Milla Jovovich Keeps Ever Close at Hand

02/25/2009 at 07:00 PM ET
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Ever Gabo Anderson — and her bunny — stay close to model/actress Milla Jovovich with the help of a child harness while at LAX earlier this week.

Milla, 33, told photographers she feels more comfortable having her daughter, 15 months, on the reins while navigating the busy airport.

Ever is the first child for Milla and her fiancé, director Paul W.S. Anderson.

See more of Milla and Ever in one of our newer galleries, Baby Love — a collection of kissin’ cuties!

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Emily on

Hmmm. I’m just not very comfortable with the idea of those things. And I’m a preschool teacher! But… I don’t have children of my own, and I’m not a celebrity who gets bombarded with strange paparazzi in a busy airport, either. But I’d put her in a stroller… or even strap her to me if possible in a sling or something.

Kate on

Before I became a Mom, I used to think parents who put their children on leashes were horrible. All that changed when my strong-willed daughter learned to walk (and refused, at full volume to be carried!) I only use mine in busy airports, but it has been a life saver and I have learned to ignore the stares and occasional rude comments from passers-by. Nothing is more important then keeping my child safe and a child leash does just that. I applaud Milla for keeping Ever safe, even under extreme scrutiny and judgments from others!

suze on

I didn’t ever use a harness myself, but totally see the benefit, especially in a busy airport, and also when surrounded by paparazzi!! Depending on the length of their upcoming flight, i’m assuming Milla just wanted to let ever run off a little energy before strapping her into her seat. Everybody looks happy…which is what matters!

bre on

Not what I do with my kid, but it works for Mila and other mothers, so more power to them. Ever doesn’t seemed to be phased.

Emaline on

I would totally use a child harness too if I were trying to navigate through a busy airport and paparazzi! This seems about the age when Ever may not want to be held as much and would like her freedom to walk (at least my kids did)
Ever is SUCH a cutie!

HeatherR on

I am not a fan of child leashes at all… but I do agree with Suze that it seems to work for them and they all seem happy.

Michelle on

I agree with the others who posted. I think that it is very beneficial to use a harness somewhere such as an airport, especially for a family who is thought of as a “celebrity” family. I wouldn’t use one myself for the normal, everyday outings, but when in a large crowd,it’s much better safe than sorry.

Tracey on

I know that child leashes come with some controversy but I think in busy places with an unpredictable toddler they are wonderful. When I went to NYC with my 2 yr old I chose the controversial leash vs the quick moving traffic😉

E on

My parents used to have one for when my siblings and I were little and just starting to walk – I absolutely loved it! It was particularly good for my little brother who had limitless energy and a tendency to “make a break for it” at inappropriate times. My parents used to keep the baby harness a bit longer than Milla has here so that he could run for a safe distance without the possibility of him rushing into a road or something.

Julie on

What a beautiful child. A harness is a great idea. Gives the child a sense of independence, while keeping them safe at an age when they could easily wander off.

jenny on

I use a wrist-to-wrist leash with my two year old daughter. she is too big for a carrier and we don’t even own a stroller. I think its a great option, when my daughter is asked about it she replies ‘I like to run away’ which she does …alot.

MomE on

I’m with Kate…. I have a one year old who just started walking, but she’s always been fiercely independent. She want’s to do it herself and can’t be “held” back for long. I have a carrier which she LOVES…but only for short periods of time. I’ve never been in a situation where I needed a “leash”, but I can’t say that I wouldn’t use one if I needed to.

Anna on

I think the leash is a convenient help to not lose your child in crowds. Ever looks happy.

Mrs. R. on

I’ve been a little cantankerous with the celebs on here lately, but I totally agree with Milla. Imagine having to navigate a huge, busy, airport with a toddler who perhaps refuses to sit in a stroller… oh and have a pack of paparazzi following the both of you screaming your daughter’s name!
I think until a child is old enough to understand what the paparazzi are and how to avoid strangers, celebs have permission to do ANYTHING they can and will to protect their child.

nimbusi on

hmmm… first time i saw that thing on kid and i don’t like it

elleone on

Nope. Not into the leash. She’s a kid not a pet. I have two active kids and we’ve been through plenty of airports without leashes. True, we didn’t have paparazzi but plenty of celebrity babies have dealt with this situation without being leashed. Call me old-fashioned but I think leashes are just degrading.

steph on

that little girl is so unbeleivably cute…

amber on

she gets to walk (which she likely wants to do) and it keeps her safe…what’s the problem?

people use harnesses here in the UK all the time.

Jennifer on

Wow, I’m not a mum but I have been a nursery nurse and I’m surprised that the harness is controversial. Down to personal choice of course, but they’re very good things to use especially when the children have just learnt to walk and will run off at any given moment! I found it can also stop them from falling over!

Sarah on

Like most of the posters here, I have no problem with Milla using a leash, especially in a crowded area with paps. But, in a quick response to Emily, I don’t see how a stroller is better than a leash. They are both devices used to restrain a child. If anything, the leash allows Ever way more freedom/independence than a stroller does. Is it just the idea of a leash that turns people off?

Sarah on

Elleone, actually leashes are pretty old-fashioned. My mom used one on me twenty something years ago. And, I assure that she never thought of me as a pet. But, I wanted my independence and she needed to keep me safe. The leash is a great compromise.

Is it really better to have your restless, fussy child fully restrained in a stroller or carrier? How is that better for them or you? As long as your child is safe and happy, who cares what other people think?

alice jane on

I think it just depends on how you’re using the leash. With some kids, it’s the best option if they refuse to be carried but love to run away too. I’ve seen kids on leashes or harnesses where the parent is walking too fast for them and just dragging them along, and that is where the kid is being treated more like a pet. But if it’s simply to keep the kid safe and near you while letting him or her have that sense of independence, I don’t see why it’s so wrong.

MZ on

I don’t have a problem with it at all. My son is just 3 weeks old so I don’t need to worry about him running off any time soon, but my mother used a wrist leash with my brother. He was sooo active, running off at every possible opportunity. She would use the leash in parking lots so he wouldn’t run into traffic. I think the new ones that are attached to backpacks are better b/c they are a little less noticeable (the backpack is an animal like a monkey, and the parent holds onto the tail).

