by family, as she has seven brothers and sisters! For that reason that the 34-year-old doesn’t think that she and her fiancé, actor and artist Darren Le Gallo, will have a big family. “I didn’t like having seven siblings when I was growing up,” she remembers. “I love it now. But it was just a lot. It was hard to find alone time. Now I see my siblings as often as I can.”

The Enchanted actress does “want to have a family” but doesn’t think she could handle a large one.

“I probably won’t have a big family. I can barely manage my own life! I don’t know how people do it. I give mothers, professional mothers, a lot of credit. “

Amy can next be seen in Night at the Museum: Battle of the Smithsonian, set to be released in theaters on May 22nd.

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Sara on

She gives “professional” mothers a lot of credit? It’s no harder to work outside the home with children then it is to work inside the home with them. Maybe I read it wrong but her comment really annoyed me.

Sam on

“I don’t know how people do it. I give mothers, professional mothers, a lot of credit.“

What about fathers?

cécile on

I think she’s speaking from her experience. Come on she’s 34 and has 7 siblings. Her parents probably had their 1st child 40 years ago

Anna on

Is a professional mother a mother that has made motherhood her profession or is it a mother with a job outside her home?

cécile on

Oops something went wrong.I finish:at a time where children,particularly in large families were the mother’s field.
And often (not always) when a family has 8 children,the mother hasn’t got a career. No need to jump at he throat for her comments.

kate on

i took “professional mothers” as a joke – meaning mothers, like her own mom, who have had many children. my grandmother had 9 kids and my mom used to joke that she was a professional childbirther. i don’t think she was talking about working moms vs sahm.

Tee on

Sara, I agree with you. That comment really rubbed me the wrong way. Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world.

natalie on

i noticed her comment about professional mothers as well and it bothers me. im not a mother myself, but what’s a PROFESSIONAL mother? I dont get it. A mother is always a mother. there is no such thing as a professional mother. there are stay-at-home moms and working mothers, but theyre both mothers. my maternal grandma was a working mom in the 50s and 60s, while my mom was a single mom, working her behind off for me and my little sister. is that adams’s definition of a professional mom? if so, then i guess she’s just as “clever” as her role as the princess in enchanted.. sorry ames but you’re so wrong. you can’t distinguish between mothers and mothers.

Erin on

I agree, “professional mothers” sounded like a slam at stay at home mothers, which is by far the hardest job on earth.

Mary on

I think what Amy was trying to say was that she gives credit for “professional” mothers who are away from the house or have a bit more of a hectic day-to-day and do not get to see her kids as often. I’m sure as an actress she realized that she would be on the go almost all the time, away from home almost all day, every day for months at a time and it would be hectic to try and care for a big family. She was simply saying she already anticipated what it would be like to be away from her children, which is what “professional” mothers have to face more than a stay at home mom. I was not rubbed the wrong way by her comments and was surprised so many were.

Bridget on

I actually thought “professional” mothers meant mothers whose job was… motherhood. Now I read it back I can also read it the way the other commentators did.

I’m sure she didn’t mean to criticise any mothers or single out any type of mother as better ‘better’. I love Amy’s acting and she seems like a great person so I’m sure she meant no harm by her innocuous comment. Her baby(ies) would be cuties, that’s for sure!

Mary-Helen on

How is that a slam? She is giving SAHMs credit and doesn’t think it’s a job she can handle! If anything, she’s giving a kudos to SAHMs everywhere. I think some people are just looking for reasons to put down moms who have to work outside of the home. I’ve been both and personally, I find being a working mom a million times harder than being a SAHM. When you’re a SAHM you clean the house, cook dinner and play with the children. When you’re working you have to work, come home, feel guilty when your little one cries @ daycare, hear about your school age kid’s day over the phone while trying not to cry that you’re not @ home for dinner and bath time. Meanwhile, if your child gets sick, you have to risk getting into trouble for taking time off work and balance daycare, school, work, lessons/extracurricular activites and still find time to live up to the SAHMs @ Playgroup who rub it in your face because “They just love their kids so much they are home f/t”.

I give professional moms alot of credit, but moms who work don’t get nearly enough credit, while SAHMs whine about “how hard it is” to have infinite time to play, clean, cook and chill.

Amy on

Man, noone can say ANYTHING correct for the people on this site!! She paid Mom’s a compliment! I think people need to be more comfortable with their own lives they don’t get so offended at mild comments from celebrities.

