Cameron Diaz Unsure of What Future Holds

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It is a woman’s prerogative to change her mind, and Cameron Diaz says she changed hers on the topic of marriage and motherhood. "I thought I’d be married and have kids by the time I was 22," the 36-year-old actress admits in the October issue of In Style. "But when I got to 22, I realized that wasn’t what I wanted, which was a huge lesson." At a time when so many of her peers are either already moms or pursuing motherhood, Cameron is constantly asked when — or if — she’s going to have a baby. "Who knows," she says. "I don’t."

"I’m not going to live my life looking just for that. How can I know what my future holds? How about this — I am happy right now. Does that count for anything?"

Source: In Style

Comments

She’s so right! It counts for a lot that she is happy right now. I feel bad for her that paps keep asking about babies and things, like she can’t possibly be happy in the here and now without them. If she has kids, great, but she will remember these kid-less times fondly. And if she doesn’t have kids that’s great too. It’s nice to hear about celebs (and regular people!) who are happy with their lives when there are so many people who are unhappy.

- MB on October 11th, 2008

I am happy for her if she is happy with the way her life is going. But a lot of women are waiting later and later to have a baby/family. And get disappointed when they look up and they are 40 plus and still childless. All of that is just my opinion. If she happy good for her.

- Kaylee on October 11th, 2008

It’s double. on the hand you can say I’m happy now so i’m not going to think about it, but time will run out so you do have to think ahead and decide if it is something you want.

- Sarita on October 11th, 2008

“Does that count for anything?”
God, I hope so!

- Elizabeth on October 11th, 2008

Further to the comments made here, yes it is one of life’s ironies that we are told that we can basically live like men (work hard, play hard) but the biological difference is that they can procreate right up until they die and we can’t!

- Dazzlar on October 11th, 2008

ITA with MB

It counts for a lot Cameron, good for you. Glad you’re doing well. I was saddened by her dads sudden, untimely death this year. Good to see her happy.

- Loren on October 11th, 2008

She seems a bit snappy…I wonder if she has the question about “marrying and having babies” often.

But I agree with Sarita…time will run out.

- ERICKA on October 12th, 2008

I think it’s fantastic she’s making a verbal stand against the questions, but I think people (yes, women and men) owe it to themselves to consider the idea of children, because if you leave it too late and then suddenly decide you want them (and wished you’d thought about it earlier), that’s a regret that I don’t think would equal another.

I have a child, and would like to have more, and while I totally respect those who decide they do not want to have children, I would hate to see someone regret that choice simply because they hadn’t given enough thought to it in their child-bearing years.

But as for Cameron, I think interviewers really need to leave her alone on that issue. It’s her choice and as long as she’s secure in it and happy with where she is now, that’s ALL that counts.

- phoebe on October 12th, 2008

I think she would be a great mom! She seems like she would be so much fun and carefree. While biologically time will run out there is always adoption if she chooses…

- dsmom on October 12th, 2008

I think Cameron is fully aware that at some point she will not be able to have children. Sarita, I don’t think she is saying that she isn’t thinking about it. Maybe she isn’t in a relationship and that having children is something she wants to do when she get married.

Perhaps she doesn’t want children. Since I have been engaged, almost two years ago, so many people have commented about us having children. Personally I hate being questioned about it because to me it’s such a personal thing. Also, my fiance and I don’t see children in our future. When we told people this they always seemed horrified and like we’d said something horribly mean. Now I just refrain from answering the question because it’s something I don’t need a stranger commenting on what decisions I/we choose to make.

- L on October 12th, 2008

Yes! It counts for everything! Happiness in the moment is what life is all about. Life is too short to stress about things that might or might not happen in the future.

I don’t understand the comments saying “time will run out.” That is making a huge assumption that someday Cameron would want to become a parent to a biological child. There is no time table on becoming a parent. As someone who has been blessed multiple times by adoption (adoptive father, 2 brothers, 9 cousins) I can say there is absolutely no difference in the love you have for biological family vs. adopted family. Giving birth doesn’t make you a parent, loving a child unconditionally and devoting your life to them does.

- Chris on October 12th, 2008

I think she gave a great response. It is a personal question to be asked when you are going to get married or have kids, if you are single and/or do not have kids. Who can predict the future? Sure, we may have goals or dreams and may be working toward them, but we can’t say for sure what the future holds.

- Sharon on October 12th, 2008

Actually yes there is a time table. In many countries you can’t adopt if you are older than 40 or 45 and even if you are younger it is not easy to adopt. Even though adoption is getting more popular I think it’s safe to assume that most people still want to have biological children. Especially most normal people (non celebs) don’t look at adoption untill they have fertility problems.

I do agree that this is probably her answer for annoying “journalists” that ask personal questions.

- Sarita on October 12th, 2008