B on

I have no problem with anyone using a harness…if it keeps your child safe and happy then what is the problem. We used the wrist to wrist one with DS when we went to Disney World, it was much better then having him run off. I would rather have dirty looks and/or comment then to ever lose my child or have them dart out into traffic. I see it as a plus that young children are also walking, getting exercise instead of always being carried or pushed in a stroller. JMO

T. on

I do NOT like this type of child leash it just sill seems too animal like. I prefer a wrist-to-wrist leash it still gives them freedom is more discreet less like you are walking a wild animal.

jessica on

I’m getting one of these! My daughter hates being in the buggy when go to the grocery store, or in her stroller if we’re out in public, but refuses to hold my hand or stay within eye sight if I let her down. She has no fear and runs off in heartbeat. When she’s a little older I think she’ll understand when I explain why she can’t run off or maybe even a light spanking if she does, but I really don’t see another option right now! I feel terrible for the other shoppers when I’m out with her, she screams her head off until I let her down, then I’m constantly chasing her around and can’t get my shopping done. If anyone has any other tips let me know please!:)

I love this picture by the way! My daughter’s name is Milla too:)

Melissa on

Such a cute little girl.

I also use a harness for my daughter. It is a little backpack, which she happens to love and requests to wear. I find it much less degrading than forcing her kicking and screaming into a stroller. I get many more awful looks when she is in a full on tantrum because she wants to walk.

Nikki on

That little girl is so cute.

RE: The leash.

I would have no reservations using one in a crowded place, I rather my son being active and walking, rather than confined to a stroller, especially at 15 months old, when most children are more than capable of walking.

I agree with the sentiment, that if the child is happy, safe and healthy, there should really be no problems with it.

And by the looks of those smiles, I’d say both parties were pretty happy!

amy on

I love her, love her daughter, think she’s a great mum, BUT HATE THOSE THINGS!!!!!!!

Maura on

Here’s a unique thought… how about using a stroller?

Chris on

I can see the benefit of the harness BUT how about teaching your children to hold your hand and do what mommy says? Worked for me. Ah well, Ever is adorable nevertheless!

April on

Maura, not really unique as it’s already been covered in this thread.

I’ve used a backpack leash on my youngest son. He hates to be carried in arms, in carriers, strollers etc and likes to be on his feet. This way, he can have his freedom while I get the peace of mind from him being attached to me in some small way.

girlJordan on

My mother used one of them on my sister when she was little (we’re talking 1977 here!) and she was abused by people. She was literally yelled at by strangers. My sister didn’t want to sit in a stroller. She wanted to be able to walk around and this was a safe way for my mother to let her.

I don’t see the issue and I certainly don’t think a mother should be abused for wanting to keep track of her child.

Pencils on

It makes me laugh that the only reason people object to child leashes is that it reminds them of dogs. Who cares? And what do you think they wear in the stroller so they can’t get out? A harness. Is that the part you find degrading, or is it just the lead part? If it keeps a child happy and safe, where’s the harm in it? I’d much rather see a child happily walking than one screaming in a stroller because she was restrained and wanted out. And I’ve certainly seen plenty of them. As far as teaching Ever to hold Mommy’s hand–she’s only fifteen months old, she’s not old enough for that much self-discipline.

Courtney on

Okay I see nothing wrong with leashes, I may think of if lt differently then other people as I had one when I was a child because I would frequently run away (even from my house), I asked my mom about leashes when I saw this picture, because back when I was toddler 16 or so years ago, a creep would stroll around malls snatching children away because these children who’d walk from their parents and sadly he killed most of them. I hope people can understand it’s for safety, espcially in Millas case.

Laura on

FOR THE LOVE…if we didn’t have domesticated animals in this world (i.e. pets who use leashes), we would NOT equate a child leash/harness to a form of degradation or compare the child to an animal. Seriously, someone explain to me the difference between a child walking beside you that it strapped to a harness or wrist restraint, and a child STRAPPED into a stroller and being pushed around. No difference…both are forms of safety. And if you take the pets out of this situation, a “leash” is just a more physical type of stroller–keeps the child with you, happy, and mom is not carrying a child all day which is TORTURE on your body.

Janet on

Why has there always been drama over leashes? I don’t have kids myself but I see the SAFETY reason for having it. Besides, I don’t think Mila has her on that all the time. It’s not a big deal in my eyes. I’d rather a parent have some sort of control over their child than having it run around and be crazy.

J on

They are so cute!!! I have no problem with the leash, I had one when I was young (I was a wanderer and still am, but now I know not to go into traffic and don’t have mom and dad to stay with). Much to the dismay of some, I am grown now (almost 30) and have no animal tendencies to speak of:)

I think it all depends on the parent and child.

eternalcanadian on

I love and applaud the use of those child leashes. I hope more celebrities are photographied using them, then people wouldn’t throw such dramatic hysterics over the use of them or likening them to pets.

Serenity on

Her daughter is so cute! She is like a mini Milla… Just adorable!!!

Megan on

Interestingly, one of the Tudor queens had on her households inventory a set of “reins” for the young prince. Yep… medieval baby leashes. Not only are they old-fashioned, they’re historical artifacts.

I don’t have a problem with baby leashes. I thought they were horrible before I had kids, but then I had a set of twins who like to dart off in two different directions. It is, frankly, impossible to chase both of them simultaneously, and the thought of having to choose who to chase first still fills me with horror. I would rather have people be upset that my kid is in a leash than have people kidnap my kid. We used them very rarely, and my boys eventually learned to stay close to me.

Joy on

I’d MUCH rather see Ever happy on a leash than unhappy in a stroller!

r9lee on

my parents used a kiddy leash too (wow early 80s lol). my brother and i were 18 months apart so you can sympathize esp. when theres two kids running around everywhere. and i was the terror who used to go missing all the time…so the ‘leash’ was quite handy!

Kyleigh on

Milla always looks so energetic and happy when she’s with her daughter! Just beaming. She doesn’t even seem fazed by the paparazzi. And Ever always looks so happy, too! What an adorable pair.

Amber on

A wrist to wrist leash? Aren’t you scared you’ll break her little wrist if you fall or vice versa?

Elle on

I don’t really understand the controversy. A pet leash and kid-leash have the exact same purpose to keep the “object” on the other end from straying too far. I could stop my pup from straying without the leash but its just easier with one. It looks a little funny, but i think its a little small minded to see leash and think pet and connect them negatively. Now… if theres a water bowl in the photo….