Nicole on

When SAHMs say that their “job” is the toughest, it’s offensive to working mothers who work just as hard. I’m not trying to start a debate, by any means, but I do not consider a SAHM a job. I do not deny that it’s challenging work and that it is often thankless, etc. However, I don’t feel that it’s a “job” in the sense that the deadlines, responsibilities, etc are not as rigid as a conventional job. You don’t have an allotted amount of sick time, of vacation, etc., and answering to a separate boss is definitely a large difference. I don’t mean this to be offensive in the slightest bit, but I think that it is, in a sense, a privilege to be able to stay home with your children. There are likely certain days that it doesn’t feel that way. Simply because I think it’s a privilege, surely doesn’t indicate that I think that the things that SAHMs do is unimportant. I think teaching and raising your children is very important and worthy. It’s just that taking care of your own children and household is something that you do because it’s yours and it’s your responsibility. (I understand that we can hire people to do these things for us (e.g. daycare, housekeeper, etc), then, in that situation, I do think it becomes a job because they’re doing it for someone else).

However, all in all, I think that SAHMs should recognize that they are fortunate to have the option to be at home just as I am thankful that I get to work and have an adult conversation daily. (I only mention these points because these are the most common complaints I hear from my SAHM friends). Regardless, there are days when I wish I could just stay at home that day and be with my child. Do I think that I’m a better mother because I work vs my friends that stay at home? Absolutely not. Do my friends that stay at home think they’re better moms than I am because I work? I’d say, generally, yes.

I’m not trying to start a debate, but I think that the whole WM vs. SAHM argument is frustrating. We all work hard whether we stay at home or have a career, and we’re all mothers. I think that instead of judging what others do, we should recognize that regardless of your situation, it’s hard to be a mother and a wife and a daughter and a friend. It’s hard to maintain all these different roles that we have whether you stay at home or not.

jessica on

I didn’t see that as offensive at all, sounds to me like she’s saying stay at home mothers have the hardest job, one she doesn’t think she could handle because she can barely manage her own life. I see it as a compliment!

Mrs. R. on

Actually – I thought professional mothers sounded like a nice euphemism for SAHMs. I REALLY don’t think she was trying to say that she honors one type of mother over another.

Either way, I really don’t think we need to read too much into what she’s saying. No one who doesn’t already have children gets it. She was put on the spot during an interview to talk about a future family because if a woman gets married or is getting married, she is EXPECTED to answer the family question. She did the best she could, but I bet she was probably sideswiped by the whole question. Her whole answer sounded a little less than polished.

Mia on

I think she just meant mom’s who have to balance their mother role at home, while going out to the office, or to wherever, for work everyday.

Angelika on

I totally agree with Nicole. I am a full-time mom AND a full-time career woman. I don’t have a housekeeper, so I do that too. I am lucky that I have a very helpful husband and we do split most things 50/50 but still it is a lot harder than anyone gives us credit for.

MZ on

Did anyone stop to think she might have provided more clarification after she said that, but her later words were cut out? Amy was giving an interview and journalists are going to take the best snippets from those interviews to publish. Any clarification probably sounded too awkward to print. I think she was just trying to compliment SAHMs anyway.

It’s a privilege to be a mom at ALL and we shouldn’t be arguing which group is working harder or under-appreciated more. We all work hard, all love our children, and are all lucky to have them! :-)

sat on

Angelika, I’m here to give you that respect and credit! Way to go girl. Hang in there :)

Crystal on

Nicole I too completely agree with you. My mother was a stay at home mom and it is very hard work. That being said, it isn’t fair to say that it’s the hardest job on earth!! That is a little extreme. It doesn’t give credit to the mothers who work and raise children. What about single parenthood? It’s just a little too pretentious for me and completely one-sided. I love Amy Adams but I knew when she said the “professional mom” comment she would be crucified by the commenters on this site.

Sarah on

How did anyone find her comments offensive? She was giving SAHM credit! She didn’t say that SAHM have it easy. She said that it was so hard that she, herself, would not be able to do it.

Can people not even take a compliment these days? Are people really so insecure with their lives that they need to take offense to every little thing?

eva on

Here we go, another witch trial.Should we try to drown Amy to see if she floats?

Lauren on

“Can people not even take a compliment these days? Are people really so insecure with their lives that they need to take offense to every little thing?”

