Gwyneth Paltrow Says School Search is 'Unbelievable'

03/16/2009 at 07:00 PM ET
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Depending on where you live, enrolling your child in preschool can be as simple as making a phone call and paying a registration fee. For others, the process is decidedly more complicated — not to mention competitive! That’s the scenario Gwyneth Paltrow found herself in with her 4 ½-year-old daughter Apple Blythe Alison, and it’s the course she’s about to chart again with son Moses, 2 ½. “It’s unbelievable,” she laments to the Sunday Herald. “It’s pretty cut-throat in New York but here [in London] I didn’t realize that when they’re born you basically have to put their names down…I mean, I was so panicked.”

Britain’s “leveling system” is something Gwyneth says she appreciates. “It is what it is,” she explains. “I like that.” Still, the 36-year-old Two Lovers star admits she was stunned when Apple was made to complete an entrance examination. “I was like, ‘My God, she’s two’…And it’s so complicated.” For Gwyneth, who grew up in Manhattan, the decision to enroll the kids in schools overseas presented its own unique challenges.

“You’re in a country where you don’t know what the experience of being a child in that country is. I looked at every school in north London, and everywhere else. I just wanted to make sure that I felt like I would want to have gone there.”

While many might assume that her status as an Academy Award-winning actress married to Chris Martin — a Grammy Award-winning musician in his own right, with the band Coldplay — would almost certainly guarantee entry to the school of her choosing, Gwyneth says that the assumption would be wrong. “I feel in Britain there’s less of that,” she explains. “In America I think money, position, all of that kind of stuff, can really help you break down doors.” In fact, Gwyneth says that the school officials she’s encountered in Britain treat her like any other mom anxious to secure a spot for their child.

“They definitely make me stick to the rules. I just had to cancel a trip to India [with Save the Children] because Moses got an interview to go to the school next year, and it was in the middle of the week when I was meant to be in India. The form says, If you can accept the appointment, sign here. Or if [not], you’re withdrawing your application…There’s no flexibility. I’m like, high-pitched panic, ‘OK, I’ll move the trip.'”

Gwyneth’s new film Two Lovers is in theaters now.

Source: Sunday Herald

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plannbb on

What a strange comment to make publicly. Her concerns about whether her son will get into his posh school during these economic times is just bad taste. I mean I know that it is probably a legitimate concern for her that she just might have to cancel her trip to India to get her son into school, but I’ve noticed lately that her public comments and website Goop have made her look very self absorbed.

samantha on

Can any of us mothers honestly relate to her? I mean i would love to afford to send my children to posh schools but really at a time like this? I totally agree with you planbb

Susan on

I agree, plannbb. I have been enjoying CBB for three years now and appreciate the variety of posts, in terms of the people and the types of news. This is one the rare exception: a celeb mom of which I would be happy to see less coverage … Lately, it seems that every time Gwyneth “dishes” on something, it is considered newsworthy — just today, the Sunday Herald on private schools and many other outlets on Gwyn’s advice for Joaquin Phoenix. Then again, it could be that the media like to have “fun” with celebs who are in the habit of such unflattering public commentary.

martina on

She is so detached from reality of regular folk’s lives, it’s unbelievable.

lele on

i love gwyneth and i hate to see her seem so uppity… she has that reputation and going on and on like this just adds to it. fact is she is privileged and will be dealing with things differently than the average person and i think she shares like this to seem down to earth despite her wealth and fame but she misses here on this one and i have to agree…. almost like okay enough from you for now… we feel sooooo sorry for you.

Mary-Helen on

Is it wrong that I find it so hard to relate to her as a person? I mean, my husband just got laid off and I’m struggling to keep my toddler’s subsidized daycare spot so he can job hunt and she’s whining about having to move a trip to India to take an interview for her son to go to a posh pre-school. Almost everything she says seems so “look @ me, I’m so rich and self important” like when she was talking about her daughter’s “cheap” boots that were “only” $200. She is one of the few celebs who seems to make it a point to brag about her money and her power and her influence. Others do it almost without meaning to, but Gwyneth seems to make it point, like she has to prove something.

Anna on

I don’t see what the financial crisis has to with her child going to an expensive school. If she still has the money for it, why not?

