Brooke Burke Twitters Sleepy Shaya's Latest Milestones

03/18/2009 at 08:00 PM ET
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Although he wasn’t walking by his first birthday on March 5th, 12-month-old Shaya Braven Charvet didn’t make his mom wait long! Brooke Burke, 37, twittered the exciting news Monday: “OMG!!! Shaya just took 4 steps!” It was certainly a bright spot in what appears to have been a challenging month thus far for the family of six, which includes Brooke’s fiancé David Charvet and her three older children — Neriah, 9 this month, Sierra Sky, 6 ½ and Heaven Rain, 2.

Lamenting a “tortuous” nighttime routine, Brooke recently took to her Baboosh Baby blog for advice on how to secure some quality sleep for her entire family. “The past four nights have been rough,” she wrote. “I wish I could fast forward to an easier time…Anybody wish that?”

With Neriah and Sierra, Brooke practiced a family bed for five years, but she is “trying to raise Rain and Shaya differently.” To that end, while Rain spent the first six months in her parents’ bed, she was then transitioned successfully to a crib; Shaya’s birth and the family’s move to a new home sparked a regression in Brooke’s youngest daughter, however. Writes Brooke,

“She is in a big girl bed, so every night she makes her way down the hall and crawls into my bed. I have to admit, I love the late night cuddles but I do miss sleeping next to David.”

Click below to read about Brooke’s first attempt at employing “tough love” with Shaya.

As for Shaya, after doing some research on the Internet Brooke deduced that “tough love seems to be the best bet.” Things got off to a rocky start, however, when within minutes of being left alone in his crib Shaya’s cries turned to “violent screaming.” Shaya was so upset, he eventually “threw up all over himself and the crib,” Brooke writes.

“Just what I didn’t need at 9:00 pm while Rain was fast asleep. I bathed him and comforted him. I couldn’t put him back because his crib was a mess, so he ended up back in my bed, where he wanted to be anyway, and drifted off to dream land in my arms.”

Noting that “sleep deprivation is a serious thing, and has many negative effects,” Brooke writes that although “a sleep nurse or sleep specialist was never an option” for her family — “something has got to give.”

“I just listened to the ‘Sleepy Planet’ CD and I know that letting your child cry it out for three terrible nights seems to do the trick for many parents, I just can’t seem to do it.”

Shaya is having a tough time in other areas of his young life! The transition to whole milk from formula has not gone well, and he’s been battling a stomach bug. When taken together, Brooke temporarily suspended her sleep training efforts, but admitted that she felt as though she was “making excuses.”

“Tonight I will try again to get him to bed on his own, and try to get him to stay there all night. I am honestly dreading it, but my body is telling me I have no choice, David and I are wiped out!”

Neriah and Sierra are Brooke’s children with ex-husband Dr. Garth Fisher. Rain and Shaya are her children with David.

Source: Baboosh Baby

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JMO on

This is ONE reason that stops me from wanting kids!! I love them but I love my precious sleep more!

Lisa on

I love Brooke. I can relate to her in sooo many ways. She seems like such a caring mom and can not bare to see her kids upset. My only advice for her is to take the step to make her children sleep in their own bed. The reason I say that is because a lot of times when parents give in, kids have attatchment problems as they move on in life. Such as socializing, going to school, and sleeping. I love her and just feel for her but treasure those precious moments bc kids are only little for so long! Great mom award and beautiful children!

Leeanne on

I can certainly relate to what Brooke & David are going through. My husband & I are having similar problems with our 21 month old son. It is comforting to know that even celebrities go through the horrible sleep deprivation the rest of us go through!

Laura on

The key to sleep training is to START YOUNG!!! Don’t wait until they are a year old to do it. At that age, a baby can pull up on the crib sides, fling himself all over the bed out of anger, scream louder, etc. I am saying this as a mother who successfully completed “baby boot camp” with a four month old. The younger, the better…they learn faster. 🙂

Mira on

Lisa, you’re wrong on the co-sleeping. Co-sleeping makes kids more, not less independent, because they feel more secure. Research has shown that “crying out” can be very traumatizing for kids and lead to attachment problems later on.

I’m not saying that everyone should practice co-sleeping. To each, their own. But to claim that it harms kids is just plain wrong.

Lizzie on

I agree Laura…Starting young is KEY!!!
I have 3 children, my first(as a new mom)I got in the habit of sharing the bed, It was comfortable for me and my husband we enjoyed having that closeness with our son… but soon grew to learn that breaking him of that habit would be very difficult, So when Our second was born we chose not to practice the family bed and he has successfully gone to sleep on his own, in his own room pretty much since birth and this is also the same for our youngest who is only 3 mos old.
Leaving it til later to start getting your child to go to bed on their own is a recipe for disaster, it is going to be tough, and heartbreaking listening to your child calling your name, crying for you and ignoring him is just cruel (IMO), I couldn’t do it myself… Getting them in a routine at birth (or very soon after)is really the smartest thing a parent could do if avoiding the “family Bed” is what they want.