In a word-yes. I have zero problems calling celebs out on their nonsense and not pretending the world is all puppies and popsicles, but the amount of whining that has gone on on this site over the most miniscule things is outright laughable. I thought absolutely nothing of Amy’s comment-which was clearly intended as a compliment for those who didn’t take the time to dissect it to use against her-and assumed she’d trigger a few responses saying they loved her work, couldn’t wait to see her have babies of her own, etc. It truly astounds me that people could find something to bellyache over here, but yet again I continue to be amazed. People need to get a flipping life.

Chana on

I agree with Nicole. That’s all I’ll say.

Tiger Lily on

I agree with Nicole, too. Being a SAHM is very, very difficult and I am not putting down their choices in anyway, but as the daughter of a very successful doctor who has always had a career, I have always been startled at the intensity of criticism that my mother has had thrown at her because of her decision to have a medical career.

I can honestly say that I have never heard my mother criticism SAHMs in the 27 years I have known her but that has never stopped our friends, family, my teachers and friends’ moms and random strangers from judging her. Bottom line is that everyone has to do what they need to do and there is no one formula for all families. I won’t judge you if you leave moms with careers (by this I mean paying jobs) alone. Deal?

jen on

Oh boy the SAHM vs WM debate. I’ve been a SAHM mom for the last 5 years and have never, ever understood the whole “sahm’s have the hardest job in the world” line. It took me a while to realize these moms are serious! What’s hard about it?! You have your WHOLE DAY to get everything or nothing done. I’m sorry but playgroups, grocery shopping, cleaning (if you don’t hire it out), and general caring of children, is not that hard. If anything WM’s have it harder. They have the same responsibilities as SAHM’s but have to get it all done after a day at the office.

Court on

I’m a SAHM and it is a fulltime job but my son was a 30 week preemie, my husband is in the military so sometimes I have EVERYTHING to deal with on my own without getting a break, I attend college fulltime, and so on. Some SAHMs’ sit around and do nothing while others..it really is a fulltime job. I’m not knocking professional mothers who work as well or fathers…after I graduate I fully intend to work fulltime but everyone’s situation is different. Not every SAHM sits around, chills, and stares at the walls while the children run rampant in the front yard.

Erica on

I completely agree with Nicole and Crystal. I would like to know if the people who say being a SAHM is “the hardest job on earth” have tried every job on earth. If you haven’t, then you shouldn’t say that. I don’t even have kids, so I can’t judge, or say which one’s harder, but I don’t think that anyone can say one is harder than the other. I also don’t understand how Amy giving credit to working mothers is a “slam” to stay at home mothers. She gave credit to one group, it’s not like she said “Stay at home mothers are lazy” or “stay at home mothers don’t work nearly as hard as working ones” she just said she thinks people who do one thing deserve credit, how is that a “slam”?

alice jane on

One thing I’ll never get is why women and mothers are so quick to critize each other because one woman doesn’t do something the way another woman does. I wish that more stay at home moms would respect (and god forbid, honor) mothers who work a job AND raise children, and I wish more working mothers would do the same for the women staying at home to raise their kids. Both can be really difficult tasks, just in different ways. And, both types of women can do great jobs raising their kids.

iluvallbabies on

Totally agree Erica- I dont have children, but to say “Its the hardest job on earth” makes me think they have done every other job to warrant the comparison :)

She is entitled to give kudos- without people reading too much into it, or taking it the wrong way!

alice jane on

Sorry, I just wanted to clarify that I mean SOME women and mothers are quick to criticize one another. Even though so many women are really respectful of each other’s choices, it just gets frustrating when others don’t….

Adrianna on

When did people become so catty on this site and over analyze every little comment that a celebrity makes?!

Anna on

Sorry, you can’t be a full-time mom AND a full-time career woman. You cannot give 100% to everything.

NoraS on

As a mother of young children who works at home, I would venture and say that staying at home is not the ‘hardest job in the world’ but rather the ‘dullest job in the world’. And this from a woman who had her first a little later than the average. It’s like being a soldier at war, 1% stress, sheer terror and exhaustion and 99% drudgery, repetition, and boredom. Caring for young children immersed in their business of growing up is like watching paint dry. Yes, you teach and direct them but it is a million times more thrilling for the child than the mother. Amy Adams was given due respect for a job that is not hard but relentless soul-numbing, at least for a few years.

shirly on

i don’t see what the big deal is, i don’t think her comment is offensive at all.
I also don’t understand the whole debate about SAHM and WM. We all do what we have to do, whatever it may be. As mothers we should all respect each other decision, whether to stay home or work.

Lilly on

There are a lot of insecure people who are simply clinging to every single word a celebrity utters in order to find offense. Everything is put under a microscope and dissected–it’s getting out of hand.

