Does my ability to be openminded equal a bias against the father? No. Does it mean I think the mother is an angel? No. To be straight here, I AM NOT BIASED AGAINST THE FATHER. I am able to look at the situation without bias, and feel for the parent who is unable to live with their child, because I am not qualified to say who is a fit parent and who isn’t. I would have equal sympathy for a father. Having sympathy for the parent DOES NOT mean I do not think the child is the most important person in this, because clearly I do. It’s really shocking the amount of people who seem to be disregarding how the mother must be feeling, and just because I happen to feel for her, that means I am manbashing? That’s a really awful thing to accuse someone of, especially with no grounds to do so. I hope my point is clear enough this time. Best wishes to all.

However, I came to realize that being with Kevin full-time was what was best for them at the time, and that being left with Britney probably would have actually been more traumatic for them than being taken away from her was.

All of that said, I feel like there is a HUGE double-standard here. When Kevin filed for full custody of Preston and Jayden, almost everyone was saying things like, “I hope he gets those boys!” or “Britney deserves to lose custody of those boys,” or even “Those boys need to be taken from Britney before something tragic happens to them!” (note: None of the comments I just mentioned, except for the first one, were actually said word-for-word the way I worded them. The way I worded them is simply the gist of what was being said at the time).

When Britney lost custody, people were saying things like, “Good for Kevin!”, “I’m glad those boys were taken away from their unfit mother!”, “Maybe this will finally be a wake-up call to Britney!”, etc. (again, none of those comments were actually said word-for-word the way I worded them).

Yet in this case, most people are defending the mother! Granted, I realize that in Britney’s case, it was quite clear that she had some major issues and was not fit to care for two little boys at that time, while we really don’t know what kind of parent Elena is, or how stable she is. However, the point is that people were practically cheering when Britney lost custody, but think it’s awful that Elena did. Why such a double-standard (and, for what it’s worth, I think it’s awful to basically say a mother deserves to lose her child, no matter how unfit/unstable she is. I mean, talk about a slap in the face!)?

Ellen – Unfortunately, such stipulations on partners have to be made legally. It doesn’t mean Barbara was controlling the situation like a “replacement mother”. Like I said above, I’m going through the custody process and I had to write about how I’d like visitation to go, so I put that I was fine with him being with his girlfriend during visitation. Since Elena accused Barbara of witchcraft, the case now pertains to Barbara because she allegedly want her son dead. It’s not fair to attack Barbara because not all girlfriends are controlling and want to have the part of their partner’s life that they didn’t give them. Women always seem to want to blame the other woman in some way.