Gwyneth Paltrow Says Children 'Know the Real Truth'

02/07/2009 at 07:00 PM ET
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In the latest installment of her weekly newsletter GOOP, actress Gwyneth Paltrow turns to the issue of parenting.  The 36-year-old actress — mom to Apple Blythe Alison, 4 ½, and Moses, 2 ½ — writes that when she’s not at her personal best, her children always know it. “It has been my personal experience (both as a child and a mother) that children are like little radios picking up our frequency,” Gwyneth notes. “They know the real truth about what we are feeling versus what we are presenting and it is incredibly isolating to find a major discrepancy between the two.”

When she’s having a tough day Gwyneth says she often finds it helpful to verbalize her feelings in much the same way she advises her children to. “I say, ‘Mommy is having a hard day, and I am feeling upset’ so that the very mundane ‘bad’ feelings do not turn into some grim phantom in the room with me,” she explains. When all else fails, Gwyneth writes, sorry works wonders!

“Sometimes I don’t have the maturity in the moment, and when it fails me, I apologize at bedtime when my children and I are having a talk. I have felt my daughter’s whole body sigh in relief when I have simply and very specifically voiced regretting my own behavior.”

“Here’s to doing the best we can,” Gwyneth writes in closing. Apple and Moses are her children with husband Chris Martin.

Source: GOOP

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eva on

I have no particular opinion on her acting or her career,but by these small quotes she sounds like an honest,realistic woman who is doing good by her kids.When I am not feeling my best I tell my kid the same thing,about being a bit upset and she seems to understand.

CelebBabyLover on

I love hearing Gwyneth speak about her kids, and I feel awful that she has to constantly defend her marriage (there was just an article about that on PEOPLE.com) just because her and Chris aren’t often seen in public before.

sara on

Why is Moses’ full name not on here? Just wondering- it is Moses Bruce Anthony .

Because the full name has not been announced or confirmed, so because of that we do not post it on the chance that that information is incorrect.

-CBB Staff

Terri on

Sounds like great parenting advice to me.

Kat on

I still can’t believe her daughter’s name is Apple.

ma74 on

aaaw.I love them….well especially Chris.But they seem like great people

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