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For some women, the path to motherhood is smooth and direct and for others, not so much. Cindy Margolis was shocked to find herself a member of the latter category, describing her path to motherhood as a “long, rocky, and sometimes heartbreaking journey.” “I took becoming a mother for granted,” she admits in a new interview with momlogic. “It never occurred to me that it might require more inner strength and determination than I had ever imagined I had in me.”
With the help of IVF, Cindy welcomed a son — Nicholas, 6 — in 2002, and three years later twins Sabrina and Sierra, 3 ½, were born via surrogate. Although her dream of motherhood was ultimately realized three times over, Cindy’s struggle with infertility left a lasting impression. In her new book Having a Baby…When the Old Fashioned Way Isn’t Working, the 43-year-old model and celebrity spokesperson for RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association, opens up about her experience. “Doctors don’t really focus on telling you how emotionally draining it can be and they don’t (or at least didn’t in our experience) talk much about how hard infertility can be on your self-esteem and your relationships,” Cindy says. “They also don’t prepare you for how much harder you will have to work to build your family than the couples who can get pregnant naturally.”
“I wanted to change that. I wanted to talk about those things, answer those questions and remove the stigma of infertility that seemed to keep me from finding the support we desperately needed in our own journey.”
That her marriage to estranged husband Guy Starkman ended is something Cindy attributes at least in part to the stress associated with their quest to have children. Noting that “the struggles and the heartaches took their toll, individually and as a couple” Cindy says that that toll is something couples facing infertility “need to accept” at the onset. “In the best of circumstances, deciding to start a family demands change, adjustment and even sacrifice,” she explains. “Infertility takes that all up a notch or two.” Single-motherhood is “hard,” Cindy says, but do-able.
“I’m learning, coping and with a little luck, becoming better at it every day.”
Click here for a recent photo of Cindy and her children.
Source: momlogic