Tori Spelling Chats With CBB!

02/12/2009 at 09:00 PM ET
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We saw Tori Spelling come of age at West Beverly High and continue to laugh at (and recognize ourselves in) her hit reality show, Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood. We also devoured her 2008 memoir sTori Telling, shooting her to the top of the New York Times Best Seller’s List! Since welcoming children Liam Aaron, 22 months, and Stella Doreen, 8 months, Tori has her hands full, but is proud to be a working mom.

Having the opportunity to chat with Tori, 35, Thursday at the Pull-Ups Potty Dance Party — an event to encourage potty-training, held at the Helen Mills Theater in New York City — we found her just as funny, friendly and sweet as she comes across on TV. And guess what? She’s a CBB reader too!

Click below to see what Tori had to say about parenting advice, first child vs. second child, potty-training and Donna Martin’s return to 90210 (she’s a mama!), plus take our potty training reward poll!

On Liam and Stella having their photograph taken by the paparazzi:

I never care about myself out in public when I get the paparazzi swarming me. But if I know we’re photographed out, I like to check the blogs to see if they got photos of Stella or Liam. I love Celebrity Baby Blog! Liam does not have a bad angle!

Now though, he’s about to hit the terrible twos, so he’s not always happy to see photographers. He’s in that mode now: Depending on the day, you might get a happy baby, or an angry one! He’s in a shy stage. We’ll say “Cheese” now before pictures, and he shields his face a bit. But before this, he was always looking for lights, or a camera. He loved paparazzi. He’d get mad if I tried shielding him, like “Get out of my shot, Mom!”

Stella’s like that, too: Addicted to the camera. In every shot of her she’s looking right in the lens, posing.

On the best parenting advice she’s received:

When I was pregnant with both my children, everyone had advice and it kind of made my head explode. It was a lot to process. After I had my kids, I realized it’s pretty much all about instinct – you have to do what’s right for you. Everyone has an opinion, but it was all about what you do or don’t do. I was so overloaded, so I let my children dictate the way things were supposed to go, and things fell into place.

No one told me to trust my instinct! Everyone said, “You should do this, you should do that. You shouldn’t do this, you shouldn’t do that.” So now when I see new parents and they ask me for advice, I just tell them to trust their instincts. And they say “Okay.” But they’ll see!

Thoughts on specific baby gear:

Everyone has their preferred stroller, their preferred crib, their preferred Moses basket. And they have advice on that too!

Stroller-wise we have been faithful to our Orbit. We love Orbit; it’s been our friend. We travel a lot and we’re on the road a lot, and obviously the kids are always with us. For Stella, it’s a car seat and stroller in one, so it’s the best, hands-down.


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On her potty-training plan:

We started about a month ago, and I actually partnered with Pull-Ups, and they’ve been amazing. It was perfect timing, because we were just about to go into the potty-training stage, and I knew it would be Liam who dictated when he wanted to start. He was totally ready, was identifying with the bathroom, coming to me and letting me know he had to go.

I got my information online. Pull-Ups has a Facebook page, because they know everyone is on Facebook now, and that’s the big mom thing – all my mom friends are on it! Parents can also go to PullUps.com and they can get information on the Potty Dance.

For us it was a saving grace, because I was completely stressed about making potty training work, making it fun, keeping Liam’s attention, and wondering how I’d get through it personally without letting him know I was nervous about it.

Getting him to learn the Potty Dance, well, it was easy — he’s a big dancer. He loves to dance to The Killers, and knows like every word to their new song “Human.” He can’t say full sentences, but he knows a word here and there, and he does movements to the different lines. So when I learned the Potty Dance I taught it to him, and knew it was going to be so fun for him. For him it was like, “Wow, it’s dance time!” It was like a reward – every time he went potty, he got to do the potty dance. It was brilliant!

My fear was getting him to do it and rewarding him with it – I didn’t want to be that mom who offered him a cookie when he used the bathroom. Because once you start with something like that, you can’t go back. So the dance was something I wondered [if it] would work, but he’s totally psyched about it. After he goes to the bathroom, I tell him, “You’re such a good boy!” Then he puts up his fist and shows he’s ready to dance. He’s getting there. It’s a process.

On playing Donna Martin on 90210 again, this time as a mom:

Well it’s hard because when I do my reality show, I get to film with my kids. It’s the best job in the world because I get to be with my family. And now when I do 90210 I have to leave my kids at home. One day we worked for 17 hours, and I kept thinking about how I was missing my kids. I love acting, I love doing this, but finding the balance was so hard – I missed them desperately.

In the show, Donna has a baby, and the baby was working – they’re actually twins on the show because of child labor laws – and I was just clinging to the baby, and rocking her, thinking of Stella, and missing her so much. This baby really reminded me of her.