I’m going on a 3 week vacation to the other side of the world next month, you’re saying I shouldn’t go because there is a financial crisis?

I don’t like Gwyneth at all, but I don’t see why she shouldn’t be allowed to talk about her life just because it is different from many other people’s lives.

eternalcanadian on

Gone are the days where one would just show up to registration day when the kid was almost 5 years old. Now one has to register within an hour after birth! 😮

Shawna on

Maybe I’m reading a different article but I don’t see why this is so offensive to you all. She is talking about the search to find a good preschool and how hard it is to get in. A lot of people go through that. I think people are reading something into it that isn’t there.

Melissa on

Please correct me if I’m wrong (I don’t actually live in London but was there for about 5 months and learned about their school system), but it seems that many students in the city of London go to, what we would call, private schools (which they call public schools). Much like NYC, the private schools are stronger and most parents who are lucky enough to be able to afford sending their kids to these schools do so. Although it may sound like she’s self-absorbed about this, it is a part of her lifestyle. I personally think it’s unfair to fault her for doing something that is just part of life for her, she has the money, so why should she be criticized for using it to give her kids a good education?

eva on

Yeah, not a Paltrow fan or a Martin fan for the matter. Her acting is too bland for me and his music sounds the same as everything else to me. Question though, why do you have to relate to celebrities? why should anyone relate to you or the person next? a little humility and solidarity are nice but do we really come here to relate to actresses?

M on

If she has the money to give her kids a good education, I don’t understand why is such a big problem for you, maybe not all of us can do that but is not her fault. She’s only talking about how hard is to search for a good school for her kids

normma on

i actually think this article is less grating than some of the comments she’s made in the past.many parents can relate to wanting their child to get into a good school or program, and the fact is that in london (maybe all of britain?) it is a more competitive field for everyone…still, i have to agree with the majority of comments here-she does seem rather detached from the “common man” in some of her references and jokes. it’s definitely clear that she lives in the posh end of england.

dee on

Yeah, I don’t see what is wrong with what she said.

Hannah on

In response to Melissa:

I was born and live in London. The majority of people do not go to private schools here. London is one of biggest cities on earth so obviously there are a lot of schools some of which are private. In fact most of the celebrated private schools (called public schools) such as Eton, Cheltenham Ladies, Rugby etc are not in London. The reason being private school usually have huge playing grounds with acres of land which you don’t find in heavily populated city like London. That said, those schools are for “old money” so the likes of Gwyneth probably couldn’t get their children into there anyway.

Di on

I want to give Gwyneth the benefit of the doubt. I think it is important to remember that the recession has not affected everyone such as celebrities. I heard of stories like this but instead of London the parent is trying to get their kid into an exclusive private school in NYC.

On one hand, I can see how most people can’t relate to her situation but on the other hand, I think most parents would like to send their kids to best school possible and luckily the Martins can afford to do it. I see a mother who is doing everything possible to give her child the best educational opportunity possible. How can we fault her for that. I mean she could have blown off the interview but that would have been incredibly selfish on her part and detrimental to her child’s well being.

Gwyneth was born into a Hollywood family, her father was a director so I’m sure she has no idea what it is like to struggle without any money.

plannbb on

I’m not saying that she shouldn’t be allowed to talk about her troubles finding a good school for her children or that the financial crisis should have anything to do with her. She should be able to send her children to whatever school she can afford/ whichever school her children can get in to. I applaud her sending her children to the best schools. I’m not saying that anyone necessarily needs to relate to her. I’m sure that 99% on this blog do not. All I’m saying is within the last few years she has come across as being very self absorbed. Period. Her website Goop and now within the last few years her comments about how “hard it is to be her” just have become irksome.

Mrs. R. on

So I can relate to this because we live in a hyper-competitive school area and I can understand the weirdness of having to apply a baby only months old for a preschool that they wouldn’t even attend for a couple years. We just solidified our daughter’s preschool situation for next fall and it was after almost a year of work, 9 applications, lots of fees, and lots of rejection letters (or waiting list letters that put us in the 100’s). And we weren’t applying to ‘fancy’ schools. Even the low key schools have waiting lists around here.