Barbara Smith on

My husband and I bought a new born crib and set it at the side of our bed for our son to sleep in from day 1. We would cuddle with him and feed him in our bed but when it was time to sleep he went to his bed and we never had any problems with our son sleeping.
I have to say I agree with people who put there child in there own beds from the beginning. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them or you can’t cuddle them or spend time with them. It’s just easier for everyone to have there own beds.

CelebBabyLover on

Poor little Shaya! Brooke must have felt terrible when he threw up all over the crib!

Diana on

To Mira:
You are definitely right, to each his own: every family, parent and child is different from others.
But it is as wrong to say that co-sleeping=independant children as it is to believe a baby sleeping alone always feels insecure and has to cry out.

IMO, co-sleeping makes a baby’s sleep dependant of this environment and then in most cases, it must indeed be hard to get to sleep alone.

Education is certainly about love but also about setting boundaries -including for sleep, and every child needs to know what and where they are, this is where feeling secure comes from.

eternalcanadian on

Family bedding is good, up to a point. I think 5 years old is too old to be doing family bedding. Just like being 5 years old is a bit too old to be wearing nappies. So yes, there’s a time for everything, from weaning off the breast (although can still pump the milk if you still want to feed breast milk, but i think once the teeth start coming in it is a good sign nature is making for the child and mum), to potty training, to the first day of school there is a time to get all the kids out of the bed and into their own beds. it makes them more independent and able to take care of themselves.

normma on

perhaps, for the first few nights, she and/or her husband could sleep in her son’s room, or his crib could be in theirs. to abruptly go from being surrounded to being alone to sleep is (maybe?) scary,and that could help with the transition…

Sleeping and Pottying on

Our daughter went to sleep in her pack n play in our room at the beginning of each night. I needed to hear her little noises to feel comfortable. SIDS scares me. She started rolling over at 4 months, and slept on her tummy from then on. (She wouldn’t stay on her back.) At 5 months, we brought her crib into our room. She slept in it for a month before we moved it to her room.

The best advice I read in the books is to have an early bedtime. We found 6:30-7pm was good for her as an infant. As a toddler, 7-7:30 works best for her. And, yes, she does sleep 11-12 hours at night and then 1 hour during the day.

I found “sleep training” to be easiest at nap time. You can be sure they aren’t hungry or wet and neither one of you is exhausted from a whole day. Once you get the nap time down, a few weeks later you can do bedtime. It’s easier.

I think it’s okay to go in every minute and pat their little backs. And LISTEN to the cry. Screaming means you need to stay in the room and pat them. They aren’t ready to be alone!

By the way, we did let her sleep with us from age 6 weeks until 12 months for PART OF THE NIGHT. I found it nicer to nurse in bed, and then I realized how nice it was to snuggle her. We turn our heat off at night, so I was happy to be under my covers. At 12 months, I wanted my bed back, and it was EASY to have Daddy pat her back for 2-3 nights. And that was that. No wailing required, and we didn’t do it from birth like others suggested. Not everyone is comfortable with that. And you won’t know if you are until your babe is crying!

Some people whose babies sleep through the night at 3 months have 3 year olds who are not potty trained. And they don’t care and are waiting til it’s “easy” and the child is “ready.”

I did NOT care that my daughter did not sleep through the night at 3 months, but I DO care about her being potty trained before age 2 (two)! She has been putting all her poops in the potty since 13 months and is just about accident-free with pees at 19 months. (we just praise for dry pants and an accident is just whoops)

The point I’m making is that every parent values different things. I’m not washing cloth diapers til she’s 3. 🙂 And others need their sleep. (I just slept when baby slept-ha ha!)

kris on

A friend of mine says when she is out of the house at bed time her son always goes down easier. Maybe Brooke needs to “be gone” (even if she’s just outside) while David puts Shaya to bed. They may have tried this but if not it can’t hurt. I wish them luck though. I have a hard time with lack of sleep. My youngest goes through spells of “let’s wake up at the crack of dawn” and those times kill me.

Lauren on

My husband and I decided early that it was important to us to make sure that our child could sleep on their own, in thier own bed. Also, our peditritian advised us that good sleep habits start early in life. Each family needs to decide what is important to them. We were never interested in a family bed and to be honest the concept seems bizarre to me. But, if it weren’t for my husband I can guarntee that I wouldn’t have made it through the few nights of crying and my daughter would still be sleeping with me. It broke my heart and I would stand in the hallway and cry.😦 We are all much happier for it now and the crying didn’t last long. Our daughter just turned two and goes to sleep on her own in her big girl bed after being tucked in. She is a very independent happy child.