How about we respect each other’s life choices?

We are the ones that have to live with whatever choice we make, right? Why do others feel the need to make choices for you?

Live and let live.

g!na on

I get what Amy said about not wanting a big family because she had 7 siblings! I have 10 siblings and all of us have small families!

Felicity on

I don’t think anyone has the right to pass judgement on anyone else for the choices they make in life, including whether they choose to be a SAHM or a WM, quite simply because it isn’t anyone else’s business.

Everyone does what they believe to be right for their lifestyle and family. You can’t really ask for more than that.

eternalcanadian on

wow, what a lot of fuss over a phrase, “professional mothers.” i read “mothers [and] professional mothers” which meant, at least to me, whatever you do, whether you do or do not work outside the home, ALL mothers of large families are to be applauded.

Ruthella on

NoraS; I totally agree. I have been a SAHM for 8 years, and have 3 kids. It’s not ‘hard work’ as such (altho neither are many of the jobs of working parents I know) but at times it can be lonely, monotonous and thankless.

Someone mentioned the stress of kids being sick, having to take time off etc. This is true, but for us SAHMs, when WE are poorly, we just have to soldier on. There’s no sending your toddlers to daycare while you’re ill, no nipping out to the shops (without a buggy!) in your lunch-hour, no time AT ALL for anything you need to do alone… I have to fit in haircuts, dentist, heck even my smear test during my husband’s annual leave!

OK, on the whole, I think it less stressful than SOME jobs, but so it should be; we don’t get paid!

Carie on

# 17 Nicole – thank you so much for writing so eliquently what I myself wanted to write. I completely agree with you. I was a SAHM with my son for the first 2 years of his life. I then went back to work part time. Since my husband worked retail as a store manager I got a part time job in retail. When my husband did not work I worked and vise versa. Therefore my son still had one of us home. He was not put into daycare until he was 4 years old and I went to work full time. I say all this to point out that I have been on both ends of the specturm – a SAHM and a WM (and yes, there are times that I truly miss being a SAHM and spengding time with my kiddo). Either one is difficult. It becomes exceedingly frustrating that as mothers we cannot come together and just support each other instead of one or the other side feeling like they are doing a better job at raising their child because of the choice they made. We all have to raise our wonderful, radlicious, beautiful children and we should all support each other in doing that.

Louise on

Firstly, I think there is a lot of overreaction to Amy’s comments. I think she was being only positive.
Sometimes I feel I have the worst of both worlds, as I work part time.
SAHMs will often make little digs at me, for example one said ‘I don’t know how you leave your child at nursery, you can’t make that much part time, so why not just give up work and stay with your child all the time.’- Well I like working, I’ll say it! And my son loves to go to nursery, as that is where his friends are.
And full time working mums will comment that I must have loads of time to spare, as I only work 20 hours a week, I must sit around watching TV a lot.
We need to support other women and their choices. You have no idea about anyone else’s lives, what makes them happy, and their motivation for doing things.

Des on

I’ve done both SAHM and full time working. I LOVE my job and I do like the adult interaction. I am able to work MOSTLY from home (own business) but that presents challenges in itself too. Just to get work done I have to stay up all hours of the night and honestly I dont know how people can balance working and kids, its *SO* hard. I’m exhausted. The babysitter dance is also a nightmare for those few days a week I do have to leave to meet clients.

Thank god for my husband…he helps out so much. I cant imagine what single mothers go through.

Even if you work full time you are still full time mother. You have to pack lunches, do drop offs, deal with babysitters, check in, call, do pick ups, homework, baths, playtime, bedtime, cleaning, dinner, yadda yadda…. PLUS deal with a boss or clients or whatever.

I love getting a break from scribbling on the wall for a few hours but sometimes i do miss the SAHM days when I could just take a nap with my kiddo and not have to answer to anyone other than my own family. When I was a SAHM I remember thinking “I need a break!” I still feel the exact same working full time. LOL

I agree with Louise, if everyone started supporting each other, things would be so much nicer.

shidley on

I’ve heard it said that when people become parents, they lose their sense of humor (kidding, folks). Reading some of these posts makes me scratch my head a little….it isn’t always easy to decipher what someone actually said by reading text. So I guess what I’m getting at is that, sometimes it’s just best to let comments slide by not applying them to YOU.

Being a Mom is a tough job, whether you work in or outside the home. In my eyes, every Mom is a “professional” in my book!

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