Regardless of the economic status of this country, some areas (particularly urban ones) have competitive school situations.

Godiva on

It makes me really nervous to read this — how are any “regular” kids who go to public school ever going to compete

Lauren on

Everyone views the world through their own lens, true enough. But seriously, why does she constantly promote her lifestyle, when it’s so obviously detached from most everyone else’s? I don’t particulary care to read about Gwyneth’s troubles, no matter how valid they are to her. It’s like the Queen quibbling about the lack of quality education. Gee, somehow I think her kids will end up just fine. I hate sounding anti-anything, but right now I think she’d do better just discussing her work. Period.

Lilly on

I don’t see any problem with what she said. What does the recession have to do with her kids’ schooling? I’m pretty sure our President’s daughters attend a very exclusive private school in DC. The recession didn’t make him pull them out of it, nor should he have to to satisfy the sensibility of others.

She wants the best for her children and finds the process of getting into a preschool over the top, and I agree. I find how competitive pre-schools (and elementary/primary schools) are completely ridiculous, but it’s a reality in many highly urban areas. Even some elite public schools are operating in this manner.

I don’t think it’s a celebrity’s duty to shop at Target, wear hand-me-downs, or be “just like us”… they have exorbitant amounts of money, they’re not like us, so what? I find it more pretentious when celebrities like to pretend that they come from humble beginnings or that they were bullied at school when in fact they had a privileged upbringing and/or were the high school cheerleader/jock just so we can sympathize.

Manon on

I quite like GP. However, I don’t think it’s about criticizing her for sending her children to good schools just that she does come across as kind of elitist.

But then, at least she is not actually pretending to be anything else, unlike Kate Winslet (who I adore as an actress but wish she would never give interviews) who treis to come across as “one of the people” and sounds even more arrogant.

Manon on

You know what scrap my comments above! At least they are both hard working actresses.

K.B. on

Ditto Mrs. R. I’m not a huge Gwyneth fan, but I actually could relate to this story because of the preschool competition. In metro areas it is competitive to get into preschool – not just posh schools, I mean the regular old apple juice and graham crackers in the church basement types of preschools. It’s just that there are a lot of kids. I found it insane that we had to start looking a year in advance, and still we’re only on a waitlist at the local Boys & Girls Club. Unbelievable.

Aelys on

I have a bit of a stupid question (for Gwyneth): why didn’t she ask about British schools earlier? I mean, she’s living in a country she didn’t grow up in, so in my logic, asking someone who did, like her husband or in-laws, would have probably saved her time and the surprise about how the British school system works.

JKS on

Y’know, there are millions of starving children in this world. This so pretentious. As if Moses, at 2 1/2, cares where he is enrolled! The worst of the nouveau riche mentality.

hannah2 on

ummmmm… i can relate to gwyneth on this one. where i live you have to put your child down at birth for private high schools… so weird to be sitting in hospital with a 5 day old baby filling out application forms for school in 2020!

momof3 on

Okay…I’ll say it–I’m jealous. I’d jump through flaming hoops to send my children to a really excellent private school. Lucky Gwyneth!

Rachel-Jane on

I’m Scottish and we have a different schooling system, but from what I gather from friends in England it can be difficult to get your child into a non-private school too. It’s not as simple as just living in the area.

Also, I don’t agree with sending children to private schools. I can understand the ‘I have the money, why shouldn’t I want my children to go to the best school’ but I don’t think that private schools should be the best schools, the government should try to make all schools equally good. However, I have a friend who has lived in London her whole life and went to a private school and she agrees with me, but says that in London the comprehensive schools are really so bad that a lot of people will try to get their kids into private schools if at all possible.

Ryo on

I think the problem for me is this is just another GP interview in a long line of interviews that makes me click away thinking, “REALITY CHECK, please.”

brannon on

not that many of us actually relate to celebrities or their lifestyles…but for the record, i totally relate to this. i applied for my sons preschool before he was born. the interview process was long and yes, they ‘interviewed’ him at age 2 but it’s the best school around and the education is amazing. totally worth it to me. unlike gwyneth, i have scaled back in other areas to send him there but so be it. his education comes first to me.

lis on

She’s trying to make sure her kids get the best education available to them. I don’t see how that’s offensive.

ecl on

If you all want to read about “common” people then why do you come to this website? There is no reason to follow the lives of celebrities if you want to read about people just like yourselves. If you don’t care about what G Paltrow has to say, then don’t come to these types of websites. And to be fair to her, she gets asked questions for work and then she answers them. Finally, to the person who said that she shouldn’t discuss her children’s education because there are many starving children in the world – I ask you – why are you playing around on a celebrity blog while there are so many starving children in the world?