Finnaryn on

Perhaps if I knew where our harness was (still packed from a recent move) then I would not have had to return my child to his stroller no less than 30 times during an outing at the mall this weekend. He knows how to unbuckle the stroller harness, WILL NOT hold my hand and can dissappear in a store before you can blink. I have two other children and can not continue to run after him, leaving them standing near the stroller.

Heck… I might just go buy another rather than spend anymore time looking for the other one.

Keltie on

For me personally, I think that leashes/harnesses give the child a sense a freedom where perhaps they shouldn’t feel that way. I don’t use a harness with my son who is 2 1/2. He holds my hand when I ask him too, but I also let him walk independently when it is safe to do so.

But as in so many parenting decisions – the use of a leash/harness is one that is harmless, and a child will not be worse for wear for having (or not) used one.

pinayhekmi on

Oh yes! I was worried how I would navigate the airport with my daughter who now loves to walk, hates to be in a stroller. I forgot about these. Will get one soon for our upcoming trip!

Amy on

I never thought I’d use one, and my daughter isn’t too terribly stubborn — but did hate to hold hands as a toddler — and a friend gave me one as a gift (it’s the stuffed animal backpack with the tail that becomes the leash). I soon learned that in crowds where it’s so easy for someone to come up behind you and snatch your child, it really helps my stress level. Not only that, we live in the San Antonio area and visit the riverwalk with out of town family several times a year. The “leash” is definitely a godsend then. The riverwalk area is narrow, crowded, and it would be pretty easy for a young child to lose her balance and fall in. I’ve never seen it happen, but it wouldn’t be hard if your kid is active and breaks free from your grasp. It’s really tough to bring a stroller.

I also used it in the airport when I was carrying too much to push a stroller.

We went to a museum opening with our daughter for a special kids showing with her cousin’s elementary school. My daughter was only 2, and we got SO many compliments from museum staff for having a way to keep our daughter from running amok in their museum.

A. on

I too don’t see any problems with the baby leash.

Like it’s been said before: it’s much like the strap that you put around your child in a stroller. But in that case, you’re restraining your child to a seat with a 5 point harness system.

At least they can run freely here.

Megan on

Maura if a child wants to walk and is capable, why use a stroller? Neither of my boys used a stroller after 18 months and FYI we have no problems with over weight children or childhood obesity…

I used the backpack/tail leash with my one son a couple times, most of the time he’s good about staying close, but in really crowded areas I’d rather not chance it.

Heather on

People always have something to say about these thing, and it is typically the people who do not have children. I think the full harness it much better than the wrist leash, b/c a toddler is always dropping to the ground, and you can risk injury to the risk. These harnesses are great for the independent minded toddler who INSISTS on walking but cannot yet be trusted to walk independently at your side. Let’s face it, when they ask to walk and you put them down, they BOLT. Toddlers are so emotional to begin with, and there is nothing wrong with easing their confusion and strong will while allowing them to feel happy and give them a sense of schievement. After all, we are not supposed to control our children; rather, foster their minds and bodies until they can become self-reliant and self-assured…God willing!

tracey on

Are we talking about harnesses again? LOL.

I’m currently 6.5 months pregnant and have a very active, fast, strong and strong-willed 15 month old son. It’s a necessity to put on his monkey backpack (5 point harness) when I’m out with him alone without the stroller, as I cannot move as quick these days. Kids aren’t always happy to be sitting in the stroller, and I would much rather a happy trip out then a kid screaming.

I’d rather not risk anything when it comes to his safety.

GrandmaTo3 on

Good for Milla! I will never understand why Americans are so against using a harness. I had my children in the early 80’s and we were living in Germany at the time. Harnesses were common place. Using them back in the states we got dirty looks and nasty comments.
People say you should teach the child to hold your hand when you’re out? I wonder how many adults would like to walk with their arm held above their heads every time they went for a walk! A harness is much more comfortable for a child. I applaud Milla and I hope she starts a trend!
Oh and little Ever is just gorgeous!

Jess on

I saw this earlier & knew when I came back later there would be tons of comments. 🙂

I use to think those things were so evil & only lazy parents used them. Then I became a mom of a very active little boy. My son was walking at 9 months, running by 10 months. He’s now 14 months & we just got one of the child leashes. I feel like everyone is going to be thinking how awful & lazy I am when I use it. But he’ll be way happier. I’m currently 7 months pregnant, plus I have a bad back & always have, & carrying around my 25lb son is very hard & I cannot do it for long. He doesn’t like to ride in a stroller or a shopping cart. He wants to be down walking, will have melt downs if he isn’t. I know there are people who always say they’ll just hold their kids hands, but with my son I don’t see how anyone does that for very long. Kudos who anyone who can, but there is no way my son would allow me to do that for long, I think the record so far is about 4 minutes. So I’ll be using my leash next time we all go out & have to do a shopping trip in a busy place. If people stare or think bad things of me, oh well. My son will be alot happier, which in turn makes us happy. And at least I know he’s safe & can’t run off, which he always tries to. It’s not like I won’t teach my son to hold my hand to behave when out, but there is only so much you can work with when you’re dealing with a young toddler in my opinion.

And all that said, that little girl is adorable!

Lola on

That is all people seem to do anymore -nit pick on every little thing!
If the kids hair is not long enough or too long. If they are chubby. If they have a pacifier or bottle. If they are on a leash..
We should be happy they are WITH their parents. We should be happy they are alive and well.

Ever is a beautiful and happy little girl! Look at her face, she looks like such a big girl!

Jase on

She is not a huge celeb so she would have only had 2-3 paps on her maybe. She is only 16 months old and the mother isn’t carrying anything else so why not carry the baby? Doesn’t make sense to me.

michelle on

I am wondering if some of the dissapproval of the harness is simply because people refer to it as a “leash” which automatically draws comparisons to pets.

I don’t have kids, but based on how my pets are like my children, I don’t find it degrading at all. My pets are quite pampered, even on their leashes. : )

Leah on

I don’t get the whole “leashes are for pets” mentality. I put my dogs on leashes because they don’t know any better than to run off where they could get put in harm’s way and I care too much to let anything bad happen to them. Well, guess what? I love my children and care for their safety far more than that of an animal! A stroller is inconvenient and unless you spend extra on one with a reversible seat (which are bulky and not at all travel friendly) they cut the child off from interacting with the parent unless the child contorts their neck around to see mom or dad or the parent stops and stoops down every five seconds to hear the child. Small children don’t always want to be in carriers, as much as we love to carry them. And nobody should be forced to walk with their hand held above their heads for extended periods of time just because they’re short! Try holding your hand above your head for the twenty or more minutes are child might be expected to and see how comfortable you are!

