Comments on: Sound Off! Is a Second (Or Third or Fourth) Baby Shower Typical or Tacky?

By: Mary Jo Parsons

Mary Jo Parsons — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:16:06 +0000

Tacky, It’s not fair to ask family and friends to shower you w/ stuff all the time. I mean, the kids are gonna have birthdays, and Christmases and plenty of other times when people will feel the need to buy something. Stuff from a baby shower only gets you through the first couple months or year of the child’s life. It’s best to look at the big picture…and that is, if you can’t see yourself being financially capable of providing those kinds of things you may need, you really should not have more.

By: Eva Kryzanowski

Eva Kryzanowski — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 06:34:58 +0000

Of course each baby deserves a shower!You are celebrating a new life, who probably is going to need new things- children of different sexes need different items, things wear out, etc. I would give a baby gift to a friend even if it were her tenth child- each one is just as special. Why should only the first child have the “shower” page in the baby book filled out?

By: SouthernBelle

SouthernBelle — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 18:48:28 +0000

I grew up in the South and my mother’s generation always considered a shower after baby number one to be tacky and totally unacceptable (and greedy.) But, times have changed. I would also like to point out that the expectant mother NEVER hosted the shower…I mean NEVER. Someone else (a close friend or distant relative) always hosted the shower. Now, in my generation, we have showers for each and every baby so that each birth is celebrated. But, even in this modern generation where I come from, it is still considered tacky for the expectant mother to host (or ASK someone to host) a shower…it’s always done by a friend, coworker or distant relative who really wants to do it. My daughter was appalled when a coworker demanded that she host a baby shower for her just because my daughter had the financial means to do so. My daughter probably would have hosted one without being prompted, but was mortified at the nerve of this woman to demand that she host it; then the woman told her what to serve and told her to get the word out exactly what gifts she wanted and what she DIDN’T want. My daughter was flabbergasted. She gave her a beautiful shower anyway (my daughter is very generous) but drew the line when she was asked to throw proper etiquette out the door! She didn’t do anything past telling the guests where the expectant mother was registered and serving some of the mother’s favorite foods. The ungrateful mother complained when my daughter didn’t have everything she asked for and didn’t send out one single “thank you” after the shower. Go figure some people.

By: L.J.

L.J. — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 22:28:13 +0000

Having a shower for each baby is totally appropriate! It’s not about recieving gifts, but about the welcoming and celebration of another special life How can that be denied

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 04:22:06 +0000

I think its a great idea to have a “sprinkle” for every child you give birth too.If its only done for your first child what are we saying about the rest of the persons children? because of their birth order they dont deserve a party celebrating their entrance into the world.If people feel its tacky then don’t attend! Let the people who want to go Go!!!Nobody should feel funny about having a second “sprinkle” like a lot of the other blogger’s said most of us would buy a baby gift anyway why not have a party too.

By: R Storm

R Storm — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 02:22:07 +0000

I think it is acceptable for a small shower if you know the sex of your new baby will be different than the ONE you currently have. Otherwise, I think it is tacky and fiscally irresponsible to expect other people to supply you with what you need for a baby. I have a stepson who told me that they specifically expected all their friends and family to supply them with everything they needed. I was quite insulted and deeply resented that kind of an attitude. Gifts and showers (of any kind) are optional.

By: DAnne

DAnne — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 01:51:12 +0000

In real life it depends on how far apart the kids are, come on who saves their baby stuff for 10 years. However if the kids are close it is tacky and I refuse to go! It’s ok to offer a gift for a new baby, but not a full blown shower.

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:28:44 +0000

And also…. Jenna I agree the greediest people aren’t generous too!

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:27:44 +0000

Another thing… don’t ask for gifts if you want to do something, just bring a few of your best friends out to lunch and let it be YOUR treat. They probably all will get you gifts and be happy you didn’t ask.

By: Jenna

Jenna — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:19:21 +0000

I think asking anyone for anything is tacky and greedy.

I feel the same be it a shower, graduation party, wedding registry, honeymoon registry, bridal shower, etc.

It is one thing if someone wants to throw a party for you, but it is those that throw these events for themselves that irritate me. It is usually these same people (or their families) that do not return the favor for the other families, too.