Myleene Klass on Adjusting to Life with Ava

09/30/2008 at 08:00 PM ET
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After giving birth to Ava Bailey, 13 months, last year television presenter Myleene Klass says that — like so many before her — the rigors of new motherhood came as a surprise. "It seemed there was lots to do, and it overwhelmed me," she admits in a new interview with Fabulous magazine. "There’s so much to remember and you’re so frightened — you’ve got to get it right." Hormones and sleep deprivation compounded the situation, leading Myleene to proclaim the first few months postpartum as the loneliest time of her life. In speaking about the highs and lows she was experiencing, however, she inadvertently helped countless other moms.

"There’s almost a conspiracy between women because you don’t want to be the one who says you can’t cope. After I talked publicly about it, I had so many letters and emails thanking me."

Myleene, 30, wasn’t the only one who had trouble adjusting to life with baby, however; Her fiancé Graham Quinn experienced some growing pains of his own. "It was difficult in the beginning because Gray had to learn there was a new hierarchy," Myleene reveals. "He still says now: ‘It’s Ava, then the goldfish, then me.’ There were times when you wonder: ‘Am I going mad here?’ Like everything he said was wrong. But you know we’re normal — normal as can be."

Click ‘more’ to read about Myleene’s plans for more children.

Despite her various professional endeavors — including a new children’s clothing line for Mothercare — Myleene says she sets aside one full day each week for family, only. "I love it when I close the door behind me and it’s just the three of us," she says. "No computers or phones. We barely answer the door." When asked about the possibility of more children, Myleene admits that just a few months ago she would have deemed the idea "insane."   

"But I’m warming to it now. All my memories have my brother and sister in them and I’d like Ava to have the same memories."

Having recently celebrated her 30th birthday, saying goodbye to her 20s was "quite invigorating" for Myleene and she wouldn’t turn back the clock — even if she could. "Now I might be a bit more wrinkly, but I earned those wrinkles, I earned those stretch marks…So what if I’ve got trousers I can’t get into because my bum’s bigger?" she asks. With time and experience, Myleene has become self-confident about her ability to mother — or anything else she sets her mind to. 

"You will never be able to please everybody. There will always be someone looking at you thinking: ‘You do too much of this and too little of that. But you know what you need, and you know what your baby needs. Nobody else." 

Source: Fabulous

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Jesse on

I wish more moms would talk about how hard it can be, especially for new moms. It can be an intense, emotional, overwhelming experience. And then the guilt starts seeping in because you feel like you’re the only one who has ever gotten frustrated and upset.
Speak the truth girl!

Loumin on

I never really paid that much attention to Myleene before she became a mother and I read about her on CBB, but my hands go up to her and her honesty. I have felt very similar to her since my daughter, Daisy, arrived 23 months ago. Daisy is my world but hard work, and the guilt I feel is sometimes unbearable. Im fully aware that everyone feels differently towards having children but no one seems to tell you these truths and Im pleased that Myleene finally is. Thank you!

Alana on

I’m with you Jesse on that one.
I wish moms would be more open about the struggles, i had a friend helping out with advises over a phone, but it was only when i burst out in hysterical tears she told me i’m not the only one and almost every mom (specially the first time mom) is going through a lot. Everyone else were keep saying “you’ll be fine…you are natural…” and stuff like that.

courtney on

she sounds so level-headed!
even with ‘fiscal’ abundance, child-rearing is the most difficult – albeit rewarding – job in the world. thanks, myleene.

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