I-dra on

oh jeez. as soon as i saw this picture with 60 comments under it, i knew there was some sort of idiot uproar about “leashes” on kids. as a former *harness* kid myself, i do not begrudge my mother one bit for wanting to allow me some freedom, while maintaining her peace of mind, knowing i would not be carried off by some lunatic in a public place.

hey, you know what? ever is milla’s daughter & if it works for them & doesn’t hurt you or anyone else, then let them do their thing. it’s like people who get offended when they see someone breastfeeding in public. there’s nothing wrong with it, if you don’t like it, don’t do it or feel free to look away (or in this case, scroll down).

Lisa on

My nephew is 2 years old and he does this thing where he straightens out when you try to put him in a cart or stroller. When he does that, it is extremely difficult to hold on to him. He’s a tough little guy and he has hurt my sister and me numerous times just by fighting us. When we do get him in a cart or stroller, he unbuckles himself and climbs out. He wants to walk. He wants his freedom. And why shouldn’t he have that? But at the same time, he likes to wander and dance around stores, so we need to keep him close. My sister bought a backpack harness and my nephew LOVES it. It’s a bear. My nephew named the bear Sippy Cup (a bit of confusion on his part because his mom put sippy cups in the cart right after the bear and he assumed that the bear was named Sippy Cup). He plays with the bear when we’re not in the store and has no problem wearing the bear in the store. It’s his friend. The only problem we’re having now is that he insists on holding the tail himself. But strangely enough, we’ve found that when he holds the tail, he stays right with us as though we were holding the tail. Whatever keeps the kid safe and happy, I say go with it.

Maaike on

My energetic little sister (now 25) flat out refused to hold anyone’s hand or be carried when she was Ever’s age. All she wanted was run about and explore the world. But she never stopped at the edge of the sidewalk – or at other dangerous circumstances. A harness gave her the freedom she craved, and it enabled my parents to keep her safe. Boy, it was a lot better than the constant screaming fits from a squirming toddler who did not want to be held!

Alex on

I can’t say I’m surprised to see this debate again, but I am still shocked it is even an issue. Children are “restrained” by their parents all the time, it’s just ridiculous to compare it to an animal lead. Reins are an excellent way to allow a child to find their feet, have some independance, while still being attached to their mum or dad. Wrist straps are also good, but for younger children, the reins are unparralelled in terms of safety because they provide stability as well as an attachment to the parent. Milla using the reins should be unreservedly applauded and I’m certain that beautiful Ever benefits from them greatly. It is absolutely shocking to me that people (some here, not all clearly) are more concerned with how reins looks than they are with the obvious benefits they provide. Here in the UK, there is almost zero criticism for the use of reins, and it wasn’t until I read the last debate on a Milla/Ever post that I was even aware that there were people who were so anti them. A buggy used for too long can make a child lazy (lack of exercise) so I absolutely do not acknowledge that it is an acceptable alternative to reins. Handholding is also not always convienient and certainly not a reliable form of attachment to a child, sweaty hands can slip away in a heartbeat and disaster can and does ensue because of it. Reins are excellent and I think almost everyone would see that if they could open their minds a bit more. I am yet to see an argument against them that actually has any weight to it whatsoever. Sorry for the rant, this kind of thing really winds me up, I guess child safety is just more important to me than appearances.

Daisy on


The reason it doesn’t make sense to you is because you are not Ever’s mother, Ever is not your daughter and you do not live the life they are living. I don’t mean to sound snarky, I’m just pointing out that parents DO have reasons for using a leash, a stroller, or a carrier for that matter on any given time or place.

Why not use a wrist to wrist one? It’s because those are meant for older children not for toddlers who are just starting to walk. They can get injured when they fall over because a wrist to wrist harness doesn’t offer enough support.

How come not all celebrities use child harness? Simply because they probably don’t need one. All children are different, just like all of us here. Some children develop faster than others, physically, mentally etc. And some children are more curious, independent and active than others. They are not dolls, they have personalities and they all have different needs.

Judith on

I think that is so cruel to have a leash for your child.. How about the old fashioned way of just holding your child’s hand??

millefleur on

I wish there weren’t such a stigma about these things. I think they’re a great idea – especially for an independent toddler in city traffic or a crowd! I’m more of a babywearing fan personally, but a lot of toddlers want to get down and walk, not to mention run! I would totally use one if it were more socially acceptable. Bravo Milla!

Lease user on

I was against these till we went on a trip to the mtns with a bert active child who didn’t want to be in a buggy while I still used her hand it was nice to be able to strap her monkey on (hers was a monkey stuffed with a oil backpack) on and to for walks and no she was safe ESP when I have two other kids I got more praised from strangers then glares and even though she doesn’t use it outside she loves to play with it and loved werarimy her monkey so I think if it works for her and others who are we to judge my daughter wasn’t tramstized from it

Anna on

Jase; of course she could have carried the baby, but walking is far better for children than being carried all the time. It’s healthy and good for her development to move around!

waffle on

i used to work in daycare and we used reigns when we took the kids out to the park or on days out if we didn’t some of them would have had to stay behind and miss out on a treat because it would have been impossible to manage otherwise.

the setup was usually one staff member with a double stroller and two walkers by his/her side, in most cases the walkers were from the toddler room (1-2yrs) and so over the body reigns were used with the kids from pre-school (2-5yrs) some were trusted to hold onto the stroller without running off while others used the wrist reigns and we never had any problems just a lot of smiles from people we passed along the way, nothing cuter than seeing a snaking line of awesome children!

sarah in UK on

Jase and anyone else who suggests a stroller in this situation. Does anyone else see how much trouble your asking for suggesting this. Your expecting a toddler to go from a restrained car seat, to a restrained stroller then on an aircraft with limited space? Oh, unless you plan on letting the child run around during the flight! That is plain crazy and cruel on the child and other passengers. Easy way out though isn’t it?