On having the kids on-set:

Dean’s brought them to the set, but they get tired. Liam wants to leave when he gets there! You can’t have them on set for too long because they’re unpredictable, and they make noise. They’re babies. So they sit in my trailer, and that’s just not that much fun for them. But they have come to the set to visit.

Liam actually came last week, and one of the scenes was outside – we were shooting in Beverly Hills. And they had a restaurant/café set up with all the prop food, and it’s real, because in the scene people are eating it. So he got all excited to be there, and I sat him down with me at the table, but he started eating all the prop food! I was like, “I’m sorry, this is out for the scene,” but he was just like, “Oooh bagels, chips, fruit!”

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On the differences between first and second children:

Stella is much more advanced at everything, I find, than Liam was. He was my first and we didn’t know what we were doing or not doing right, and clearly I didn’t listen to advice or what people said, so I let him lead the way.

With Stella, she sees Liam running, she wants to walk. She literally can’t sit still, and won’t let you hold her. I’m convinced she probably won’t crawl, but go straight to walking.

She’s strong too: You hold her up, and she’s on her tiptoes, wanting to walk. She’s talking faster already, and she literally focuses on Liam and watches everything he does. The interaction between them is amazing.

Actually, last night they had their first little showdown. She was holding a toy, he came over and grabbed it, and then she grabbed it back. Then they locked eyes. She’s so much littler, but they were both grunting at each other. She was like, “Come on, bring it on!” He backed off – I think she may have won! She’s a toughie, I can tell already.

I feel like the second child feels like they have to do everything faster. She’s definitely louder, too, and I always hear people say their second child is louder because they want to be heard, while the first child is used to getting all the attention. Stella came out louder – it’s not like she realized one day she was the second, she’s just been louder since birth.

Tori’s second book, Mommywood, will be out in April. The first of her multiple 90210 episodes will begin airing April 14th on the CW.

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Maddy on

i love love love tori!

i can’t wait to see her on the new 90210!!!

Mrs. R. on

This is an adorable interview. I hope she comes to peek at the comments. I wasn’t a HUGE fan of hers before, but I am now🙂 She seems incredibly down to earth and like someone a regular mom could just hang out with🙂
I am starting to potty train my daughter and her comments about rewards really resonated with me – I’m going to have to check out the Potty Dance!

Colleen on

LOL This woman is hysterical! I think she is VERY down to earth and her children are gorgeous! Tori, your children look like twins! I also think it is awesome that she looks at this blog often.

Brianne on

I LOVE Tori! I was a 90210 fan, and once I saw her reality show, I fell in love with her. She is so down to earth, quirky and sweet, and I would LOVE to hang out with her for a day. My daughter is inbetween Liam and Stella agewise and I enjoyed hearing all she had to say about her pregnancies. I hope she sneaks on and reads this cause Tori – you rock girl! Love hearing all about you and your beautiful family!

Tina on

Personally I think pull-ups are a huge waste of money. After making sure my son was ready and getting him really interested in the potty through books and watching me I put him in underwear and potty trained him in ONE day! He’s 2 years 2 months, I didn’t do treats just huge praise. Pull ups don’t really make them feel uncomfortable, that’s why so many toddlers are in pull ups for a long time. Seriously try the undies it works!
I do like the idea of the dance though very cute.

Amber H. on

I love their show – when is it coming back? My hubby gives me grief about it because we had to up our dish package to get Oxygen. lol I just think Tori is fun and her kids are adorable! I can totally relate to the potty training – my 2 1/2 year old daughter just potty trained last month. 🙂

Mia on

The big difference, not just first/second children, is boy and girl. Boys tend to be more chill and girls are a lot more aggressive/louder. Very cute interview.

Gianna on

I love tori, she seems like a great lady. I loved her on 90210 and looking forward to seeing her again. I also loved her book and reality show, so I will get her next book. Her babies are super cute, and they are all such a nice family.

NatashaC on

Great interview! The relationship between me and my older brother was very similar to Liam & Stella’s in that way. I barely crawled and went right to walking at 8 months (or running, as my mom likes to say), while my brother took until probably 13 or 14 months to really get comfortable with it

Alyssa on

I absolutely love Tori Spelling! She never really used to be a favourite celebrity of mine, probably how she was portrayed in the media! But, once I caught her show I realized how extremely down-to-earth she is! She is absolutely hilarious, with gorgeous kids and a wonderful hubby! I would absolutely love to meet her and cannot wait until another season of Tori & Dean comes out because I’ve seen every episode of the first three seasons and am starting to watch repeats!!! Can’t wait for her appearance on 90210 .. you’re awesome Tori!!!

ang on

Thanks heaps,Tori if you see this and thanks CBB-great interview!

