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Trista Sutter Answers Your Questions!

11/10/2008 at 10:00 AM ET
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The Celebrity Baby Blog recently chatted with Bachelorette alums Trista and Ryan Sutter — who are expecting their second child in April — about their new partnership with Hyatt.

Trista also took the time to answer some CBB reader questions we gathered from you last month; in the interview, she discusses her infertility battle, how she’s hoping to avoid the complications she experienced in her first pregnancy, if they’ll be finding out the sex of the new baby, and what 15-month-old Max is up to lately.

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Jason Collier

The couple is working with Hyatt to promote their new travel compatibility quizwhich asks 12 questions adapted from an established personality testandcategorizes participants into four travel types. Travelers who took thequiz before November 7th and were compatible with Trista and Ryan’stravel type (RomanticTravelers) were eligible to win a two-day, two-night,all-expenses-paid trip with the celebrity couple to the newlyredesigned Hyatt Regency Huntington Beach Resort & Spa.

Danielle: Tell me about your partnership with the Hyatt. How is it working?

Trista: We will be going to the Hyatt Regency in Huntington Beach, Calif.,with the lucky – hopefully they’ll think so! – winner who goes tohyatttravelquiz.com. If they end up as a romantic traveler like Ryanand I – there are four different personalities. People think ofromantic as love and chocolate, but for us it was more aboutreconnecting with friends and family, and making sure our travelcompanion is happy and having fun. It’s cool, because Hyatt has thesetravel packages, and Amour is one of their packages suited towardpeople who find they’re romantic travelers. So if you book a Hyattretreat package and you know you’re a romantic traveler, you’d probablybook an Amour package because you know that it’s more suited to you andit would enhance your vacation more. It’s really cool, a one-of-a-kindthing. And they’re just setting up.

They’re also doing a giveaway, if they book a Hyatt retreats packageat hyattretreats.com, they can get $50 back for a spa, dining or golfactivities if they use their American Express card and complete thetravel by December 28th. So they’re giving back! And hopefully, we’llget someone cool to go with us on our trip.

It’s so important to go away with your partner. When you have alittle one at home, yes we love spending time with him, it’s ourfavorite thing to do, but it’s also important to focus on yourrelationship and get away when you can and have time together.

Of your vacations, how many are with Max?

Oh a lot. I wish they had frequent flier miles for babies! But theydon’t let you have one until you’re two years old. But he hasn’t needed aseat at this point. He’s been to New York, he’s been to LA, Nebraskaand St. Louis, Hawaii and Miami, and all over Colorado. He’s been somany places. We love to travel, and we want to instill that in him. Sowe plan to continue traveling with him and the new baby. It’s harderfor sure, and more difficult to plan and get through it, but it’s soworth it. It’s so much fun to see his face light up when he seessomething new. We’re going to Sea World in Orlando in a week, so I’mjust so looking forward to taking him there and showing him the killerwhales and Shamu and even polar bears and stuff that he’s never seenbefore. It’s so exciting to see things through his eyes, and one ofthose ways is to travel and show him some new places and new things.

Jason Collier


Have you taken him overseas yet?

No we haven’t. And who knows, we could, but I don’t think while I’mpregnant I’ll be going any time soon. But after we have the baby if wehave the opportunity to go somewhere, we will. Our family just went toMexico a year ago for a family getaway, so we could do that for sure.I’d go to Mexico. But he’s been to Hawaii, so it’s the United States,but pretty far. I think we’d wait until he and the baby are a little older for something transatlantic or Europe or Asia or wherever else.But Hawaii, Mexico and Canada I could definitely see doing when thebaby is a little older.

I wish they made passports for U.S. travel. Something fun where youcould get someone to stamp something for kids just to show wherethey’ve been and how much they’ve seen.

I think when you start earlier with kids, it’s easier. It’s easywhen they’re babies because they just sleep and eat. But not anymore!Max wants to play and walk and just be active.

How are you feeling?