As for the harness issue, there isn’t one is my eyes. I prefer the chest harness as it covers more surface area on the child and it is easy to stop them falling over when they outrun themselves. It prevent alot of accidents. My daughter wouldn’t hold my hand and I had the same issue with the wrist leash and I wasn’t comfortable using one. However,She knew that her harness was for her safety and when we got out of the car used to hold her arms out to be put in it. Paps or not this is a wonderful way to keep a determind child safe and made me as a mother much more confident and gave us both independence. Strollers are great but when the child gets older they just become more convienent to use for the Mother so you can get around town quicker without having to stop every 5mins. It is much better for the child to get the exercise also. As for those saying it makes the child look like a pet then I think that says more about you than anything. If anything I used to be the one that got dragged along by my daughter! Safety is the most important thing. Now we no longer need one and I don’t have any problems with my daugher running off. She has learn’t to stay by my side holding hands or not. The only problem I DID have with the harness was when she thought is most fun to sit down and want to be pulled up and bounced with it which is not a good idea! I wouldn’t hesitate to use one again. I never had any comments or stares (I am in the UK) but if I had I wouldn’t have hesitated to give them my opinion back!

sarah on

as a mother of a 2 year old using a “leash” saved us from a couple near accidents with traffic. some children including my own are so quick it can just take seconds for them to run off into danger. yes pram is a better option sometimes but you cant always have the pram handy and when it comes down to people judging you for putting your child in a leash or potentially having an awful accident happen id rather cop a lot of grief for the leash thanks. its not like you put them on them for a fashion statement, its a safety thing
(just a note now though, my daughter knows how to undo her clip so its pointless now but it did help when she first learnt to run – fast)

Jas on

Leah I must say you make a very valid point regarding the whole hand above your head point. Never thought about that but it is uncomfortable…so imagine how a child feels. Personally too many kids are being abducted…if a parent has to put that so-called leash on their child then so be it!!!

momof3 on

I think these child leashes are a god-send for parents with particularly active children. I have three children and at that age they were quite strong willed and just wanted to walk everywhere. It’s no fun trying to hold a squirming, tantruming toddler that wants to walk in a crowded place or strap a buckarooing two year old into a stroller ( it’s embarrasing enough but can you imagine if people were taking pictures of you on top of it). You can’t reason with a child that age about why it’s important to hold your hand ( when they are 3 or 4 they can understand this concept). Also, I think that an airport would be the absolute WORST place to lose sight of your child–terrifying prospect for any parent. Good for Mila keeping her little girl safe. As a parent of three little busybodies I can completely understand her decision.

Clair on

i used to have a ‘leash’ like these and i loved them, i hated being strapped in a pram. To me a pram was a prison. I used to hurt myself trying to get out of my pram, so eventually mum had to let me have a ‘leash.’ they’re great for independent kids and i don’t get the stigma that surrounds them in America, i know it’s not really a big deal in England

Melissa on

My daughter is 16 months and I can tell you now there is no way she’d keep a wrist leash on. That thing would be off just as fast as it was on which is probably why they’re using the harness one.

Jae on

I can’t believe people are on here comparing this to an animal leash?! Get Real!!!!!!!!!
I used one on both of my children. Made them feel better with a little freedom & made me feel better that I could keep them close to me. And not once did I care what people thought of us. As long as we were happy & safe, that’s all I cared about.
Hopefully this goes the same for Milla!

Lesha on

Yah, before I had a child I thought the leashes were silly. And then my son started walking. I bought one of the little animal backpack leashes specifically for a trip we were taking. I knew we’d have over 2 hours stuck in an airport. Have you actually tried keeping an active toddler confined for more then 15 minutes? Even with books and toys, they still want to stretch their legs. And it’s only fair! I knew he’d be much more agreeable to sitting still on the hour long flights if he’d have some run around time between them. And call me paranoid, but he’s a darn cute kid and I wouldn’t want him disappearing in a big airport! Even while keeping my eye on him, he’s quick! And airports are busy and crowded.

After that one trip, I decided it was a pretty cool tool, and now use it at the mall if he is crying to get out of the stroller or doesn’t want in the carrier.

I don’t see anything degrading about it. If you do, don’t use one! That seems pretty simple to me!

candykane on

For the kids the harness is actually more freedom and comfortable than the hand. Just imagine hot day, sweaty hands and the kid can’t take a step to the side. With the harness the kids has the chance to go slower or faster and move arround more. And deepending on the size of a kid how long can you walk bent over? Of course you could put the kid in a stroller or carry her but that defeats the purpose and gets pretty boring for the kid

JK on

Until I had children, I would have thought “a leash” was cruel. Now that I’ve had 2 little boys, uuummmm “grab that leash and let’s go.”🙂

Anya on

The KinderKord Wrist to Wrist Retractable Connection is awesome it is a way to have the safty but not all of the judging…

Veronica on

A 2-year old child is a wild animal! At least my daughter is! She’s a monkey (she loves to climb), she’s a hyena (her scream is deafening), she’s a puppy (she eats whatever you put in front of her), she’s a bird (she signs beautifully), she’s a lion (she’s mean as heck if you wake her up)….I could go on. Good luck sticking her in a stroller and she throws herself on the ground if you try to hold her hand (she’s independent like a Cat)…But in the end…….I’d much rather have her harness on and have up-tight nosey’s snub me than have my baby run into a crowd or into traffic.

Lara on

Wow, what a big fuss over the child leash. Likening a child to a pet because it has a leash is absurd. The child is healthy, happy and safe.

Ever is a very pretty girl🙂

lis on

I think the leashes are a great idea, really. (I do not have children) Little Ever is so adorable! I think she looks a lot like her mama.

Meghan on

The harness is a fabulous idea for those who wish to give their active toddler the freedom to roam while making sure they are safe and within an arms reach. Little ones have so much energy and most love to be active, I personally find it cruel to force them to be restrained in a stroller for several hours a day when all the want to do is use their little legs.