Gem on

OK firstly, every body’s talking about money… where does she say she’s sending her child to a private school? There are a lot more state schools in England (very, very good state schools) than private schools.

Secondly, pre-school over here is a VERY different thing to what you guys do. Kids here start school at 3. It’s not pre-school really, it’s nursery — the nursery is generally attatched to the primary school your child will attend til they’re 11. It is VERY important.

Somewhere like London the competition for every school place is ridiculous. In some places there are thrity applicants for every place. I live in a no mark village in Northern England and the competition here is insane.

It’s easy to have a go at GP for this — but some of you seem to be forgetting she’s not in the US so you don’t really understand the system.

Mary-Helen on

I don’t think it’s a matter of “common” vs “not common” but IMO Gwyneth Paltrow has always made it a point to brag about her wealth, stature, famous friends and perfect life. It’s like she is insecure and has to have everyone know her marriage is perfect, so perfect that they don’t need to spend time together EVER to have it work, her children never misbehave, and they wear designer everything, then she will proceed to list off “who” her kids are wearing. It’s like she wants everyone to praise her. To me, the whole “Look @ what a good mom I am! I am cancelling a trip to get my 2.5 year old in a really expensive private school! Praise me! Oh, and then marvel @ my wealth!”

Meanwhile, when you look @ some of the other celeb parents, yes, they can come off as pretentious, but then you read something interesting, like the Beckham boys wear hand me downs that are bought @ Wal-Mart (and the UK equivalent), while Gwnyeth whines that Apple’s favourite boots are shabby because they were “only” $200 and it’s just ugh.

Ellen Smith on

I am sure her name and her money will get her children into the appropriate school. It’s outlandish that she could complain about the process, when in fact any school that accepts her children will up its prestige level by having them attend. Like her website GOOP, she is full of British and American hot air.

Alice on

Ellen, how would you know? As she said, she has had trouble and her name don’t make them react differently. Celebs are not as much of a big deal in the UK as in the US. And as some other posters stated, everyone has trouble sending their kids to a good school here, and Gwyneth didn’t start looking when they were babies so that odesn’t help either. Of course she will find a good school that she’ll be able to afford, but like all of you complaining here, she probably wants the best she can get. If the best she can get is better than the best you can get, does that make her a bad person/mother?

She’s always had money, that’s how her life is. She’s probably not trying to sound arrogant or anything, she’s just talking about the issues she can have, because she’s asked. Yes, it can seem ridiculous to us because we have bigger problems. But you do worry about your kids’ education while others are starving, don’t you? Would you like them telling you “well, stop whining because your kids are alive”?? Get off her a bit.

Brandi on

I actually like Gwyneth, but agree that sometimes her comments come off in ways that I don’t think she means. Here though, I see nothing wrong with them and find them very relatable. The fact is, if you live in a metro area, preschool is a NIGHTMARE. We are in Brooklyn and have two boys, 2 1/2 and 5 1/2. It took years to get my older son into a school, and my 2 1/2 year old has already been on three “interviews” (where they are basically judging you and your kid) to start class in spring 2010. And these were all at different schools then his brother goes to because he is not guaranteed admission. Meanwhile, my sister in law is in suburban New Jersey and it’s much easier for her – she just signed her daughter up, and when it was time for her son to go too, she actually got a discount and an automatic place in the class because she was already an established parent. But where I live, the rules are completely different. As others have said, give Gwyneth a break – what she is talking about is the reality for a lot of big city CBB readers.