Pretty crappy! I’m getting morning sickness. It’s usuallypretty bad for me. And of course not morning sickness, it’s all-daysickness. I’m even worse at night – it used to be that mornings werebad, now nights are bad. It’s fluctuating sickness. It went away at 16weeks with Max, so I’m almost there. I’m waiting for that day! I’vethought to myself,  "Will I know how it feels to not be nauseousanymore?"

How far along are you?

I’m just starting my second trimester.

What about the exhaustion?

You can’t even really explain it to someone who hasn’t been pregnantbefore. I’ve tried explaining it to Ryan, about being exhausted, and Idon’t think he, or any other man or woman who hasn’t been pregnant canunderstand. You’re tired. You just have no energy to get out of bed.Walking up the stairs for me is tough. Max is at the age where he canclimb up the stairs and enjoy it. A lot of times I’ll have him climb upthe stairs to go change his diaper or whatever, because I don’t havethe energy to carry him up there. Once I get up there, I’m just out ofbreath and need to sit down, and it’s awful. The worst part is theexhaustion combined with the nausea. If they happened separately, it’dbe a lot easier to deal with obviously, but since they happen togetherit’s difficult. But you know what? No more complaining! I’m pregnant,I’m blessed, and I just want to get through it. It’s a good sign.

Did you two try anything different this time? It didn’t take you quite as long to get pregnant.

We were just not not trying. I honestly don’t know. I mean I knowhow it happened but I don’t know how it happened faster this timecompared to last time. Who knows. It was just in the cards. We were onbirth control when we first had Max, because we really did want to havesome time with him with us, then we thought we’d love to have siblingscloser in age, so we stopped the birth control and just thought itwould happen when it was supposed to. And it did!

Our reader Kathryn would like to know more about yourbattle with infertility. Any advice for helping other people deal with it? What helped you get through it less stressfully?

Staying educated is a big thing. Because there is so much technologyout there it kind of gives you hope to know there are things out therethat you can use if you do have issues. Stay positive and hopeful,that’s what we did and thankfully it ended up happening for us.

There’s actually a great gala I’m going to be going to for anorganization called Fertile Dreams. It’s going to be in Orlando andthey’re going to be giving grants to couples with fertility issues andneed help paying for IVFs and everything. Educate yourself – if you’rehaving problems and you’re worried about finances, know that there aregreat organizations out there that can help you if you need.

We alsowork with a company called Fertile Hope — one of Ryan’s college friendsactually founded it — and they work with people who have had cancerand need to freeze their eggs or sperm in order to conceive later on inlife. I think just staying hopeful and knowing that there’s greattechnology out there that if you need it, you can go out there andactually utilize it. People know what they’re talking about – they dealwith these things every day. There’s hope. It took us a long time, wewent to a fertility specialist and thankfully we only had to go throug
hthe first round of testing, we didn’t need to do anything more thanthat, but we were ready.

Jason Collier


Karlye remembers that you talked about using the OV Watch whenyou were trying to become pregnant with Max. Did you use the OV Watchthis time?

It happened so fast, that I think I only used one month worth. It’sa great device, but thankfully I didn’t necessarily need it this time.

Tracey asks, What are you doing to prepare for the possibility of gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and HELLP again?

Lots of prayers! Right now because I’ve been so nauseous, I haven’treally been watching what I eat. If I eat, I’m all about Russell’s andFrench onion dip. Any carbs. Auntie Anne’s – I have to have theircinnamon sugar pretzels when I’m in the airport! It’s all about carbsright now. Wendy’s French fries – love it. Normally I do not eat likethat and obviously if I do develop gestational diabetes again it’s notgoing to be part of my diet because I just would not be able to. Youknow, preparation – it’s mostly about prayers right now because I’mreally not doing anything. In terms of HELLP and preeclampsia I’m justfollowing my doctor’s orders and going in when she says I need to gointo the office. And I have followed up or consulted with a perinatologist and they have me coming in for more than normal visits,in addition because I’m a high-risk pregnancy because of my age — I’mgoing to be turning 36 in a couple of weeks — so they’re following memoreso.

