Comments on: Mary-Louise Parker Always Wanted to Adopt

By: Emma

Emma — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 20:26:58 +0000

I have always wanted to adopt too, ever seen I was a little girl.

I absolutely love the names Atticus and Ash.

By: Mattie'sMom

Mattie'sMom — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 02:38:39 +0000

I think adoption can be a wonderful thing but there are also some realities to international adoption that people should be aware of. There are few true ‘orphans’ (no living parents) available for adoption. The main reason that children are abandoned or relinquished for adoption is poverty. The $20 000 to $40 000 that most parents have to spend on an inter-country adoption could easily change the life of a family (or several) so that they would be able to continue to care for their child. Just something to think about…

By: Megan

Megan — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 14:57:21 +0000

On our second date my husband and I both discussed how we wanted to adopt. For both of us it had been a need ever since we were young, and I’m happy to say that we now have one gorgeous son through adoption and will hopefully be soon adding another the same way. Not sure if we’ll ever have biological kids, we’re thinking about it but adoption was the big thing we both knew we were meant to do.

Megan and Kendra – It’s actually pretty common for husbands to be reluctant. I certainly wouldn’t make adoption an ultimatum, but I also wouldn’t give up all hope. Just go to any adoption forum and you’ll find it full of wives whose husbands initially balked at the idea of adoption. No, not all men will change their minds, but it doesn’t hurt to make your own wishes known and maybe look up some facts on affording adoption/the positives in adoption just to show him.

Also many people do adopt to “save” children. Doesn’t mean they don’t want to love and raise them, and they certainly don’t get dropped from any line. Honestly, while some people choose to adopt souly because they want a child and cannot conceive, many adoptions happen at least in part because there are children in need and people wish to incorporate this need for homes with their own need for a child. Yeah people can get caught up in “saving” a child to the point that they see their kid as a charity case, but that’s not the norm.

By: kendra

kendra — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:29:13 +0000

megan, I don’t think you should try to change our husbands mind. Some people just feel differently about adoption and it doesn’t make them bad people. It would be wrong to adopt a child if both are not on the same page and if it could mean that the adopted child would be viewed differently than the biological child.

Adoption is about wanting a child to love and raise. It’s not about rescuing children or making the world a better place (there are other ways to do that). If that is your main motive then you are quickly removed from the adoption line.

By: megan

megan — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 03:39:53 +0000

I’ve always wanted to adopt also. I have a child and would more than happy to not have any more biologically. Unfortunately, my husband feels differently about adoption. I hope to change his mind over time, because I have always felt that was something I was meant to do in life. One of those conversations I should probably have had before getting married, LOL.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 00:25:04 +0000

I know exactly what she’s talking about. As a kid I would watch those “sponsor a child for only a dollar a day” and promise myself to adopt my future children from a around the world. I am adopted myself so I think it would be perfect to adopt a child. Although I think it’s kind of fab for some celeb who adopt I think they are doing a good thing “rescuing” an impoverished child who wouldn’t have had a chance.

By: Blackrose

Blackrose — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 23:11:27 +0000

i would love to adopt!!and i just love ppl who adopt!! i think its one of the greatest things u can do to make our world a better place…