Nina on

Ellen- Actually even in LA some celebrities have a hard time getting into preschool. My daughter attends a very popular school here and you would be surprised at how many celebrities didn’t get in.
It’s somewhat nice to know that celebs have to work to get their child into preschool just like everyone else. And my guess is London is even worse. And most respectable schools won’t take bribes or care what you do for a living. That’s my kind of school!
So I feel for her because I’ve been through the preschool panic in a big city and it’s not fun, but we are very lucky we got into a great one!

erinbeth on

So, I know already that I’m going to come off as the minority here, but why does society just assume that pre-school is the best option for a child?
I understand that not everyone is able to stay at home with their child; we are making very difficult financial sacrifices to do so. However, whatever happened to parents keeping their toddlers/preschoolers at home, teaching them the basics of numbers/letters/shapes, etc…. and letting them just be children for pete’s sake?
I am the mother of 3 extremely bright children who have all tested above grade level, are in the gifted programs at their schools and seem well-adjusted for children who did not spend their preschool years in the classroom.

Lauren on

Mary-Helen hit the nail on the head-several celebrities have already spoken about the difficulties of getting their children into preschools with zero fuss from readers. That is not the issue here. The issue is that Gwyneth Paltrow has proven herself time and again to be a spoiled brat who snuck into the business via her daddy’s connections and now sees fit to be rude and condescending at every opportunity. I found this blog article recently and for anyone questioning why Gwyneth is so heavily disliked and criticized, I think this pretty much sums it up:

“02.26.2009 gwyneth paltrow is better than you”

As you may know, back in September, Gwyneth Paltrow started an advice website called Goop. She said, “My life is good because I am not passive about it”, and she wanted you to know that one of the reasons she’s a millionaire actress is because she invests in what’s real and pauses before reacting. She tells you to not be lazy, which may or may not be why you’re not a millionaire actress. (note – Paltrows parents are lifelong friends with Steven Spielberg, who gave Gwyneth her first role in “Hook”.)

Anyway, now Gwyneth is lashing back at critics who think the site is condescending and unrealistic. Those critics just don’t get it, Gwyneth tells People magazine.

“I think the people who are criticizing it or criticizing the idea of it, don’t really get it, because if they did, they would like it.” Paltrow said she believes some of the barbs simply stem from the fact that she’s doing something new and different. “I think that people like people to stay in their ‘box’ – they like people to stay how they are comfortable seeing them.”

That’s what I was thinking too. Those critics are either too scared to leave their safe little box or too dumb to get it. Unlike Gwyneth Paltrow, who is really smart (note – she attended college for less than one semester, as an art major at UCSB, then dropped out) and knows people could benefit from her wisdom.

For example, Goop has a section called GET. “The fun frivolity (of shopping) can really cheer a girl up,” she says. : )

Here, she talks about some basic clothing pieces for what she calls “everyday life”. But looking good doesn’t have to cost a lot, because as she says, “I have found a few great (pieces) in all different price ranges.”

She goes on to recommend five different pairs of shoes. She starts with a pair of Giuseppe Zanotti boots, and count your lucky stars because those are actually on sale right now for 600 dollars. They’re normally 1000. Next she hearts some tartan Roger Vivier boots that will cost anywhere from 1150 to 1700 dollars. After that the Lidia heels from Brian Atwood go for 1000. Next are some Christian Louboutin boots for 1125, and she finishes with some Gucci ankle boots, now on sale for 800 (they’re normally 1000).

Gwyneth and I agree. 600 to 1700 covers all the different price ranges. The normal person can spend 1700, but even if you’re a piece of shit with only 600 dollars to spend on shoes, even you can have some nice basic pieces for everyday life. If you get them online, on sale.

In another section (here), she talks about “easy, fuss-free dressing. I’ve paired the basics together for three very different but wearable outfits that can be amended for any occasion.”

Good, some more basics, simple staples to make a womans life easier. She recommends a cashmere coat by Tods for 2000 dollars. Theres also a pashmy bag by Tods (she’s the Tods spokeperson by the way). A similar pashmy bag retails for 1125 dollars. The Chopard heart necklace she recommends retails for around 3000. The repetto ballet flats are 235. The Sergio Rossi boots are around 1000. The coin purse is crafted lambskin (treat yourself!) and sells for 300.