Honestly I’m just following my doctor’s advice and recommendationswhen it comes to preeclampsia, and doing research when I can, but Ithink it’s a double-edged sword as well because when you go online, itcan get kind of scary hearing about the risks. And I trust my doctorfully and completely and would rather hear it from her than fromsomeone I don’t know who may be giving me incorrect information. Whenwe get closer to my due date I might start taking my blood pressure andjust keep conscious of what my body’s telling me. Because I know whathappened last time. You just get it or you don’t. I’m sure resting is agood method of prevention, because preeclampsia develops from highblood pressure, so if you take it easy and stay out of stressfulsituations as much as possible it helps. It’s not to say that it’s justbecause of stress though. I didn’t have a stressful day at all when Idelivered Max, it was just one of those things. I really don’t thinkthere’s any way to prevent preeclampsia, although I’m not a medicalexpert, so I probably can’t say, but from what I’ve heard, I do notbelieve so.

Brandi would like to know if you plan to find out the sex of the baby this time. Last time you had a delivery surprise.

I think so. We were surprised with Max, but because of my emergencyc-section under general anesthesia we didn’t have that "It’s a boy!" moment, unfortunately, andI think I’ll probably have to do a c-section again, so I figure why notfind out beforehand. We can have a doctor put it in an envelope, takeit to dinner and have a celebration or something. It might be moreexciting than me finding out on the recovery room table!

Tracey asked, Are you planning for a c-section because of the complications from last time?

Yes, because of the HELLP syndrome and preeclampsia. And I thinkyou can’t have a vaginal delivery after a c-section if your secondchild (or next child) is within two years of the previous. So if it’dbeen a little bit longer, I could try to have a vaginal delivery, butbecause I’ll be closer time-wise I can’t.

Ericka wants to know if you feel more excited or more nervous this time around, given what happened with your last pregnancy.

Definitely more toward excited. Because of my morning sickness I’mtrying to get through that right now, but I’m not nervous necessarily.Last time, I was excited for sure. I’ve always dreamt of being a mom.And that dream was coming true.

Ashley asked if you have names in mind?

We do, but that’s the only thing I’m keeping to myself! We have somenames we like a lot from our first pregnancy, so we’ll be using othersthis time around.

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Elizabeth wants to know if you’re still working on your TristaBaby diaper bag line.

I am! We’re still in the first round, we’re still kickin’. ObviouslyI’ve been a little busy so we haven’t been able to do much, but we’redefinitely still doing it and I’m looking forward to doing a secondround.

What does Max like to do? His favorite playthings or songs or games?

Right now he loves opening and closing cabinets. Climbing thestairs. He just started walking a few weeks ago – he’s been walking fora couple months now – but confidently on his own. He’ll let go ofthings and stand up from sitting on his own. He walks everywhere. Helikes to pick up stuff and bring it to you. I have a bunch of hangersthat I needed to put in his closet and they were just sitting on thefloor. He’d grab a hanger and go bring it to me, grab a hanger and giveit to me, over and over and over!

He has a playgroup and he loves his buddies. Any song that comes on,it doesn’t matter if it’s from a commercial or one of his toys, hebounces up and down, bends his knees and is "dancing." It’s so cute.It’s a lot of fun – he’s one fun baby.

Christine asked, What are your favorite things to watch the other do with Max? Is there anything cute Ryan does with him?

He "flies" him all over the room and Max just loves it. He giggles.I love anything that makes him giggle – anything that makes him laughI’m all about.

Ryan on Trista: I like to watch her teach him how to talk, pointingat stuff and telling him what it is. It’s cool because I’ll go to workfor a couple of days and come back, and she’ll have some new thingsshe’s taught him, like showing how old he is with his finger. Some sortof things like that where she’s been working on it for a few days.She’s just a really good teacher, and I like to see the progress alongthose lines.