***note*** I only find the use of a stroller cruel for long periods of time without letting your little one out to do what they naturally want to do…walk. I think the stroller and the harness used together are the perfect combination while being out and about for long periods of time or in crowded areas****

t. on

shes a cutie

PJ on

And here we go with the leash photos and arguments again…

Lou on

I fully agree with the use of a harness. mainly for the following reason;
i am 24, and in the UK. as i was growing up there was a very well publicised and absolutely horrible case (jamie bulger) where he was abducted and murdered by two teenage boys. i remember a lot of press at the time saying it could have been avoided if he had beeen wearing a harness.

for those of you disapproving of the use of a harness; google him.

i dont know if this case plays a big part in them not being disapproved of in the UK, but it certainly gave me food for thought when i was growing up, hence my agreeing with them now.

i do think part of the reason they are looked at with scorn in the US is to do with being called a ‘leash’, whereas we call them a ‘harness’, therefore none of the same connotations apply. just a thought.

cb on

I know a lot of people don’t agree with these, but they are very helpful. My toddler loves his and likes to wear his “backpack.” If I put him in a stroller, he wants out immediately. He feels independent and I have the security of having him close at hand.

NatashaC on

I don’t like the leashes but to each their own. I won’t use them with my kids but it doesn’t matter to me if someone else wants to use one with theirs!

Ellen Smith on

I have a child and never needed a leash. I was just more vigilant about keeping him by me. The harness/leash has a “Victorian” era quality about it, much like the chastity belt. At what point does one “unleash” one’s child? 2? 3? 16? If tons of parents can parent their child successfully without this device, what does that say about those who feel the need to use it?

Kristi on

We bought our harness for a trip to Disneyland when my daughter was 2 1/2. It worked wonderfully and she didn’t seem to mind it at all. If you have the backpack type, the lead does clip off so the child can run and play without tripping over the lead. Now that my daughter is 4 I can reason with her more as to why she needs to stay close to me and not wander away. As someone else pointed out, I’d rather be safe than sorry. I had several people come up and ask where they could buy them. I don’t remember hearing one negative comment at all.

laurennichole on

Should have figured that this many comments meant there was some sort of drama going on.

Unless you’ve been there, you have no right to judge. Get over it and worry about something that matters!!

jenny on

I don’t see getting her wrist broken by a wrist-to-wrist leash as a higly likely situation. the leash reaches the ground when dangled from my wrist. my daughter ias old enough that she is stable on her feet and niether of us ever pull on the leash. I’m sure it has saved me numerous times from having her run into traffic or crowds. I also havwe a back injury making it difficult for me to carry her or lean to hold her hand.

Sarah on

“If tons of parents can parent their child successfully without this device, what does that say about those who feel the need to use it?”

Seriously?? Who are you to judge another parent who is trying to protect their child? Milla doesn’t exactly seem to be ignoring Ever.

I imagine that you strapped your child into a stroller or sling when you went out? Do you mind explaining to me how that is any better than a leash? Instead of partially restraining your baby, you fully restrained her.

While Ever gets to walk, explore her world, and get some exercise, your child was seated/carried for extended periods of time. But, did anyone judge you or call you a lazy parent for barring your child from walking because it was easier for you?

I have yet to hear even one valid argument from the naysayers as to why harnesses are bad. Do any of those people have any proof of harm to the child, long-term effects, negligence, etc. to back up their claims that leashes are “cruel?” Didn’t think so.

Alice on

Ellen Smith, the fact that tons of parents can parent their child successfully without this device doesn’t say anything about “those who feel the need to use it”. It only means that another ton of parents have very active kids, or several young kids, or kids that enjoy walking around more freely and just don’t like to be strapped in a stroller or carried. It means that that other ton of parents think it’s more enjoyable for both them and their children, and most importantly safer to use this device, and I’m sure those whose child had an accident because they quickly ran away without harness would agree. If you don’t need it, fine. In no way is it something that every family should necessarily useif they’re happy without. But please do not make degrading assumptions about those who use the harness.

Ellen Smith on

To Sarah: We never had our child restrained (except in a car seat as the law requires) once he could walk. He never liked his stroller so once he was able to walk we never used it. Prior to that we strapped him in his stroller, as prudence and could judgment would dictate. However, once ambulatory, we never restrained our child. He was “average” in his “wandering” antics, but our vigilance was more than adequate to “restrain” him. No harness required. Funny how we restrain them now, and when they are teenagers they end up having unprotected sex at an immature age. Where’s the “harnessing” at the other end of the spectrum?

Gabi on

I have 4 boys and my youngest is quite “spirited”. He’d take off and go with anyone who gave him attention. I used the HARNESS (hate to hear it referred to as leash) while visiting a big mall to keep him safe. A toddler often enough wants to have a bit more independence which sitting in a stroller or a sling prevents. I ignored stares and finger pointing. My child safety and the sanity of the family matters more to me. My older sons would not be left neglected while I chased after their younger brother.
Kudos to Mila for putting her child’s safety first without curbing her budding independence!

Tiffany on

Ok, I didnt read ALL of the comments but did read enough to put my opinion and 2 Cents in for what its worth… I believe that a harness is definately a great idea somewhere busy or dangerous… an Airport or amusement park or professional sports games… etc… please consider the alternative… I mean really it only takes a second for your child to disappear or be taken from you. This may sound silly to some but when I was about 12 I saw Pet Semetary and the scene where the little boy runs down the hill and Dad isnt fast enough to get him before being hit by that truck… that was awful just to watch and know it isnt real. A family friend friends husband ran over their daughter by accident and killed her, she was 4 yrs old. It is so worth all the people staring at you and making snide remarks to know your child is safe within arms reach and not going anywhere. Thanks for reading if you got this far… :O)

TracyG on

From EllenSmith:”Funny how we restrain them now, and when they are teenagers they end up having unprotected sex at an immature age. Where’s the “harnessing” at the other end of the spectrum?”

Holy cow! To compare harnessing a BABY, to a teenager having sex is absolutely asinine and RIDICULOUS!!!!! A baby cannot make the judgement or rationale that running into the street means she can get hit by a car or that running away from mommy means someone can grab him from the mall/crowds etc.

A teenager has the capabilities to know consequences (for the most part) so to compare the two is just plain ignorant and a moot point.

Nice try though..maybe if you spend TIME with your teenager, guiding them and being open and honest, they won’t be rebelling by having unprotected sex! I don’t know any teen that’s not going to experiment no matter if they were harnessed or NOT as a baby!

Man, where is the big eyerolling smiley when you need it?

Southlyn on

Ever is so gorgeous!

I don’t have a problem with the leash. It isn’t cruel and it keeps the child safe.