If you were wondering, so far we’ve spent twelve and half thousand dollars for one coat, a purse, a wallet, a weeks worth of shoes and a necklace. A small price to pay for the blueprint to success, as told by Gwyneth Paltrow, thanks to the wisdom she’s gained from overcoming a lifetime of opulence and luxury. When she started out in Hollywood, all she had were connections and millions of dollars, yet she made it, and now …YOU CAN TOO (if you have those things)!”

Any more questions?

Alice on

erinbeth I think mostly it’s because as you said most people work and can’t stay home with their kids? I guess in areas where more parents can stay at home with their children they don’t necessarily send them to preschool? Basically the “teachers” there teach them shapes and letters too the way you did, and they also get to play with other children their age. However, I’m not sure what you mean by letting them be children because in the preschool I went to we had dolls and games and swings and played around all day. It’s only at 5 that we started going into the classroom to “work” (i.e. count, do drawings, learn to write our names…). Just to let you know in case you thought it happened differently.

Claire on

A piece of shit with only $600 to spend on shoes? My stars, don’t I wish?

Terri on

I don’t see what the fuss is about myself…

Laura on

Knowing her she and her family since we were kids, it bums me out to see her come across in the press as such a pretentious twit. What’s even sadder – she has become one. Her parents are/were such amazingly lovely and down-to-earth people.

The worst thing – she thinks she is being open and relatable.

brannon on

erinbeth… i mentioned signing my son up for preschool before birth and am glad i did. it is 3 hours a day and he has plenty of time to be a kid, both in an out of school. however, while i cover the basics – numbers, letters, etc…he is now 2 1/2, speaks 2 languages (i do not), knows fundamentals of science, math, spells his name (and several other words), has had the opportunity to play every kind of instrument imaginable, art instruction, reading, and most importantly, socialization skills. He has friends, goes on field trips and absolutely loves it. not all preschools are daycare. yes, i am fortunate to have this school in my area and that my son was accepted but i would gladly give up 3 hours a day and the financial “costs” for him to attend.

Bel on

Schools in England are a) overcrowded b) failing children (check your ofsted reports people!) c) unhealthily obsessed with targets and assessment (shown to be damaging to children and affecting the quality and breadth of their learning) and d)insanely difficult to get into.

My eldest son went to a fabulous nursery school, 5 mornings a week that was in a ‘low socio-economic area’. Which is actually what made it fabulous, the staff were all amazing and the whole focus of the school was on personal and social development. Which is not the norm, sadly. There were absolutely no appropriate primary schools. We even looked at the local public school, even though the fees were exorbitant and the schedule was ridiculous extra curricular activities were mandatory (and charged extra too) and the level to which the kids are pushed was stupid. They all looked knackered.

As it turns out I now have three happily unschooled kids.

kris on

Lauren- Thanks so much for the post. I laughed most of the way through. Oh, I to think GP comes across as, well, not quite with reality. And I’ll leave my comments at that.

Lau on

Oh, thankfully someone else took what I was going to say right off my mouth. I can’t possibly agree more with Rachel-Jane (comment 29). I’m not English either, so of course where I live (Argentina) the schooling system is different, but there’s always people who would kill to the best private schools, or so they say. But I can assure that, were I to have all the money in the world, I still wouldn’t send my children to private schools. I don’t think there’s anything wronger than having to pay for education, or thinking you have to do it to achieve a particular “status”. Besides, at least here, most people are reluctant to understand that state funded education is actually better than private education, not to mention that private institutions usually do nothing but isolate children (or teens) from the real world.

Kate on

What I think is really hilarious is all the people here criticizing Gwyenth about her sending her kids to private school when she has the money and can do whatever the hell she wants with it. She and her family earned. Yet, everybody is congratulating and yelling at people for saying mean things about Jenna Jameson having two kids. I rather hear Gwyenth talking about her troubles of getting into a preschool because besides being a big deal here in NYC, I work for a university and in Europe preschool/nursery is a big deal because it ties in with your elementary education. Let’s bash Gwennie but all congrats and congrats for a porn star having twins. I really think you all have no busy bashing people for their decisions. Go live your own lives and stop reading this site if you need to be so catty.