Philippa on

Such a sweet interview, and that picture of Tori and Stella is so precious!

Lissette on

I love seeing pictures of her kids. They are adorable! Even though I’m not a mother, I’m looking forward to reading her new book “Mommywood.”

Vanessa on

Very cool interview, sweet, sincere and relaxed.
My Mom potty trained my brother by putting a ping pong ball in the toilet with a picture on it. My brother wanted to use the toilet so he could aim at the ball. Best bit being that he’d get it in the toilet instead of on the floor!

Sara on

I love Tori – and she just seems like such an amazing mom to those 2 adorable kids!

Tee on

A normal Hollywood Mommy- how refreshing! Both Liam and Stella are adorable.

Brooke on

I think Tori is an amazing mom, and Liam and Stella are so adorable!!! I love the pictures of both the kids🙂
Great interview, CBB

XOXO on

I am so excited that Donna Martin has a daughter!! lol Now it better be Davids too!! lol

Thanks CBB for a nice interview! Tori seems like she is more happy now then she ever was! I wonder if she talks to her mother and her brother, I hope she does🙂

Anya on

I never really watched 90210, but I became a fan of Tori’s reality show. It’s one of the only reality type shows that I watch and I’m eager for it to return. I’m intrigued by Mommywood and I might have to buy it!

victoria on

I got to hand it to her she always manages to market herself and come up with the next place to make $ – i wish i had that ability
I think that liam is a bit young personally non of my kids pt until they were three or over (but I am hoping that the girl will be quicker!)
I too think pull ups are not good for PT but they are great for nighttime (saves me a little laundry!)

JM on

I loved the old 90210 but simply cannot get into the new one (or any show lately). But I just love little Liam and Stella! It’s probably annoying to have paparazzi at your every turn but I guess you can either make your kids afraid of them or just pretend it’s no big deal. I’d rather have my kids smiling then throwing tantrums because they’re frightened.

Gracie on

I don’t think Liam is too young. I think it’s odd how late people are potty training their kids now. Personally I think the diaper companies are unduly influencing people into believing that it’s necessary to wait a long time to potty train kids. Kids can be potty trained much earlier than most are now, it just takes more effort on the part of the parents – and I guess a lot of people would rather wait until the kids can potty train themselves.

Emily Jones on

Love Tori! Love this interview..

Does anyone know if there will be another season of Tori and Dean? I just love the show, Tori and Dean remind me of me and my husband..especially when Dean walks around farting all the time! LOL!

Stephany on

Love her, love her show! This interview was great. She is so down-to-earth and seems to love motherhood a lot! I worked at a daycare where we rewarded kids with candy for going potty – not something I would encourage! I think the Potty Dance is a much better avenue to take!

Fevvers on

Whatever works I say…though I suspect hugs and praise form the basis of all pt, its not like you give them candy in complete silence. Know your enemy I say, some kids LOVE food and it works for them, others want to please you and a hug is all they need. I find that most boys who PT early ie before 2, regress at some point. ALL of my friends kids who were like that then spent 9 months pooing behind curtains or something else a bit yuk, so I say waiting is not that bad an idea. But then they PT 4 month old babies in china.

Nicole on

Tori is my fave celebrity! I’ve been a Tori fan since the first 90210. I can’t wait to see her on the new show. Love seeing Tori and pics of her beautiful kids and handsome hubby. Keep’em coming!

stacey on

My child potty-trained without any use of artificial, external rewards – by 1 1/2! Look into Elimination Communication. It’s worth it!

Anna on

I love “I think she may have won!” Her kids sound so cute. I like her more laid-back parenting style. I also liked on her reality show she made time for just her and Dean to do things without the kids. That’s important, too!

Iva on

First time visitor to this site. Have to say that I love Tori’s down to earth attitude. And she also appears to be so genuine in general – how refreshing! On another note, my son is 15 and a half months and I am just about to start potty training. And not because I am rushing into it but because I am following his cues(He shows and vocalises it(‘pi-pi’ apparently works for both actions) before he soils his diapers). So, i got a potty yesterday and will give it a try!

Mia on

Her potty dance thing reminds me of back in 2003 or 2004 or so, Angelina Jolie was on the Ellen Degeneres show and Angie was saying she was potty training Maddox, and they do the “pee pee/potty dance” to encourage him to use the toilet on his own. Ellen then asked Angie to show the audience the dance, and she said “No..no..that’s private.I can’t”. I’m sure a lot of parents use the dance to help their kids/other kids potty train.

Although back then in was just Angie/Maddox lol now it’s Angie/Brad with Maddox, Z,Shiloh, Pax, Knox and Viv haha.

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