I love Nicole as an actress but have lost all respect for her as a mother.
It’s true that we don’t know the arrangement between her and Tom or why she’s working so soon after having Sunday (but it certainly isn’t because she needs money), but as a mother she has not done one thing I’d want to emulate as a mother myself.

And just want to add that reading all your comments about having only 6 weeks of maternity leave and having to go back to work soon after your kids were born makes me so sad AND so glad and blessed I live where I do and have a year of paid maternity leave (and my hubby has 6 months on paternity leave).

Anais- How do you know that Nicole “basically lost her children to a cult”? I have not seen one thing suggestion that in any reputable magazine. The only place I have seen that being reported is in tabloids, and as we all know, they need to be taken with a huge grain of salt (or sometimes, depending on the tabloid, an entire salt saker!)!

Also, how do we know how much time Nicole really spends with Bella and Connor. As other commentors have said, Nicole is notorious for wanting to shield her children from the paparazzi (I believe she has even said that she goes out of her way to NOT have Bella and Connor photographed by the paps when they are visiting).

Therefore, it’s very possible that she sees them in places the paps either don’t know about or can’t get to (e.g. Nicole and Keith’s house. Obviously the paps would get in serious trouble if they walked in there!).

In otherwords, none of us really have any idea how often Nicole actually sees Bella and Connor. All we have to go on are tabloid reports.

As for them not being there for Sunday’s birth, how do we know it was Tom’s choice? Maybe Nicole wanted it to be just her and Keith during the birth, and just her, Keith, and Sunday during the first few days after the birth.

I also want point out that, as far as I know, Bella and Connor weren’t actually at Suri’s birth either. From what I’ve heard, it sounds like only Katie, Tom, and the doctors and nurses were in the delivery room.

Granted, they probably got to meet Suri right after she was born…But who’s to say they didn’t meet Sunday soon after hers? As private as Nicole tends to be about her kids, I wouldn’t be at all surprised if Bella and Connor have visited Sunday and the media just doesn’t know about it.

If I had a lot of money I might take off a full year after having a baby, then again I might not. Nicole and every other actress are in fields that they choose to be in. Many women work out of necessity or obligation. Nicole is doing what she loves and she is able to travel with the people she loves while doing so. Sounds like a wonderful, happy life for all involved.

Nicole never seemed like the “nurturing” type to me. It didn’t suprise me when Tom took over parenting once they split. So, it’s of no suprise that she’s hit the ground running back to work after this new baby. Not about being good or bad. We all have the tings we bring to the table, and those we don’t. Hopefully Keith is a nurturing guy as Tom is, for the benefit of the new baby.

I’m really confused by the statements “with all the money she doesn’t even need to work.” That kind of statement is so disappointing to hear. So it’s only okay for a woman to work if she has to? What if she just wants to? What if she finds it fullfilling and doesn’t think she’s cut out to be a SAHM, why is that not okay? I do think that it’s important for people not to work to the point where they don’t have time for their kids. And it seems as if Nicole and Keith aren’t working to that degree. So I don’t see what the big deal it.

Everytime I think we’re making progress I see a statement like that and I feel like we really haven’t come that far after all.

And as far as I know, the maternity leave (forget her money for a sec) in the United States is only 6 weeks. That’s what the government says is enough for a mother and a baby to spend together full time.

Unless he was referring to breast feeding, that’s the only think I can imagine would make him Mr. Mom

Grace, actors do have contracts for each project. They may agree to a project a couple years in advance, depending. However there is no rule that they have to do a certain # of projects a year. That is something I imagine the actor works out with his/her agent.

Tom has primary custody as I understand it. Nicole said that’s in part b/c the kids preferred to be in LA. She has visitation though.

don’t actors have contracts? like they have to do a certain amount of projects each year? i really don’t know how it works. do the older kids live with tom full time??