Courteney Cox-Arquette: 'Don't Wait' If You Want Multiple Kids

12/24/2008 at 05:00 PM ET
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Life before her daughter Coco Riley is a distant memory for actress Courteney Cox; the journey to become pregnant is not. After marrying fellow actor David Arquette, the couple were eager to start a family, but were hoping to enjoy a few years as newlyweds before concentrating on children — a decision which Courteney advises others against. “In retrospect, I would say: don’t wait as long as I did, especially if you want more than one child,” says Courteney. The result of couple’s initial decision to hold off on a family left the pair facing ” a lot of invitro fertilization,” a process the 44-year-old remembers as “tough.” However, for Courteney, enduring the grueling treatments could not have reaped greater benefits as she “can’t imagine life without a child.”

Determined to find a balance between her successful career and her responsibilities as a mother, Courteney shares that Coco has not hindered her career plans in the least. Instead, the 4 ½-year-old has become a constant travel companion — until she starts school — for her mom as the duo travel the globe fulfilling Courteney’s work commitments. “She came with me to Mexico at four weeks old, she’s been to New York ten times,” explains Courteney, who when not working has settled in California with her family.

Between Coco’s love of books — her favorites being princess fairy tales — and David’s tendencies to go all out for the holidays, Courteney sheepishly admits that her daughter is often met Christmas morning with a surplus of presents! Calling the day “insane in our house,” Courteney reveals that despite her suggestion to “buy Coco one good toy,” she is met with resistance from David who is willing to buy just short of the toy store.

“He wants to buy her 900 presents. Our compromise lands closer to David.”

Click below to find out who Coco’s yoga partner is!

Aside from Courteney and David, Coco can also count on her godmother Jennifer Aniston for a few gifts as well! Having formed a close bond with the actress, Coco and Jen — who is lovingly referred to as Noona, Greek for godmother — spend their weekends together playing the hours away, Courteney shares. After Coco’s recent encounter — and love — of yoga, a great gift from Jen may turn out to be a yoga mat for her fellow exercise partner! Courteney laughs,

“The other day Jen came over with her yoga teacher and Coco stuck it out for an hour doing yoga with them!”

As for her future plans of adding to the family, Courteney reveals that while she would love to have another child, she is keeping her options open. “I’d like another child, and maybe if it doesn’t work out, I’ll adopt.”

Source: Daily Mail

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NIkka on

This is a great article with lots of wisdom. People always postpone having children thnking it will happen just like taht when you’re ready. We were there too. I wish someone told me I shouldnt wait, that it may just not happen. We spent years and years with fertility treatments we wouldnt need if we would have children earlier. There are lots of talks about too young mohters but id reather now be a younger mother then an older one with inability to get pregnant. Kudos to Courtney for bringing attention to this problem

Lauren on

I’m 20 years old. And when i think about having kids it’s like when does it fit? It will take me 8 years to get my pharmacy degree, ill be 25 when i graduate. Then i’ll have to pay of loans, find a man, buy a house, spend the first couple of years with him i’ll give or take 15 years… At 35 my chances of having kids decreases dramatically :\ I do want children, but this is a fair warning to girls who think like me, time is definately not on a womans side.

Anna on

I agree Lauren, it’s very difficult. It’s like there are not enough fertile years for the modern day woman.

It’s good that Courteney is talking about it though, we might not like to hear but it’s the truth :(

Artemis on

Life is complicated these days. As Lauren said it takes a while until you get your degree, save money, meet your man and get married. I don’t worry about that though, Im very open to adoption. It’s always an option.

Silvia on

I think this is fair warning to career-minded women, being a woman has never been tougher. We can’t have it all, at least not at the same time. If you have a career while your children are little, the childen will be raised by nannies and sitters. I put my career on hold after my childen were born, and I am now going back to school while the children are in school, so I will have a second career when my children are grown. I have never regretted my decision. Money is tight, but the kids are happy and will never grow up with any kind of resentment. I was always there for them.
I love Courtney, I had the pleasure to meet her and her husband last year. They are wonderful people.

Nikka on

Artemis, that’s great, that you’re open to adoption. So are we and in fact Im finally 3 monhts pregnant and we’re adopting too, pursuing both at the same time!! It’s very financially and time draining, to adopt a baby. I wish it’s way easier and less $$.

My dream career would be stay-at-home-mom. For that i wouldnt need any degree. Lol

Veroncia on

While I agree that young women need to take heed to the warning that conceiving can be hard for some women after age 35, it’s not impossible or always a struggle. I got pregnant at 34 with no problems or complications. I totally resent Sylvia’s comment about kids “will never grow up with any kind of resentment. I was always there for them.” Me, my brother, and all 15 of my cousins grew up with career moms, and not one of us resent our mothers one bit. Our mothers were always their for us and everything we did. I am a full-time career women, and full-time college student with a five year old. My daughter is growing up the same way I did; with a working mom who made the right choices regarding career so that she has the flexiblity to still be an available and active parent and fullfill her own dreams and goals. I attended every daycare and school function, volunteered on every committee, gone on every field trip, and taken my daughter to every class, lesson, party, or event that she wants to go. There are MANY stay-at-home moms in my daughter’s school and activities that never attend or help with anything. Women can have it all if they want to. It’s takes a lot of planning and preparation. I know that I’m a better parent in my late 30s and 40s than I would have been in my 20s and early 30s. It has been definately worth the wait for me.

Jennifer on

I have to say, I had a mom who stayed home with all 3 of us. I resented and still resent the fact that she didn’t know who she was or what she wanted in life once we were no longer in need of ‘constant attention’. I will not let that me be. I stay home with my daughters, however I also work from home and have lots of help (sitters/mothers helpers). I take pride in the fact that my children love their caregivers, that I know what, ‘swiper no swiping’ means (he’s the fox on Dora the Explore), that I know that Maddy and Bella are their dolls, I know everything they do during the day AND I’m setting an example of finding something you love and dedicating yourself to it (my business).

I don’t think children resent their mom’s for working. That assertion frankly pisses me off. Now, some women (and men!) feel the need to work when they have young children, others feel a very strong pull to stay home–there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with either. The only problem that exists is that women in both categories feel uncomfortable with their decision and use inappropriate assertions to justify their decision. Interestingly, men never feel the need to ‘apologize’ or justify their decision to be a stay at home parent.

Ladies on both sides need to grow up and be a better example to their children! When we support ALL the decisions women make we are collectively better for it.

Excuse me, while I get down off my horse….

Lilly on

Bravo Jennifer and Veronica! I concur.

If you want to be a stay at home mom, wonderful. If you want to be a career woman, wonderful. If you want to do both, wonderful. Thank goodness we have options and opportunities to make the decision that is right for our own families :)

Daisy on

I never resented my mother for being a working professional. I wasn’t always thrilled at having babysitters (before my sister was old enough to be one), but my parents provided for us and I was proud of her career. She taught my sister and I the importance of getting ourselves “set” with education and a plan for savings of our OWN and how to be independent. I also commend women who can be stay at home moms, but I don’t believe they are more nurturing than working mothers. I’m sure it’s difficult for some women to balance it all, but for others it only takes thoughtful planning and prioritizing. To each her own.

sat on

Amen, Daisy :)

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