Amber on

We co-slept with our daughter until she was six months old, and I wouldn’t trade any of that time for the world. It’s been proven that co-sleeping helps reduce SIDS, because hearing your breathing helps regulate baby’s breathing. We decided to transition our daughter once she was all over our bed, waking up every five minutes, crawling across the bed to lay next to me. I woke up one morning on my tummy, with my six month old on her knees with her head on my back. We brought her crib into our room for about a month, but she still wasn’t sleeping very well, so one day I just moved her crib back into her room. The first week was hard, but we eventually got into a routine and now, at 10 months, she wakes only once in the night for a bottle and will sleep in until 9am.

Sam on

I agree about leaving the child in your room for the first 6 months or so. I’ve always been afraid of SIDS and it just makes it easier to listen to the baby breathing if you’re in the same room. However, small babies should be in his/her own crib or some kind of apparatus that keeps him/her from crawling all over the bed at night. I would never just lay an infant in bed with me at night for fear I would accidentally injure her in my sleep. I have known other, good parents who have done so and in no way would I jeopardize my infant’s life so we can cuddle in bed together.

sally c on

Ditto Laura. The younger the better. We did this with our daughter at 4 months and she really is a champion sleeper.

It is hard, not gonna lie. NOBODY enjoys listening to their baby cry. But ‘cry it out’ is not about letting your baby cry themselves to sleep. It’s about empowering them to soothe themselves to sleep without developing a crutch on external comforts. People should READ the books that outlines these methods, so that they understand what proper sleep distribution is all about. It’s great information about infant sleep cycles, age appropriate distribution of day/night sleep and lifelong sleep deprivation’s effect on children’s development and behavior.

It’s so frustrating to me that people say it’s neglectful and irresponsible. What’s more empowering than helping your child get the rest they need?

KA on

i don’t understand why co-sleeping is considered bizarre but listening to your child scream themselves to sleep while you yourself are moved to tears is considered normal and acceptable. we have mothering instincts for a reason and i wish, i really wish that more women would listen to their instincts instead of crazy books about sleep patterns.

makes me feel really sorry for the babies – just imagining them hysterical in their cribs, tears streaming down their faces longing for mommy or daddy to help them.

sleep study after sleep study has shown that co-sleeping does not negatively impact sleep habits of children, even Ferber himself (the grand daddy of CIO) has admitted this! in addition to that most kids i know who co-sleep are wonderfully independent and inquisitive, just as they should be.

jessica on

My daughter slept in the bed with me for the first few weeks. I was so used to her being in my belly and feeling her kick, I missed it, so that was my way of adjusting:) I woke up EVERY time she moved or made a tiny noise though, 2 hours at a time was the most I’d get anyway since I nursed. So when she started interrupting those precious 2 hours I didn’t feel so bad about moving her!

Someone said maybe Brooke should let someone else try with the sleep training for a few nights. I think that’s a good idea, my daughter knows I’m a sucker and will give in to whatever she wants. For instance, I’m the only one who has to chase her around the house to change her diaper or clothes. Good luck Brooke!

Andi on

I always find it so ironic that there is such a push to get kids to sleep independently when the reality is most people spend most of their life sharing a bed with a spouse/partner.

The biggest mistake we make as women & mothers is to push our instincts a side. “That man walking behind me give me the creeps, but I’m going to ignore my gut because he is probably a nice guy” “My baby crying is heart wrenching, but I’ll ignore it because *the expert* said I must teach this child to sleep by herself”.

I’m not saying co-sleeping is the right way, but there are gentler ways to help kids sleep on their own if that is your goal. If a child is so upset they are throwing up, that is just wrong & cruel.

Mira on

Well-said, KA!

Babies cry for an evolutionary reason, not to manipulate you into doing something that they actually don’t need.

Lizz on

I believe that cosleeping creates a secure night time experience. My son is 9 1/2 months and doing just fine. Whenever he cries himself silly, he makes himself sick.

eternalcanadian on

Andi, you can’t compare sleeping with the person you have sex with to sleeping with your kids! that’s a totally different ballgame, ya know.

CelebBabyLover on

eternalcanadian- I think Andi was just trying to point out that so many parents try to get their kids to sleep independantly…When in fact most adults do NOT sleep independantly!

Nicole on

Awww, poor Brooke, I feel for her!

I taught my son to sleep in his own bed from early on, which is definitely the key imo.

Good luck to her, eventually everything will fall into place.

Ilona on

Sounds like she’s discovered well and truly that children are all different and boys are completely different to girls!:-)
In my experience my son is a lot more clingy and needs my reassurance during the day as well as night. My 7 month old daughter however is much more settled and able to put herself to sleep half the time with no crying at all.

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