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Maggie Gyllenhaal Settles for the City, Contemplates the Country

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A native of New York City, but raised in Los Angeles, Maggie Gyllenhaal admits that the city that never sleeps is proving to be less than an ideal setting to raise Ramona, her 2-year-old daughter with fiancé Peter Sarsgaard. Revealing to Time Out Kids that the couple “are leaning toward maybe getting out of here” to settle in the country, the actress can’t help but feel torn, feeling grateful for the abundance of activity in her backyard. “There are wonderful things about being in the city. It’s really easy to get your kid together with other kids,” notes Maggie, who often takes her daughter to music and dance classes. With a list of “all these little things to do,” there is never a dull moment for the family, however, Maggie ponders whether Ramona is truly able to appreciate city life at such a young age.

“While the city is great when you’re older, with a two-year-old I definitely feel like I’m stopping her every minute and saying, ‘Don’t pick up that cigarette butt! You know that’s disgusting!’ instead of just letting her be a little freer, like I imagine we could if we lived in the country.”

With countless kid-friendly places for the mother-daughter pair to explore, Maggie finds her greatest frustration is the trek through the transportation system, which for the actress, seems to be an adventure in and of itself! Admitting that she does “not understand how I’m expected to take the subway” with her toddler and stroller in tow, the 31-year-old applauds the countless moms who courageously venture out with their kids! Finding the weekends particularly difficult — “my subway station closes its gates and the attendant leaves on the weekends” — the actress is yet to learn the tips and tricks of maneuvering through “one of those little circular things” with her arms full. She adds,

“I mean I’m thinking…if I had another child I don’t know how I would do it. I know that there are many women who have more than one kid and have to do it. I just don’t know how they make it work! Why can’t the subway be made more child-friendly? I’m a big fan of public transportation, but it’s just so hard.”

Continue reading to find out Maggie’s take on working and preparing for preschool!

Starring in several films since the birth of her baby girl, the proud mama is on the prowl for movies with meaning as she searches for scripts that “justify being away from Ramona all day.” Although Maggie found herself accepting roles that she found “kind of interesting” in the past, she shares that her desire to spend time with her daughter has her expectations set high. “Now it has to be amazing,” she explains.

However, the responsibilities of a child have also forced the actress to “make all sorts of sacrifices,” including ones she is reluctant to make, but has to “because I’m a mother.” Recalling a past project that caught her eye, Maggie reveals she was left with no other option but to turn the offer down after she found herself without a nanny at the time. The slot left open as a result of slowing down her career was quickly filled, as the couple — who are “not totally freaking out” —  have begun to investigate preschools for Ramona.

“I would say I spent my entire fall, really, researching which schools I wanted to apply to for her. I put more energy into that than almost anything I can think of recently.”

Source: Time Out Kids

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No kidding about the preschools! Here is LA it is insane! Essays about your child, interviews, starting when your pregnant and not to mention they cost a year more than my car!!

- Nina on

Yah I understand what she is saying about NYC. That’s why my parents moved out of NYC when they had me. They loved the city more than anything but thought it wasn’t the best place for them to raise kids.

- MZ on

again, I’m so glad she took the TDK role! I love her and Peter and wish them the best.

- sat on

shes looks a bit like the Olsen twins in that picture

- Apha on

She looks so much like her mother in this picture!

- Kelpy on

Wow, i didn’t know she actually takes the subway! I like her, she looks pretty down to earth.

- Veris on

Again the word preschool being used for a toddler. When I think of preschool, I think school for 4-5 year olds, maybe also including 3 year olds. Two years old – that is a toddler, and I think non-parental care at this age is more “child care”- of course, child care should have a teaching/learning component, but it’s not “school”…. call it what it is! I kind of feel like calling it school for such a young child is a cover for what it truly is and that’s more of a day care situation.

- Jane on

I was born and raised in NYC. And so are my kids. My arms were the most diesel from lifting strollers and bags on the subway. It’s a workout. Most of the time someone is kind enough to help you up and down the stairs.
We love having other playmates for the kids right in the building.

- SweetDiva on

Jane, I don’t know where you live, but if it’s NYC, LA, Boston etc preschool is a big production that you start years in advance because it is so hard to get in where you want. Ramona is not in preschool yet, Maggie just said she is researching and applying. My family lives in Brooklyn and we have two boys, 2 1/2 and 5. With my older son we started looking over two years in advance! With my younger son we luckily have an ‘in’ at the preschool of our choice because our 5 year old goes there, but even at 2 1/2 we are getting our paperwork in order and he won’t start until fall 2010!

- Brandi on

I love her. I think shes so down to earth and honest. shes ace. I don’t drive and even though I live in the UK, Im quite sure that public transport is just as unreliable and hardwork as over here. I now find myself walking everywhere, but sometimes you cant’, which makes me question – how do you cope with 2?!?!
x

- Loumin on

I was in NYC visiting cousins two weeks ago and got trapped in the turnstile when my shopping bag got caught going through. I cannot imagine having to navigate that thing with a child (or two!), stroller, diaper bag, etc. I adore NY, but the public transportation system leaves a lot to be desired imo. Of course, after living with the DC Metro, I’m sort of spoiled. :D

I totally see where Maggie’s coming from in terms of having to be more cautious with her daughter, bur honestly? I think living in a city like New York will make Ramona far more wordly and open than if she lived a normal life in the country.

- Lauren on

Jane- In big cities you start way in advance and most schools start kids at 2 years 9 months. If you want to wait until your child is older the chances of getting them into one of the top schools is next to nothing.
Here in LA we have some of the best preschools in the country and they are nothing like a day care center, most are Reggio approach and fantastic! Worth every penny and every minute spent finding the right one!

- Sara on

Thanks, Brandi and Sara, for clearing that up. I misunderstood her as saying that she was enrolling her child in preschool currently rather than planning so far in advance!
I’m not so informed about the extreme waiting lists such as those you mentioned in private preschools (didn’t realize the process could take 2+ years), especially in big cities.

- Jane on

I think there are pros/cons to living in an urban area/city vs. country side. I might be biased because I’ve grown up in/around New York City my whole life lol but I think a little dirt/grime is good for you, keeps the immune system healthy, besides there are cigarette butts in most places regardless where you are!

They are a cute family, hope to see more pics of them soon!

- Mia on

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