Shannon on

I wish I had one of these when my son was younger and when baby number 2 comes in September I will make sure to have one of these on my “to get list” My son HATED confinment ie. strollers, carseats, buggys, etc… If I let him walk it was super hard to push the buggy and hold his hand at the same time. But with this it looks like you can wrap it around your wrist and let them go. They will still be close enough to watch them but also far enough so he will still have a sense of individuality.

Lesha on

Actually Ellen Smith, ever since my son was ambulatory I mostly worried about those predators that might just swoop in and carry away an adorable child while I was looking elsewhere. Because despite your insinuation that mothers who may use a harness are somehow less vigilant in their attentiveness, I argue that no mother can and WILL watch their child 100% of the time, especially in situations such as a busy airport where even for a mother the amount of non-child stimuli are overwhelming.

I am quite happy that you were able to succeed in your parenting without such devices, but to degrade other mothers’ parenting skills for using every tool available in the arsenal is petty and catty. Something we mothers should really try to avoid being to other mothers.

Also, I kind of doubt that, if after reading the comments here you can really make the argument that 1) these harnesses are a new phenomenon and therefore 2) they contribute to the promiscuity of adolescents.

Ellen Smith on

I was just trying to demonstrate a point: that parents seem overly vigilant on one end of the spectrum (when their kids are toddlers) and oblivious at the other end of the spectrum (when their kids are teenagers). It’s just a matter of time before we have “leash” laws for babies. The insinuation, in reverse, is that you are not a good parent unless you have your toddler “tethered.” Personally, I think it looks ridiculous to have a child on a harness. Again, my question is “At what age do we unharness the child?” 2, 4, 16?

Sarah on

If Milla, feels more comfortable with the leash around the paps–I commend her for that. I think I would do the same if I were in her shoes–celebs need to protect their children more in front of dozens of flashbulbs and people scrambling about. Furthuremore, Milla probably wants Ever to walk on her own 2 feet while being protected if the need should arise.

I didn’t leash my 2 children when they were toddlers, because I hated the leash then. I thought it was inhumane, but now I feel different. I have seen many toddlers run out of nowhere and be in danger. When it happens all of a sudden, boy, do you wish there was something extra to protect them.

Anyway, back to Ever…she is SOOO adorably beautiful!!!

Rye on

Ever is sooooooo beautiful! Just like her mama!! As for the leash issue…who really cares? If that is what someone wants to do…let them do it. It’s not a sign of a bad parent for wanting to have that kind of control over where your child is and I dont see it as being “lazy”…actually, it seems like it leans more towards giving a child of Ever’s age a little more freedom to move around safely without Milla having to carry her around everywhere. I dont know if I would use one, but I don’t see anything wrong with it. I would think it was weird if it was on any child over like 4 years old though. Which I HAVE seen in public before.

Sarah on

Ellen Smith, the answer to your question is easy. You unharness your child (in the literal sense) when they can understand that they need to stay close by and can understand that it is for their safety to do so. In the metaphorical sense, the same applies. A parent lets go when they trust their child to make smart choices. Quite frankly, I fail to understand how you leaped from harnesses to teenage sex.

And, when did anyone insinuate that people who don’t use harnesses are bad parents? Practically every posters has said that they should be used as needed and if you don’t need one, that’s fine. It’s a little funny that after judging parents who use harness that you worry about people judging you. And, leash laws?? Ha, this is getting a little silly

Jared Snyard on

Did she ask for your opinion NO SHE DID NOT! AFTER SEEING A TODDLER
RUN ON TO THE STREET AND GET RUN OVER BY A CAR and die. That is what changed my mind. There are other plush ones that don’t look like
a dog leash. It is a knapsack. With a small handle on the back.

Ellen Smith on

to Sarah: If you think leash laws are silly, or could never happen, then you merely have to look at car seats. While I am sure that car seats have saved thousands of lives, I grew up in an era where they did not exist. Now they are mandatory. As to unleashing your child when they can understand that they need to stay close by, how does one really know that? You could think they know, but then they could bolt. Again, teaching the child to stay near you is far better than hoping the child has the intellectual capacity to understand that he or she should not run away and then find out that they don’t. As for worrying about people judging me – bring it on.

yup on

Its her daughter so she gets to do what she wants. I think its a smart idea especially at an airport with paps all around. I would def use one…im not a mom yet.

sarah in UK on

There was a case here in the UK were a baby was lying flat in a pram whilst being pushed by the mother someone just swooped down and tried to take the baby. It could happen just as easily with a toddler in a crowded area (and it has).

Anyone who has ever had a child disappear behind your back for 5 seconds whilst your rummaging in your purse to pay for something knows that those 5 seconds are of heart stopping fear. I used a harness for this very reason. I don’t think I need to say anymore?

mummyof2 on

Does anyone know where I can buy the backpack-type leash? We are planning a trip to Disney World this summer and I will definitely need one for my rambunctious 2yr old daughter – I could care less about stares/comments, just as long as my little girl is happy and safe!

And Ever is adorable btw!

Molly on

On Saturday, my neighbour lost her 18 months old baby, he just ran away from her in a split second, before she had a chance to grab him or even reach her arm even though he was just next to her, he broke free and got hit by a car. His funeral will be this upcoming friday. To those, who only see the comparison with a pet, obviously you are not really concerned about child’s safety and don’t have the ability to predit the next minute’s events. You believe bad things cannot happen to you, but no matter how alert or engaged you are, bad things can happen to anyone before you blink your eyes.

And to Emily, no wonder america is obese, if even preschool teaches believe it’s better to confide children into the stroller as oppose to allow and encourage the motion and activity (on leash or no leash) Plus as somoene said here earlier, stroller is another way of confiding a child (kind of leash idea minus the opportunity to move)

T on

People are always going to have a difference of opinion no matter what the subject. I say “BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY”. This world is full of pedophiles waiting for an opportunity for a parent to slip and if it can stop my child from ending my like little Madeleine McCann or the child mentioned above by “Molly” I’m all for it. I would feel a sense of peace knowing she and I are connected.

Niki on

Mummyof2- has some super cute Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse backpacks!

candy on

Haha, if you don’t have children yet and you think the “baby leash” is disgusting, degrading or whatever, then I would recommend not having children at all. Why? Well, because doggy boutiques are becoming very popular, we have several in our area, anyway, the boutiques sell doggy strollers and doggy car seats. I mean, it would be terrible, if you had a child and bought them a stroller or heaven forbid a car seat… you would be restraining them just like a dog.🙂 What about a bed made specifically for them? Or clothes, or food? Man the list goes on.

