Solange Knowles Sometimes Lets the Bedtime Rule Slip

09/15/2008 at 07:00 PM ET
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When singer Solange Knowles welcomed her son Daniel Julez, now 3 ½, she was determined not to give up on her career goals. Instead, over the years, Solange has achieved "a sense of pride teaching him to be driven," and for the 22-year-old mom, there is no "better way to do that than showing him my job." With her busy work schedule sometimes keeping her out until the early evening, Solange admits to letting the 8:30 p.m. bedtime rule "slide" on some nights, saying she wants Julez "to stay up and hang out with me!" As Solange has — on most days — set specific rules for the bedtime schedule and certain hours when Julez is not allowed to watch TV, she compares herself to being "the villain of my Spider-man movie."

Balancing being a single mom and a successful singer, Solange has faced moments where her patience seems to be spent and can only laugh when she shares her "counting to three system." Says Solange, "I’m always like one…two…three! Like I’m scaring someone!" From parenting Julez to having him join in on the traditional holiday free-style rapping with her family — including sister Beyonce — Solange shares that the best advice she has received over the years is to find her own confidence in motherhood.

"You’re not going to find those answers in the books. You’re just going to feel yourself out as a mom."

Julez is Solange’s son with ex-husband Daniel Smith Jr.

Source: Glamour TV

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Chicki on

I really applaud single moms for finding what works best for their children! The bedtime rule comment really stuck out to me, because my mom always told us: “You can go to bed whenever you want, but you’ll be up at 6:00 regardless!” and I always appreciated her leaving that up to us. Believe it or not, kids can figure out how much sleep they need and when they need to go to bed!🙂 And considering that she’s so busy during the day, I think it’s sweet that she actually wants him to stay up late to be with her! I find that aspect of her comment really touching!

CelebBabyLover on

Does anyone know whether Daniel ever sees his father?

Morgan on

Love your mom’s idea, Chicki! I’m a single mom with a 2 and a half year old daughter; I think I’ll put that idea away for some future use!😉

Penny on

Chiki-I disagree respectively. I think it’s okay when the kid get older to stay up later and choose there own bed time when they are 9 or so, but a 3 1/2 year old is not going to go bed unless you put him to bed. He’d just eventually crash and wouldn’t have enough sleep for the next day.

Kat on

as a mother of 3, I have to agree with her bedtime rules and also letting it slide a little sometime.s

for kids you first need a nice flexible routine, but then, as toddlers and preschoolers, you get to where you NEED that strict bedtime.

However, when it’s not a school night (weekends and summer), I love letting my kids stay up an extra hour or two so they can enjoy some tv, a movie, board games, or other quality time with me and/or their father because I know we aren’t going to be getting up early.

I think it’s good to have those “cheat” days, the breaks from the routine, so they get that the routine isn’t there just to have rules, it’s there so that their day will go smoothly… and on the days they don’t have those demands on their time, they can ease off and just have fun and only worry about making sure they have enough sleep to still wake up at a sensible hour.

DivaStar on

I tried the counting to three with my daughter when she was about 3. Thing is, she was learning how to count, when I said 1, she said 2….I laughed so hard I couldn’t finish I had to walk out the room and let her have that one LOL.

Danielle on

I don’t agree either sleep is so vital for growing, it’s like giving your child only McDonalds of course they will live but they won’t thrive.
8:30 alone is too late for a 3 yr old let alone however later he goes imo.
I looked after 2 kids whose parents let them stay up till 9pm and they always got up at 6:30 regardless and were shattered during the day. Grumpy, unsociable, and not a pleasure to be with.

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