Julia Louis-Dreyfus Dreads Empty Nest Syndrome

02/15/2009 at 10:00 AM ET
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With her older son of legal driving age, Julia Louis-Dreyfus knows that an empty nest looms large on the horizon. “It’s coming,” she concedes of 16-year-old Henry. “It’s so thrilling to see your kids evolve into thoughtful, active, independent people…but what do you do without them?”

The quiet that will no doubt descend upon the home she shares with husband Brad Hall might give the 48-year-old actress time to reflect, however — although from the sound of things, there’s plenty of that already! Julia tells WebMD magazine she looks back at her days as a young mom on the hit show Seinfeld and wonders whether she made the right decisions. “There were days when I thought my brain would blow up!” she admits.

“Women want to do everything, and it’s hard to pull off. I brought both my kids to work with me [to the set] when they were little. It was great, but it also split my focus. I had a nursery set up so I could nurse them, then I’d run back to do a scene. Was that the best way? I’m not sure.”

Like most working moms, Julia says she frequently felt as though one or the other — the kids or the job — was suffering. On the other hand, she notes “maybe it was good for these two little boys to see their mother working and having a fulfilling career.”

“I am in no way disparaging women who stay at home …we beat ourselves up no matter what we choose. Inevitably, you make good and bad decisions. We all do. And you make mistakes. But you do your best.”

In addition to Henry, Julia and Brad are parents to Charles, 11.

Source: WebMD

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fay on

i’m SO old… i remember when he was BORN… jeez!!!

Mari on

Julia and other moms need not dread the empty nest syndrome.

After the first initial tugs…it settles down into a realization that they will always be your child and you will always be their parent. It’s just parenting in a different way.

With the realization that you’ve done your job and (hopefully) raised a responsible, caring person to young adulthood, you can move on to having a deeper, richer connection to them.

And at the same time, it frees up your time to expand your personal horizons and connect – or reconnect – in a deeper way with your spouse/partner and your peers. It’s a rewarding time of life.

Or at least that has been my experience.😀

Dawn on

Is Julia Louise Dreyfus related to actor Richard Dreyfus? they resemble alot!

And, my oldest are 12 & 13. I still have a close relationship with them,but they are starting to have their own lives now. I’m going to dread them leaving. I’ll still have two little ones once the older ones are gone anyway.

melissa on

I never really enjoyed Seinfeld but LOVED her as Elaine!

Dawn: Richard & Julia are no relation for her whole last name is Louis-Dreyfus…

Elyse on

Never in a million years would I have guessed she was 48! She looks fabulous.

My mom has been going through the empty nest syndrom. My brother no longer lives with us (he is only 17, we moved to another state and they let him stay behind so he could finish high school at his awesome school.) It was really hard for her at first, and she has said thank god I didn’t stay behind or move out at the same time. It was an adjustment period, but now it is fine. We still miss him but we have our seperate lives now and we still keep in touch, and they still are his parents and he still has to follow their rules since he is underage. Now when I move out and she has a house with no kids, that may be a different story.

Patricia on

I have 16 year old who just become legal to drive this month… the whole idea seeing him behind the wheel is somewhat akward for me because it seems like yesterday when I changed his diapers….but I guess it’s much easier for me to deal with this fact since I have 6 yr old and 1 yr old at home at the same time! they keep feel me younger and assured that I won’t be empty nester for while yet…

Dawn on

melissa: thanks for clearing that up.

they do resemble,to me at least. I thought her name was hyphenated due to marriage,like most people do.

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