I try! It’s one of my favorite things. I love that he’s getting gotbe more vocal and "bird" for example, in the beginning it was "buh" andnow it’s "bir," so he’s getting really close to saying the full world.I love seeing the actual development, it’s really fun for me. I was apediatric physical therapist, so it’s kind of in my nature to teach himstuff. I hope that I’m good at it, and I want to be the best that I canbe, because he’s not in day care. Mainly it’s just me or if we’re inplaygroup he’s learning stuff from other kids. But I love that. I lovegoing to music class with him, and we’re going to start gymnasticssoon, so it’s just so much fun.

Have you used sign language with him at all?

No, as a physical therapist I worked with people who think it candefinitely help them, there’s people who think it can definitely impairthem, but I think I’m leaning toward the side of rather having himstart talking on his own than show him something that might impair hisvocal abilities later on. I know people who want to do it – I have verygood friends who have with their kids – but no I haven’t done it. Ifeel like I know when he’s trying to communicate certain things,although he’s not at the point yet where he can say, "Give me thatbottle."

Vanessa asked, What are you doing to prepare him to be a big brother?

Not really anything yet. He doesn’t really comprehend it. We’ll try once I get further along, but not quite
yet.

– Danielle

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Bren on

Great interview!!

Good luck to Trista, hope her pregnancy and delivery is safe.

Ps. Her boys are gorgeous!!

Kelly on

I don’t know alot about HELLP Syndrome and hope the risks aren’t any greater with subsequent pregnancies. I just wanted to clarify that you can have a VBAC within 2 years of a C/S. It depends on your doctor’s philosophy and the reason why you had the first c/s. My first ds was a footling breech and I had a wonderful VBAC with my second ds just 17 months later. It is an option for the right patient so please discuss it with your doctor if you think you might want one.

My sincere best wishes to the Sutter family on a healthy and uneventful pregnancy for momma and baby to be!

nosoupforyou on

“He doesn’t need a seat yet.”

I wish they would purchase him an airline seat. I know it’s not required until they are two but it is so much safer. I purchased one for my boys and used a car seat that was approved for airlines. If anything were to happen, they were securely restrained in an approved seat.

D on

Kelly! Thanks for the post.

I read Trista’s comment on the vbac and thought ‘OH NO’. I am due 2 years after my first c-section and hope to have a vbac.

I can see with Trista’s med issues why she would want a c-section. Good luck Trista!

Sarita on

I think I read once that the chances of surviving a plane crash are so small that it is basically no use to do the safety precautions. I would also safe the money on the seat for a tiny baby that probably just wants to be held anyway.

Sally C on

I love Trista, but she obviously didn’t research VBAC’s very much. You CAN have a vaginal delivery after cesarean within 2 years. However, most research does show a minimum of 18 months between delivery and pregnancy helps the cause. I am waiting until my daughter is 2 to TTC again because I *really* want a VBAC and have done tons of research.

Allisin on

Most doctors wont allow vbac’s if the frist baby was over 8 1/2 pounds … sooo how much did her frist baby weigh?

Brandi on

^ Max was a month premature, about 5 pounds if I remember correctly. Yay Trista answered my question! :)

marla on

CBB, paranatologist is spelled incorrectly. it’s perinatologist. :)

MB on

Well Sally that could just be what her doctor told her. I wouldn’t be surprised if some doctors tell their patients no within 2 years. There are all kinds of opinions in the medical community about VBACs that even with a lot of research on your own I think it’s still confusing to tell what the “right” answer is.

Kerri on

Sally – I assume she didn’t research VBACs very thoroughly because it’s not really a good option for her due to the complications with her first pregnancy.

They are such a cute family…Max is adorable and looks just like his parents.

Stephany on

Great interview! I love Trista and Ryan and their love story! And little Max is so, so cute. They make such a good-looking family!

Nikka on

Well she says to stay educated, but her responses contain lots of uneducated points.

You CAN have VBAC after C-section within two years. Whether you have it or no, depends on other factors.