Pencils on

I found this pretentious because of the “they definitely make me stick to the rules” quote–in other words, she tried to get preferment because of who she and her husband are, and they told her to forget it. I guess they’re not Goop readers. And, BTW, her husband is British. Didn’t he have any input into this school search?

Cat on

I completely can relate to her. In New York or Los angeles, preschool isn’t like going down a month before they start and putting their name down. Public preschool are so over populated with people who can’t afford private school and sadly it is a lot of illegals, so finding a good preschool where the kids speak english is hard. It is crazy, lots of interviews and waiting list for private school’s. And just because other people are having finical problems doesn’t mean she can’t spend Her money on her children’s education. I say good for her for taking the time to find a great school for her children. It is her money, no body else’s she should do what she wants with it.

nonsinger3 on

If she doesn’t interview or talk, she’s snobbish. If she talks and talks honestly about her life (which is a totally different lifestyle from most), she is snobbish and elitist. Really, she can’t say much to please those that don’t like her. I guess we just like who we like. I like her as a person and her as an actress. I’m poor and want a good school for my children also. What she says relates to my desire for good things for my children and maybe moving to an area and not knowing the rules. When I was much younger, I personable knew someone that had a totally, more privileged life than myself. At first it got on my nerves hearing about some things that sounded more glamorous, but then I realized she was not better than me but had a different experience. I listened, learned, shared, related or not related in some instances. I asked myself was I bordering on snobbery if I did’t like people because they have more than me and not like me. I like me. She’s alright (to me) just different.

Janey on

I went to Public School all my life. Growing up my mom had extra funds but she didn’t see the point in sending me to a private school. She didn’t go to a private school here in the states, and she and her sisters all went on to ivy league colleges. It matters what you DO in the classroom. A person can go to Dalton or Spence but if they do absolutely nothing(and believe me a lot of these kids DO absolutely nothing) then it makes no difference.

Now, I wouldn’t expect a celebrity to send their child to a lesser school because if we all had the funds I’m sure we would all give our children every opportunity. However, the majority of American citizens are going through a crisis and I think it is just plain air-headed and foolish to talk trivialities during a time like this so often! Her website GOOP, which is supposed to be for the ‘high class’ is just another example of how self-absorbed she is. Everyday we hear about CEO’s giving themselves fat bonuses while the middle management is losing jobs by the thousands…In times like these, I’m just looking for a little unity in our country and that’s why elitist separatists like Gweneth Paltrow annoy me so much.

Janey on


What? Responding to catty responses cattily doesn’t make your post any less catty! What makes a pornstar undeserving of a congrats? For all you know Jenna could end up being mother of the year. Your post strikes me as being very narrow. From what I can decipher most people do not have ANY problem with her sending her kids to private school. The issue seems to be the shortsightedness, insensitivity and clear delusion of her comments.

“In america yeah my money can get me tons of stuff, here tho that doesn’t fly, can you believe i had to reschedule my trip to INDIA? ain’t that some ish?”
I usually plain ol’ ignore posts on her, but the negative press i must say..she brings it on herself.

Ryo on

How is GP talking about getting her kid into school the same as Jenna having babies? How utterly ridiculous.

Shawna on

Just wanted to say re: the comments about private school – you don’t have to be rich to send your kids to private school. My children go to private school and we live in a co-operative housing community in order to afford it. Yes, if the kids went to public school we could afford to own a home but their education is more important to us. It is not just all rich people with scads of money sending their kids to private school.

Lilly on

Elitist separatists? Hmm, I don’t recall her asking for Manhattan to secede the Union.

Reese Witherspoon had a privileged upbringing and was Ms. Popularity in school, but you would never know that given her recent, “poor me” interviews, yet I don’t see dozens of comments calling her an elitist snob or calling her out.

She’s not saying she tried to use her clout, just that that kind of thing doesn’t fly in the UK. Often times, here in the US (and in many other places), celebs can cut lines, get things for free or that are not even on sale yet, or can see films before they open to the public, but sometimes that extends to schooling. Sometimes schools, whether public or private, at the primary or university level take into account legacy/clout and give it far too much weight. It’s a reality.

I believe people who hate her read a lot into her comments to try to find anything that another celebrity would have said and wouldn’t rub you the wrong way.