Amy on

I say whatever floats her boat…

Anna on

A leash wouldn’t have helped Maddie McCann. She was in her bed sleeping!

I think the leash is ok, mostly to stop children getting lost or running in to traffic.

Mary-Helen on

I haven’t used one because my little ones have never been the “take off” sort (we’ve never had a mall seperation!) but my friend had a little one who was always taking off so she got one that looked like a puppy backpack so it didn’t have that “leash” look.

CelebBabyLover on

Lola- Excellent point! I also want to add that, if Milla were carrying Ever instead of using a harness, she’d probably be getting criticized for that, too!

CelebBabyLover on

candy- ITA! I also want to point out that, when you think about it, toddlers and puppies are a lot a like (this comes from someone who’s spent a lot of time around toddlers AND has a very active puppy!).

Both puppies and toddlers need to be taught manners, be toliet trained (well, except that a puppy is trained to “use” newspapers, training pads, or the backyard rather than a toliet), have a habit of getting into everything, put just about anything into their mouths when they’re teething (and sometimes even when they’re not!), aren’t always great listners, require almost constant supervision, are very active, can be picky eaters…and the list goes on!

So really, I see nothing wrong with both puppies and toddlers sometimes needing leashes/harnesses!

Katie on

Before having kids I use to think “God how could a parent put a leash on their child” but after having children I realized that in some situation it can help. I actually have never used one but when your child begins to want walk and run all the time it can get difficult and in some cases dangerous, esp. if you are in a crowded place like LAX or Disneyland. i think it enables your child to walk and explore with out risking losing sight of them..Though as I mentioned I have never used one but I haven’t ruled it out either..

I also want to mention we force children all the time to sit in their strollers and we strap them in. isn’t that almost the same thing?

Emma on

I didn’t use a harness (or reins as we call them) with either of my sons (now 11 & 8) because there never seemed to be a need. They were either strapped into a pushchair or holding an adult’s hand. However, I was probably lucky to have a 3yr age gap in that respect – I think having two toddling children at once would be a different matter! You’d need eyes in the back of your head! I don’t have an issue with a harness – I think if a parent wants to use one and feels more secure with it then that’s fine.

Adele (UK) on

What’s the deal with the hate against the harness?? Here in the UK they are sold in every store that sells baby products & the majority of parents buy them for toddlers.

My 19 month old doesn’t like being in her stroller & would rather walk & her safety comes first so I would use the harness all of the time than her hand slip out of mine & her run off.

brannon on

I am absolutely shocked that the majority of these comments are in favor of putting children on a leash?! Do you also tie your children to a tree out front so they can run around and have freedom but not be hit by a car?! (and yes – I have a very active 2 year old. I hold his hand.)

Gabi on

I mentioned earlier that having 4 boys, the youngest being very “spirited” I used the harness. What I forgot to mention is that my oldest boys were very close in age (less than 2 yrs. apart). At one time I had all 3 in diapers, and to go to a mall or amusement park with them was terrifying. There was no physical way I could have my eyes on all 3 of them at the same time, so I had a double stroller and a harness. There! NONE of my boys is “damaged” in any shape or form due to the use of it, more important, they’re all in one piece and they didn’t have a mom who was overwhelmed. They took turns and as soon as they understood that staying close to mom (at about 3 yrs.) kept them safe the harness and the stroller were put aside. Stroller, slings, harnesses…are tools available to parents to keep our beloved children safe in public. I don’t get what’s the big deal…

Sarah on

brannon, I have no problem with the fact that you choose not to use a harness. That’s your choice. But, I do not understand why you would criticize a parent who does and accuse them of treating their child like an animal. They are just trying to protect their child AND give them some freedom.

Also, did it ever occur to you that it might be uncomfortable for your son to have to walk with his hand raised above his head for extended periods of time? As several posters already pointed out, it can be hard. Give it a try and see how long you can do it.

Monica on

My daughter too — like Jess’ was walking at 9 months, running at 10. She was stubborn and heavy! She loved the harness. I used it in busy places like the mall and airport. She felt safe, I felt she was safe and she felt she had some freedom. And a couple months later when I was hugely pregnant or after my son was born it gave me extra hands. I don’t think mothers realize how unsafe it is for their small children to trail behind them at the mall or grocery store or worse! The parking lot! I see this every day. Put your child in the cart, stroller, use a harness. There was never a “highway option” for this with my kids or any of the kids I have cared for. Safety is my #1 priority. “S/He won’t stay in the cart” is not a reason. There should be no option for safety. The harness and the double stroller were my saviours! Yay for Milla! She is being a great mom. And Ever is my favorite celeb baby. So adorable!

Rebecca on

When I was pregnant with my second daughter I used a monkey harness back pack on my then 2 year old. My oldest was a bolter and I just couldn’t keep up with her past 6 months. I was walking in the store with her on it and I heard a woman ask me, “Why you treatin’ that baby like a dog?”

I said, “She runs away, it’s better than her getting hit by a car.”

She said, “Well, you beat dat ass a few times and she won’t run off no mo’.”

I couldn’t believe it, this woman was more in favor of me BEATING my child than having her in a harness that she liked!

candy on

Brannon, Of course we harness people wouldn’t tie our children to trees for the freedom of movement. We tie them to the treadmill inside. Jeesh, we wouldn’t want the neighbors to see what truly terrible people we are. I mean strollers, car seats and harness are restraining enough. We have to hide the rest.🙂

MiB on

I used to nanny an early walker (10 months) who HATED strollers and carriers once she learned to walk, and would not hold hands, since it restricted her and was unconfortable (for both of us, I had to crouch in order not to yank her shoulder out of its socket). So I used the harness and carried her kicking and screaming across streets. I did get foul looks and snide comments about me keeping her like a dog and that I should have her sit in a stroller. My reply would always be; You make her sit in a stroller! She did eventually learn to hold hands, walk nicely and not run away, but children my charge’s and Evers age (she is after all only 15 months) are too young to follow instructions that complicated; they have a very short memory, a short attentions span, a limited verbal comprehension (no matter how smart they are!), no concept of consequence and no fear. For us it was a solution that gave her some freedon to move and kept her safe at a time where she needed both.

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