Its very common that one can conceieves after having first baby. Because she had problems with infertility first time, wouldnt necessary mean she will have problems the second time.

You can help to prevent pre-eclampsya. I dont really know the details, but there are precaution measures one can do to help prevent it. Doesnt always work, but it certainly helps.

And last, staying educated doesnt always help with infertility. I know lots of people (im one of them) who have been struggling for years, and I dont think any doctor knows more then we do after years of research and educating. Lots of my friends still dont have a baby no matter how much education they do (fortunately im not one of them anymore !!)

Nikka on

I think that nosoupforyou was more likely referring to something less drastic then plane crash. Could be the turbulence or emergency landing. Crash is not the only thing which can happen on an airplane.

On other note, if they are not paying for the full child fare, why would they want the air miles card for him? The air miles are a reward for paying (not travelling) the fare

I cant wait to hear what she has and the baby’s name! Max is gorgeous :)

skunknuggets on

I hope she has a smooth, easy pregnancy this time around.

However, like others have said, her vbac ‘research’ isn’t quite accurate. Research does suggest a minimum of 18 months between births, but it is by no means a “rule”. Also, there is no “rule” about not vbacing a baby over a certain size. My vbac was 9lbs 10ozs (after being told I have CPD with a 9lbs 6oz child the first time). There are times when a dr will come up with just about any reason to schedule a birth whether by c-section or scheduled induction.

Also, there is some research that following the Brewer Diet may help prevent pre-e. I doubt it works 100% of the time, but supposedly it does help. It can’t hurt to try it.

Ancedotally: A friend of mine ended up with a c-section for HELLP with her first and followed the Brewer diet with her next two children and didn’t develop problems and had smooth VBACs.

Mia on

VBAC depends on the circumstances. It’s usually not recommended after 18 months-2 years because there is concern that scar tissue built up from the C-section can tear during the vaginal delivery.

Fertility-First baby Vs. Second. It’s very common for women (not all, but most) that who need assistance with the first pregnancy can easily/quickly conceived on their own with the second baby. The body is pretty much on a more “in-tune” schedule after being through pregnancy before, and it’s usually easier for pregnancy to happen.

Either way, the family looks very happy. Congrats on the new addition :)

Blythe on

Here is more information about the Brewer Diet for preventing pre-eclampsia: blueribbonbaby.org

Anyone wanting more information on VBAC could contact the International Cesarean Awareness Network, ICAN, at ican-online.org

Also, I am not sure where Trista is getting her evidence that teaching a baby sign language impairs language development. I have always heard it was a good thing for children to learn. It did not seem to affect my daughter in a negative way, but I’d love to find out more.

Good luck for a healthy pregnancy!

sadie on

Nikka, Trista was asked for advice relating to her personal experience with infertility. Taking two years to conceive Max means her experience would be very different to someone who has been struggling for 5 or 10 years to have a child, just as having unexplained infertility would be a very different experience to a couple with male infertility or female infertility. Everyone’s journey is different and the question was: “Any advice for helping other people deal with it? What helped you get through it less stressfully?” She doesn’t infer that staying educated magically produces a baby, but knowing what the options are does help you cope with the stress of infertility. I agree with her – it took us just over 2 years to conceive our son (eventually we went through IVF a few times), and I found the more info I had the better I felt. Anyway, Nikka, I’m glad your journey had a happy ending and I hope friends have one too!
Also – I felt pregnant unexpectedly soon after my son was born and I was told no VBAC unless there is a minimum of 12 months between deliveries. I think it depends on the obstetrician, who at the end of the day is liable in the event of something going wrong. Some are open to VBAC with no time restrictions, some are more cautious – hence the confusion. I don’t think there is a hard and fast rule on this one.

Jess on

I’m pretty sure she’s just joking when she talks about too bad the baby can’t get flyer miles. :)

As far as VBAC, it really depends on the doctor. I’ve worked in OB previously & different doctors in the same practice had different rules they went by. Some doctors refused vbacs at all, others thought they were great even if you’ve just delivered a baby a short time before by c-section. That’s why so many people in areas kinda have to doctor shop at times if they want a vbac, as some doctors aren’t comfortable with them at all or only within certian limits.