Marie on

I did find this comment mildly irritating! But then, it’s not really Gwyneth’s fault if some of us do take exception. She’s just talking from her experience and what she knows, as we all do.

One can deduce that she is speaking about private schooling however because:

1. What we know of her lifestyle suggests that she would be sending her children to a private school (if a well-known person sends their child to a government sponsored state school, even though there are many excellent ones, it tends to be known about, whether that person says anything or it’s found it, because it’s like, yeah, good for you, and they then fall outside the norm for most wealthy/well-known people! State schools need some champions and examples, so that’s just what happens. In short, it’s noticed. I don’t think the Paltrow-Martins fall into that catergory though).

2. Gwyneth lives in Belgravia, a wealthy part of London where most of the schools there and in the surrounding area are private. You’d have to really want your child to go to a state school if you lived there.

3. She’s talking about interviews and a test for her two-year-old. That’s for a private pre-school. A friend of ours ran a state funded pre-school for many years, she retired last year, and it’s basically the same in that you’d be well-advised to put a child’s name down at birth because of the lack of places all over but it’s first come-first served, in a way, you move up the list as more places become available. Complicated in a way, and worrisome for parents, but it’s just a procedure. There’s an open day for new parents and children but if they’re offered a place, they get a letter, they’re not interviewed and hand-picked and tested!

Elle on

I’m just shocked she actually said that wealth and status won’t get you anywhere in London. Thats ridiculous. She’s just shocked that her wealth and status weren’t enough. Goop.

Elle on

   /ˈsɛpərətɪst, -əˌreɪ-/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [sep-er-uh-tist, -uh-rey-] Show IPA
1. a person who separates, withdraws, or secedes,

p.s not all confederates were elitists. Nice try tho.

Liese on

i’ve never seen so many presumably adult woman complain about nonsense. seriously!!!

how dare this woman with money send her children to good schools!!! how dare she!! now everyone get their pitch forks and torches and lets start running towards london!!

heath on

get a life people.
it’s like do you come to these sites to criticize people? its CELEBRITY baby blog. what do you come here for?

she’s not bragging. she’s talking about applying to school. lots of parents need to apply for their kids to to school.

she was asked a question in an interview. what was she supposed to say, I CAN’T ANSWER CAUSE PEOPLE MIGHT THINK I AM A SNOB AND CAN’T RELATE, SO I CAN’T ANSWER THE QUESTION????

she was just comparing london and nyc. in nyc, celebrity helps you get in into private school. i guess in london it doesn’t

Ruthella on

I don’t live in London, but in my part of the UK, ALL Pre Schooling is free for 2.5 hours a day, starting the term after the child is three. Even the Pre Schools attached to Private Schools. It’s paid for by the Government and I don’t see why Belgravia would be any different? Altho of course the children have fees once they enter Reception, aged between 4 and 5.

Just thought I’d add that!

heath on

oh and she said she was going to india for SAVE THE CHILDREN. guess no one picked up on that.

Xan on

Heath, just what I signed on to write!

She cancelled a trip to SAVE THE CHILDREN!! so she could enroll her kid in a swanky pre-school. In a single interview, she managed to brag about doing philanthropical work for children, declare how she sacrificed her personal affairs for the sake of her child (what a mom!), admitted to being completely unaware of how the majority of the world lives, and still cancelled out on the children in need.

Very nice interview indeed.

CelebBabyLover on

Lilly- Yours is one of the best posts I’ve seen (with the exception of what you said about Reese. I don’t think we should be bashing her, either, which I felt you were sort of doing by talking about her “poor me” interviews, when you have no idea if that’s what she was trying to convey. Comments get taken out of context all the time!)!

To add my own two cents, I want to ask all you people criticizing Gwynth: Do you honestly believe that celebs always lead perfect lives and never have problems just because of all the money they have? I mean, what’s wrong with Gwyn speaking about her struggles with the school system?

Also, I think she’s made comments in some of her interviews that are VERY easy for a lot of people to relate to, such as when she dicussed having Postpartum Depression after having Moses.

mrshekmi on

I don’t get it. I’m not offended by her at all! Is there something wrong with me?

/end tongue in cheek comment.

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