Amy on

I do not agree with the sign language statement. As an Early Childhood Special Education Teacher for kids 0-3 years, I have seen many children communicate with sign language. It allows the child to communicate their wants and needs with parents prior to talking, which leads to less frustration on both ends. I have a great article from our speech pathologist about how signing does not delay expressive language. I also have a friend who is an SLP and her daughter is 15 months and can sign 15 words and say 10. It does not keep them from talking and I wish I knew where Trista got that information from???

nosoupforyou on

Sarita,

It is not just for a plane crash. People have been injured during turbulence.

I’m sure babies would rather be held in automobiles too, but parents need to do do what is safe.

nosoupforyou on

My youngest son was placed in a communicatively handicapped pre-school.

Teaching children sign language assists in the development of spoken language.

Trista sounds very uneducated.

blahblah on

I guess they’ll be pimping out this baby for endorsements just like they have done with Max, and every other aspect of their relationship. Hey, as long as it gets them free stuff…

emily on

Nikka – Trista’s remarks about staying educated regarding fertility had to do with keeping hope, not conceiving.

Amy – I’ve heard a few negatives to teaching kids SL, too. I can’t tell you where I heard/read them, but I remember one being that they are slower to develop speech. You might correct me on that, of course.

Carrie Jo on

I have to agree with Amy. Sign language not only does not inhibit speech, it actually facilitates it. I totally respect not wanting to do sign language. She doesn’t have to justify it, especially with misinformation.

Jenni on

I have watched Ryan and Trista since it all began and I LOVE them!! I’m so happy for them and their little family. It was good to hear that someone else feels like this morning sickness is never going to end and can’t remember what it was like to NOT feel sick 24/7. Can’t wait to continue to follow their story. SO CUTE!!!

E on

I think we all need to stop talking about how “uneducated Trista” is. Different doctors think different things. You have no idea what her doctor tells her. Maybe her doctor is the stupid uneducated one.

Melanie on

Amy,
I agree with you! Baby sign language is absolutely helpful…my nephew is 18 months, he can sign about 10 words and he SAYS 28 words…so clearly the baby sign has not impaired his speaking vocally…

Molly on

E, you have a good point. But if her doctor is really uneducated and she is passing his/her advises, that doesn’t make her educated. She is a great and very nice woman, but she seems to be passing wrong advices as she seems to be missinformed about certain issues. Sometimes people just adopt certain opinions and dont see left or right.

Andria on

I’m also pretty surprised by the sign language comment. I think most speech experts agree (at least this is what I’ve read/been told by doctors) that actually being able to verbalize is far more efficient than signing, so there’s no reason why a child would choose to sign once they’re developmentally able to speak. Just in terms of my personal experiences (I’m a long time nanny and have worked with many infants and toddlers) kids that learned baby signs seemed to verbalize faster, since they’d been using words (through signs) for a long time, and had caught on to certain aspects of word usage. Even better, it saved A LOT of whining/screaming/grunting for random objects, and me running around the room picking up everything in sight saying “You want this?….this?…this?” Hahaha.

Everything I’ve read seems to be strongly in favor of signs, but I have heard parents who feel otherwise. To each his own. Max is an adorable baby!

Dina on

I really think every kid is different. What works for one kid may not work for another.

I had no interest in learning baby sign language to teach my 18month old son. However, they do teach them signs at school (my son has only done one sign repeatedly “please” – he says and signs the word at the same time).

My son is extremely verbal and honestly knows so many words it is hard to count. But i know others who sign and don’t talk and others who don’t talk at all.

Everyone is different. Trick is figuring out what works with your kid and running with it!

terri on

I’m sure that Trista and her doctor will be able to decide what’s right for her.

Carina on

She got pregnant without really trying this time, after suffering from supposed infertility. Trista should stop whining about how much her pregnancy sucks.

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